Swing/share/open lifestyle - nervous

[Sting]

I've been seeing this married woman for awhile who is in an open relationship. Both she and her hubby have relationships outside of their marriage, and it seems to work pretty well.

Recently I was invited to an event and ended up in a threesome with her and another woman. It was really hot, but myself a bit nervous, and for the first time in my life, having issues with my physical arousal... namely getting and maintaining an erection.

I'm now shared between these two women, and am being introduced into the "lifestyle".

I'm nervous about things... and I'm not really sure what to do about it. I want to do things (mentally, I'm turned on), but there seems to be some kind of mental disconnect... I *WANT* to *SO BADLY*, but I can't seem to make it happen. Quite frankly, its bugging the shit out of me. I have told not to worry... but I am. I feel like a bit of a let down in a way.

What's going on? Am I overthinking things? And if I am, how do I get over it?

Any suggestions/words of encouragement would be appreciated...

 

[ImUrBitch]

I feel a bit like you do too. I'm not in the same lifestyle as you but there is this one girl who i have tried to sleep with on a couple of occasions. Whenever she is around I can not get an erection. I think this girl is gorgeous and i'm very attracted to her, but I just can't get it to work. When i get around other girls I have no problem getting an erection and sometimes i have to be told to stop because my erection won't go down. But with her it's the opposite.

I completely understand about feelig like a let down.

Sorry, i know you asked for advice and help, and I really didn't offer any of that....