Swinging (possibly) first meet

[OneEyedSteve]

After several months looking, my wife and I have (hopefully) found a real potential addition.
We're meeting him tomorrow at a bar in the city near where we live. Nice, casual setting. We've already agreed that, if anyone isn't happy, we'll just have a drink and call it a day.
This is ours (and his) first-time doing a meet like this. My wife went to a swingers club a couple of times with an ex bf and I've had a handful of threesomes.
Any tips from those with experience how to play this?
My attitude is just to treat it like having a social drink with someone l, and if it goes further,great.

 

[areolaman1]

fantastic. plesase keep us updated.

 

[Up4fun&69]

I've always been the 3rd person in 3some fun with couples.

From my experience and in talking with the couples, 4 of the 6 couples I played with always used the first meeting as a no pressure, casual time to get to know the new playmate. No matter how well that meeting may have gone, they always parted ways with no play so that they could talk about how each liked (or didn't), the person, from looks to attitude. And only if they were in sync and agreed on any ground rules, then they scheduled a play date. Because of that plan, I wasn't just a fuck buddy, but was welcomed to ongoing play dates and regular times with either the F or both the MF for dinners out, trips to the beach, etc. These relationships lasted multiple years and in all cases, friendships are still ongoing.

The other two couples made it clear that if we met and the vibe was good, they'd want to play right away. Rather than a drink or coffee out somewhere, these were meetings in their home in one case and in their hotel room in the other case. And while we went into play time that first meeting and had a lot of fun, we met several more times but the contact slowly slipped away for many reasons, but mainly just life.

The last couple I played with were already friends for 10 years with my ex and I. When I divorced, we remained in touch and the 3some fun eventually evolved through a while of flirting, teasing, sharing sexy notes and videos, and then an invitation to play together. Because of our existing friendship but also because of the weeks of build up to our play time, that sexual relationship lasted many years, ending only when the F had some serious health issues. And again, we're still friends.

So, I share all of that as a way of showing that from my experience, taking the time to get to know the added partner and making sure the couple agree on all aspects of what's about to take place—open and honest communication—it's more than just a quick fuck and could lead to really open and fun times between all for as long as everyone wants. So, don't just dive into something without all being on the same page. That way, there are no regrets no matter how it all turns out.

 

[MaturemanAJ]

After several months looking, my wife and I have (hopefully) found a real potential addition.
We're meeting him tomorrow at a bar in the city near where we live. Nice, casual setting. We've already agreed that, if anyone isn't happy, we'll just have a drink and call it a day.
This is ours (and his) first-time doing a meet like this. My wife went to a swingers club a couple of times with an ex bf and I've had a handful of threesomes.
Any tips from those with experience how to play this?
My attitude is just to treat it like having a social drink with someone l, and if it goes further,great.

Definitely the way to do it. You might need to keep conversation going so be prepared by knowing about him upfront.
Keep it light and have fun

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Have fun

 

[soflabbwlvr]

After several months looking, my wife and I have (hopefully) found a real potential addition.
We're meeting him tomorrow at a bar in the city near where we live. Nice, casual setting. We've already agreed that, if anyone isn't happy, we'll just have a drink and call it a day.
This is ours (and his) first-time doing a meet like this. My wife went to a swingers club a couple of times with an ex bf and I've had a handful of threesomes.
Any tips from those with experience how to play this?
My attitude is just to treat it like having a social drink with someone l, and if it goes further,great.

During the time the wife and I were in the lifestyle we had dozens of meets like this with potential couples and single females. I would say that approximately one-third of these meet and greets eventually led to play time. One thing we decided early in the process was to go in with no expectations and to let the other person(s) know in advance that the first meeting would be an introduction, only, and that there would be no sex that night. We would get in touch the next day and discuss with the other person(s) if we wanted to take it to the next level.
Sometimes it was the other couple who said no, sometimes it was us. My wife as more likely to be the objector, but if either of weren't into it, then we declined to meet them again. Sometimes all parties were into moving forward, but timing did not work out. We met one couple, everyone agreed to meet up again, but conflicting schedules delayed a follow up for over a year.
We also had a policy if either of us were not on board, then it was a no. No one was required to take one for the team.
That being said, there were a few situations where we hit it off so well with the other couple (or woman in one case) that there was no question we would be fucking before the night was over. But those were exceptions.

 

[Sgts19]

Take it slow, meet him then talk about talk to your wife about it and make sure you're on the same page. If you don't feel a connection don't be afraid to pass on the person and move on.

Little different with us we were looking for another cpl. The 1st cpl we met it was 4 or 5 meet for drinks or dinner before we went for it. Met and turned down more cpls than we hooked up with, just no connection

 

[OneEyedSteve]

Ready to head out. The missus looks fucking smoking! Elasticated monochrome, off the shoulder dress that finishes at her mid-thighs, no bra.

 

[OneEyedSteve]

Take it slow, meet him then talk about talk to your wife about it and make sure you're on the same page. If you don't feel a connection don't be afraid to pass on the person and move on.

Little different with us we were looking for another cpl. The 1st cpl we met it was 4 or 5 meet for drinks or dinner before we went for it. Met and turned down more cpls than we hooked up with, just no connection

We're just meeting one guy, so hopefully less risk. We have said that, regardless of chemistry, he won't be invited back tonight. He's cool with that

 

[OneEyedSteve]

Just got home. Will update tomorrow

 

[magicalmoments]

looking forward to the update.
My wife and i always used the first meeting as a casual, getting to know you meeting. We always made it clear there woul be no sex. The key was how well the guy and my wife hit it off, if she felt some sort of spark, or chemistry between them then we moved to stage two. Stage two was a second meeting where all involved anticipated that sex would happen. We met a lot of frogs but there were also a few prince charmings amongst them.

 

[OneEyedSteve]

So, it went VERY well. My wife and the guy we met got on really well. We met at a popular rock pub in the city (we're all rockers, it's what made him stand out). It's an old 16th century building with lots of alcoves, which we were lucky enough to get one of, affording us some privacy in a busy pub. The alcove had a table with bench seats either side. We sat on one side, him on the other, directly opposite my wife. Conversation flower easily due to our common music interest.
After about 30 minutes my wife went to the bathroom, I texted her to tell her to sit next to him when she returned, she duly complied.
She sat up close to him and, after 5 mins or so rested her hand on his thigh, from my perspective I couldn't see where though. We all continued chatting. I went to get some more drinks and when I returned, as I put the drinks down I could see that her hand was resting at the top of his thigh with her fingers on the inner thigh area. She stayed pretty much in that position (with the occasional bathroom break) for the next hour or so.
We all left the pub together and as we said our goodbyes she pull him towards her, grabbed his head and kissed him, he didn't resist and grabbed her butt with a hand.
As we walked to the taxi rank I asked her about her thoughts, she responded "if you're happy, I'm definitely fucking him."
In the taxi home she described how she'd been stroking him with her fingers under the table most of the night and that he'd gotten hard under her touch.
As there was no doubt in our minds we messaged him when we got home to say we'd love to meet again, he's replied the same. So it's about 99.99999% certain that we're going to be spitroasting my wife in the near future. Wish us luck

 

[MaturemanAJ]

So, it went VERY well. My wife and the guy we met got on really well. We met at a popular rock pub in the city (we're all rockers, it's what made him stand out). It's an old 16th century building with lots of alcoves, which we were lucky enough to get one of, affording us some privacy in a busy pub. The alcove had a table with bench seats either side. We sat on one side, him on the other, directly opposite my wife. Conversation flower easily due to our common music interest.
After about 30 minutes my wife went to the bathroom, I texted her to tell her to sit next to him when she returned, she duly complied.
She sat up close to him and, after 5 mins or so rested her hand on his thigh, from my perspective I couldn't see where though. We all continued chatting. I went to get some more drinks and when I returned, as I put the drinks down I could see that her hand was resting at the top of his thigh with her fingers on the inner thigh area. She stayed pretty much in that position (with the occasional bathroom break) for the next hour or so.
We all left the pub together and as we said our goodbyes she pull him towards her, grabbed his head and kissed him, he didn't resist and grabbed her butt with a hand.
As we walked to the taxi rank I asked her about her thoughts, she responded "if you're happy, I'm definitely fucking him."
In the taxi home she described how she'd been stroking him with her fingers under the table most of the night and that he'd gotten hard under her touch.
As there was no doubt in our minds we messaged him when we got home to say we'd love to meet again, he's replied the same. So it's about 99.99999% certain that we're going to be spitroasting my wife in the near future. Wish us luck

That's awesome your first meet went to well. Can't wait for the steamy descriptions of your get together

 

[OneEyedSteve]

That's awesome your first meet went to well. Can't wait for the steamy descriptions of your get together

The wife has been very choosy. She communicated lots of times with a number of potentials and anything she didn't like she just pulled the plug. She said before we met that this guy was either a very good actor or the real deal. The only potential flies in the ointment were that he couldn't hold a conversation in.person or that his photos weren't genuine

 

[Dcharger]

Give or take . . . . 6 yrs ago, I met a cpl (i was just looking to make some new friends. One thing let to another & they invited me into the bedroom. That first night of meeting them, i was nervous & didn’t do much. Mostly watched them get it on. I was looking for some new friends like I said & they wanted more. So we kept in contact & hung out once or twice more. Kept it all PG w/ no naughtiness going on. Well I had very few friends (still don't) & she had fewer than me. Well as luck w/ have it, he was put in jail for (who knows what). Her & I remained friends. The more we hung out, the more she acted as if we were a cpl (holding hands, kissing, & more). Before I knew it, her & I were hooking up. Many times, her, her son, & the Gma would go to eat or hang out together. She would be flirty in front of the Gma. Mind you, that was a 1 way street because I didnt know what the Gma knew or thought of the situation. Come to find out, her Hubs was completely fine w/ her & I hooking up. As a matter of fact, I was the only 1 she was allowed to hook up w/. This lasted for 4-5 yrs when he finally got out of jail. I let them have their space & all so they could reunite as 1. I didn't want to be in the middle causing issues. The cool this is he soon after collared her. So he has full control of her / her body yet she says she will still do me. It's been 2 yrs now & thats yet to happen. Im ok w/ just being friends. During our 5 yr sent, a time or 3, I tried to just be friends w/ her cause I didnt want to share a wife. I wanted to find a gf / wife for me alone (never happened). I'd include Gma to help keep things PG. 1 time & only 1 time did I try to flirt w/ the Gma. Gma told me, she doesn't flirt w/ men her children's age. I can respect that. The 1 night I tried for a quick min, Gma, wife, & I were watching movies in my bed. I was in the middle. Gma hadn't been in a waterbed in ages (yes, I still have a King sized waterbed). So around 2a when Gma falls asleep next to me, wifey goes and gives me a bj. That was kinda crazy fun. Too bad Gma didnt wake up & join in.

Another time, the 3 of us are having Dairy Queen ice cream. It was Summer & too hot to sit outside so all 3 of us were in the backseat. Just talking about this and that and out of left field, wifey tells Gma, it's ok. You can try it just to see what it's like / how it feels. I had no idea what she was talking about. Turns out Gma turned me down, she didnt feel comfortable kissing me to see what it's like kissing w/ a tongue ring. Gmas used to kiss me on the kiss me on the lips in greetings. After that night, I never got a kiss again. Wife & I will text every once in a while. Its usually in texting to catch up & see how both are doing.

The End.

 

[magicalmoments]

The wife has been very choosy. She communicated lots of times with a number of potentials and anything she didn't like she just pulled the plug. She said before we met that this guy was either a very good actor or the real deal. The only potential flies in the ointment were that he couldn't hold a conversation in.person or that his photos weren't genuine

Your wife sounds a lot like mine. We started this in pre-internet and pre cellphone days. Everything was done by snail mail. She picked a select few from the many who replied to our adverts in swingers contact magazines and insisted on exchanging several letters with them before agreeing to the initial no sex meeting. She screened them carefully with those letters and by the time we met they were either very good actors or the real deal. If they couldn't maintain a conversation when we met or if they had sent photos that weren't genuine they were dropped.