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[GuiltyCowboy]

Apropos of nothing much, there is a general rule in life that whenever you learn a new word, it's suddenly everywhere. I learned 'Charlie Horse' just yesterday from my daughter's clearly American reading textbook and had to go look it up for her. It's not the first time this has happened to me. Earlier this year I learned the word Nyotaimori - the Japanese practice, not often actually done, of eating sushi off a naked person's body - from a story I was beta-reading. Later that week my own story was published just above a completely different story with Nyotaimori as its single word title.

Curiously, I only learned about 'charlie horse' for the first time on Sunday evening. And here we are. Weird.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Ummm noooo lol that was a reference to your never having been asked for money here. Shoulda quoted it.

I did comprehend that…

 

[Statius]

I did comprehend that…

Lol didn't know what to do with the comment you sent back. Panicked!

 

[EmilyMiller]

Lol didn't know what to do with the comment you sent back. Panicked!

It’s OK

 

[dirk2024]

Why do people talk about "losing" their virginity? I didn't lose mine. It didn't slip out of my pocket while I was out for a walk. It didn't get thrown out with the rubbish by accident. It wasn't taken by someone who thought it was theirs. I got rid of it on purpose.

I threw mine away, like a piece of unwanted junk.

 

[alohadave]

You may well be right, but I wonder at the upside to calling it out.

If you're wrong, you risk belittling someone's real pain.

If you're right, some people have been "duped" into sharing some compassion. So what? If you're not moved, isn't it easier to simply ignore and move along?

Some of us don't want to interact with bots. Recognizing the patterns they use isn't always easy, so having them pointed out is good.

If the OP is human, they can defend themselves and change our minds about their status as non-sapient beings.

 

[AlinaX]

Account name is [something] followed by four digits. That's a naming pattern we have found is an earmark of AI and/or a troll farm.

Perhaps. On the other hand, Wikipedia says, "The Battle of Mount Sterling was a minor action in the American Civil War that occurred in June 1864 in Mount Sterling, Kentucky." Coincidence?

 

[MrPixel]

Perhaps. On the other hand, Wikipedia says, "The Battle of Mount Sterling was a minor action in the American Civil War that occurred in June 1864 in Mount Sterling, Kentucky." Coincidence?

Impressive detective work. I would have never made the connection.

 

[Britva415]

That's called being asexual, and it’s just a different way of being (not trying to lecture Simon, just adding on)

EDIT: what a stupid typo

Celibacy and asexuality aren't the same thing.

Many celibates aren't asexual, and many asexuals aren't celibate.

One is a sexual orientation, the other is a behavior.

 

[Nynah]

Celibacy and asexuality aren't the same thing.

Many celibates aren't asexual, and many asexuals aren't celibate.

One is a sexual orientation, the other is a behavior.

At the risk of speaking for AwkwardMD, I think she was trying to point that out for Simon as the post of his she was responding to seems to conflate celibacy and asexuality:

Also: There's nothing wrong with being celibate, if that's the way you genuinely want to be. If sex seems baffling and unappealing, there's no absolute need to be like other people and try to force yourself to like it.

 

[SimonDoom]

At the risk of speaking for AwkwardMD, I think she was trying to point that out for Simon as the post of his she was responding to seems to conflate celibacy and asexuality:

I wasn't conflating the two. I don't presume to know "what" the OP's sexuality is; there's not enough information. But if one chooses for whatever reason to be celibate for a period of time, it's not necessarily a problem one has to "fix" to conform to societal norms. If one wants sex badly enough, it's out there to be had if one takes certain steps to have it. But there's no inherent need to have it or want it if one has other priorities.

 

[AwkwardMD]

At the risk of speaking for AwkwardMD, I think she was trying to point that out for Simon as the post of his she was responding to seems to conflate celibacy and asexuality:

Especially given the way the OP talked about their brothers and sisters and cheating, I felt like it wasn't unreasonable to at least bring up the concept.

My brother refuses to drink alcohol. It would be unfair to say it's entirely because mom abused it periodically. At the same time, though, he's never really had anyone in his life who might ask them to drink with him, who had enough sway to get him to consider it, AND it's a not a stretch to suggest that not ever drinking might have affected his chances with some people in his life.

These things are never just one thing.

 

[Sterling1864]

Impressive detective work. I would have never made the connection.

Close, but no cigar. Sterling comes from the name of a Confederate general who fought out in the Trans-Mississippi theater of the Civil War. His name is Sterling Price. He led a campaign in 1864 that ended in disaster. That's where the name came from.

My interests include more than just learning about and trying to understand human sexuality. My interests also include the American Civil War and yes there are books about sex during the Civil War.

And no, I'm not a robot.

 

[AlinaX]

Did they have robots during the Civil War? More importantly, did they have cake? Sex, after all, is a luxury; cake’s an essential.

 

[AwkwardMD]

Another title change here (and an edit to the original post).

You don't have to go home, people, but you can't stay here.

 

[MrPixel]

And no, I'm not a robot.

OK. Very good. The overwhelming feeling I get is you're barking up the wrong tree by posting here, as was suggested at the start.

So good luck. The suggestions of professional help for your circumstances are wise. Talk to your MD about a referral to relationship counseling.

 

[Djmac1031]

So I'm, as usual, VERY late to this party and trying to figure out what exactly it was originally supposed to be about...

 

[Djmac1031]

Canucks sometimes as well

 

[DeMont]

I suspect that an erotica site is probably not a good place to learn about real sex, much like porn videos. Not for entirely the same reasons - there's a lot more nuance in good erotica, for instance - but we write what we know, what we enjoy personally and what we think works for other people.

And even when it's more nuanced than visual porn, it's probably at the very least a little romanticised and/or idealised.

@StillStunned,
Good point my dear colleague, no more than current , run of the mill porn movies are any good as a "sex manual" Perhaps, @Sterling1864 a beginning from the start might help you immensely before you plunge into the deep end of "erotica" and "pornographic sexuality"?

For example,
https://medlineplus.gov/teensexualhealth.html

https://www.thhpediatrics.com/Talking-With-Your-Teen-About-Sex

Please don't get upset b the references to "Teen" but it sounds like you are starting from scratch, the places a thirteen year old might, and do, find themselves.
Deepest respects, and forgive me if I'm being presumptive here,
D.

 

[cw5523729]

Has anyone seen the ball? I think someone took it and went home.

 

[Statius]

My dog stole it. Sorry. Here ya go

 

[cw5523729]

My dog stole it. Sorry. Here ya go

Thank you, but mine was the white one with the big CW written on it in Sharpie.

 

[Statius]

Thank you, but mine was the white one with the big CW written on it in Sharpie.

Hmm. Sorry then. Must've been someone else.

 

[cw5523729]

Hmm. Sorry then. Must've been someone else.

It's ok. It was still nice of you to share. <fist bump>

 

[StillStunned]

You really have to watch out whose balls you're playing with.