Tasks assigned and accepted

[FurryFury]

Yep. Although, I typically find tasks like that much easier to perform than the daily ones. There is a sexual thrill for me with doing something like that that just isn't there when it comes to washing his socks, you know?

The toughest task like that is when he assigns me the responsibility to go and buy enemas. First, I'm really not a fan of those to begin with. Second, it is embarassing to go in and buy them. Yet I do. And he is pleased, and in some weird way... that is reward enough for me.

I don't like housework either!

Buying such items can be very embarrassing, I agree.

The tasks that you do that are out of the ordinary are more fun.

*nods muchly*

Fury

 

[amasterfound]

I am amember of an Online BDSM Academy and LOVE to do the tasks there for the other TM's (TaskMaster AKA Dom/me). It helps me grow in my submissive role.

 

[FurryFury]

I am amember of an Online BDSM Academy and LOVE to do the tasks there for the other TM's (TaskMaster AKA Dom/me). It helps me grow in my submissive role.

"That's very interesting. I wasn't aware of such a group or academy. Tell us more?

Fury

 

[amasterfound]

"That's very interesting. I wasn't aware of such a group or academy. Tell us more?

Fury

First you have to register here http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/


then go here and register and follow the steps the give you. it is all free. http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/academy/index.php?

I am both a performer AND a TM there since I am a switch.

 

[amasterfound]

First you have to register here http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/


then go here and register and follow the steps the give you. it is all free. http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/academy/index.php?

I am both a performer AND a TM there since I am a switch.

you have to use the same registration name

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

I love tasks don't you?

I love being able to tick even everyday tasks off my lists. (Yes, I have several.)

Since becoming aware of BDSM and a for a time, having an online Master, I discovered how very much I LOVE doing tasks for others.

No this is NOT an invitation to PM me with tasks! Why? I've said it before I have to give a damn about a person and have a certain level of trust before any such thing can be done.

This is a conversation if anyone wants to participate, about tasks. Do you like them? If so why? If not why?

I do. I like to please others but I also fear them because I HATE to fail anyone and I won't lie about them. If I don't think I can do it from the get go I will say so and why. Yet, I have still failed rarely.

So anyone want to talk about tasks, perhaps favorite tasks or least favorite tasks? Tasks you've succeeded with or failed would be interesting to share, I think. Tasks you've learned from and what lessons learned that you didn't expect or what did you expect to learn that you didn't really?

Yes, I know talking about all this could be scary. I know tasks are often very private feeling. I will talk about some if you will! You know me. I'll be forthcoming.

Fury

The word 'task' means to me an activity specified by my Dominant or Mentor as something I am instructed to do as a time of reflection to learn after something I have done to displease. Notice I use the term 'displease' because even though I in fact know better deep down I always feel a bit persecuted that a task has been set and switch straight into defensive mode. Heaven forbid I ever have to consider myself w ww ww wrong !! Now keeping in mind I do not 'brat' for attention somehow the setting of a 'task' puts me in the fullest of 'brat modes'. I have in fact over time managed to get myself from a simple task extended into and epic of a task as I have tried to humor/brat my way out of the initial task set for me. Not very smart huh... Very very occasionally my Dominant has seen fit to recognise that I may have in fact been less than w w ww wrong in the first place. You can see below such an example. In this particular case after presented with what was this time a written task he thanked me for what he had actually learnt from the essay. Having said so I must say he was being extremely generous that day because as is evident in the text I did in fact albeit slightly cleverly slip into brat mode. Ohh thinking one is clever when your on the wrong side of adored with your Dom isn't to clever...........smiles .


The meaning the word 'bastard' as used as a colloquialism in Australian Culture

Three Definitions and references from Australian Slang Dictionary's:

http://www.koalanet.com.au/australian-slang.html

Bastard : term of endearment

http://www.dunway.com/html/aussie_slang.html

Bastard A term of endearment [You Bastard]

http://www.australianexplorer.com/slang/people.htm

Bastard : term of endearment


Yesterday I used a reasonably common Australian colloquial term . I had used it freely and the character of my speech was meant to convey a humor in regards to Mitch stating he was depressed then laughing when others showed some concern. More often than not when the term ' bastard' is used in Australia it is to convey a sort of term of endearment and often directed at people with a soft hooligan nature. The expression is usually considered amusing and neither vulgar or taboo. Having said that I usually refrain from it as I am accustomed to mixing in International platforms..

The Australian 'character' is often defined by our humor and ability for parody of speech as can be seen in the following quote by Sydney Baker, author of a number of important 20th century works about vitality and restless imagination'.

"The Australian fondness for continually adapting English through shortening, substi slang, believed that the Australian's 'greatest talent is for idiomatic invention. It is a manifestation of our tutting and combining words contributes to a vocabulary that most Australians understand, and what could be called the Australian idiom or vernacular ."

In fact in Australian culture the word 'bastard ' is not only found in everyday speech but it can also be heard, read or viewed in radio, television, newspapers, books and advertising. An example of such in the following article from the Sydney Morning Herald

Any which way but lose, Wayne
By Peter Fitzsimons
October 22, 2005


"Mr Chairman! A point of order! I wish to bring to the attention of the Committee for Un-Australian Activities the words of Kangaroos coach Wayne Bennett this week and recommend we bring him up on a charge of openly engaging in the said despicable activities.

I offer as evidence his words at a press conference on Tuesday last, when trying to put forward the view that Australians had no right to expect their sporting teams to win all the time, and therefore Australian coaches should be given a break.

Citing the examples of John Buchanan and Eddie Jones, Bennett said: "It's ridiculous … You've got to understand the business that we're in. We play sport and there are losers. Someone has to win and someone has to lose, and Australia - regardless of whatever sport they're in - are not going to stay at the top of everything for the rest of our lives. So you better get used to it." No we won't, Mr Bennett, and you can't make us! We are Australians, dammit, and on the Australian National Charter it not only sez we have a right to eat too much turkey on Christmas Day, the right to say, "How they hangin', mate?" to any bastard we ever meet, be he president or pauper and the right to bore people from other countries absolutely rigid about how great Vegemite is, it also sez we have a right to expect perpetual victories against other nations, most particularly England and New Zealand, and it is our unquestioned right to whinge about it loud and long afterwards when we do lose while implying that if only we were coach, the team would have won"

I do understand how its possible that in a social setting where I am the only Australian my use of the word/term 'bastard' may have been taken out of context and slightly affronting and I constantly adapt everyday Australian language ( example : use the word 'mom' when 'mum' would be accurate for my culture). I have also given consideration to any American terms , Australians may feel uncomfortable with, one that immediately comes to mind is 'fanny' used as "fanny pack' , "pat you on the fanny'. In Australia the word is known to mean female genitalia firstly and secondly female posterior. However we are familiar that is not the subject matter or the intent of our American friends and may often heard to say " geez he's a funny bastard".



On a more serious note I will often find myself in tears at the end of a task. When it really sinks in because I have actually learned something in the context of the task. I find myself very distraught to have earned it in the first place. I take pride in who I am. I am a submissive .When I fail my Dominant I fail myself.

@}-}rebecca-----

 

[FurryFury]

you have to use the same registration name

Thanks for the information Amasterfound,

I will check this out when I have the time.

Fury

 

[Joe Schmoe]

Yep. Although, I typically find tasks like that much easier to perform than the daily ones. There is a sexual thrill for me with doing something like that that just isn't there when it comes to washing his socks, you know?

The toughest task like that is when he assigns me the responsibility to go and buy enemas. First, I'm really not a fan of those to begin with. Second, it is embarassing to go in and buy them. Yet I do. And he is pleased, and in some weird way... that is reward enough for me.

I might be a different bird here because I have never considered daily/weekly routines/responibilites as tasks.

Tasks, to me, are the occassional needed and/or created duties.

 

[FurryFury]

Rebecca,

I've never done tasks as punishment unless you consider counting all the threads in the library here for RJ.

Fury

Joe,

I've seen them as learning and service experiences and special things.

Fury

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Rebecca,

I've never done tasks as punishment unless you consider counting all the threads in the library here for RJ.

Hmmmn Mr Masters ...........

 

[FurryFury]

Hmmmn Mr Masters ...........

Chuckles.

Indeed.

Fury

 

[Joe Schmoe]

Joe,

I've seen them as learning and service experiences and special things.

Fury

That fits in under what I had said. Tasks are for a plethora of purposes.

 

[FurryFury]

That fits in under what I had said. Tasks are for a plethora of purposes.

More than I knew when I started this thread, yes.

Fury

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

I might be a different bird here because I have never considered daily/weekly routines/responibilites as tasks.

Tasks, to me, are the occassional needed and/or created duties.

The word 'task' has always had the implication as something unpleasant to me. I have have a similar understanding in my experience to the context put forth as I understand it, by Mr J Schmoe. If asked to do something average or pleasurable the connotations of the word 'task' for me would be inappropriate.

 

[Joe Schmoe]

The word 'task' has always had the implication as something unpleasant to me. I have have a similar understanding in my experience to the context put forth as I understand it, by Mr J Schmoe. If asked to do something average or pleasurable the connotations of the word 'task' for me would be inappropriate.

Agreed. Tasks are not rewards, not to me anyway.

 

[Red Sonja]

In a service sense... even though it isn't sexual... the weekly/daily/responsibility things actually fit in quite well. It is still a type of service performed for one's Dominant.
Here's a definition from Webster's online...

1 a : a usually assigned piece of work often to be finished within a certain time b : something hard or unpleasant that has to be done c : DUTY, FUNCTION
2 : subjection to adverse criticism : REPRIMAND -- used in the expressions to take, call, or bring to task

 

[FurryFury]

I see there are many ways of looking at tasks that I hadn't anticipated.

I didn't call tasks rewards but I did say I often found them rewarding.

Perhaps I should have said assignments or used some other term for what I was thinking of?

Fury

 

[Red Sonja]

I see there are many ways of looking at tasks that I hadn't anticipated.

I didn't call tasks rewards but I did say I often found them rewarding.

Perhaps I should have said assignments or used some other term for what I was thinking of?

Fury

Oh I think the term used is fine. I just think that with the variety of relationships out there what a task is can vary. Maybe because I am 24/7 D/s with relatively young kids, my definition is more pedestrian. Or... it could be that DH chooses to make these things tasks so that they get done.

Maybe I'm being manipulated...hmmm. Oh well it wouldn't be the first time.

 

[Joe Schmoe]

Oh I think the term used is fine. I just think that with the variety of relationships out there what a task is can vary. Maybe because I am 24/7 D/s with relatively young kids, my definition is more pedestrian. Or... it could be that DH chooses to make these things tasks so that they get done.

Maybe I'm being manipulated...hmmm. Oh well it wouldn't be the first time.

Again, my views. Tasks should not be what cannot be accomplished. I would believe that would only create frustration, a sense of failure and in time resentment. There should be a rewarding sense in a job well done, knowing you accomplished what your dom set you out to do and it pleased him that you did it.

 

[FurryFury]

Again, my views. Tasks should not be what cannot be accomplished. I would believe that would only create frustration, a sense of failure and in time resentment. There should be a rewarding sense in a job well done, knowing you accomplished what your dom set you out to do and it pleased him that you did it.

I agree with your statement totally, Joe.

Fury


Red Sonja,

Thanks for saying the term is fine and you are right there are a lot of different situations. Trying to cover them all isn't easy.

I think you are happy with your relationship even if some mundane tasks are required.

Fury

 

[amasterfound]

Maybe I'm being manipulated...hmmm. Oh well it wouldn't be the first time.

Are not ALL subs manipulated in one way or the other?

 

[Red Sonja]

I agree with your statement totally, Joe.

Fury


Red Sonja,

Thanks for saying the term is fine and you are right there are a lot of different situations. Trying to cover them all isn't easy.

I think you are happy with your relationship even if some mundane tasks are required.

Fury

I agree with Joe's statement too. I certainly don't mean to imply a lack of satisfaction with my relationship... I get that sense of accomplishment, and a job well-done, even with the mundane tasks. All I meant is that the other ones are more fun.

Speaking of that, the kids just picked up to go to Grandma's so... now I have fun tasks. Like digging out my Jokari paddle, some handcuffs, a wooden bathbrush,etc... and getting naked to greet him at the door.

I'll let you know about the throat thing...

 

[FurryFury]

Are not ALL subs manipulated in one way or the other?

Indeed are not all people manipulated in one way or another?

Isn't it often that sweet manipulation we crave? Manipulation has gotten a bad connotation but it doesn't have to be bad.

*nods*

Fury

I agree with Joe's statement too. I certainly don't mean to imply a lack of satisfaction with my relationship... I get that sense of accomplishment, and a job well-done, even with the mundane tasks. All I meant is that the other ones are more fun.

Speaking of that, the kids just picked up to go to Grandma's so... now I have fun tasks. Like digging out my Jokari paddle, some handcuffs, a wooden bathbrush,etc... and getting naked to greet him at the door.

I'll let you know about the throat thing...

Sweet!

I'm so happy for you! I can't wait to see what you have to share later!

Fury

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Are not ALL subs manipulated in one way or the other?

I am not sure why but I find that question/statement affronting. I do not see submissives as being prone to manipulation . As a submissive I am mindful of objectives set within a relationship prior to offering my submission so I wonder what is left to manipulate. If an issue appears and my instincts are that it needs to be talked about then I do .Having been trained to know clearly that 'topping' is a form of manipulation (visa versa) and being intuitive as well, alarm bells would ring if I felt someone sought to take advantage of me. Also bears in mind why would my Dominant need to manipulate me , he has my submission and I am orientated to his satisfaction. Outside of a D/s relationship heaven help the person that tries 'it' muahahahahahaa

 

[amasterfound]

I am not sure why but I find that question/statement affronting. I do not see submissives as being prone to manipulation . As a submissive I am mindful of objectives set within a relationship prior to offering my submission so I wonder what is left to manipulate. If an issue appears and my instincts are that it needs to be talked about then I do .Having been trained to know clearly that 'topping' is a form of manipulation (visa versa) and being intuitive as well, alarm bells would ring if I felt someone sought to take advantage of me. Also bears in mind why would my Dominant need to manipulate me , he has my submission and I am orientated to his satisfaction. Outside of my D/s relationship heaven help the person that tries 'it' muahahahahahaa

what I was refering to was the first difinition of manipulatiopn not the others

ma·nip·u·late tr.v. ma·nip·u·lat·ed, ma·nip·u·lat·ing, ma·nip·u·lates

1. To move, arrange, operate, or control by the hands or by mechanical means, especially in a skillful manner: She manipulated the lights to get just the effect she wanted.
2. To influence or manage shrewdly or deviously: He manipulated public opinion in his favor.
3. To tamper with or falsify for personal gain: tried to manipulate stock prices.
4. Medicine. To handle and move in an examination or for therapeutic purposes: manipulate a joint; manipulate the position of a fetus during delivery.


By that definition do not all Dom/mes manipulate us?