Take my own cherry

[amofiga]

Why do it yourself when you can probably find dozens of very willing guys in your area to help you? If you insist on doing it yourself, there are always vibrators, dildos, and cucumbers.

 

[SweetErika]

Hi, I am 19 and I am about to go off to college but I do not want to be a virgin at college,,, so does any one have any tips on taking your own cherry? Thanks! xoxoxox

Being a virgin means you haven't had sex with another person. You can't take your own virginity, so you're going to be a virgin until you find someone you really want to have sex with (from experience, it's usually much better when you really know and care about each other).

Now if you're talking about preparing yourself for sex and stretching or ridding yourself of any remaining hymen, that's totally doable. Use plenty of lube, relax and work on exploring and stretching yourself with your fingers and/or toy(s).

Before you do have sex, make sure you go in for a pelvic exam and discuss your options for STI and pregnancy prevention. At that appointment, you can always ask the doctor if you have any hymen remaining. Even if you don't, s/he should let you know if your hymen has qualities that are likely to be problematic when you get to sex. For instance, some women have unusually large or thick hymens that are best taken care of in the doctor's office with some local anesthetic and a snip.

 

[Friendly_Guy]

Don't rush these things. There's no reason to force your life forward.

Wait until you're with someone who you really want to be with. You won't be a better person just because you've had sex.

 

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[Scentofawoman]

The night I lost my virginity was such an awkward night. To this day I remember the fumbleing and trepidation. My solace was that I was with a boy who cared for me and made me feel good after.
School is such a huge adventure. Wait to find someone who will care for you. Awesome thing that Literotica has stories dedicated to a persons first time. I suggest reading those.

 

[Friendly_Guy]

The night I lost my virginity was such an awkward night. To this day I remember the fumbleing and trepidation. My solace was that I was with a boy who cared for me and made me feel good after.
School is such a huge adventure. Wait to find someone who will care for you. Awesome thing that Literotica has stories dedicated to a persons first time. I suggest reading those.

Yeah this...

Doing it just to do it WILL suck. And not in the good way. You will not enjoy it.

Doing it with someone you really want to do it with...well it'll be awkward the first time no matter what. But at least you're in a better place to enjoy it the second time.

 

[PhilGarlic]

not sure

Hi, I am 19 and I am about to go off to college but I do not want to be a virgin at college,,, so does any one have any tips on taking your own cherry? Thanks! xoxoxox

If you are serious regarding this, I don't think you should be going to college, you need to grow up a bit first. Harsh? sorry in advance.

 

[subwannabe]

Being a man maybe I can't give the greatest advice here but I am in with the ones who say don't do it. Is the issue that for whatever reason you don't want your first guy to know you are a virgin? Having said all that I must admit to being very naive and very fascinated with this issue. I have wondered for decades why just about all women haven't "taken their own virginity". It seems like the horniness of hormones flowing in a teenager would have most ramming something in there before the first real cock came along.

 

[Eilan]

If you are serious regarding this, I don't think you should be going to college, you need to grow up a bit first. Harsh? sorry in advance.

Have you been on a college campus lately? A lot of college students with 10+ years on the OP haven't figured out the maturity part yet.

 

[Tryharder62]

How can a 45 year old give advice to a 19 year old. I can only share my own experience. It does matter - because even if you choose to do it yourself you never forget how you lost your hymen. I remember mine very well. College is a big enough change. It was one of the biggest changes I ever went through in all areas. I wish I would have just gone into it without worrying about what I thought other people were thinking about me. In actuality in hind site, everyone there is in the same boat and has thier own issues. Just be yourself.

Find someone to be honest with. I don't think you are immature. There is always a little fear of the unknown. Personally, I think it is better to share that fear with someone you love than be in it alone. (You can only lose it once)

Good luck in college.

 

[Etaski]

Having said all that I must admit to being very naive and very fascinated with this issue. I have wondered for decades why just about all women haven't "taken their own virginity". It seems like the horniness of hormones flowing in a teenager would have most ramming something in there before the first real cock came along.

If you're fascinated on the topic, you can have a few tidbits of mine.

I've been told some activities can wear away the hymen before the girl ever has sex for the first time. Long-term horseback riding, for example. My sister worried that hers was gone because of this before she married (as a virgin).

Unfortunately she wouldn't say explicitly whether this was the case or not, and I was too polite to ask, but she did look rather glowing the day after the wedding night and ran up to me to whisper, "Sex is good," in my ear before going on her way. If her hymen was gone before the wedding night, she wasn't worried about it for some reason. (Which knowing how insecure she was about it...it sort of makes me think it was still there and everything was "normal". But I don't truly know.)

I've also heard some people I was living around say virgin girls shouldn't use tampons because that would "take their virginity". I can state that this is total bunk. I used tampons for 5 years before having sex, and YES there was a hymen there at the time (OW!).

One of my male friends sort of grinned some years ago at this description and asked, "So...there was a popping, then?" No...it was more like a ripping/tearing. (The best part? He was below average size, and it still hurt like hell.)

This also counts for related "objects" I used while still virgin, although nothing approaching the size of a real penis as it turned out (3 reasons: I was afraid, I didn't want to possibly hurt myself by "popping" myself--imagine explaining that to Mom!--- and I actually didn't really know "how big" was big enough anyway).

At the time, and at the place I was at, virginity still had some value so there was little to be gained by breaking the hymen intentionally (as if anyone would know and it would help anything anyway....).

But it turned out that it was sort of hard to break unintentionally, too!

 

[Cameo_Fleur]

I've never been able to comprehend what the big deal is about virginity. I just don't understand it.

The hymen is the most usless part of human anatomy.

I never knew when or how my hymen was broken. No discomfort, no bleeding. It was possibly the tampons because they always break a hymen.

I had no discomfort, no pain, no blood with first sex. Yes, he was big. Above average.

I would advise you to get rid of the hymen as fast as possible. Get a penis-shaped vibrator and start enjoying it.

When you get to college start enjoying the guys!

 

[Etaski]

I've never been able to comprehend what the big deal is about virginity. I just don't understand it.

Try taking a few religious studies courses or reading "Cartoon History of the Universe" volumes 1, 2, and 3 by Larry Gonick.

The hymen is the most usless part of human anatomy.

I dunno, I always thought it was the appendix.

I never knew when or how my hymen was broken. No discomfort, no bleeding. It was possibly the tampons because they always break a hymen.

Always? Nope, wrong. See my post right above yours. Possible, yes. Some hymens are thicker and thinner than others.

I had no discomfort, no pain, no blood with first sex. Yes, he was big. Above average.

Lucky you.

I would advise you to get rid of the hymen as fast as possible. Get a penis-shaped vibrator and start enjoying it.

When you get to college start enjoying the guys!

Are you sure you're female? Something about this whole post seems weird (like a lot of "First Time' stories I've read where the author was maybe inexperienced or didn't seem to understand a lot of anatomy or social interaction).

 

[soflabbwlvr]

Try taking a few religious studies courses or reading "Cartoon History of the Universe" volumes 1, 2, and 3 by Larry Gonick.
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In some cultures it's the equivalent of that plastic seal under the cap on food items that is referenced in the warning label, "Do not use if seal is broken."

 

[nicecthulhu]

Hi, I am 19 and I am about to go off to college but I do not want to be a virgin at college,,, so does any one have any tips on taking your own cherry? Thanks! xoxoxox

Strange. You don't want to be a virgin at college? As someone said before, you're a virgin until you have sex with a partner. Going from virgin to non-virgin doesn't make you into a different person. It doesn't make you cooler or smarter or more confident.
Enjoy being yourself and enjoy the good friends you find in life. If you find a partner who cares about you and is a good person and is worthy of sharing yourself with, then he or she won't really be put off by the fact that you're a virgin. From a guy's perspective, it's quite a compliment to know that a woman has selected you to be her first lover.
If you're worried you might be the only virgin at college, don't! There are probably others there as well. When I went to university I had four female friends I hung around with a lot, and at least two of them had never had a boyfriend. There are students there who've had only one or two sexual experiences. There will be some who have had only bad sexual experiences.
I think SweetErika's advice was very sound.
Enjoy yourself at college and study hard.

 

[Lust Engine]

When you get to college start enjoying the guys!

If this is why one goes off to college then your priorities are way off base.

 

[Eilan]

If this is why one goes off to college then your priorities are way off base.

I know, right? Everyone knows that people should be going to college to get those financial aid refund checks.

 

[kromen]

Don't rush these things. There's no reason to force your life forward.

Wait until you're with someone who you really want to be with. You won't be a better person just because you've had sex.

Co-sign.

 

[Lunar_Eclipse]

I agree with these people here. I'm in college now and still a virgin. I find no shame in it at all. Sure I'd like to experiencing sex or any other intimacy that comes with a relationship, but I don't see any reason to rush it.

As for the hymen, I lost mine years ago xD One of the scariest moments of my teenage life, luckily I had some concept of what a hymen was when I suddenly felt pain and then there was blood. Though I think it kinda gives me a bit of a... fear of delving into the world of penetration very often, but anyways~ It isn't that big a deal.

If anything, I think some guys/girls would respect you for keeping your virginity, sex should always be done responsibly and with someone you care about and trust, so don't rush into something for something as silly as how you'll come across to people.

Anyways, that's my two cents on the topic! ^ .^

 

[Eilan]

Wow. The OP disappeared off the face of the earth.

 

[silverwhisper]

my theory is the thread poster might've been underage. i think that's a case where laurel & manu want to delete all traces of the account's existence.

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