Tall Subs?

[EsotericSub]

If I could change one thing about my appearance, it would definitely be my height. I'm a solid 5'9", maybe a smidge over that, and as a submissive woman I'm constantly feeling like my outward appearance is at war with who I am on the inside. I've always been tall, for my entire life. I am literally remembered by my classmates as "that tall redhead". I have no idea what it's like to not tower over my friends, and I tend to be nose-to-nose with most of the guys I meet. It's only in the past few years that guys my age have even caught up with me.

I wouldn't mind so much if it weren't for the fact that tall girls tend to be treated differently than short girls. Short/average girls get to be adorable, whereas tall girls are just intimidating. Maybe I make too big of a deal out of it and I'm sounding silly, but it's something that has bothered me throughout my entire life, for various reasons. I try to just not think about it, but here and there I get reminded and I just hate it.

Are there any other tall subs out there? Does it ever bother you? If so, how do you deal?

 

[KoPilot]

-raises hand-

I'm 5'8", but S is 5'6-7". Doubly sucks as a macrophile, but... as I said in my Macrophilia 102 essay: He’s certainly not the tallest guy on the planet, and that’s fine, because he’s a reverse metaphor: being strong, cunning, and confident makes him big to me.

I don't really notice it unless I'm standing next to him in front of a reflective surface. And honestly, if I weren't a macrophile, it would be a complete non-issue, because my occasional focus on it isn't out of insecurity. I just... notice it due to the fetish, really.

Lol great this makes me sound like kind of a bitch. xD

 

[NomadLady]

If I could change one thing about my appearance, it would definitely be my height. I'm a solid 5'9", maybe a smidge over that, and as a submissive woman I'm constantly feeling like my outward appearance is at war with who I am on the inside. I've always been tall, for my entire life. I am literally remembered by my classmates as "that tall redhead". I have no idea what it's like to not tower over my friends, and I tend to be nose-to-nose with most of the guys I meet. It's only in the past few years that guys my age have even caught up with me.

I wouldn't mind so much if it weren't for the fact that tall girls tend to be treated differently than short girls. Short/average girls get to be adorable, whereas tall girls are just intimidating. Maybe I make too big of a deal out of it and I'm sounding silly, but it's something that has bothered me throughout my entire life, for various reasons. I try to just not think about it, but here and there I get reminded and I just hate it.

Are there any other tall subs out there? Does it ever bother you? If so, how do you deal?

I know what you mean...5'10" here and a sub. Never dated in high school....still get referred to as "that big tall blonde". Talk about intimidating...I played TUBA in my college marching band with 19 guys. (ok, I know there will be oral jokes about playing the tuba now). Since I've been single and have met men when out on my "quite large" motorcycle it's even worse.
But, at 47 I've learned to not let it bother me anymore. I will admit I still prefer a tall man, especially for a Dom. I've met one through FetLife that is 6'4" and that seems to be a good height when he wants to stand behind me and play with my breasts.... I can lie my head back into his chest and neck when those waves of pleasure come over me.

And yes, trying to find slacks, jeans, etc in tall is always a bitch...LOL

 

[CutieMouse]

I deal with it by wearing heels.

I totally get where you're coming from. I've been 5'8" since I was 10 years old, and cannot begin to count the number of men who have presumed I'd make an excellent domme, just because I'm 6' tall in heels... and a redhead. I've learned to look at certain things as auto-filters. Anyone who thinks I have to be petite (or any number of other things) to be submissive, simply isn't a good match. HUGE time saver, that.

 

[SubKekiLee]

I am 5'9 as well.. and my Master is barely 5'10 so if I wear heels I tower over him and we get the same thing all the time that they think I am the Domme and he is the sub, I dont mind it cause when I am on my knees it doesnt really matter now does it?

 

[EsotericSub]

Oh, thank God I'm not alone. xD

Anyone who thinks I have to be petite (or any number of other things) to be submissive, simply isn't a good match. HUGE time saver, that.

I dont mind it cause when I am on my knees it doesnt really matter now does it?

Both excellent points. I know that my height doesn't really matter... but damn if it doesn't bother me all the same, haha.

 

[NomadLady]

Also any man who makes a negative comment about your height...has some issue with insecurity and you should run the opposite direction anyway....don't hang around to find what he is REALLY insecure about.

 

[kinkysam742]

I think a sub is a sub, if she's willing to do every naughty deed you may have in store, who cares about height?

 

[KoPilot]

Also any man who makes a negative comment about your height...has some issue with insecurity and you should run the opposite direction anyway....don't hang around to find what he is REALLY insecure about.

S took me to the mall once for shoe shopping. We were in a store, and I saw a pair of ridiculous heels, so I took them out and put them on just to show him why I don't wear anything but flats. My god, I was at least a head taller. He just looked up at me and chuckled, saying "Be glad I like you better in combat boots."

I was careful not to swoon otherwise I'd have toppled over.

 

[YourCaptor]

If I could change one thing about my appearance, it would definitely be my height. I'm a solid 5'9", maybe a smidge over that, and as a submissive woman I'm constantly feeling like my outward appearance is at war with who I am on the inside. I've always been tall, for my entire life. I am literally remembered by my classmates as "that tall redhead". I have no idea what it's like to not tower over my friends, and I tend to be nose-to-nose with most of the guys I meet. It's only in the past few years that guys my age have even caught up with me.

I wouldn't mind so much if it weren't for the fact that tall girls tend to be treated differently than short girls. Short/average girls get to be adorable, whereas tall girls are just intimidating. Maybe I make too big of a deal out of it and I'm sounding silly, but it's something that has bothered me throughout my entire life, for various reasons. I try to just not think about it, but here and there I get reminded and I just hate it.

Are there any other tall subs out there? Does it ever bother you? If so, how do you deal?

Short stuff.

Move to Denmark, the average height their is like 8'

 

[sunandshadow]

Well I'm not a sub, I'm 5'4" and I've NEVER been referred to as cute or had somebody treat me as cute. I guess I manage to be intimidating regardless of height, lol.

 

[temp256]

I can definitely relate. I'm 6'2" barefoot. Despite being very shy, everyone knows me as the intimidating redhead. Everyone I meet immediately says "wow, you're tall". To make matters worse, I'm a lesbian, so on average other women are much shorter.

I can't really give you any advice though. No one wants to date me.

 

[where]

I only have a viscous ring right after sex. just saying

 

[Primalex]

Are there any other tall subs out there?

Yes.

Does it ever bother you? If so, how do you deal?

I hit a bit higher.


I mean, I don't play with women I don't know, so I know whether they are submissive or not, so the size does not really matter. Weight is more a problem, but even then you can adjust your play.

 

[CutieMouse]

Both excellent points. I know that my height doesn't really matter... but damn if it doesn't bother me all the same, haha.

I suspect this is more of a societal conditioning thing, than a power thing. I remember being taller than my 5th grade teacher. My best friends growing up were always the perky 5'2" girls who got all the attention, while I was the "token virgin" of the group. I wore ballet shoes to high school home coming, prom, and my wedding - so I wouldn't be taller than the guy. Through my teens and twenties I avoided my height as much as possible, but then somewhere in my 30s I decided I really didn't give a flying rat's ass if my height made men uncomfortable; that was their insecurity, not mine.

So now I walk tall (pun intended), view my height as an asset, and joke that ya gotta be a leg man to date me because lord knows I didn't get much in the breast department [thank gawd]. Funny thing is that the older I've gotten, the more men I've met who don't consider me to be that tall at all, and look at me, instead of just one or two aspects of me.

 

[Susano]

I'm 6'2". In USMC boot camp, I had a drill instructor who couldn't have been more than 5'6".

Believe me, he fucking dominated. Height is nothing.

 

[wicked woman]

I think height is completely irrelevant to submission. If nothing it's cultural...the idea that the man needs to be taller and bigger to be a protector. Maybe a caveman fighting off a dinosaur. In modern times...no

I'm 5' 8" and have been since I was 12. I don't ever recall it being a problem for me. Yes I'm a couple inches more than the average but not unreasonably so. I love wearing heels...no more than 2" though. Not because it would make me too tall but because they're too difficult to walk on.

I've gone out with guys that range from 5' 6" to 6' 4". Height hasn't been a factor in whether I liked a guy. I have however been cautious sometimes wearing heels if he's a bit self conscious about his height.

 

[EsotericSub]

Short stuff.

Move to Denmark, the average height their is like 8'

*starts packing her bags* xD

I suspect this is more of a societal conditioning thing, than a power thing. I remember being taller than my 5th grade teacher. My best friends growing up were always the perky 5'2" girls who got all the attention, while I was the "token virgin" of the group. I wore ballet shoes to high school home coming, prom, and my wedding - so I wouldn't be taller than the guy. Through my teens and twenties I avoided my height as much as possible, but then somewhere in my 30s I decided I really didn't give a flying rat's ass if my height made men uncomfortable; that was their insecurity, not mine.

So now I walk tall (pun intended), view my height as an asset, and joke that ya gotta be a leg man to date me because lord knows I didn't get much in the breast department [thank gawd]. Funny thing is that the older I've gotten, the more men I've met who don't consider me to be that tall at all, and look at me, instead of just one or two aspects of me.

Perhaps that is it. I don't feel any less submissive around a guy if he's a little on the short side, don't get me wrong. My ex was 2 or 3 inches shorter than me when we met and even now, nearly 4 years later, he's still only grown to be maybe half an inch taller than me. I feel like it's the guys that treat me differently, and it has nothing to do with how I carry myself--it's because they're afraid of a girl that's taller than them. This is their issue, and I know I shouldn't let it become mine as well, but it's such an annoyance and, on occasion, it does make me feel a little insecure.

Maybe I just need to look at guys a few years older than I am. At 19, a lot of guys my age are just reaching their full size and maybe that contributes to them not liking my height. When he's self-conscious about his height, I become self-conscious about mine. I feel like it's not that he's "too short", but that I'm "too tall". After all, the average American woman is 5'4". If I were that height, I'd never have this problem, haha.

I've accepted that I can't change my height (at least not until they invent reverse elevator shoes xP). Now I just have to get over it.

 

[KoPilot]

After all, the average American woman is 5'4".

What I would give to have that. Or even 4'5"... -dreamy sigh-

 

[Netzach]

Im 5'4'' and no one has ever really thrown out "cute" very often regarding me, other than M. He's allowed.

I have one girlfriend who's tall and a sexual bottom and she kind of intimated that she couldn't take a woman shorter than her seriously as a top, I just kind of shrugged it off. Her problem.

 

[Ravenwind]

Im 5'4'' and no one has ever really thrown out "cute" very often regarding me, other than M. He's allowed.

Lucky . I get that "cute" stuff all the time- 5'4" with my boots on. My Husband is only 5'6", but almost all of our friends over the years have been 6'+. I feel like a damn chihuahua amongst great danes and st. bernards.

That's okay, though... I've learned to embrace my "cute" side and just roll with it.

 

[subish2009]

I'm 5'10". In adolescence I HATED it! I was never the girl that got attention based on looks. Plenty of guys wanted me after they got to know me, but most passed over me (even though I was height-weight proportional and pretty enough) I think because of the height thing.

In my 20s things improved. Guys seemed to care less the older I got and I gained more confidence in general, became more at peace with my body. It also helped that women were constantly telling me they were jealous of my height.

Now I'm 33 and I like being this tall. True, in fuck-me heels I TOWER over most men, but I truly don't care. I'm a sub. Confident guys make me melt. If a man doesn't like the way I look because of my height, there are plenty of others who will. I've never met a D-type who gave a rat's ass how tall I was. Most men I've been with LOVE me in heels. D/s isn't about how you look standing next to one another. It's about who's in charge. Height has never saved me from what I had coming to me.

Now, on the other hand, if I let myself gain weight, I feel like a linebacker, so I have to watch that carefully. If you're tall and athletically built, there's not much room for extra padding while still feeling feminine.

 

[wingswhips]

I like tall women, and I like women submissive. So, the combination, you can imagine, is... something I like.

 

[sailorpaul]

My girl is 6' 0" in her bare feet, BUT I require that she wear 4 inch heels. If not, she's not allowed to cum at all that day. She's a stunning, statuesque blond who walks proudly and elegantly.

I'm 5' 10".

Somehow I fail to see the significance of your original question.
Paul

PS: When I pick a playmate for her, I often pick the little tiny 5'0 or 5'2" little things simply because I love the contrast. And since my girl has a world-class incredible mouth... you may PM me with your best proposition. LOL

 

[Noira]

4 inch heels? Oww. Not all day, I hope. I imagine that'd hurt quite a bit!

Ahh, tall women. T_T I always wanted to be tall. It's very hard to be taken seriously when you're all "no really, I'm a pretty vicious sadist at times" and people are all "BUT YOU'RE SO CUTE." Grr. It wasn't my fault I was cursed to be 5'12" and chubby rather than a 5'10" skinny pale busty brunette dominatrix stereotype! I look cute by the strictest definition of the word! (Short and fat.) Being female means it's already hard for people to take my indulgences in sadism seriously... being cute makes it next to impossible. My totally non-sadistic (I think?) sister gets all the domme jokes and while people are busy jibing her about "where's your whip" I'm just all "well, she doesn't have one, maybe she could borrow mine..."

Which leads me to an ironically entertaining contrast. I only like extremes in heights. Shorties or really tall people. If they're too short for me to keep an arm over their shoulder, then they better be the right height for an arm around the waist!

In the end it's all about the confidence from a D-type that matters, and well, the additude from the pyl too. I prefer tall women, sure. And short guys. (The best is when they're even shorter than me!) But I won't judge someone on their height just because of a preference I have!