Talking Dirty

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My bf and I have been together over a year...recently he has started talking "dirty" during sex...
a turn on for me, but what should I to say to turn him on?
Please help! I dont want to look & feel like an idiot. :rolleyes: :confused:
Thanks!
 
Just this weekend I finally got up the courage to throw in a bit of dirty talk to my boyfriend... I'm very shy and didn't think I could ever manage it.
I was on top and just leaned over to whisper in his ear basically: "I love your dick in my pussy" and "Oh fuck me". He came the second I said, "I love your dick in my pussy." So that one's a keeper...
 
Free2BErotic said:
My bf and I have been together over a year...recently he has started talking "dirty" during sex...
a turn on for me, but what should I to say to turn him on?
Please help! I dont want to look & feel like an idiot. :rolleyes: :confused:
Thanks!

I love it when a woman is fucking me and she tells me how much she loves having me inside of her. Or how she can hardly breathe I am so thick. While I am sure that is not anatomically possible, being thick enough to prevent breathing during regular sex, it did sound quite hot. :p

The key is just to talk husky and sound like you are out of breath and loving every minute of his attention to your body.
 
The thing is, there is no trick to saying this kind of stuff and not feeling silly, at least the first time. And probably the second and maybe the third as well. But as you do it, you'll become more comfortable with it, especially when you start really being able to sense the response from him. (The first time you'll probably be feeling too nervous and silly and self conscious to really truly notice, so don't feel bad if you don't fully notice his response.) Eventually you'll get used to doing it, and start to enjoy it, and then after a while you'll wonder what the big deal was and why you were so nervous in the first place.
 
Free2BErotic said:
My bf and I have been together over a year...recently he has started talking "dirty" during sex...
a turn on for me, but what should I to say to turn him on?
Please help! I dont want to look & feel like an idiot. :rolleyes: :confused:
Thanks!


I think the big thing is just letting him know how much you enjoy what he's doing. I also think staying away from "sterile" terms is more of a turn on for men. Saying "my pussy" instead of "in me", for example. "My tits" over "my breasts." That sort of thing. If he's going down on you, tell him exactly how much you enjoy his tongue on your clit. Tell him how his cock feels inside your pussy.

You might also want to consider talking dirty before sex even begins. As you are cuddling, tell him how much you want him to fuck your pussy. Talking dirty doesn't have to occur just during sex. I know the one that gets my man off (and he knows I only say this when I am in an extremely horny mood!) is "Fuck me and use me like a common whore." That's normally when I get pushed onto the mattress and get the best and roughest sex I ever wanted!

Oh, and remember - people like to hear their names, so the more often you can use his name, the better. And if you can master yelling out his name as you orgasm, he'll be putty in your hands.
 
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SexyChele said:
Oh, and remember - people like to hear their names, so the more often you can use his name, the better. And if you can master yelling out his name as you orgasm, he'll be putty in your hands.


Excellent advice... my boyfriend always smiles and looks so insanely pleased with himself when I start moaning his name. A good reminder of the point that I know and appreciate that he's a total sex God.
 
Hehe, you know what I'm gonna say, Tania. You can't look silly in a situation like this. It's all in your head.

That's the whole basis of role-playing. I think talking dirty is like a subtle form of role-playing. I mean, I don't walk up to my coworkers and whisper in purring tones, "I want to feel you inside me..." by the coffee machine. Although, it's a novel idea...

My point is, the whole basis of role-playing is Not Laughing. You can't break form or it doesn't work. Someone can say, "I'm going to fuck you, right now," with such deliberate intent that my panties get soaked straight through. And it's a simple, nothing thing to say. But it's the attitude. It's all attitude. Saying, "I want you inside me," with desperation on your voice like you've needed it for days can really drive a man wild, so I understand. It's all in the attitude. Just say what's on your mind. If you've got nearly a foot of man meat inside you and you're NOT thinking dirty thoughts, well, come play in my sandbox 'coz no amount of hot cock is gonna inspire ya. :)

Your sex is your freedom. Enjoy it and say what you like. If someone's really in tune with you, they'll love it. Hell, I told my bedmate how much I wanted to fuck the girl who works in our Travel dept. :::swoons:::
 
kaoskytton said:
I mean, I don't walk up to my coworkers and whisper in purring tones, "I want to feel you inside me..." by the coffee machine. Although, it's a novel idea...

Yes! New ideas for scaring my coworkers! Well, actually, some of them might take me up on it... and then my boyfriend would wonder why people were sending me flowers and... ::shakes head::

Anyhow, I just wanted to say that in my staying home sick today, your posts were really entertaining... intelligent and witty... I admire you in my fever induced brain, lol. And, of course, I agree that tone of voice is key with the whole concept of dirty talk... in the right tone, you can make the phrase, "I wrecked your new Ferrari" sound hot... on the flip side, if you sound like the guy on the dry eyes commercial, most likely the most erotic of phrases will fall nowhere.
 
Oh no way Tania, my Travel girl is SO hot I'd kick just about any man outta my bed. She's the Melrose Place type with the cute little business suits and the really tan hardbody. Darker, like the darker side of Italian.

:) <--- big cheshire cat grin. That makes me happy, Tania. Joy and laughter, I think, is a major part of desire, and sex. I'm glad I could make you smile.

Ooo...~trembling~ You wrecked my car? ~reaches hand beneath panties~ Tell me about it...hahaha.

Yeah, it's all about attitude. Some pretty freaky looking people come off as really sexy, and it's all attitude. :)

Now, how do we tell the boys where we want them to come? :)
 
kaoskytton said:


Ooo...~trembling~ reaches hand beneath panties~ Tell me about it...hahaha.


Now, how do we tell the boys where we want them to come? :)

mmmm.
I'd love to hear all about it.

As far as where you want us to come, I'd suggest taking the direct approach.

If you can tell us you like our dick in your pussy, you should have no problem saying, "I wanna feel you shoot your hot cum all over ____________" (fill in the blank with your deepest desire)
 
If Tania lets me into her bed next time I'm in Chicago we'll post pics, k darlin? You can be Jennifer Tilly to my Gina Gershwon. I'll even dress up like an ex-convict. :)

Right now I'm still hoping she'll drive a little hot wheels car all over my naked body. My legs make really great on-ramps and I can send you into orbit if you'll let me.

Anyway, yeah, but Tania and I seem to share a little fetish that's pretty uncommon. Mostly, it's met with comments like Void's. Which is fine, people can "not" like it just as much as we want it. Heheh...Maybe we should just give up and be porn stars, Tania. Then we'd get money shots all day! WEEE!!!

Seriously, I love it when a guy pulls out and comes all over me. Tania likes it on her back and I like that too, but there's something really hot for me about actually watching the come...probably because I never get to see it. It's not like I have eyes in the back of my throat. A big turn-on for me is watching the face of my partner. Watching them come, not just in their face but from their sex...it just adds whole new dimension to me. There's something bigger, greater about a money shot. An orgasm uncontained, I guess.
 
Heh...damn, I do like the way you think.

Running hot wheels cars all over you?
Of all the things I did with my hot wheels when I was a youngster, I can honestly say I never quite got to use a pretty girls leg as an on ramp. But I'd love to give that one a whirl.

As for watching....if you don't ask, I can't say yes.
 
Yeah, well, there aren't many women I want to bed more than Gina, so it's a natural reference...well, 'cept Tania. Ohmygod that girl is so perfect. Nah, scratch that "ohmygod," thing. I'm officially strolling on the other side of the fence. It's the goddess' head between my legs, her sex on my face, and her juices all over my body.

Yeah, well, with all the hills and valleys of a grown woman it can be quite an obstacle course. I'd imagine that a man would have to be pretty skilled with his hands to keep the wheels on the ground without crashing. :)

Voyeurism is one of my biggest turn-ons. But it's up to Tania. ~raises her hand to vote "Yes!" to the audience~

Honestly that girl could put me in such an ecstatic stupor that I wouldn't even notice.
 
Tania, that's the most beautiful thing anybody's ever said to me.
:rose:

Now get over here and let me show you what you've won. :)
 
kaoskytton said:

Voyeurism is one of my biggest turn-ons. ~



Yours too, huh?

I could never decide if I was more voyeur or more exhibitionist.
So I settled on being both.
 
kaoskytton said:
Now get over here and let me show you what you've won. :)

::races over to kaos excitedly; trips and sprawls at her feet with skirt strewn up over her thighs:: :p Wee! I won something!

::figures she should at least get points for eagerness, lol::
 
~laughs~ You too, Bates? It's kind of a "taking turns" thing for me.

Oh, Tania...that looked like it really hurt. Come'ere sweetie. ~bends down and kisses Tania's poor feet, then her ankles, then her shins, then the inside of her knees, and slowly, gently, moves up with lips and fingers and tongue to practice the g-spot technique in yet another post~

Tania, when I said I wanted to give you multiple orgasms, I didn't mean one orgasm in each post! ~laughs wildy~

You can have the teddy bear, the top, me, whatever you want, darlin. Grand Prize is the prize of your dreams. :)
 
kaoskytton said:
Grand Prize is the prize of your dreams. :)


Prize of my dreams... love swing, white chocolate body paint, Chris, you, silk ropes, chocolate covered morsels... and this all needs to be next to a warm tropical lagoon with a clear shallow stone bottom and a silky waterbed in the center :D. I live an extravagant fantasy life, LOL.
 
kaoskytton said:
~laughs~ You too, Bates? It's kind of a "taking turns" thing for me.



heh.
Variety is the spice of life.

Don't mind me.
I'll just play the voyeur for right now.
 
Musical beds is my favorite game...you too Tania? It's so full of new surprises.

Ah, a man after my own heart! Can I watch you and Chris, Tania? :) Pretty please? I'll be good and quiet. You won't even know I'm there...except for some muffled heavy sighing...
 
kaoskytton said:
Musical beds is my favorite game...you too Tania? It's so full of new surprises.

Ah, a man after my own heart! Can I watch you and Chris, Tania? :) Pretty please? I'll be good and quiet. You won't even know I'm there...except for some muffled heavy sighing...

Ah... that's what I left out of my fantasy... we'll need some music... what would you like to listen to? :D

And I'm a mad exhibitionist so I am all for having you watch my lovey and I together. I love to show off my skills, lol. Mmm... I miss him so much right now... everything on him is perfection... especially the penis... I see all of these pictures of men's 'little buddies' on this site and even in Playgirl and such... and Chris's is MUCH better. I'm actually proud of it. I had a picture of the beauty but he deleted it... probably a good thing too because I would break down and post it, LoL.

Maybe you could watch and then even offer some pointers (to Chris-not myself ;) lol).... or... you know... climb in next to us with the chocolate sauce...
 
Hmm...sexy girl music...Evanescene...somebody correct me on the spelling. Bright Me To Life. Isn't that what all this is about?

Besides, there's a certain girly novelty to "wake me up inside."

Hehe...I remember a boy I used to know like that. He had the strangest thing that was so perfect; a lightning bolt down the shaft. Right in the middle, the main vein turned 90 degrees, twice. It was right under my g-spot. We had this game where he would tense if I refused him. I thought of him 'coz he's also the only other exhibitionist I've ever really known. We had a joke about the "suspension bridge," because we had a competition with another couple on who could have the most beautiful sex. Of course, we had to have a judges' panel of 12, too. But anyway, I was on top, with my feet tucked under his knees to get a really strong downward thrust, and my hands holding onto the sleigh bed headboard. When we came, he grabbed my shoulders and lifted himself off the bed and against my body. If I wasn't coming I probably would have fallen. :) But one of the judges yelled out, "Hey, look! They're a suspension bridge!" Ah, memories.

I WANNA SEE!!! :)

Hehehe...meow. The one that hardens or the creamy one?
 
What I have learned is...the best dirty talk comes out when your really into the sex...very uninhibited and not caring what you sound like....go that way and you wont need anyone to give you advice. Youll be screaming for him to fuck you longer and what not all on your own!!

Just DONT ever use weird clinical terms....

Your penis feels so good in my vagina...just not really sexy at all...

Have a fun time:)
 
Yeah, but then you get into that whole grey area of personal preference. Like, I was with a guy who actually preferred the word "penis" to "cock." Cock's on the tip of my tongue almost 24-7 (haha). It's just such a cute and sexy word. But my point is, everybody has their preferences. Even favorite pet names for whatever...and I don't mean, "Bookie & His Flying Circus." I mean, like cock. That's my favorite word for it. But it's not about what they say. It's about what they want, what they mean with those words.

After all, words are just that, only words. We use them to voice ourselves and our ideas, and that's what matters...especially to your lover.
 
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