Talking straight guys into sex.

[GuitarRocker]

I know it isn't an easy thing for any gay/bi guys to do, but have any of you done it before? Tried talking a 100% straight guy into sex with you? If so, tell your story here. I know you can't just walk up to any random straight guy and ask for sex, 'cause that would be considered sexual harrassment, and straight guys can press charges on you of course...but I'm sure it's much more easier asking sex with straight guys from someone you know very well and can trust like say, if you have a best friend that you've known for years ever since you were a kid, and you want to try to turn him into your lover. Just wondering.

 

[Soulfiregirl]

I know it isn't an easy thing for any gay/bi guys to do, but have any of you done it before? Tried talking a 100% straight guy into sex with you? If so, tell your story here. I know you can't just walk up to any random straight guy and ask for sex, 'cause that would be considered sexual harrassment, and straight guys can press charges on you of course...but I'm sure it's much more easier asking sex with straight guys from someone you know very well and can trust like say, if you have a best friend that you've known for years ever since you were a kid, and you want to try to turn him into your lover. Just wondering.

Man, if you can figure that out, let me know because I'm always getting crushes on straight girls and I'd love to "make them gay" for a night or two. I think the only way to approach it is if you know someone very well and even if they are straight, you know they're not "threatened" by gay men and are very open minded and compassionate. Or, just get him drunk...

 

[Baskin Robbins]

I'm a straight guy. I would think just talking about being open would be a start. I would be open if it was presented in a "having fun only" type of situation. Alcohol doesn't hurt!

 

[Baskin Robbins]

You might also introduce him to Lit. I've opened my mind since joining.

 

[brw02]

I know it isn't an easy thing for any gay/bi guys to do, but have any of you done it before? Tried talking a 100% straight guy into sex with you? If so, tell your story here. I know you can't just walk up to any random straight guy and ask for sex, 'cause that would be considered sexual harrassment, and straight guys can press charges on you of course...but I'm sure it's much more easier asking sex with straight guys from someone you know very well and can trust like say, if you have a best friend that you've known for years ever since you were a kid, and you want to try to turn him into your lover. Just wondering.

I'm a straight but I've been getting hit on by a gay guy in YM. I started chatting with him on a lark, and for a few times it was just flirtatious. One night, after a few drinks, I was surfing the 'net and he contacted me. We started by talking about my bad night at the bars, but soon he asked me to start my webcam. After some encouragement, he got me undressed and talked me into some pretty racy poses. If he had been nearby, he may well have scored. You might try that type approach. He was insistent but also very complimentary. Never know where these things might end up!

 

[John Doe]

I guess if that's your thing but I don't really understand the appeal.

Is it the challenge and ego boost of seducing someone who normally wouldn't be interested in you?

 

[fille]

Man, if you can figure that out, let me know because I'm always getting crushes on straight girls and I'd love to "make them gay" for a night or two. I think the only way to approach it is if you know someone very well and even if they are straight, you know they're not "threatened" by gay men and are very open minded and compassionate. Or, just get him drunk...

Somehow I bet it is easier to get a straight woman to temporarily bend her orientation than to get a straight man to do it. Less societial crap, and it's well known that straight men find the idea of two women together very erotic, so she wouldn't have to try to keep it some deep dark secret in her straight life.

 

[rosco rathbone]

100% straight guy

Funny shit.

 

[GuitarRocker]

Wow, I had a feeling this thread was going to be full of negative replies but to my surprise this thread is positive. Thanks.

Well to answer to the question about about "ego", not it's not about ego or attention or power.

It's about "experimenting same sex" for fun and lust. I'm sure many straight guys experiment same sex for first timers many times.

I mean, in dirty sexual stories you read about in Lit or Penthouse, you read about straight same sex men exerpimenting with each other for sexual fun.

Like if you get into a sexual conversation with your best friend, like say when you're talking about women giving men blowjobs, that's when you'll ask your best male friend, "Would be interesting in giving me a blowjob? I won't give you one if you don't want me to, you can give me a blowjob and stop whenever you feel like.

I think experiment sex with another non-experienced male would be total fun. I never had sex with a man before and always wanted to try it. I just figure trying it with another man who never done it before would be fun. That's what made me make a thread like this.

 

[brw02]

GR,
It makes no difference to me what motivates you. I just know that under the right circumstances a straight guy will do things he normally would not consider. I found that out myself and was very surprised at my reaction. I found out in cyberspace. It could have happened that way in real time. I'm still straight, but I know that I could have been his if he was here with me. It was a verbal but it worked real well. I had one of the best orgasms of my life as he talked me through a virtual seduction. Tell your straight friend what he wants to hear, and you may find him willing to go along for the ride. Good luck!

 

[MCunnilinguist]

If you can talk a "straight" guy into sex then he wasn't really "straight" after all.

Other than prison, threats on one's life or extremely vast sums of money I don't believe I could be "converted".

 

[brw02]

Where do you draw the line on straight/bi?

If a "straight" guy has sex with another guy, then I guess he is no longer "straight". After, he may be considered "bi". I'm not sure what any of these terms means exactly; they mean different things to different people. Andrew "Dice" Clay has an album out in which he claims that "bi" doesn't exist. As he puts it, "either you suck cock or you don't". I don't like labelling anyone, so I stay out of the debate.

 

[deezire1900]

If a "straight" guy has sex with another guy, then I guess he is no longer "straight". After, he may be considered "bi". I'm not sure what any of these terms means exactly; they mean different things to different people. Andrew "Dice" Clay has an album out in which he claims that "bi" doesn't exist. As he puts it, "either you suck cock or you don't". I don't like labelling anyone, so I stay out of the debate.

I don't really like Mr. Clay, but I tend to agree with this post. If your willing suck cock or eat pussy (I feel dirty talking like that) then you seem to not fit into the straight world any longer.

 

[69forever]

I don't really like Mr. Clay, but I tend to agree with this post. If your willing suck cock or eat pussy (I feel dirty talking like that) then you seem to not fit into the straight world any longer.

Mmmmm, but I like it when you talk "dirty"......

First of all. If you are Bi-curious, inexperienced but interested in exploring, why in the world would you even consider trying to talk a straight guy into sex?

Personally I'd feel like back in high school playing jack-off buddy. Totally inept.
Give me an experienced, thoughtful lover who has been there and can teach me the ropes. Besides, approaching a straight guy could get your ass kicked. And outted. Lol.

 

[bi golly]

If a "straight" guy has sex with another guy, then I guess he is no longer "straight". After, he may be considered "bi". I'm not sure what any of these terms means exactly; they mean different things to different people. Andrew "Dice" Clay has an album out in which he claims that "bi" doesn't exist. As he puts it, "either you suck cock or you don't". I don't like labelling anyone, so I stay out of the debate.

This may not be apparent to you, but you did label people in your first sentence. If you want to stay out of the debate, stay out of the debate.

 

[mijnenig]

Wish someone would give me a try

I am a 'straight guy' altho very curious. I wish to hell someone would try to seduce me. For me, i can't move from 'curious' to accomplished - I just can't seem to make the break. Part of the reason is I have never been comfortable with just meeting someone and having sex of any kind. I like to know the person somewhat before having sex with them - and that is carrying over to my bi-curiousity! I say give 'em a try - it shouldn't take lone to see if they have any interest.

 

[mijnenig]

That's supposed to be long not lone!! sorry

subject got ahead of my proofreading!

 

[Glasgowbabe20]

I ended up going to bed with a girl who i had been to school with and not seen in years. We had a drunken night, then a drunken kiss, then a drunken fumble which resulted with me back at her flat.
She eventually told me she'd always been curious, but never had the guts to go and meet someone, so hey you never know if someone's straight, bi, gay or whatever!

 

[mijnenig]

Andrew "Dice" Clay - now there is an authority and guru!

Anyone who thinks that doing something once or twice indicates your preferences or 'label' must live a very shelter and screwed up life. Must be afraid to do anythinf for fear of 'doing it once makes me it'! According to such people - if you drink once you must be a drunk - or - fight once and you must be a fighter.....
damn too narrow a world for me!

 

[brw02]

This may not be apparent to you, but you did label people in your first sentence. If you want to stay out of the debate, stay out of the debate.

I didn't label anyone in this thread or anywhere else. That is why I used the quotation marks-those are terms used by others. Besides that, I didn't start this discussion, I only added a few thoughts. In regard to these sexual "labels", they don't mean much to me because there is no agreement on what they do mean. I'm not involved in that debate and don't want to be. Why the hostility? I've never seen you before.

 

[brw02]

Anyone who thinks that doing something once or twice indicates your preferences or 'label' must live a very shelter and screwed up life. Must be afraid to do anythinf for fear of 'doing it once makes me it'! According to such people - if you drink once you must be a drunk - or - fight once and you must be a fighter.....
damn too narrow a world for me!

I don't subscribe to Dice's point of view. I don't even think he is funny. The words I posted were his, not mine. I'm sure there are plenty of legitimate authorities to define these terms, but Dice is not one of them. He's just a comedian, and it was supposed to be a joke. Lighten up, guys.

 

[WaywardWanderer]

I personally would love to just have someone tell me honestly that they find me very attractive. If one of my male friends were to do so, I'd be immensely flattered, and after we sat n' talked for awhile...he just might very well get his wish. I'd never just hook up with some random guy, however. Just a straight man's perspective.

 

[MintSoda]

I know it isn't an easy thing for any gay/bi guys to do, but have any of you done it before? Tried talking a 100% straight guy into sex with you? If so, tell your story here. I know you can't just walk up to any random straight guy and ask for sex, 'cause that would be considered sexual harrassment, and straight guys can press charges on you of course...but I'm sure it's much more easier asking sex with straight guys from someone you know very well and can trust like say, if you have a best friend that you've known for years ever since you were a kid, and you want to try to turn him into your lover. Just wondering.

Nine out of ten times you're just in for heartbreak and rejection. I guess you have to weigh the odds and ask yourself if it's worth it. Be open, honest, flattering, be as sexy and appealing as possible and KNOW before hand that things probably aren't going to go the way you want.

You miss 100% of the chances you don't take.

 

[webshooter69]

I personally would love to just have someone tell me honestly that they find me very attractive. If one of my male friends were to do so, I'd be immensely flattered, and after we sat n' talked for awhile...he just might very well get his wish. I'd never just hook up with some random guy, however. Just a straight man's perspective.

Labels!! When you really think aboout it, there are a VERY few people that are Hetero-Phobic, another very small group who are Homo-Phobic, and the vast majority of us who fall somewhere in the middle gray area. This majority even fluctuates back and forth somewhat depending on whom we are with at the time! People's emotions and feelings are rarely black and white enough for an either-or label.
What's wrong with just being a sexual individual, and choosing your playmates and partners based on whatever YOU feel comfortable or excited with? I do not subscribe to the domination/degradation theory as a whole, but there are those of us who enjoy that and that's fine. Trying to categorize and generalize might be a manifestation of insecurity or rationalization for a behavior you aren't comfortable with having done or are thinking of doing.....and that too is OK. Just don't automatically expect your bottom to enjoy the bull-whip and rough-stuff....check first.
I believe their are almost as many blends of sexuality as there are potential combinations. Just find someone you are comfortable with and have FUN!!

 

[WaywardWanderer]

I believe their are almost as many blends of sexuality as there are potential combinations. Just find someone you are comfortable with and have FUN!!

Oh, I totally agree....and I hope I didn't in any way offend anyone with my comments. When I said I wouldn't hook up with just random guy, I meant it as....well....I'm selective. Same way with women....never been the type for one night stands. Call me old-fashioned, but I'm looking for something more meaningful than that, whether from a man, a woman, or wheverever they may find themselves on the gender-and-sexuality-spectrum.