Subtle public submission

[Etoile]

I found a page about subtle ways of reinforcing dominance and submission in public. The author is a mother who can't always be the sub she wants to be ("It’s pretty hard to show your Master / Husband your devotion when you are changing a stinky diaper or need to be at a Little League game in five minutes."), and there are several comments further down the page from those who have more suggestions. There are some great ideas there (I'm hoping to pass some along to Daddy), and I thought I'd start a thread for comments on that page plus other ideas you all might have had.

http://www.sub-shop.com/catalog/frametemplate.cfm?template=../site/framemommy_slaves.cfm

 

[catalina_francisco]

Had a browse but didn't see anything I would find any different from a D/s relationship without children. Found the idea of the bath nice, but couldn't help wondering how you manage to find that 'alone' time to indulge, with children, especially small ones, or the privacy to be led naked afterward to the bedroom to be oiled and massaged. Nice, and something I think even vanilla mums would dream of in part, but rarely possible to implement on a regular basis.

catalina

 

[Etoile]

I didn't really mean to emphasize the parenting part - more the subtle public submission. I like the idea of holding the wrist, the pet ID tag on the keychain, etc. Sometimes I've requested that Daddy order my food for me, but I'm usually allowed to pick what I want. Sometimes we have the rule about no speaking in public, although we quickly figured out that makes for pretty boring meals at restaurants!

 

[ethereal~minx]

well...*smiling*

subtle public submission huh? hmmm.....
i do not walk in front of Him~ either at His side or behind (depending)... the other day i don't know where my mind was but i took off from where we were & just hopped in the truck, just off i went & no Master.. i looked around & there he was, just standing there looking at me ..and i knew..my heart sank, omg! i could_not believe what i had done, never before had i been so thoughtless. i ran to Him, i sooo wanted a hug but He just stood there very rigid... He said, "I know you didn't mean to do it. Do not do it again".....
i truthfully didn't know He noticed such things but doing this obviously makes us both feel special to eachother...

subtle...hmmm. i just love it when He holds my wrist! : )


btw, i love the link! i wanna go shopping!!!!!

 

[Etoile]

That's something Daddy and I used to do, too. I walked a couple of steps behind and to either the left or right. We sort of got out of the habit somehow.

And yeah, I've built up a huge wishlist at subshop.

 

[His Flower]

well...*smiling*

subtle public submission huh? hmmm.....
i do not walk in front of Him~ either at His side or behind (depending)... the other day i don't know where my mind was but i took off from where we were & just hopped in the truck, just off i went & no Master.. i looked around & there he was, just standing there looking at me ..and i knew..my heart sank, omg! i could_not believe what i had done, never before had i been so thoughtless. i ran to Him, i sooo wanted a hug but He just stood there very rigid... He said, "I know you didn't mean to do it. Do not do it again".....
i truthfully didn't know He noticed such things but doing this obviously makes us both feel special to eachother...

subtle...hmmm. i just love it when He holds my wrist! : )


btw, i love the link! i wanna go shopping!!!!!

<smiling> I want to goo shopping too...unfortunately Sir hates it.


His Flower

 

[ownedsubgal]

natural submission and natural Dominance have a way of always showing themselves somehow, regardless of where a person may be or what they may be doing. it is always there, and it can always be detected. i don't believe it's something one should consciously think about...as in, i'm going to do x, y and z when out in public because it is a way to display my submission publicly. i think if it's something that must be thought about, then it's not natural, and the submission is not genuine/from the core.

i walk a few steps behind my Master always...even when we hold hands, you will never see us walking side by side. not something we decided to do, not a conscious thing, simply happened that way. He always orders my food for me....even if he allows me to choose what i will eat/drink, he asks me what i want and he is the one who tells the server, not me. i do not speak directly to strangers unless he explicitly gives me permission to do so. even if they speak directly to me, for instance a salesperson asking me would i like to try something on....i look to Daddy, and he answers the salesperson. again, not a planned out thing, not a rule, just a natural occurence between a very Dominant man and a very submissive girl. He pays for everything. He is always the one to unlock the door to the house, even when it was my house, and we were simply two dear friends and not Master and slave, he would always take my house keys and open my door for me. all sorts of very small things like this that i truly don't even think about unless a question like this is posed, are a part of our natural everyday existence because it's who we are.

 

[WriterDom]

thanks for the link. Holding her wrist. Interesting.

 

[Croctden]

I place my hand on the small of her back to "steer" her and give other vague no-verbal signals.

 

[Ebonyfire]

When it comes to submissive males, being subtle manifests itself in ways that remind you of the age of chivalry.

My sissy and I have gone to many events, and his submission is hardly overt. He asks if I want something to drink, he opens doors for Me, he pulls out my chair, and he sees to my comfort. If I am cold he give Me his jacket.

He calls Me by My given name in public, even while we both know he has on his pink silk panties under his jeans.

I went to a pot luck with a Domme friend and her subby husband. He opened the car doors for us both and helped us out of the car. He walked us into the building on his arm, and he pulled out both of our chairs.

He asked us what we wanted to drink, and he brought it to us. We were the only women who did not have to go through the food line. He brought us both our plates, after asking us both what was our preferences.

His deference was so noticably different from the other men there, that one woman asked us how did we get him to do the things he did. We told her he was trainined to do so. He beamed in pride. And she asked where could she sign up.

It is good to be the Queen.

 

[clamshell2]

you

I don't really think this is the time or place to post this, But I'm to lazy to pm you. A friend of mine kept telling me. " check out this persons posting" so I have alittle at a time. And I have to adnit she was right. Your are positive and inciteful, with most of your posts, except when arguing with some of these impossible people. Anyway,didn't mean to use up space, and thanks ----Kate----