Suggestions for a Reward Program

[PacificBlue]

As a friend here pointed out so eloquently several weeks back. My *rewards* program for weight loss ummm... "BLOWS"

I need suggestions to keep my motivation up. I'm going to work now so have at it and I'll check back tonight.

Thanks for the free advice in advance!

 

[CoolidgEffect]

A good blow for losing weight would motivate me. Maybe you need something along the same line.

 

[Black_Bird]

You purchase a new porno for every 5 to 10 bls?

 

[RawHumor]

That would depend on how tight you are financially.

Taking a trip would be a great reward. A cruise would be even better.

 

[Bigdog]

That would depend on how tight you are financially.

Taking a trip would be a great reward. A cruise would be even better.

I agree, and it should be a really special trip. Back in college I decided to go to Hawaii for 2 weeks after graduation. It motivated me to lose 35 pounds and I was in the best shape of my life.

In the short term, porn would be okay too.

 

[floridaguy64]

sex on the beach in Tahiti........ now that would do it for me

 

[bluntforcemama]

I need suggestions to keep my motivation up. I'm going to work now so have at it and I'll check back tonight.

Hmm... how about something for yourself that you've wanted for a long time. Maybe a small trip somewhere, or a gift you've always fancied. Maybe a new shade of lipstick to kiss with?

 

[lovetoread]

Books.

If I lose the weight, I get the books that are a bit more expensive than the paperbacks that I usually get.

 

[Cheyenne]

The joy of buying new smaller size clothes!

 

[PacificBlue]

Actually...I was looking for and *in between* reward program. It's going to take me a while to get to where I want to be.

 

[Blues]

Depends on the method you are using for weight loss. I was on a low carb diet ant the best reward was a slice of pizza every once in a while, or even a few cold beers. Basically have something that you really like that you have been avoiding, as long as it isn't something that will through you off your plan.

 

[floridaguy64]

Books.

If I lose the weight, I get the books that are a bit more expensive than the paperbacks that I usually get.

Tell ya what........ if that's your goal, then I have a deal for you.

I have a curio full of books that were published between 1789 thru 1944...... you meet and prove to me that you've met your goal and you can your choice of any one there.........

BTW.... the one from 1789 is the only book ever published by George Washington.... and is named appropriately, "The little general".

Be careful what you wish for, some romantic schmuck like me might actually grant it.

I don't do pm's but my email is in my profile............ my motto is don't hide, it ain't worth the trouble.

 

[lovetoread]

I have lost 35 pounds...I have said it many times on the boards.

I have about 20 more to go.

I seem to have hit a stagnant time.

I am not losing,but I am not gaining either.

I lost so much that I was thinking of getting a tummy tuck to get rid of the skin on my belly.

But thats expensive so I gotta think about it more.

Thanks for your offer. I lose these last twenty and I am a callin ya,got it?

I cant resist books.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Buy yourself some art work....

Find something really decadent that you want and every pound you drop put $20 in a jar and spend it when you have got enough money in the jar.

A treat of some kind along the way is a good idea. For me it would be buying art history books I don't really need but I "want".

I'll keep thinking for you.

 

[Persephone36]

Hey PB -- I know what you're going through. Been there, done that -- more times than I'd like to admit!

Here's my reward suggestions. What do you put off doing -- saying you'll allow yourself to do, or give to yourself when you're thinner? Think about it -- hard. Those are the fears you need to face -- because anything you're putting off doing -- a vacation, dating, spending money on yourself, *loving yourself* -- thinking that only then when you're thinner that you'll deserve these things -- that just means you're putting off living your life.

Live your life -- and deny yourself nothing (within reason of course.) Dare to experience everything you keep saying you'll do or experience once you're a certain weight. Live in the moment and work at accepting and appreciating yourself -- with loving kindness. And the rewards will just be sitting there before you. Bigger than you could possibly imagine.

The whole point is -- can you challenge yourself to care for your body out of love -- instead of out of hate? Can you approach the plateau's and the dieting as something you're doing for yourself... and not to be *better*? Out of hate is comparing ourselves to ideals or to others. And if you're not ready to face letting go of that big stick so many of us beat ourselves up with -- can you accept that this is where you're at and *still* love yourself?

Okay, lol, I'm into Buddhism so that's where my perspective comes from. But I think the thoughts can be very perception altering. Pretty mind-blowing, lol.

I've found that things I consider to be a little indulgent are good celebrations to go for. And I think saying "rewards" sets up the wrong idea. It gets into the good vs. bad thing about sticking to your diet -- and that continuum back and forth gets you no where and erodes your self-esteem.

Consider making these celebratory moments not for how *much* weight you've lost -- but for the amount of time you've worked at the program. Even if you've back slide occasionally -- or especially if you've hit a plateau and are still sticking with your commitment -- you should celebrate that!

So, say every two weeks (or once a week -- whatever you decide) -- you think about something nice you can do for yourself. Get a manicure/pedicure. Get a massage. Go out to a nice restaurant with friends. Go out to nice restaurant alone! Go for a hike. Get out of the house for a whole weekend and explore. The outdoors, a few museums, something new -- perhaps something you've even been shy about doing.

Celebrate the commitment you're making to taking care and loving yourself. And *really* commit to the celebratory moment. Because you deserve it! Making commitments to one's self is important -- and it's important we keep them. Can you look at that commitment as about dieting to keep your body healthy and to make the most of the wonderful strong active body you're blessed to have? Not a commitment that's about I must loose xx amount of weight to feel good about myself. Does that make sense?

Keep the commitment to patting yourself on the back for caring for yourself -- and it will feel great! I promise.

P.

 

[floridaguy64]

Darlin........

I have lost 35 pounds...I have said it many times on the boards.

I have about 20 more to go.

I seem to have hit a stagnant time.

I am not losing,but I am not gaining either.

I lost so much that I was thinking of getting a tummy tuck to get rid of the skin on my belly.

But thats expensive so I gotta think about it more.

Thanks for your offer. I lose these last twenty and I am a callin ya,got it?

I cant resist books.

As far as books go, niether can I.......... you reach your goal, you can have any book in my curio you want!

I've been in an in-home seperation for over two years now because my SO went from a size 6 to a 2x. Her point is that I never bitched at her enough to keep her from loading it all on....... My point was allways, I love you....... al of you, and if this is the 'new' you, then I just have to love you more.

I'm not a vain person....... look at my AV........ I look exactly like that at this moment, well except the mustache is a little fatter.....

First and foremost... be comfortable in yourself!

I meant what I said........ you reach your goal and I'll personally bring you a first edition rarity that'll knock your socks off!