kinkyknickers
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Okeedokee, here's the deal.....
For those who don't know me, I'm in a poly relaationship with a dom (we'll call him Master) and a Sub (we'll call her Minxie, but she'll probably stick her head in later with a different name). And I'm a switch.
In the relationship I am a masochistic bottom I don't identify as a service sub or slave, but I'm a bottom to Master none the less (and I don't call him "Master" but Minxie does).
Today Minxie expressed a desire for me to dominate her.
As a domme, I've only ever weilded my power over men, and it wasn't just a "sex thing", it was all pervading, I always reserved the right to break them at any time and destroy their lives if I so chose. It was very much a case of humiliate and control. I never considered them my pet or property, more a toy (think- cat and mouse) my reasons for doing so are too much to get into.
Basically, I want to make her happy, and she totally understands that I might not be able to do it and is cool with that, but I'd like to. She says she wants to be humiliated and controlled but when I flick the switch I have very little empathy. I don't want to hurt her. Physically, I'm much stronger and bigger than her and mentally.... well, it's really fucked up what I can do to people.
As far as being dominant whilst Master is around, I've been in situations with them where I've been whipping her arse and he'll say, "that's enough". Deal breaker! Don't tell me what to do.
I explained that if I'm Domme, then I'm in control and that's not gonna work for Master simply because, rule 1- Protect the property.
And no, he hasn't been included in this convo yet, but he will be. He excresizes a lot more control over himself than what I would.
Is there anyone out there that switches in a poly relationship?
For the Doms, would you be happy to stand back and watch somebody else control your sub without you having a say in what goes on?
I just don't see how I can submit and control at the same time. It's called switch, not multitask!
Thanks, one seriously conflicted KK.
For those who don't know me, I'm in a poly relaationship with a dom (we'll call him Master) and a Sub (we'll call her Minxie, but she'll probably stick her head in later with a different name). And I'm a switch.
In the relationship I am a masochistic bottom I don't identify as a service sub or slave, but I'm a bottom to Master none the less (and I don't call him "Master" but Minxie does).
Today Minxie expressed a desire for me to dominate her.
As a domme, I've only ever weilded my power over men, and it wasn't just a "sex thing", it was all pervading, I always reserved the right to break them at any time and destroy their lives if I so chose. It was very much a case of humiliate and control. I never considered them my pet or property, more a toy (think- cat and mouse) my reasons for doing so are too much to get into.
Basically, I want to make her happy, and she totally understands that I might not be able to do it and is cool with that, but I'd like to. She says she wants to be humiliated and controlled but when I flick the switch I have very little empathy. I don't want to hurt her. Physically, I'm much stronger and bigger than her and mentally.... well, it's really fucked up what I can do to people.
As far as being dominant whilst Master is around, I've been in situations with them where I've been whipping her arse and he'll say, "that's enough". Deal breaker! Don't tell me what to do.
I explained that if I'm Domme, then I'm in control and that's not gonna work for Master simply because, rule 1- Protect the property.
And no, he hasn't been included in this convo yet, but he will be. He excresizes a lot more control over himself than what I would.
Is there anyone out there that switches in a poly relationship?
For the Doms, would you be happy to stand back and watch somebody else control your sub without you having a say in what goes on?
I just don't see how I can submit and control at the same time. It's called switch, not multitask!
Thanks, one seriously conflicted KK.
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