*Submission*-Actions Speak louder than Words

[~Dream~]

Just sayin words Does mean alot in a relationship,dont get me wrong
However,in a D/s relationship ,especially a *NEW* one,the submissive Must back up the words with action.

Just saying "I Submit",for instance,doesnt mean a thing if no actions are behind it.(players do that)I feel we are more accurately judged by what we do,than what we say.,I know I have been anyways..I was doing alot of that just saying the "words" and hoping ,praying somehow that because my FEELINGS are Sincere that the rest would just fall into place somehow,someway....it didnt quite happen that way at all.. I harbored resentment and anger ,I felt I was being asked for more than was right at the time..

Recently when I voiced,thoughts,feelings,fears and concerns to my Master,He patiently listened ,time and again..He saw the frustration and He felt the pain I was having..I was so angry (at myself) but took alot out on Him ..that was dead wrong..He allowed me to look inside of myself for the answers I was seeking. Master is teaching me to THINK instead of always feel sometimes and thats really hard for me cause I have always been a " reactive person".
You really have to get it "mentally' also as well as emotionally"

However,I needed only to Trust Him,which comes very hard for me given my past abusive realtionships ,where Trust was violated and abused..
Trusting Artful now with EVERYTHING is what I choose to do now tho.,I have found that in Him I have new found strength, I am accepted.

I am backing my words up with actions now as I wish to see the Beauty in Me that my Master sees. I feel the *joy* that serving Him gives to me and I am starting to feel the VERY REAL Freedom that Submission brings..
Struggling was no fun at all,Submitting is Very rewarding..

My actions will be to prove both by actions and words (which can be frustrating online) but I WILL do it,that I want to be the Best Submissive that I can be for Master Artful.
Submission draws me closer to Him,close is where I feel Good,He loves that also.I have a 'hunger for the "closeness"..
Submitting always to Him,doing His will for Both of us will bring all the happiness I could ever dream of,Master says it only gets better,I believe that...

 

[Cirrus]

What the HELL is your point? And we care because....??? Shouldn't you be saying these things to Artful? It has no bearing on any of us, but rather on YOUR relationship. We fucking get it. You think Artful is great. I don't think he's so bad either. You find submission rewarding. WE FUCKING GET THAT TOO!!! Now please, please please stop posting this trite babbling.

 

[artful]

Cirrus

What the HELL is your point? And we care because....??? Shouldn't you be saying these things to Artful? It has no bearing on any of us, but rather on YOUR relationship. We fucking get it. You think Artful is great. I don't think he's so bad either. You find submission rewarding. WE FUCKING GET THAT TOO!!! Now please, please please stop posting this trite babbling.

Please feel FREE to not read any posts that are not of interest to you. Caustic words directed toward someone have a way of igniting flame wars.
Thanks,..................................Art

 

[Cirrus]

That's all they are, Artful, is words. Just phosphors on a screen. You can't see me, hear me, or touch me, nor I you. How much are our words really worth, caustic or otherwise?

Tell me honestly, Artful, though it is you she's constantly praising, don't you find this whole song and dance a little dry? I'm actually trying to stand up for you here, convoluted though it may seem. I wouldn't want things constantly said about me, whether positive or negative, that pertain to MY very personal relationship splashed all over a public board several times a week. Dream thinks you're a great guy. That's cool. I respect you as well. I however, do NOT respect her constant, vapid ramblings on the subject.

Ask yourself why she chose not to tell you this in private? Is it because you make her that happy, or is it because she wants to appear larger than life by constantly spewing how much she cares about you, what a good sub she is, amongst all the other things she's posted?

And if you haven't noticed, I have ignored ALL of her other posts. It's just getting old. Very very old. She's drudged your relationship up in post after post since day one.

 

[~Dream~]

*sigh*

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[UCE]

Re: *sigh*

Sigh.

Good answer. Seriously. Wish I had 1/10th your self-restraint and ability to ignore bait. You go, girl!

Unda

 

[artful]

Re: Re: *sigh*

Good answer. Seriously. Wish I had 1/10th your self-restraint and ability to ignore bait. You go, girl!

Unda

Thanks UCE! Actually,...I am quite proud of Dream and how she has progressed in such a short period of training.

Most all the board members here know she has had only a few days of real time training, (skin-to-skin). The rest has come from ONLINE.

Fortunately, due to her committment, her determination and strength of character, I have every confidence she will continue to learn and grow in her chosen lifestyle, with me as her Master.

I have had to revise part of my ONLINE plan, due to how some people have reacted to her posts. Not her fault.

As I had stated many times, my intentions were to share publicly, the trials and tribulations one can expect to go through, in developing and maintaining an LDR, with the intention of moving forward to one of close skin-to-skin relationship.

Dream and I had been honest in our questions and opinions, even though some thought otherwise. So be it.

Thank you for posting to her thread, and praising her for not taking the bait. I appreciate your comment, as does she.

 

[Lancecastor]

Dear Art & Dream

Yours is the first online romance I've ever seen played out in such detail.

It's not something I'd likely do, but that doesn't mean I don't respect what is either sheer courage (or lunacy!) in living out your courtship on an pron board.

All the best to both of you;

Lance

 

[lost]

Artful's dream-
i appericate every post you share with us. I have learned several things from you.

 

[lost]

...besides if it pleases Artful what else does it matter.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Interesting thoughts and topic....

 

[SexyChele]

Seeing this post pop back up makes me think of Artful and what a wonderfully caring man he was. Although he passed away over a year ago, it is still nice to remember what a positive influence we was to this community.

I certainly miss him....

 

[catalina_francisco]

Seeing this post pop back up makes me think of Artful and what a wonderfully caring man he was. Although he passed away over a year ago, it is still nice to remember what a positive influence we was to this community.

I certainly miss him....

Same thought crossed my mind when I came across the thread. In a way he still is here with us through his words and thoughts.

Catalina

 

[Caitlynne]

Seeing this post pop back up makes me think of Artful and what a wonderfully caring man he was. Although he passed away over a year ago, it is still nice to remember what a positive influence we was to this community.

I certainly miss him....

I thought the same thing.

When I first came to Lit and only lurked, he was one of the memebrs I read ALL the time.

I certainly miss him too, but it *is* good that we have his thoughts here to remind us how special he was.

~ Cait

 

[SierraMoon]

Seeing his posts after all this time, brought tears. Art and i became very close before he passed. i miss him with all my heart, and i can't seem to bring myself to take his name off my Yahoo friends list... *sigh*

i guess i still keep hoping that i will log on one day, and see his name lit up.

He is definitely missed by a lot of people.

Harry

 

[cellis]

Seeing his posts after all this time, brought tears. Art and i became very close before he passed. i miss him with all my heart, and i can't seem to bring myself to take his name off my Yahoo friends list... *sigh*

i guess i still keep hoping that i will log on one day, and see his name lit up.

He is definitely missed by a lot of people.

Harry

My thoughts exactly, Sierra...

I miss him terribly too...

 

[slaveskinky]

Dream reminds me of myself.

It never bothers me when someone reveals their deep love and devotion to their own. My goodness we do have many options for reading on this board so there by giving many choices for reading. I am new here but wish i could have had the priviledge of knowing such a caring Dom. Dream so sounded like myself. I was constantly rambling on about my love to Biker. Just my two cents worth.
slave
Deam sorry for your loss dear, can't even imagine how it still hurt.

 

[slaveskinky]

Sometimes one never learns.

i would have thought by now i would have learned not to believe everything i see in print...
slave