Subs Behaving Badly: A Question For Doms

[brokenboundary]

I have not been in a sub/dom relationship for over 5 years, but I have thought recently that, when I was, I was a pretty badly behaved slave sometimes. I never point-blank refused to do anything, but I would take liberties... little things, like pinching my dom's arse as he led me around; if he pissed on me and made me hold him, I would pinch his cock to stem the flow; I would try to pull a Houdini act and slip a hand free of my restraints so I could masturbate when I thought he wasn't looking (he often was!); or if he had instructed me to suck him off, I would stop when I knew he was getting close. This was all punished, of course, but I wondered, is this kind of mischief something dom's usually like, or do you generally prefer your sub to just adhere stringently to your rules?

 

[CutieMouse]

Some would be fine with that sort of behavior; some word not. If you end up involved with the former, that sort of behavior might even be encouraged...

Personally, I can't even begin to wrap my head around behaving like that in a D/s relationship - and have ended things with men who wanted/needed a partner who was less compliant. He wanted "push back" to have an "excuse" to do XYZ; I'd rather either PYL/pyl just say they want XYZ. It was neither right nor wrong. It was simply an incompatibility.

*PYL = dominant, master, top, etc
*pyl= bottom, submissive, slave, etc

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[tishadomina]

I would say that it depends entirely on the Master in question. I, personally, use the occasional mischievous act or snark to goad and coax my Master into inflicting more or something different on me. Does he mind? No; because I've asked him if it bothers him when we are not actively in a scene, to check and clarify that it is alright. Whether it is the same with your Dominant, is another matter.

I personally, when I had a sub, enjoyed some measure of challenge or 'fight' in them as well.

 

[thelaughingcat]

Another sub weighing in here *grins*

I have always used brattiness the same way Elle does - as a way of initiating without asking...a little light teasing or smartass remark to open the mood.

Some ex's have loved it, some hated it and saw it as something to be stamped out on 'my journey to being the perfect sub.'

If you enjoy being bratty, then you need to find someone who appreciates it as nuch as you

 

[desertslave]

Behavior, good or bad, is in the eye of the beholder, IMO.

I have seen P/p couples who were very serious almost all of the time, to serious during play but relaxed elsewhere, all the way to downright silly/sassy couples. I suspect that Master and I fall somewhere closer to the silly side of the spectrum. We enjoy what we do together, but we're not perfect. Sometimes mistakes make me giggle, and that tends to make Master laugh as well. I adore making him laugh at almost any time!

I'm not putting down the more serious types, it's just not our style. I think the happiest couples(+) are those whose styles fit together in whatever way they both prefer.

 

[Que]

Not a fan of actual bratty behavior. An impish look, a little clever resistance is fine. I just get bored if I feel like I have to pull teeth to gain compliance. It doesn't feel at all submissive to me if I have to wrangle it.

I get where some people would appreciate having to work for it though.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[tishadomina]

Sometimes I even make him hunt it out. Hiding in fields is fun. I wish we had woods here too. .

Seconding that; there are some lovely woodlands where I used to live, but it is a bit of a trek just for that!