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[rhyst_hatchyk]

Good morning everyone.

I get to work today.

Have a brilliant morning and give support to those in need.

Good morning! Hope your day goes well.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

So cheery for going to work..... Hope you have a great day.


Supporting RED

Thank you. It was a great day and I hope you had a good one too.

Good morning! Hope your day goes well.

It did. I hope yours was good too.

 

[toys_em_us]

Well my weekend work schedule has been turned upsidedown.... Hope you all have a fantastic weekend.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Well my weekend work schedule has been turned upsidedown.... Hope you all have a fantastic weekend.

Bummer... I hate it when that happens. I was asked to trade hours for today, and would have, but I have no one to pick up the kids from their club field trips tonight, so I am still on my day work schedule.

 

[Papa-Joe]

taking time to stop in & say: HI Red

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

taking time to stop in & say: HI Red

Good day to you PJ. A pleasant surprise and a welcomed hello back.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

I hate it when you wake up from a deep sleep and then focus on one thing in your life that keeps you awake. I know we all suffer from it, and it's probably the same things... either our health or the health of our family, or our finances. This morning it is my finances.

See, my husband is supposed to be in charge of them. He tells me when this gets paid and that, then I write out the checks and mail them off, or go make the payments in person/via online. And this works great for about 3 weeks and then he doesn't get around to telling me and even though I ask the night before he puts it off. Then if he has to work that morning, he disappears before I can find out where our money is supposed to go. I end up having to make Executive decisions... the kind that make you pick food for the family, gas money for work, and then the other finances. Some bills get paid some get put on the back burner, and then you find out he didn't make as much money as you thought he would, so of course you're scrambling to make sure your checkbook isn't made of rubber. (They aren't you know... no matter how hard you throw the damn things, they don't bounce back.)

So now I'm sitting here losing sleep and I would much rather be under the covers in bed dreaming of anything but the folders he has tacked to our bedroom walls. And that's not a joke. In order for him to "control" the finances he wants to see them all. Okay, I can understand that, but he's got them in the bedroom, everything labeled in their own folder, that literally is tacked to the wall! They are there every moment of the day. We have a back room, that we don't use. I suggested we put them there, but he knows he'll avoid them if he does! AVOID them! He does that after three weeks and then I'm back to trying to figure it out.

He really is better at it then I am. More disciplined as far as making sure they all get paid, but again that happens for about 3 weeks and then I think the stress of it just gets to him and I slip back in.

See, I know it isn't his fault, not entirely. I want to help, but help and be in charge are two different things. The deal was I was to get one folder of my own to be in charge of, that way I still felt like I was contributing. My folder consists of medical bills, my car payment, my credit card and our credit cards. Two of the credit cards aren't active, so they are just closed accounts I pay on every other week. My folder, believe it or not, I can afford on my job if he'd take control of the finances again and handle everything else. My little paycheck will cover the expenses I'm supposed to cover, that's why I have my little folder.

Normally we are financially set for the week, but this month... March is a killer. He has a profit check coming in this month that will catch us up entirely and then leave some for him to use to pay forward to various larger bills so we are one month ahead, but I have to pull my hair out till that check comes in. And we don't know the date for that check, it just kinda shows up when it shows up. *shakes head*

Okay... I think I'll go post on some random game threads so I can focus on porn and not money.

Red's Rant ... over (oh that's a good name for a thread) - No don't bother looking for it. I'm not making one. lol

 

[toys_em_us]

I hate it when you wake up from a deep sleep and then focus on one thing in your life that keeps you awake(snippet)

Red's Rant ... over (oh that's a good name for a thread) - No don't bother looking for it. I'm not making one. lol

At least your not bored anymore....... Hey that's a good name for a thread.


How about setting a time each week to sit down together and do all the bills together.
Putting them all down on a piece of paper and when they get paid and how much this month will take the pressure off the both of you and make it a shared responsibility for all the bills instead of yours and mine.

Just an idea for you to shoot down!


Hope you have a great day dreaming of porn instead...

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

At least your not bored anymore....... Hey that's a good name for a thread.


How about setting a time each week to sit down together and do all the bills together.
Putting them all down on a piece of paper and when they get paid and how much this month will take the pressure off the both of you and make it a shared responsibility for all the bills instead of yours and mine.

Just an idea for you to shoot down!


Hope you have a great day dreaming of porn instead...

That's a very good idea and I may try that. Lord knows me handling them for 13 years and him off/on for 1 is not working out.


Good morning to you. I hope you are enjoying your day so far.

 

[toys_em_us]

That's a very good idea and I may try that. Lord knows me handling them for 13 years and him off/on for 1 is not working out.


Good morning to you. I hope you are enjoying your day so far.

I am, a bit of breakfast and a couple cups of coffee. Church in a bit and then puppy stuff shopping.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

I am, a bit of breakfast and a couple cups of coffee. Church in a bit and then puppy stuff shopping.

Sounds like fun.

I am thinking of your idea, the only thing I have to do is admit once again that I couldn't pay all that needed to be paid and am about $75.00 short for the week. I hate disappointing him when it comes to the finances. *sigh*

 

[WyldBreeze]

Just a little gift for my lovely friend.

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[toys_em_us]

Sounds like fun.

I am thinking of your idea, the only thing I have to do is admit once again that I couldn't pay all that needed to be paid and am about $75.00 short for the week. I hate disappointing him when it comes to the finances. *sigh*

This is a WE thing. It is not your responsibility even though he says it is. a marriage is the union of two people. The bills go right along with this union. This is why it is important to share the responsibility with each other. This way neither of you need to feel the singular responsibility of failure.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Just a little gift for my lovely friend.

http://pin.petals.com.au/pinimages/common/D32.jpg​

Having a chance to post with you this morning is all the gift I need. I miss you.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

This is a WE thing. It is not your responsibility even though he says it is. a marriage is the union of two people. The bills go right along with this union. This is why it is important to share the responsibility with each other. This way neither of you need to feel the singular responsibility of failure.

Failure is the word there.

Btw... I asked on the other thread, the one about "what would you do... " av thread about the breed of puppy. Are you getting a particular breed, or a mixed?

 

[toys_em_us]

Failure is the word there.

Btw... I asked on the other thread, the one about "what would you do... " av thread about the breed of puppy. Are you getting a particular breed, or a mixed?

Sorry havn't checked that thread.

A full blood lack Lab.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

Sorry havn't checked that thread.

A full blood lack Lab.

Ohh a Lab. That will be one handful of a puppy. Even as an adult, it'll never act grown up. lol.

My parents and my sister/brother-in-law have had them. They are far from docile critters.

 

[toys_em_us]

Ohh a Lab. That will be one handful of a puppy. Even as an adult, it'll never act grown up. lol.

My parents and my sister/brother-in-law have had them. They are far from docile critters.

I have trained several to be very obedient. One has become a nursing home dog. I see much potential in this one so she will become a part of our family as soon as she has gone to the Dr. and he says she is good to go.

 

[RedHairedandFriendly]

I have trained several to be very obedient. One has become a nursing home dog. I see much potential in this one so she will become a part of our family as soon as she has gone to the Dr. and he says she is good to go.

Sounds great. My parents have had mixed results. One they had to keep restrained because it would attempt to kill the other one. They would have to alternate when they would allow the dogs time to run in the fields/yards. Sadly a heat stroke took his life and then later heart worm claimed the life of the other dog, which was a mixed breed of St. Bernard, Golden Retriever, and Irish Setter.

The lab they have now... is a big giant baby! He is spoiled and knows it! They had a pet cat and he and the pet cat would play with each other.

 

[toys_em_us]

Sounds great. My parents have had mixed results. One they had to keep restrained because it would attempt to kill the other one. They would have to alternate when they would allow the dogs time to run in the fields/yards. Sadly a heat stroke took his life and then later heart worm claimed the life of the other dog, which was a mixed breed of St. Bernard, Golden Retriever, and Irish Setter.

The lab they have now... is a big giant baby! He is spoiled and knows it! They had a pet cat and he and the pet cat would play with each other.

Since i now have a cat, I hope that is going to happen here too.

Off to church, talk later cute one!

 

[rhyst_hatchyk]

rest of quote removed for space reasons
Red's Rant ... over (oh that's a good name for a thread) - No don't bother looking for it. I'm not making one. lol

You seem like you could use a hug. So here.

*HUG!*

 

[Papa-Joe]

Stopping in to say:HI Red

 

[toys_em_us]

Bringing the thread to the top of the list once again.

 

[au_man]

Thank you!! It's quite shocking when one looks back at oneself. I don't believe we ever see ourselves the way a photo captures us.

Greatfully so, sometimes... Recalls a few from my Navy days

Yes, nearly half the woman you once were...

Good job and thank you for the courage to post them...

It has been a tough month for me, but things are getting much better, thankfully.

I've been busy balancing out my karmic life too.

I'm not caught up yet, but had to post... ((((((((Red)))))))))

 

[toys_em_us]

Just because.......