That Selfish Bitch

[Allexus_TN]

Let me set the scene:
I'm in my friend's wedding next weekend. She has asked everyone to be at the church on Friday at a certain time for the rehearsal. I can't get off work to be there that early. Its impossible. I have requested it, with an explaination, and its just not going to happen I'm told. I will really wind up being about 5 minutes late. She's throwing a fit, saying how much that will throw off the "schedule." 5 minutes? Really? I'm supposed to what, quit my job? She thinks I'm doing this on purpose. And I quote her email, "I can't believe you're trying to ruin this for me. If you cared, you just wouldn't work that day."

Hello? I'm broke? I need to work? Does this sound like I'm TRYING to ruin it?? Now I'm really confused.

 

[alltherage]

Sounds like wedding pyschosis to me. It passes eventually but not before driving have those exposed to massive drinking problems. It sounds rediculous to me. 5
minutes is nothing.

 

[mritsme]

hmmm

Does not sound like much of a friend but don't get mad just what sounds like.. Is she really stressed or something is this norm behavior?

 

[TWB]

Sounds like

A good time for a little white lie for a friend who is stressed out.

If you are really only going to be five minutes late, I am sure that there will be other delays that will keep her from starting on time anyway.

She's probably just stressing out. Maybe she is marrying an ass hole?

Despite that, a wedding is a time to be selfish. Indulge her insanity for a little.

 

[Vilac]

Damn you to hell, allex. I'll bet you're one of those cruel women who has difficult hair to set up for the wedding or bad cuticles that the manicurist will have to spend an extra 4 minutes on, aren't you?

No? Well...then perhaps your natural walking stride isn't quite as long as the other women in the procession. That would put the whole "wedding march" and ceremony behind by a good 20 or 30 seconds.

I can't believe you'd do this to her.

Tell her to piss up a rope. 5 minutes is nothing. She's just stressed out. lol....

I don't envy you, dear.
V~

 

[Rubyfruit]

Brides can be really psychotic. If I were you, I'd just let it drop. She'll probably forget about it in a day when she goes on to obsess about some other little detail.

She'll be back to being your normal friend again after the wedding.

 

[Allexus_TN]

Re: hmmm

Does not sound like much of a friend but don't get mad just what sounds like.. Is she really stressed or something is this norm behavior?

Normal? Nothing she has done or said to me in the last year has been normal. When it comes to her, I'm not allowed to have a life if it does not involve her wedding. Its extreme.

She's probably just stressing out. Maybe she is marrying an ass hole?

He's as sweet as can be. But he might not be when she's done with him this next week.

 

[Guest]

 

[markb325]

Pre-wedding jitters is common and usually result in such actions. Don't worry about it too much. She will be fine after all is said and done.

 

[Raina]

I have been a bridesmaid too many times. I hate it. All of my un-married close friends know they better not ask me to be in a wedding again. I have vowed to say NO the next time I am asked. I have mauve satin shoes in my closet for fuck's sake!

The last wedding I was in, the bride threw a major fit because I wouldn't stay at the $120 a night hotel they had picked out for the wedding party (at my expense) and instead chose to stay at Motel 6. She totally freaked, said all kinds of mean things about how I was going to ruin the wedding, all the others in the party would think awful things about me. Eventually, she cooled off, but our friendship is strained now.

Her sister is getting married in two weeks, and I introduced her to her fiancee. She told me, "Sorry, but I don't want you in my wedding, you complained too much for my sister's"

Well THANK GOD someone was paying attention!! I don't want to be in you fucking wedding! I want to go to the reception and get shit-faced and do the chicken dance without having to wear a dress made of lime green chiffon!!

[/rant]
sorry, touchy subject.

 

[Allexus_TN]

The only people I have complained about this wedding to are my husband and 2 other people, on of whom is online, and the other one doesn't know her AND lives out of town. Unless my husband runs his mouth, she doesn't know how aggrevated I am.
I'm still sitting here imagining how a conversation with my boss would be if I called in that day.
"Hello "insert boss's name here" ?
"Yes"
"I'm sorry, but I can't come to work today because I'm in a wedding tomorrow."
"Really?"
"Yes sir, and I should now say that I have really enjoyed working here."

I don't see that as an excusable absence, do you?

 

[Saint Peter]

I always cry at weddings.

 

[sufisaint]

Just thank your lucky stars your not the guy she is marrying.....

 

[sunstruck]

In the last 2 years I have been involved in 5 weddings. Every bride turned into a phsycotic bitch whenever the wedding was brought up.

I got married 10 months ago. I refused to be like that. I just kept reminding myself it's about the marriage, not the wedding. Mothers of the bride tend to drag them into it as well.

4 days before my wedding the twin towers went down. Half my wedding party couldn't make it in. The flowers were all coming out of NYC so none of the arangements matched. We canceled the honeymoon, even the wedding night Bed and breakfast to spend more time with those who had gone through hell to get here. It's all about perspective.

It'll all be over in one day and she'll either marvel over her insane behavior or forget she acted like an ass.

 

[markb325]

}{ugs Alexus.... I would let you borrow a ballbat but it would take me 14 hours or so to get it to you.

 

[Rambrat]

I'm really not liking your friends.

 

[Allexus_TN]

I'm really not liking your friends.

Thanks hon.


And thanks to everyone else for their support.

 

[markb325]

Allexus I know what Tennesseans can be like. Nashville is twice as bad I think.

 

[Harbinger]

Allexus

alltherage is right. Wedding psychosis, occurs almost exclusively in females. Heavy drinking is the only known antidote, but a valium or two in the bride's Diet Pepsi has been shown to soften the effects.

 

[Guest]

Brides can be really psychotic. If I were you, I'd just let it drop. She'll probably forget about it in a day when she goes on to obsess about some other little detail.

She'll be back to being your normal friend again after the wedding.

Well put. Sexy and intelligent Ruby?

 

[Mz_Scarlett]

Hey darlin',

Event planning is stressful- especially for those who don't do it for a living I am an Ops Chick by profession so I know a little bit about it (I plan corporate events vs social, although I have assisted many friends in planning their weddings and did a bar/bat mitzvah for twins that just about drove ME insane!)

Your friend is lacking perspective and is overwhelmed. It's a shame that she's behaving like a horse's ass because there is no reason for it. 5 minutes won't make a difference at a wedding rehearsal and you shouldn't worry about it any more

All that being said, as her friend, perhaps an email telling her that she AND the rehearsal are very important to you and that you will do everything within reason to get there asap, may help to soothe her jangled nerves. Once the wedding is over she should revert back to her normal self. If not, she deserves a good whooping after everything she's putting ya'll through

If you need someone to vent to, feel free to drop me a pm anytime

*Hugs*
Scarlett

 

[penguindance]

 

[desert spike]

Five Minutes!!! I agree its no time at all. I mean anything can delay a wedding or rehearsal for such a short time. If it means your job, there's no way you call in "what ever" You have to support yourself however you can. Her schedule should not ditate to your responsibilties. If she can't under stand that concept, she doesn't need Allexus as her brides maid.

Don't cut your self short in this whole process. She wants to get married. Fine, but you shouldn't have to pay a price for her matrimony.


Hope you can work this one out.

 

[Devilish1]

Allexus I know what Tennesseans can be like. Nashville is twice as bad I think.

LMAO this is the second time tonight ive seen "US" Tennesseeans beat up for being Tennesseeans.

Are we really that bad?

OK heres my bad wedding story.
One of my bridesmaids came in with her dress WRAPPED around her arm, after she had been told not to, because the dress would be very wrinkled.
Ok, she also FORGOT her shoes that matched the dressed. OK i started panicking, concidering it was less than 30 mins before she was to walk out. Her dress was knee length, She wanted to walk out BAREFOOTED!!!!! No one will be looking at me she said.
I wanted to smack her! So her hubby drove like a Bat out of Hell back to their house( Which was a good 30 mins away but he maded it back in 20 mins) toget her shoes. She just had enough time to put them on and walk out.
We was going to let her wear the piano players shoes, they was white but at least she wouldnt had been barefooted.

Thankgoodness her hubby got her the shoes. I wasnt about to let her walk out there with no shoes on.
After she got her shoes, i was ok. *Whew*