taming of a strong woman

[tamingotshrew]

My boyfriend and I are exploring BDSM together.
Being an educated and independent woman, the training and punishments are a challenge to me.
As a next step I will share my development progress and let other men and women be a part of my training.

If you talk to me, please refer to me as "dirty little slut" or similar - I will answer politely to every PM as long as I'm allowed to.

 

[lovecraft68]

Has it ever occurred to you, you could be the top?

If the 'training' is that difficult perhaps you're not cut out to be the sub.

Not every strong woman needs to have a submissive side.

That is stereo type created by misogynists and 'popular' BDSM novels that are really crap

"So and so struggles to discover her submissive side" maybe because its not there.

Suggest to your boyfriend he should be submissive, I can guarantee the reaction.

Meantime consider if that is what you are really cut out for or are you just conforming to "man's world" and their interpretation of BDSM being male top only.

 

[tamingotshrew]

Thank you lovecraft!

I'm not into submissive men and I quite enjoy him being on top.
However, that doesn't make it easier

 

[MeekMe]

My boyfriend and I are exploring BDSM together.
Being an educated and independent woman, the training and punishments are a challenge to me.
As a next step I will share my development progress and let other men and women be a part of my training.

That's cool, start a blog somewhere. Tumblr is quite popular for this sort of thing. These types of posts don't go over well in this forum.

If you talk to me, please refer to me as "dirty little slut" or similar - I will answer politely to every PM as long as I'm allowed to.

No thanks. If you're looking to involve others in this way, I suggest one of the other boards, maybe the personals.

 

[Aluris]

Being educated and independent have no influence on how submissive you are. It's all about how much you trust your partner in the moment, and how much you can let go. In short: it's about your pride.
Best of luck - try to just let go and enjoy ♡
MeekMe also has a good point about trying the Personals part of the forum.

 

[Scentofawoman]

I kind of wonder what would be involved in the taming?

 

[Yardley]

I kind of wonder what would be involved in the taming?

Personally, I would apply a lot of cold shoulder and time-outs. I know some people like the challenge. I haven't the patience.

If she is feeling submissive, groovy. If not, I'm not going to beg for her submission. She wants to play on par, toe-to-toe? That's fine too. I'm capable of switching, but it isn't my baseline.

 

[PurpleMoon49]

If I may ask how does your BF feel about you having a more independent personality but yet wanting to him to be the dominant ?

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Being an independent and educated woman hardly means one cannot be a submissive... These are not mutually exclusive traits.

 

[cfuhrer]

Being an independent and educated woman hardly means one cannot be a submissive... These are not mutually exclusive traits.

Quoted for truth.

 

[tishadomina]

Discuss your hard limits. So far as training goes, why not look into local kink events in your area? While training can be done over the internet, it is limiting and limited compared to offline. Fetlife is a good site for finding events in your area - but it is, by design, *not* a hook-up site. But as I said, you can search for events by area. A munch would be a good place to start, which is a meet-up of local kinksters in a vanilla setting, often a pub - my local one tomorrow is in a Wetherspoons.