Tasks for online play

[James1324]

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[dudeduede2]

Playing with ice can be very fun, nipples, feet and insertion in both holes can be uncomfortable but arousing.
Also using just a shoelace can make for some interesting light bondage, tying one to one one foot to another, or to a hand can restrict movement, aka force her to crawl. Also banning her from touching herself if she has been 'naughty' until she see's you next can be a frustrating turn on but can make your next skype session seem super exciting

Hope these work!

 

[DirtyPet]

I'm in the same situation. Long distance relationship and I haven't been in a D/s relationship in years so I'm out of practice. I've recently met a submissive man that wants me to be his Dom. Sooo any advice here would be great.

 

[malefica]

-Writing something on themselves that must be shown daily; i.e 'slut' on the belly.
-Outfit control
-Webcam/Skype
-Self-bondage challenges
-Learning challenges; i.e find a new fetish to try and tell me about it.
-Attend local events/munches.

 

[DirtyPet]

Thank you

 

[James1324]

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[MeekMe]

You can give exercise related tasks like 20 minutes of yoga or 3 sets of ____ for 10 reps. Give thought exercises if they need help with focusing on and fixing a problem. A task like: take 10-15 minutes of time, find a quiet place and think of x amount of things you can do to fix the problem. Write out their plans and present them to you. Nothing to focus on? Take 15 minutes to think about some things you'd like to do in the future for fun, write down and present. Next task could be planning out how to achieve fun things. I'm sure these could be translated to whatever is needed/wanted.

 

[ThatAriella]

When online play was the majority of our focus one of the things I enjoyed was a points earning system. So she would have roughly 10 things of her day that she would have to earn. (Examples of our things were time on social media, hot showers, drinking anything other than water etc) She would earn points by doing exercises, writing lines, taking specific pictures, submitting reports or stories or whatever else I thought of. It was a way of making the familiar tasks we already had a bit more exciting. And I could of course take away or give her things back at will.

 

[Katiesub]

If I may, Sir, step back from "tasks" to make a larger point.

The point system, the daily tasks, the control of outfit, etc., all hit what makes me most pleased about online domination -- the feeling that a Master is sitting on one's shoulder, as it were, observing and commanding, approving and disapproving, each moment of one's existence.

Rituals do this well. The point system (while I've never encountered) would seem to compel one to make numerous decisions on actions throughout the day, in turn compelling one to judge one's actions on the basis of their approval by the dominant.

When the places one frequents constantly (the workplace, the kitchen, the bathroom, the living room as well as the bedroom) is filled with the presence of one's dominant, the sub's soul is enriched.

I thought one dominant was crazy when She required me to use three sheets of toilet paper ... and three only ... when I blotted after peeing. No extra little wisps of paper -- they must be removed from the three sheets before use -- and no partial impurities or missing corners. Why? But then even the mundane act of entering a bathroom stall at work meant that She was there with me. An act that is done without thought became one that required my focus and brought her in there with me.

 

[TeaTM]

If I may, Sir, step back from "tasks" to make a larger point.

The point system, the daily tasks, the control of outfit, etc., all hit what makes me most pleased about online domination -- the feeling that a Master is sitting on one's shoulder, as it were, observing and commanding, approving and disapproving, each moment of one's existence.

Rituals do this well. The point system (while I've never encountered) would seem to compel one to make numerous decisions on actions throughout the day, in turn compelling one to judge one's actions on the basis of their approval by the dominant.

When the places one frequents constantly (the workplace, the kitchen, the bathroom, the living room as well as the bedroom) is filled with the presence of one's dominant, the sub's soul is enriched.

I thought one dominant was crazy when She required me to use three sheets of toilet paper ... and three only ... when I blotted after peeing. No extra little wisps of paper -- they must be removed from the three sheets before use -- and no partial impurities or missing corners. Why? But then even the mundane act of entering a bathroom stall at work meant that She was there with me. An act that is done without thought became one that required my focus and brought her in there with me.

There are a hell of a lot of big words In there and I could be wrong with my interpretation. I love the idea of the toilet paper task, as you say it makes a mundane daily ritual into a thought about task that reminds you of your dominant and your submission. I have had these tasks before too and it keeps me happy and in a submissive mind frame through my day. From my interpretation of your reply perhaps you think the points based system wouldn't work because you make all the decisions and it's nothing to do with your Dominant? You do in fact make decisions about what you do but it affects every aspect of your life. You could even need to earn points to be able to pee. It controls luxuries, necessaties and then tasks to please your Dominant. For example you could need to earn points to sleep in a bed and to use the toilet and also to wear your dominants favourite outfit that night. You only have enough points to do 2. Do you please your dominant or take luxury. Even though you make decisions it stays in your mind the whole day. If I take a seat at work I will have to earn the points later. When, how and where can I earn the points I need, what is the most important things for me to earn today. It keeps you constantly working in your mind to find a way to please your Dominant and earn what you need without constant justification or questions. Definitely worth doing if you both work

 

[Katiesub]

I meant to say that I have no experience with the point system, but it seems that it would have the good effect of keeping a sub mindful at all times.

 

[DirtyPet]

I really love these ideas..thanks to everyone that posted!

 

[James1324]

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[ThatAriella]

I agree about rituals. It is not always feasible for the Dominant to outlay a complete day of tasks each and every day so rituals are a great way around that. I also believe it is beneficial for the submissive to repeat certain small tasks day in/day out as it's gives them opportunity to be immersed in their role again. Writing a specific word each day and showing you, maybe a mantra they begin each day with, kneeling in a specific place and thinking on a subject related to their training or you that they can discuss with you later, a set pose they must sit in for a set amount of time a day, an exercise routine they must perform at a certain time. Even just one of these gives the submissive the chance to affirm your dominance or their submissoon even from a distance. I also prefer to have these done in the morning as a way for her to sort of dedicate the day to me before its begun. I just call these her rules.

I personally tend not to deduct points for bad behaviour because I think it taints the submissives view of the points if they can just earn more points in lieu of a punishment. Obviously that's just how it works with myself and my Tea. I just find it a good tool to use to heighten the excitement of rituals/rules. Of course you can then throw other things into the mix such as today you can only eat a certain colour of food, today you must always eat or drink standing, today you must ask 3 people for a pen and show me those pens later. Literally anything that keeps you in their mind at even the most mundane or distant times.

When BDSM leaves the bedroom is really finds itself. I hate the distance but I love the opportunity to push mental domination to a new place when it is necessary.

 

[dudeduede2]

Hey if you find the online proper sex sessions too awkward, turn your camera and mic off, you watch and she plays, its far less confronting that way, you are controlling her solo session, rather than two people together, give it a try!

 

[9to5]

a year back I had one online mistress who used to have me tie my balls and edge for her on cam. sometime I got to orgasm sometimes not. I never knew when.
also send pictures of how she wanted me tied at times.
timing is hard when online. but task can be given.
she must drive in a dress that's bunched up around her waist so if anyone passes her they can see all her legs.
or maybe flash her pussy to some older gentleman then walk away.
teach her some self bondage

 

[Kinky_babygirl]

My two cents--
Instead of random tasks for her to do, think about what she needs in her life right now and areas of improvement. For instance, can she be kind of messy (like me)? Then maybe establishing a daily and weekly cleaning list. Does take meds but sometimes forgets to (hi), then maybe establish a morning and bedtime ritual for that. Same with other things like eating healthier, exercising, etc. that way you're doing things that have a purpose and are in her best interest.
KB

 

[Kinky_babygirl]

Aaannd I'm just realizing I may have misunderstood... I thought you meant lifestyle in general.

 

[James1324]

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