Suspence

[Ebonyfire]

Suspense

Dominants, how do you use suspense to produce the tension to build to the intense release that makes D/s play so satisfying?

Submissives, how does the use of suspense increase your enjoyment of D/s?

Switches, you are free to answer from one or both sides of the coin.

I find that the use of sensory deprivation heightens the suspense and increases the tension so that my subs are on edge and "expectant".

Ebony

[edited for spelling]

 

[Cirrus]

My Dom uses suspense 2 ways. Pre-scene and in scene. Pre-scene, sometimes even days before when we know we'll be getting together, he'll allude to something he plans to do. For instance, we plan to get together tomorrow, and we have a few new toys since the last time we played that haven't been used yet. He's made it clear he plans to use some of them, but which ones or how I don't know.

In scene, he'll sometimes "take breaks". One time, he had me blindfolded but not bound and standing. He went to go clean up, only thing was he took like 15 mintues doing it. Other times, he'll have me in an incapacitated or blind position, and he'll fake me out. He'll put a toy or flogger, etc against my skin and not use it or use something else on another body part.

It increases my enjoyment of BDSM because, like anything, even BDSM can get a little stale. We actually did get into a rut when we were very new, but now that we're less inhibited it's MUCH more fun for both of us. Variety is one of the reasons I like BDSM...there's only so many variations on nilla, you know.

Anyway, I like suspense. It makes me feel more submissive because I have no idea, and therefor no control over what will happen and am totally at His whim. It also sometimes heightens physical sensation...if he's using the flogger and has a kind of rhythm going, then stops, I never know if he's done or if I'll get another one...or two or three. Sometimes we move on to other things, but if he strikes me again it's more intense. Pre-scene is just fun...it keeps my enthusiasm up, especially if he's hinted at something new or something I really like.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Thanks, Cirrus

I really enjoyed your most informative post.

I also appreciated what you said about your Dom's use of time as a way of building suspense.

Too often we may be in a rush to use our toys, we may not slow down and draw out the moment.

Eb

 

[lillum]

I enjoy the suspense and thrill of the wait,he to will mention some tidbit of play and phone me later telling me a little more of whats to come and he'll also send me emails durring my day.Blindfolds are used on occasion usually weekly and says we need some ear plugs.The suspense is even greater when I am totally bound.Suspense to me feels like that good/fear feeling with all the butterflies,chills and goose bumps.Both of us do like to draw it out,makes for such intimate time...lillum

 

[Ebonyfire]

Thanks Lillum

For your contribution.

Eb

 

[kristydoll]

Re: Suspense

I find that the use of sensory deprivation heightens the suspense and increases the tension so that my subs are on edge and "expectant".

First off, I am submissive but have two different different views on this topic. The first one agrees with sensory deprivation heightening the impact of what is to come. The "not knowing" what is coming next can drive me crazy with anticipation and suspense.

On the other hand, I have to admit that I get off on the "mind fuck". Having to watch, knowing what will happen, but not the precise moment, takes me to a high all on its own.

kristy

 

[Quint]

Cirrus, I think I'm gonna pass what you posted on to T. I really, REALLY like the teasing "you might get something along these lines sometime soon" references. Gives me something to obsess over in Latin.

T does quite a bit with the mindplay. The constant barrage of coarse, usually insulting language heightens my awareness of myself and my position relative to him. My excitement grows exponentially. Also, there is fear on my part (very new to me!) that maybe he won't consider me "deserving" of any further play this time. Admittedly, this is unlikely in our current "quick I'm only gonna be here a weekend let's fuck now and fuck lots" condition, but given time (*ahem* Winter Break), I will wonder if what I'm doing, what I'm enduring, is enough to earn his cock. If that's not suspense, I dunno what is. o)

So many things that I wish we had more than a weekend for. Suspense is one of my most-longed-for, least-experienced aspects of sex. My patience is pretty damn eternal. I want it to be overcome. *sigh*

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: Suspense

First off, I am submissive but have two different different views on this topic. The first one agrees with sensory deprivation heightening the impact of what is to come. The "not knowing" what is coming next can drive me crazy with anticipation and suspense.

On the other hand, I have to admit that I get off on the "mind fuck". Having to watch, knowing what will happen, but not the precise moment, takes me to a high all on its own.

kristy

I agree, both are definitely needed to carry the excitement. Thanks for posting.

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

Suspense is one of my most-longed-for, least-experienced aspects of sex. My patience is pretty damn eternal. I want it to be overcome. *sigh*

Soon, Quint. Thanks for your input.

Eb

 

[A Desert Rose]

I love suspense. Not knowing what is coming next, how it will feel. I think that is why I like blindfolds. Anticipation and suspense really sweetens the entire event. My imagination runs wild.

Rose

 

[WriterDom]

Dominants, how do you use suspense to produce the tension to build to the intense release that makes D/s play so satisfying?

I have the definitive answer. The key to unlock this thread. But you'll have to wait

 

[Ebonyfire]

Dominants, how do you use suspense to produce the tension to build to the intense release that makes D/s play so satisfying?

I have the definitive answer. The key to unlock this thread. But you'll have to wait

Can't think of an answer right now, huh WD?

Take your time. We will wait.

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

I love suspense. Not knowing what is coming next, how it will feel. I think that is why I like blindfolds. Anticipation and suspense really sweetens the entire event. My imagination runs wild.

Rose

Thanks, ADR.

Eb

 

[Skitten]

suspense

The suspense is so wonderful the not knowing what He/She has plans for. What are you in for and it makes it just so much more exciting and interesting.

And having the blindfold on, is a real turn-on so you do not even know where He/She is and what they are doing. You are at their every whim and they have the total advantage in that situation. Which makes it even more exciting.

The not knowing what they are planning when they tell you early in the day that they have plans for that evening , and you just keep wondering all day and cannot wait to see what is in store for you in is just so very overwhelming .

 

[A Desert Rose]

Remember "Just you wait 'til your dad gets home?"

LMAO. Now THAT was suspense........

Rose