Subspace: Where is it for you?

[lillum]

Thanks lillum, and I agree, it's incredibly free-ing.

Great to see you here, seems we both got tired of the same issues 'elsewhere'.

Got tiried of it big time and I feel so much more comfortable here!!Waiting,waiting,waiting on Hansons for new rattan bundle I wanna play!...lillum

 

[serijules]

Got tiried of it big time and I feel so much more comfortable here!!Waiting,waiting,waiting on Hansons for new rattan bundle I wanna play!...lillum

You'll be waiting about 3 months, wonderful products, HORRIBLE customer service and shipping times.

But the product quality is more than worth it.

 

[lillum]

Ordered July 2nd and your right the wait is worth it,I wanna fly.I shouldev orderd before we were out my fault.Thanks again for sharing your subspace post with us seri...I'am going swimmin...lillum

 

[catalina_francisco]

Thought this was a good topic to bump back up for many. I am curious DR, did you ever find subspace? I am one of the uninitiated, though I too tend to feel it is not something exclusive to BDSM as Lancecastor I think commented....so can it be called subspace? I dunno. From the descriptions, I would equate it to great sex, a great session, or other experiences to which the body reaches levels of complete euphoria, all of which I have experienced. Some have mentioned it occuring when they had their first successful anal experience which confuses me further as that happened to me at 17 in a very vanilla relationship. So is it something which comes with pushing yourself in anything out of your norm, or takes more energy to endure than usual?

Master says he has had submissives go into subspace with him, but he much prefers they don't, needless to say he does not have a problem with me just finding our sex and play life as extraordinarily sublime without the subspace issue to deal with. I am often exhausted or/and on cloud nine for hours, but that to me is a feeling I have experienced in other formats so I have not labelled it subspace and thought perhaps I was missing something. Maybe I am not missing anything at all, just didn't credit it with anything other than a fantastic moment to be enjoyed. I welcome any feedback on the topic cause apart from being curious, I hate to miss out on something I am already unwittingly enjoying perhaps.

Catalina

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

So Francisco dislikes subspace too?

 

[Netzach]

I don't know about *sub*space, but I sure as hell have bottomed and gotten high.

Personally I don't define being a Dominant *via* the inability to submit or bottom.

I definitely have gotten euphoric, stupid and downright giddy during a good piercing, a well-done beating, or even a well-timed sexual spanking. I think this gives me a lot of insight, patience, and understanding of the biochemistry involved in "subspace" or "sinking" or whatever.

As a Domme I have mixed feelings about the whole phenom. It bores the hell out of me as a Sadist, I want wriggling, complaining, gritting of teeth.

But where rewards and good girls and paticularly meltingly sweet boys are concerned, I get all misty at their transported, beatific smiles and I can't help but cave in and let them sink. *mush*

 

[catalina_francisco]

As a Domme I have mixed feelings about the whole phenom. It bores the hell out of me as a Sadist, I want wriggling, complaining, gritting of teeth.

Master's rationale exactly!! So this is why I love him so? Just one of many reasons.

 

[catalina_francisco]

So Francisco dislikes subspace too?

So he says....asked him a couple of weeks ago and he said it didn't feed his needs.

Catalina

 

[A Desert Rose]

Thought this was a good topic to bump back up for many. I am curious DR, did you ever find subspace?

Catalina

No Catalina, I have never experienced it. And I think there is a good chance that I never will.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Cool beans...us sadistic bastards(and bitches, let's not forget netzach) don't appreciate a sub disappearing into subspace, so I guess ADR isn't missing much.

 

[catalina_francisco]

No Catalina, I have never experienced it. And I think there is a good chance that I never will.

Oh well, both our destinies no doubt. At least it keeps him happy which is always good.

C

 

[A Desert Rose]

Cool beans...us sadistic bastards(and bitches, let's not forget netzach) don't appreciate a sub disappearing into subspace, so I guess ADR isn't missing much.

I do feel like I am missing something, but I think it's like going to Italy.

I never will, so I might as well forget it.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I do feel like I am missing something, but I think it's like going to Italy.

I never will, so I might as well forget it.

I know how you feel...unless the restraining order is lifted, I'm never going to have another shot at Angelina Jolie...

 

[A Desert Rose]

I know how you feel...unless the restraining order is lifted, I'm never going to have another shot at Angelina Jolie...

Sometimes you really make me laugh!

And that is such a good thing.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Sometimes you really make me laugh!

And that is such a good thing.

Yeah, laugh it up...I sent her a vial of my blood and everything!!

 

[catalina_francisco]

Sometimes you really make me laugh!

And that is such a good thing.

Especially for those on Prozac who have an orgasm when they laugh!!

 

[A Desert Rose]

Especially for those on Prozac who have an orgasm when they laugh!!

Is this really true???????

A weird side effect or something?

LMAO

 

[catalina_francisco]

Is this really true???????

A weird side effect or something?

LMAO

So I have heard for the rare person...don't know if they have found a way to counteract it in recent years. Think sneezing also could trigger it for those susceptible. Been awhile since I have seen any programmes or such on it now.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

Subspace is easy for me. Too easy. And over the time we've been together, we've discovered the handy little fact that He can put me there with His voice.

However, as He's posted, He doesn't LIKE it much LOL, which seems like a refrain from the sadist crowd. We're boring when we're off in la-la-land. Oh my.

No wonder He keeps switching instruments on me. First the flogger, then the crop, then the paddle....anti-rhythm keeps me up...I still get the endorphin rush, but I don't go deep and fly away to that deep nowhere space. Counting will keep me up as well.

It's so seductive, subspace. Risia said "better than drugs". Yeah, I would agree. There's a buzz factor that can't be beat. I still get it without going deep, just from the endorphin rush. That going deep and sliding away from the world is....like placing your life in His hands and giving up, if only for a short while, on a greater scale than you already are. I'll never be able to explain and do it justice.

When I come back I feel unbelievable grateful that He gave me that moment. I feel very fortunate that He pays so much attention to my space, and the quality and timbre of it. I feel played like an instrument.

~anelize

 

[ethereal~minx]

now i'm making an assumption but i think by voice alone i've been there.... by the stroke of His hand in my hair....

i think it is the ''connection'' that lance speaks of~~ i've referred to it as being like a 'full-body orgasm' but w/o the climax..

it's lofty yet trance-like...

During a busy Friday evening, we walked downtown... He had my hair gripped tightly, my head turned and pressed against Him.. i kept my eyes closed tightly so that i would be totally dependent upon Him to guide me ...

feeling His breathing, hearing His heartbeat, i matched our cadence... i was able to move and step as He instructed~~

the moment He pulled my head back & kissed me i felt flush, lasting arousal... i was in the 'zone' and i wasn't leaving for awhile... we had a ways left to walk..

then back because we forgot something & omg!!!
i was instructed to get in (deeper)
remove my panties (deeper)

and (deeper still)
in His calm steady strong beautiful hypnotic voice
open your legs and show me your pussy
and it went on from there... *blushing trance-like smile*

GOD!!! i'm going there now~~~ like i said, i could be wrong
but i think this is part of that subspace that is being talked about...
being in the moment, NOW, the connection ALIVE
ahhhh ooooohhhh

I FEEL SOOO ALIVE!!!

 

[blueyedheartbandit]

sub space for me

To get to that place for me takes alot of pain and fear. A really good scene, where the strokes are coming one after another after another until if feels like they are never ending, like it is just one motion that continues...my knees buckle, I can't hear anything but the sound of the flogger on my back, (the rest is what Hubby says happens to me, I actually have no memory of going into subspace) my breathing jerks to a stop, then resumes at a very slow pace, my heart rate slows dramatically, my skin gets cold and my eyes roll up into my head. All I remember of it is a sensation of falling...falling falling falling without any fear of hitting bottem. It is the most peaceful feeling I have ever had, tranquility that no drug, alcohol or sex can match. It is, with one word, incredible.
Coming out of sub space is just as good, having Hubby there, soothing my hair and telling me what a good girl I am, how well I did, how proud I make him brings us closer after play. Even if he isn't the one to play with me, having him there for "after care" is one of my stipulations, it's a bonding time for us. The euphoric feeling, for me personally, can last for days.
Anyway, hope that helps a little?



Bandits heart boo

 

[catalina_francisco]

OK, we have come to a conclusion about me and subspace. LOL, the issue I had mentioned somewhere before on the board about my laughter in the face of great pain has not diminished. After the latest episode of him crushing my nipples to a point most would be screaming and begging for release, all I did after passing the point of pain that made me catch my breath was dissolve into fits of laughter as he crushed all the harder. He has suggested this is my subspace and I have to think perhaps he is right. I don't have any of that floating on the ceiling stuff, but I certainly have a release of sorts through the laughter, and seems no matter what he does then all it achieves is to increase my mirth. Hardly what a sadist looks for, but then he is special and exceptional and is more than willing to keep testing out the theory. I am curious, has anyone else had a similar response, or heard of it as a form of subspace? And does anyone have a cure?!!

Catalina http://www.smilies4you.de/content/freundlich/a53.gif

 

[Shadowsdream]

OK, we have come to a conclusion about me and subspace. LOL, the issue I had mentioned somewhere before on the board about my laughter in the face of great pain has not diminished. After the latest episode of him crushing my nipples to a point most would be screaming and begging for release, all I did after passing the point of pain that made me catch my breath was dissolve into fits of laughter as he crushed all the harder. He has suggested this is my subspace and I have to think perhaps he is right. I don't have any of that floating on the ceiling stuff, but I certainly have a release of sorts through the laughter, and seems no matter what he does then all it achieves is to increase my mirth. Hardly what a sadist looks for, but then he is special and exceptional and is more than willing to keep testing out the theory. I am curious, has anyone else had a similar response, or heard of it as a form of subspace? And does anyone have a cure?!!

Catalina http://www.smilies4you.de/content/freundlich/a53.gif

The cure might be duct tape!

 

[catalina_francisco]

The cure might be duct tape!

LOL..not sure even that would hold it back.

C

 

[sigsauerprinces]

ive only been there once. but it was magical. i was having my breasts beaten, for a long time, over and over, with a crop. and i mean it hurt, a lot. but then i got into this space where like it hurt, but it didnt, and i felt this euphoria..like i was floating. and he was talking to me and asking me questions and i could barely speak. i felt like i was paralyzed almost, i really honestly literally couldnt speak. i could barely move my lips, i could just manage "yeah" and "no" and any complicated question he asked me "how are you feeling"-i couldnt answer it, it was like it was the hardest math problem in the world or something. my mind considered the question and then it just floated away. it was magical. only been there once, but hope to go back

about how to get there, i think thats different for everyone, and you'll just have to experiment and see what works for you.good luck