Swapping passwords

[KillerMuffin]

I've been thinking about this, too.

I know a lot of people get together online and offline and line-line. Sometimes couples exchange passwords with each other.

I really never understood why. However, this isn't my question.

If someone you know became a part of a couple--I'm not picking on anyone specific!--and you knew or suspected that they had exchanged passwords, how safe would you feel in continuing with your prior level of personal communication?

What I mean here is, if you knew that your confidante/friend had given someone else access to his/her email/PM/IM account, how comfortable would you feel sending personal things to him/her? Even if they told you, with absolute confidence, that their SO would never read it without permission?

 

[A Desert Rose]

That would be the end of any confidential exchanges for me.

Rose aka Miss Prissy Bum

 

[lovetoread]

I changed mine when I left my ex husband.

I dont trust him as far as I can throw him.

I would never in my life give out my password to anyone online.

There is no need.

Trust means nothing if you must check up on them,ya know?

 

[Guest]

User Name: ChilledVodka

Password: FingerMyClitty321Go!

 

[KillerMuffin]

What if your buddy gave her/his password to her/his lover? Would you still send her/him confidential stuff?

 

[takingchances42]

I have an internet friend (not from Lit) whose husband likes to look over her shoulder sometimes when she is chatting with me. Big whoop. I kind of enjoy the comments she passes along from him when he is there. If I find myself in their part of England sometime, they would be a fun couple to go out and have a beer with.

Now if we were theoretically having some sort of torrid on-line affair, and someone's SO was reading my messages -- yeah, that would end it right there.

As long as it is just flirting and fun and games though, what's the problem?

 

[A Desert Rose]

I can see no reason to ever give my password to anyone. And I would refuse to be given some one else's.

Rose aka Miss Prissy Bum

 

[Flower Petals]

I think that if I was comfortable enough to give someone my password, which I never have been and don't plan to be, then if we broke up, or what ever, first thing I would do is change my password.

I don't think there is any reason someone should use another persons password after the fact, but hey, not everyone lives by the same moral code. I would live my on-line life just as I normally would. no changing to make sure someone doesn't get jealous. Simple forms let me request new passwords, and then, there's not the worry of haivng a snoop.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

I have had a passing thought of giving someone my password. But it passed.

I do however, have someone elses password. I posted a sent a few stories in for him when he was busy working. I tossed the email with his password in it each time.

 

[lovetoread]

What if your buddy gave her/his password to her/his lover? Would you still send her/him confidential stuff?

Nope it would end.

 

[Ladybird]

There's no way I would give another person any of my passwords. I value my privacy, as well as the privacy of the people I correspond with.

For that reason, if I knew that someone I was writing to had given their password to another person, then that would be the end of anything personal between us.

 

[perks]

nah dude. Tis mine. Trust me or don't, your choice. But stay out my biznas. my bizNAAAAAAAAAAZZ

 

[cutie pie]

I would never hand over my passwords. Upon occasion there is an exchange of very personal information that is not meant to be shared or seen by others.

If I knew that someone else had given out their password, I would censor information about myself perhaps. . .but if the person was asking for my advice or opinion, I would still answer it the same way.

 

[freshrope_69]

I would never EVER give my password out to anyone.

I had a friend who ex-husband used her password for ISP and all her files. He moved and used her ISP for months before she realized what was happening.

He caused major damage to her.

Here in my home I have had to keep things "locked down" at times with a wife who is now an ex-wife. I was always fixing my PC cause of the times she tried to "break" into my files. So, I set her up with her own system and now that she is gone...I have kept a clean PC for almost a year.

My son now has the PC that ex-wife used and i dont ask for even his pass words. He is a mature teenager and responsible so I have not seen anything to distrust him,

Passwords are to be private and should stay that way. No reason to give them to anyone. Just my opinion....

 

[brokenbrainwave]

even my wife has no clue what my passwords are, sheesh, pure insanity.

 

[*bratcat*]

I did and so did he as a sign of trust...

 

[glamorilla]

exchanging passwords is nothing.

people who give me thier credit card numbers get me hot.

 

[brokenbrainwave]

Re: I did and so did he as a sign of trust...

wouldnt a promise ring be just as efficient?

 

[Nathon_88]

Nope.......If she asks.........maybe I shouldn't be with them, y'know?

If they don't trust me, want to check up on me......

And, yes, would affect my messages to that person.

They probably wouldn't STOP......I'm not in the position of being able to choose my friends.......

 

[*bratcat*]

Re: Re: I did and so did he as a sign of trust...

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Nora]

A friend gave me her password last night because we were trying to figure out whether an error she was getting was specific to her settings or to her computer. The short answer is that it's her damned computer.

Was I uncomfortable with having her password? Hell, yeah. Do I hope to hell she changes it? Yes, Ma'am! Would I ever check to see if she did? Nope.

Ok, granted we're not a couple in the romantic sense (although we're a couple o'something! lol). I'm flattered that she trusted me enough with it, but also I have absolutely no fear that she'd make anything personal that I've said to her in PMs available for reading by anyone else.

Ok, that still doesn't answer the original question. How would I feel if my friend gave his/her SO their passwords? I don't know. It would depend on the friend and the couple and the nature of my relationship with the friend in queston.

If it was a fleeting 'Net relationship, I'd probably NOT feel confident sending them my secrets. If it was their rl SO? I don't think I'd have that big a problem with it.

 

[Private Vasquez]

No password for you!

I've known of information being exchanged about me between people who aren't me, but I don't share information with people that I don't want shared. (Although there was one thing, but I don't think anyone told...)

But here, have my address, phone number, SSN, driver's license # and American Express # (exp. 07/03)

 

[Tantanah]

I've been thinking about this, too.

I know a lot of people get together online and offline and line-line. Sometimes couples exchange passwords with each other.

I really never understood why. However, this isn't my question.

If someone you know became a part of a couple--I'm not picking on anyone specific!--and you knew or suspected that they had exchanged passwords, how safe would you feel in continuing with your prior level of personal communication?

What I mean here is, if you knew that your confidante/friend had given someone else access to his/her email/PM/IM account, how comfortable would you feel sending personal things to him/her? Even if they told you, with absolute confidence, that their SO would never read it without permission?

I would be really careful what I said to that person in confidence.

Somethings are private and I would hate that my private words/thoughts were read by another person they weren't intended for. I would feel violated.

 

[Simply Me]

If I thought he was sharing his computer with someone else, then I would feel limited in the things I could write to him. And if I couldn't write to him what I wanted to, then what's the use?

And, no, I have never shared my password with Jon, nor do I have access to his. It's all about trust. I have , however, given Jon the addresses of people who are close to me, ( with their permission) should anything ever happen to me. I would hate them always wondering if I was ok. We've seen how that affects people by someone we cared about on this board.