Taking Control

[sqweek21]

Okay, here's the situation...my boyfried recently expressed a desire for me to take control more often. I am usually very submissive, but being that I want to please him, I agreed that I would try to be more dominant. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can be more comfortable with taking control, I am really nervous. Any tips or suggestions on what I can do for him would be greatly appreciated.

 

[ContessaR]

I understand how you feel

May I suggest strapping him and blindfolding him? I find that you are less intimidated if you know your lover can't see you, and thus you can let yourself be less inhibited.

Have fun!

 

[Guest]

Bottom line...

Find out what your boyfriend wants to learn and/or gain with his own submission. For some it is merely the feeling of giving up control over their body to another, to be bound and rendered helpless. For others it is the humiliation. Being told that they are a ______ or a _________. It can be a turn on.

 

[Hecate]

I did write down a little collection of things I found to work quite well if you want to try some dominance. Unfortunately I think I can't post an article that big here so I would like to "guide" you to my web page (hope this is not considered spamming *sighs*)

If you click on the little red house under this post you will be taken to my web page, go to the "lifestyle" section in the menue, there is a button saying "try it?".

Hope you get some usefull clues there... have fun experimenting and feel free to get in touch if you want to know anything in particular.

 

[Samuari]

Hecate, You a spammer? Taint likly. Just like you posting that you aren't too good with words. Come on Madam, stop running yourself down. Your use of the lamuage puts most of us who learned Engalish at our mother's breast to shame.

Squeek, I have read the articule and I heartly recomend it to you or any one else who wants to investigate the dom/sub life. We tryed the life style 20 years ago, and discovered that it was for us, but if we had read this, things may have been different...

 

[Hecate]

I have read the articule and I heartly recomend it to you or any one else who wants to investigate the dom/sub life.
...but if we had read this, things may have been different...

Thanks ... this really made my day so to speak. I hardly ever get a comment about my "articles", if at all about the stories. It is great to know that my little contribution might make a difference (in a good way) and encourage to explore ... again, thanks!!!

 

[Juliet]

Unfortunately I think I can't post an article that big here so I would like to "guide" you to my web page (hope this is not considered spamming *sighs*)

Hecate I just visited your site a little bit ago so I was not at all surprised to see you posting to this thread. <smile>

Nice site by the way, and I will have to go back to read that article. My husband has also voiced that he'd like for me to take control more often. Is it possible that we may be learning from the best?

 

[Hecate]

Is it possible that we may be learning from the best? [/B]

Well Julie,
sure learning from the bests sounds a great idea ... I unfortunately am only your average adventurous female who can't keep her big mouth shut about the delightful things she has learned and treasures dearly *S*

Seriously - I just express my opinions and what I feel worked for me, behind it the hope to encourage people to experiement and not loose themselves in frustration and only fantasies.

You are welcome to discuss/ask whatever you wish on this matter with me - e-mail me any time and I will answer to my best knowledge... again, only my opinion (and you know - what works for me may not work for you) but from the depth of my heart.

 

[Juliet]

Is it possible that we may be learning from the best?

Well Julie,

You are welcome to discuss/ask whatever you wish on this matter with me - e-mail me any time and I will answer to my best knowledge... again, only my opinion (and you know - what works for me may not work for you) but from the depth of my heart. [/B]

Thanks Hecate I appreciate any advice I can get.

 

[ReturnedOne]

A short note...

Juliet, my dear....

Truly, Hecate IS the very best there is. I count her among my own instructors. Her advice is to be followed, believe me. She is one who can speak authoritatively on this and many, many other subjects.