Tasks assigned and accepted

[RJMasters]

Or a van full of midget clowns with ostrich feathers ...

LMAO!

 

[snowy ciara]

what I was refering to was the first definition of manipulation not the others

ma·nip·u·late tr.v. ma·nip·u·lat·ed, ma·nip·u·lat·ing, ma·nip·u·lates

1. To move, arrange, operate, or control by the hands or by mechanical means, especially in a skillful manner: She manipulated the lights to get just the effect she wanted.
2. To influence or manage shrewdly or deviously: He manipulated public opinion in his favor.
3. To tamper with or falsify for personal gain: tried to manipulate stock prices.
4. Medicine. To handle and move in an examination or for therapeutic purposes: manipulate a joint; manipulate the position of a fetus during delivery.


By that definition do not all Dom/mes manipulate us?

I'm probably splitting hairs here, but it I'd have to say no. My hair splitting quibble is the word "all". Bear in mind this is coming from someone with relative inexperience, but I will not allow all Dom/mes to manipulate me. For example, my friend D. I like and respect D, both as a person and Master of my friend. I also trust him. Therefore, I am willing to be "manipulated" by him, so to speak. I don't sub to him, but if he asked me to do something, set me a task, so to speak, I would try to comply unless I have a compelling reason not to. And if I couldn't comply, I would tell him why respectfully and all that. Using your definition of manipulate yes, I would allow this Dom to manipulate me. There are limits of course, as I am not his, but still, to some extent, I could be manipulated by him.

But the same does not apply to any old person who capitalizes their Name and demands I go belly up for them. "Belly up" in the lower status pack animal meaning of the word, not in the sexual one. MasterBigCock4Sluts is NOT going inspire submission in me, and will not be able to manipulate me in any sense of the word.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Its my mind....it rarely makes sense to anyone except me....I got the arrow wound in my butt to prove it.

are you gonna clean the coffee off this screen now?

 

[AngelicAssassin]

LMAO!

Note to self: Remind clowns not to go straight for the balls ... especially when subject is curling during the "attack".

 

[RJMasters]

are you gonna clean the coffee off this screen now?

Nope that sounds too much like a task to me. Chuckles.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Nope that sounds too much like a task to me. Chuckles.

ok...you won that round.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm totally confused now but thanks for your comments, nice to have you here.

*holds head* Ouch

Actually I was thinking that a commitment as in mine to my husband, supercedes tasks that I might accept from people who I only know virtually.

Yet, tasks can deepen the virtual connection. It can also enhance for me at least the physiological responses.

Now the part about the counting of the threads and commitment to exercise I do get. Yay.

As for manipulation I agree I would never let "All" do so. On the other hand I stand by my previous statement that we all manipulate each other in some ways.

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

So that BDSM Academy site is very interesting. I joined it but haven't been assigned a task so far. Reading there has given me some ideas though!

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

I have now accepted and completed my first task over there. It did something I love. It taught me a lot. *smiles*

How about someone sharing a task they learned from?

Fury

 

[graceanne]

I'm not a member of the BDSM academy, but I have a friend who is, and she's enjoying the heck out of it.

And I'm sure there are tasks that I've learned something from, but I can't think of them. Gimme a bit, I'm sure I'll have something constructive to share.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm not a member of the BDSM academy, but I have a friend who is, and she's enjoying the heck out of it.

And I'm sure there are tasks that I've learned something from, but I can't think of them. Gimme a bit, I'm sure I'll have something constructive to share.

I'd love to hear from you beautiful Graceanne!

Yeah I was hesitant about the whole not knowing anyone on there but the first task was good, I learned a lot, made the TM happy, it seems and now I have requested my second task!

*beams*

I would love to continue this discussion about tasks that have helped us on our paths and that we have learned from with whoever would like to!

The topic intrigues me a great deal!

Fury

 

[Red Sonja]

I'd love to hear from you beautiful Graceanne!

Yeah I was hesitant about the whole not knowing anyone on there but the first task was good, I learned a lot, made the TM happy, it seems and not I have requested my second task!

*beams*

I would love to continue this discussion about tasks that have helped us on our paths and that we have learned from with whoever would like to!

The topic intrigues me a great deal!

Fury

Well, I have a task and I frankly do not know what to do about it. Dh wishes me to Dom/me? him for an evening so that I will understand his role better and so he will understand mine better.

I'm absolutely freaked out about it. Add to that, the fact that he wishes me to use a strap on on him, and I never have... I am deep in panic mode here. But I thought... who better to ask for advice, help and where to find such things than my new friends, at Lit... so here I am.

HELP!!

 

[FurryFury]

First try to relax.

Second you want to get him as excited as you possibly can before you go all strap on his ass!

You might want to wear something that keeps your parts all covered up or you might want to go nude. One might help you concentrate on your role for the night better but there are benefits to the other.

So, I recommend a nice blow job with some skull fucking, why not, he's there, he's hard you want it don't you? I know I would but STOP!!! Just before he comes. *GRINS*

Now either while you are doing the oral thing or after use your well lubed finger or small toy to go around and around his lubed anus and eventually to penetrate it. At first penetration, stop and hold until he pushes back for more. He will push back for more believe me.

As you continue go deeper but also move in a circular pattern perhaps adding a wider penetration with another finger or using a toy that gets bigger the deeper you go.

You might want to practice delivering a stinging spank or flogging. Feel free to try a number of positions, getting him the right height to your cock can be hard.

Guys are very visual. You might tell him if you are using a toy to keep fucking him self in the ass as you walk around stroking your cock. You might even have him kiss it or suck it.

Personally I really like mine on his knees when I fuck his ass. I think that's because I prefer to be on my knees when the roles are reversed and so I associate great pleasure with that position.

Now if you want to spank his ass, get it nice and heated then remove the toy and slip just the tip of your cock inside him, hold there. Wait again for him to push back wanting more. He will. Don't give it to him yet, say this instead.

"Do you WANT it?"

Wait for a positive answer such as yes.

"Yes what?"

Make it clear you want to be called something respectful such as Mistress or M'amm.

Then give it to him just a little more.

Spank some more, play with his cock, bite his back then say again as he squirms wanting more.

"Do you WANT it?"

Depending on his answer you can decide your actions. You can even demand he beg if you wish. Repeat this often, each time you make him ask for it will make it hotter for him if this is the sort of thing he likes. It may even make it hotter for you.

Remember this is a TASK for HIM. It is also a role play for you to learn.

Not that I'd know anything about this.

Alternatively you can just pervert the task to what YOU really want. After all if you are in charge and all you can break the rules a little.

Maybe you want him on his back with his legs up high. Maybe you want to tie him down so his legs and arms are tied together. Then you want to suck his cock while you fuck his ass by hand or knee.

That's all good.

Or you can just tell him you can't do this task.

I love Akasha's idea of making him come on his own face. *smirks* That's very hot. Hopefully your husband is easier to get off than mine is with a strap on. Hopefully you can wear one in such a way or the mind fuck blows your head off in such a way you can come too.

Oh and I'd put a towel under him so if he says he has to go to the bathroom like mine does you can tell him that's what the towel is for and he will have to wash the linens.

Here is another favorite of mine:

Have him kneel before you. Stand there with your strap on in his face and try to smirk. Say to him.

"Come and worship at the alter of your Goddess, please me well." Then spread your legs and make him find a way to get his mouth on your vagina and clit if he will or he might even decide to suck your cock, whatever...*grins*

There are just some ideas that I've found here and there, take them with a grain of salt.

Remember always, mileage may very.

Good luck,

Fury

 

[graceanne]

First try to relax.

Second you want to get him as excited as you possibly can before you go all strap on his ass!

You might want to wear something that keeps your parts all covered up or you might want to go nude. One might help you concentrate on your role for the night better but there are benefits to the other.

So, I recommend a nice blow job with some skull fucking, why not, he's there, he's hard you want it don't you? I know I would but STOP!!! Just before he comes. *GRINS*

Now either while you are doing the oral thing or after use your well lubed finger or small toy to go around and around his lubed anus and eventually to penetrate it. At first penetration, stop and hold until he pushes back for more. He will push back for more believe me.

As you continue go deeper but also move in a circular pattern perhaps adding a wider penetration with another finger or using a toy that gets bigger the deeper you go.

You might want to practice delivering a stinging spank or flogging. Feel free to try a number of positions, getting him the right height to your cock can be hard.

Guys are very visual. You might tell him if you are using a toy to keep fucking him self in the ass as you walk around stroking your cock. You might even have him kiss it or suck it.

Personally I really like mine on his knees when I fuck his ass. I think that's because I prefer to be on my knees when the roles are reversed and so I associate great pleasure with that position.

Now if you want to spank his ass, get it nice and heated then remove the toy and slip just the tip of your cock inside him, hold there. Wait again for him to push back wanting more. He will. Don't give it to him yet, say this instead.

"Do you WANT it?"

Wait for a positive answer such as yes.

"Yes what?"

Make it clear you want to be called something respectful such as Mistress or M'amm.

Then give it to him just a little more.

Spank some more, play with his cock, bite his back then say again as he squirms wanting more.

"Do you WANT it?"

Depending on his answer you can decide your actions. You can even demand he beg if you wish. Repeat this often, each time you make him ask for it will make it hotter for him if this is the sort of thing he likes. It may even make it hotter for you.

Remember this is a TASK for HIM. It is also a role play for you to learn.

Not that I'd know anything about this.

Alternatively you can just pervert the task to what YOU really want. After all if you are in charge and all you can break the rules a little.

Maybe you want him on his back with his legs up high. Maybe you want to tie him down so his legs and arms are tied together. Then you want to suck his cock while you fuck his ass by hand or knee.

That's all good.

Or you can just tell him you can't do this task.

I love Akasha's idea of making him come on his own face. *smirks* That's very hot. Hopefully your husband is easier to get off than mine is with a strap on. Hopefully you can wear one in such a way or the mind fuck blows your head off in such a way you can come too.

Oh and I'd put a towel under him so if he says he has to go to the bathroom like mine does you can tell him that's what the towel is for and he will have to wash the linens.

Here is another favorite of mine:

Have him kneel before you. Stand there with your strap on in his face and try to smirk. Say to him.

"Come and worship at the alter of your Goddess, please me well." Then spread your legs and make him find a way to get his mouth on your vagina and clit if he will or he might even decide to suck your cock, whatever...*grins*

There are just some ideas that I've found here and there, take them with a grain of salt.

Remember always, mileage may very.

Good luck,

Fury

Fury, I hope you realized you just got all the male sub's around here horny.

 

[FurryFury]

Fury, I hope you realized you just got all the male sub's around here horny.

Oops! *giggles* Well what was a sick girl in bed to do?

*pouts sweetly*

Fury

 

[Red Sonja]

Oops! *giggles* Well was a sick girl in bed to do?

*pouts sweetly*

Fury

Thanks for the advice. I've got some time to plan the scene. I think what I'm most afraid of is going overboard, and him not liking or having fun with what happens. I'm also a bit afraid that if I really like this, I may not want to go back to being my sweet subbie self

What if power corrupts me?

That said, I like your scenario very much. I just need to figure out where I can find a strap-on, preferably one with a vibe for me.

 

[FurryFury]

Thanks for the advice. I've got some time to plan the scene. I think what I'm most afraid of is going overboard, and him not liking or having fun with what happens. I'm also a bit afraid that if I really like this, I may not want to go back to being my sweet subbie self

What if power corrupts me?

That said, I like your scenario very much. I just need to figure out where I can find a strap-on, preferably one with a vibe for me.

I'm glad you have some time to think about it. I always do better when I have time to adjust to a new idea.

I'm glad also that you like the senario, which was mostly assigned to me by my once Online Dom who I miss a very great deal.

It brought a break through for us because my husband finally realized how wonderful a spanking could feel. Prior to that he was thinking it was pain. After he knew it could highten everything.

I honestly doubt that role playing in this way for him will change your basic self. You have always felt like a submissive right? I don't see that changing.

Oh and if you are afraid, as I once was of putting things in his ass, make him do it. Tell him he is a slut with such a wet hole, the kind of slut that would grab any cock and stuff it in his hungry hole and then tell him to do just that and show you how hungry and slutty he is.

Have fun with it. To you it will seem like you have on an overcoat that is not yours and not wanted most likely but remember you are doing it for his pleasure.

As for going too far, watch him, you can probably tell when it is going in that direction. Maybe he won't be able to stand it and will have to re-assert his dominace. You'd like that just fine right?

On the other hand he put you in charge so what is too far? Not much if you are doing what you have been told and what you decide you want.

Plus if you go "too far" he probably won't ask you again. That's the passive aggressive win right there, if you don't like to do it.

So no matter what happens, it's all okay, Sugah! Exploring unknown paths is scary but with good communication and trust between the two of you don't truly have to worry.

Also you might want to read Akasha's The Good Girl's Guide to Domination. It's great. My guess is most highly sexual couples are doing a lot of the low level but yummy things in it, every damn day. I know we have been and it made me happy to read her wonderful piece on this.

*hugs*

Fury

 

[mrJohnJones]

I just HAD to post...

Because Fury reminds me so much of the subbies that tormented me in the days of clubs and munches.

I got in more trouble with the female subbies than I got from the Dommes. Of course, it was the Dommes THEY got me in trouble with. But hey, it was fun!

So... online tasks... Haven't had many.. I'll go with my craziest....

I'm a T&D guy, and the Domme instructed me to wear a cock vibrator. I even bought it for the occasion. She would email me at intervals throughout the day and tell me to turn it on for 30 seconds, 1 minute, 2 minutes, 3 minutes at a time at different intensity levels, but I was to turn it off if I anticipated climax.

Now this in itself was do-able, albeit made me pretty sexually frustrated over a period of time. Hiding the wire for the vibrator wasn't too hard. An erection on and off while at work was a little difficult to hide.

The thing that was most difficult was when I had to make a support call (I work on PCs) and it was in buzz mode while I was working at some attractive clients cublicle. Oh, it was quiet enough, considering the noise around the office. I would say I shut it off early more often in that case, not because of the noise, but because of the danger of climaxing; again, not to mention the bulge produced with the goofy little vibrator hanging off of the ring.

She really had a mean streak. Wasn't allowed to climax for days. But, being an obedient little sub, it was worth the wait when we were online msging together and she let me release.

I'd say that was the craziest of the few online experiences I've had.

And hi, Fury, you crazy, intense little subbie!



.

 

[amasterfound]

I did one task to where I was to be gagged blindfolded and the kneel for a certain length of time, during that time I was to contemplate on anything that comes to mind.

 

[FurryFury]

Because Fury reminds me so much of the subbies that tormented me in the days of clubs and munches.

I got in more trouble with the female subbies than I got from the Dommes. Of course, it was the Dommes THEY got me in trouble with. But hey, it was fun!

So... online tasks... Haven't had many.. I'll go with my craziest....

I'm a T&D guy, and the Domme instructed me to wear a cock vibrator. I even bought it for the occasion. She would email me at intervals throughout the day and tell me to turn it on for 30 seconds, 1 minute, 2 minutes, 3 minutes at a time at different intensity levels, but I was to turn it off if I anticipated climax.

Now this in itself was do-able, albeit made me pretty sexually frustrated over a period of time. Hiding the wire for the vibrator wasn't too hard. An erection on and off while at work was a little difficult to hide.

The thing that was most difficult was when I had to make a support call (I work on PCs) and it was in buzz mode while I was working at some attractive clients cublicle. Oh, it was quiet enough, considering the noise around the office. I would say I shut it off early more often in that case, not because of the noise, but because of the danger of climaxing; again, not to mention the bulge produced with the goofy little vibrator hanging off of the ring.

She really had a mean streak. Wasn't allowed to climax for days. But, being an obedient little sub, it was worth the wait when we were online msging together and she let me release.

I'd say that was the craziest of the few online experiences I've had.

And hi, Fury, you crazy, intense little subbie!



.

Yo!

Hey, did you call me crazy?

Now you be askin for some drama, but you don't want no drama...LMAO!

I ain't never gotten nobody into trouble, that I know of. That is so not my game. I've sadly never been to a munch (and crunch) or club of the fetish sort, btw. So it wasn't me Sugah and there ain't nobody that's really like me either but I thank you kindly for sharing your story. That does sound like some fun! *winks* I personally would never play at work. That's one of my limits right there. I sometimes wish I did something else so I could put that on the table though.

Fury

I did one task to where I was to be gagged blindfolded and the kneel for a certain length of time, during that time I was to contemplate on anything that comes to mind.

And what did you learn from the task? Did you feel good about it later? Thanks for sharing your task with us Amasterfound! (I would find kneeling uncomfortable pretty quickly, I suspect.)

*hugs*

Fury

 

[amasterfound]

And what did you learn from the task? Did you feel good about it later? Thanks for sharing your task with us Amasterfound! (I would find kneeling uncomfortable pretty quickly, I suspect.)

*hugs*

Fury

I did to but I learned about how much I had screwed up my life my NOT trusting people more, how much I had gained by trusting My Master that I have now and how much I don't want to loose him. It also brought to memories about when I had to give up my 11 year old son. That hurt more then anything else I had EVER had to do!

 

[FurryFury]

I did to but I learned about how much I had screwed up my life my NOT trusting people more, how much I had gained by trusting My Master that I have now and how much I don't want to loose him. It also brought to memories about when I had to give up my 11 year old son. That hurt more then anything else I had EVER had to do!

I can't imagine how hard it would be to give up a child, it's just to enormous a pain for me to get my head around. *HUGS*

I'm glad you learned from the task. For me that is one the three main things tasks are always about. Those three things I will list below in order of importance to me. (This is only my view of course.)

1. Pleasing another

2. Learning

3. Experiencing sensations.

The first one overrides all the others and works best if I actually have a relationship with the person I'm trying to please. That is why when I did the task evaluation I found there were very few I had a desire for. In general I don't desire tasks unless someone I care for assigns them and I have the chance to make them at least a little happy by doing the task. Otherwise few tasks appeal to me. I might think to myself, I could learn from this one or I would enjoy the sensations of that one but it's lost it's true meaning with out the key component, at least for me.

Fury

 

[amasterfound]

Most of the ones I do I request that my Master be allowed to participate in it. That way I get to please him or at least have him watch knowing that HE will be proud of me.

 

[FurryFury]

Most of the ones I do I request that my Master be allowed to participate in it. That way I get to please him or at least have him watch knowing that HE will be proud of me.

Very nice!

I'm happy you have that option!

Happy for you both!

He was just saying something lovely about you in the all women are whores thread btw.

It makes me happy to see couples like you here.

Fury

 

[amasterfound]

Very nice!

I'm happy you have that option!

Happy for you both!

He was just saying something lovely about you in the all women are whores thread btw.

It makes me happy to see couples like you here.

Fury

Thanks! I will have to go see what he is saying. He better NOT be calling a LADY again! I am a woman but a lady I am not. At least not in the traditional since I am not.