Teaching about SEX?

[Rolly]

Please read the report at;

http://www.cnn.com/2000/HEALTH/children/09/26/teaching.sex/index.html


Teaching young adults about sex: Parents want them to be abstinent.
Laughing, then think how absurd, seems like a classic case of;
Do as I say, not as I do (or did).

In this study regarding sex education in schools it stated that;
" skill-based instruction -- such as how to deal with the pressures and emotional consequences of sexual activity, how to talk to partners or parents about sexual health issues and where to get medical help -- is not taught as frequently or consistently."

Is the school the best place to teach this topic and should this be the job of the school system? I am ambivalent about the idea. The mechanics can be taught but the love and tenderness, I do not think so. Any instruction is good, but on the other hand this is an important topic that seems to be missed at home. Are parents foisting this on the school system because they themselves do not feel comfortable about discussing the topic?

The report title tells us something;
Sex education: Parents want kids better informed

I suggest a mentoring process would be far more effect for young adults. I was amazed to see that abstinence was also a prime topic. This I believe is a slightly hypocritical towards young adults. With regards to the parents; Is it a case of do as I say, or do as I do. Here the parents had early sex and then turn around and tell the teachers to instruct abstinence. Well people it is not working. Read some of the reports of young people abusing their sexuality in mass. Let's be pragmatic about this; young adults want and crave sex and love, and they do personate what they see in adults. Advertising promoted this non-stop -- our society is filled with messages stating sex is good. Let's not forget that sex is natural and normal. It is intrinsic to our life forms and programmed by genetics and enabled by hormones to start in action at puberty. I suggest we face the topic straight on and not try and teach abstinence (unnatural state), but instead instruct on the beauty and emotions involved and to be respectful to themselves when participating. Although I agree all options should be presented including abstinence. Also is it not important to teach that love and sex go hand and hand and are the only way to truly understand both? My feelings are; the school system is not the place to have this intimate instruction undertaken… how could it be?

My last point here is; why leave young adults to teach each other about sex. Is this not a case of the blind leading the blind? I think so, and once again point you back to the 'Virginity Lost' topic, I posted about six months ago.
Or if that does not convince you look at this CNN report;

http://www.cnn.com/HEALTH/9910/21/suburban.syphilis.01/

Please post your comments, ideas, and opinions on this topic.


As Kipling pointed out: words are the most powerful drug for humans.

Jane smiles; Literotica… the natural replacement for Viagra?

 

[insideShiraz]

Rolly...

If I had my druthers, I'd have fucked half of the Schoolteachers I ever had rather than fantasizing when I was a teenager...(I'm Hot For Teacher)...

Do bears instruct their young what to do, or does it just come Naturally?(Ever see the movie The Bear?)...

I think the abstenance route is pure fantasy, and having been raised in a Christian home, it's done through deceit and guilt heaping.

I'd have rather been taken to a reputable, classy place of pleasure when I was deemed a new young man...the icing on the Barmitzvah so to speak, and REALLY taught the pros and cons of sexuality...

 

[Ben - Beer Bear]

*WHAT*




*BEARS?*

 

[CreamyLady]

I had no trouble at all teaching my daughter about sex. The key was to keep it appropriate. Foremost in my mind was that I was not going to be with her every moment of her life, and that the choices she made had to be informed, and of her own free will.

The education I received in school -- which required a permission slip!!! -- was entirely inadequate. It went into the very basic mechanics, and omitted entirely the emotional aspect.

One of the dismal aspects of parenting is that there is a time in adolescence when kids would rather listen to Godzilla than their parents. Nothing, absolutely NOTHING, the parent says is worthy of consideration; cornering the kid for a chat about something important is an exercise in cunning.

This is where a solid sex education program would be of great value. I have no qualms at all about teaching abstinence, in addition to responsible sexual behavior. Not everyone is going to be ready for sexual activity in their teens. However, for those who are -- or who think they are, only to find out afterward that it ain't necessarily so -- information about birth control, condoms, STD's and, in the crunch, abortion informatio should be freely available, without judgment and without preaching.

It would be a lovely world indeed where sex is considered another fact of life, like birth and death. Pending that day, however, we just have to do the best we can -- and it just isn't always enough.

 

[lala]

we don't teach kids how not to be a dork.... and i could've benefitted from that one!

i will agree with Creamy Lady that there are times when young people don't listen to their parents. the problem with teaching sex in school is this: math is math. it doesn't involve any social restrictions, people don't differ on wether or not certain formulas are or are not true. sex, however, is highly individual.

sexual behavior is still a realm that is uncomfortable for people to talk about to each other, let alone to teach their children. i would like to see the kama sutra taught- it literally is a guide to sexual behavior. it states what is appropriate and what is not. unfortunately, it is not seen as authoritative, but subjective. and it is.

so will we ever agree on what to teach children in school? i don't think children will get a good education in all things romantic for some time, long after my life is done and over,...

besides, would gay parents be happy if their children were not taught that gay sex is ok? would christian parents let their kids attend a sex ed class that even mentions homosexual sex as anything but foul and wrong?

i think there are too many fundamental differences in what we all think about sex to ever sit down and teach children all that much. besides, even all us phreaks on lit get off from different stuff, eh?

alright, soapbox is away now,...
thanks for reading,...


ps, i think we should teach 'em at home, so we can retain our individual views on it,... i do like to have unique customs and cultures etc,...

[Edited by lala on 10-25-2000 at 06:42 PM]

 

[Rolly]

Yes, it is all about LOVE!

InsideShiraz & CreamyLady & lala good points. You have me thinking about your ideas. The last two sentences are very good suggestions, very much in line with what may work well in life.

CreamyLady
>It would be a lovely world indeed where sex is considered >another fact of life, like birth and death.
>Pending that day, however, we just have to do the best we >can -- and it just isn't always enough.

lala
>ps, i think we should teach 'em at home, so we can retain >our individual views on it,... i do like to have
>unique customs and cultures etc,...

Just to mention again, I was not referring to children here but young adults. Previously, I posted the stat; 80% of of 18 year olds have had intercourse. My point was; many of them unhappily and some traumatically . See the link to the last news story in my first post.

Anyone else have a view on this topic?

Rolly, in thought

As life is larger than man, so is life wiser than we are. As evolution has made us possible, so will evolution sit in final judgment.

 

[Rolly]

no ideas, suggestions, or debates on this one?

No other opinions on this topic? I thought it was somewhat interesting and worth the discuss time. Oh well, I guess the soaps have it.

…. Jane, with a wink and a smile and a chuckle.

Nop …. they are not going to bait me into any of those dumb ****** discussions.




. . . if we consider all the fossils we possess from most ancient times, then a remarkable proportion show evidence of violent death.