sub drop

[whimpering_brunette]

Quite welcome.

I could never just disappear from My girl, but then our relationship is one of love as well as Dominance and submission. To Me, it is My responsibility to help her deal with those feelings she has as she comes down. I do push at her edges and limits, and that makes her completely veunerable. At that time, IMO, its My responsibility and My joy to protect and nurture her as she comes back to a 'normal' state.

Sub Drop is a very serious emotional issue for submissives, and can exhibit signs similar to depression.

i'm very happy for You girl, then! *s*

Although He was a very good Dom to me in some ways, in hindsight, i realize the many ways in which He was not a good Dom at all.

The knowledge, i think, that power *is* responsibility, must be front and centre in a Dom's mind. i think, too, that compassion is of great import. Unfortunately for me, my Former lacked these qualites. Hence, Former.

Regardless, though, i struggled through this and two other instances of sub drop on my own. i wouldn't do it again by choice, but i know that it can be done. Further, learning what sub drop is has been empowering.

As a single, unowned sub, i am left to my own devices often, when it comes to aftercare, especially beyond the half hour or so after the scene.

*s* Smarter, stronger, wiser

~ whimpering_brunette

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I can't say that there are many like Me, cuz I am rather unique. But I sincerely hope that you do find a Dom who will fulfill your need to serve.

 

[Netzach]

True indeed!

We refer to it as "Top drop". And yes, I've experienced it a time or three.

Do you think there's kind of a stigma on dropping as the D?

Like, I find that there's a desire to cling or to reach out for the bottom which is, frankly...well feels like there's stigma on that. We're supposed to be completely autonomous powerhouses and all that. My desire for hugging and petting has to be secondary to the bottom's requirement for same, in order to be that elusive "Good Domme" I guess, but...it's just kind of complex. I'm not sure I'm making sense.

 

[ShamedGirl]

Hi ... I just wanted to post, cos I had Badddd Drop on Sunday evening and I want to be able to share with people who will understand!

after a whole weekend of playing, my beloved Master popped out for 30 mins to collect something and I dropped like a stone within minutes of him going!! It must have been the intensity of the whole weekend.

Instead of an obediently kneeling Slave, Master came back 30 mins later to find a crying, whimpering insecure, shamed wreck, huddled in the corner. I was soooo embarrassed and Pathetic
and what's worse! we HADN'T finished playing ... still had the evening ahead!

Master cuddled & stroked me for an hour and when we both realised it was a big Drop he then put me to bed, with scented Candles, good book, small brandy and lots of checking to see if I was OK. I was still a mess on Monday morning! *shaking head! I cannot imagine how I would have coped if he'd left me alone! *not going there!

Having discussed it properly next day(I do Drop sometimes, but this was the worst), we decided that it was down to some pretty intense playing which we spaced out over almost 3 days ... serious lack of Sleep *grin, Exhaustion from spending hours at Erotica (sex exhibition in London) and a sugar drop from not keeping up with food! The constant 'up/down' intensity of the intermittent play must have completely depleted my energy reserves!

Even today, I'm still a bit fragile and needy! Need to keep eating, and keep in touch with Master constantly.

In future we are going to be more careful about food, rest etc.!

I guess the fact that I'm posting here shows how bad the drop was! It's not exactly something I can share with work colleagues! I've told them I've got a Cold!

S

 

[Bredon]

Like, I find that there's a desire to cling or to reach out for the bottom which is, frankly...well feels like there's stigma on that. We're supposed to be completely autonomous powerhouses and all that. My desire for hugging and petting has to be secondary to the bottom's requirement for same, in order to be that elusive "Good Domme" I guess, but...it's just kind of complex. I'm not sure I'm making sense.
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You make complete sense, Netzach. I felt in a similar way,and about mental neediness too. I felt that I had always be the "cool" one, which became quite a drag after a while. I bought the NEW TOPPING BOOK, and found out that it's all bull-- that it's perfectly ok for a dom to need tenderness, and aftercare too.

And yes, I have experienced top drop-- or whatever it is-

Bredon

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Do you think there's kind of a stigma on dropping as the D?

Like, I find that there's a desire to cling or to reach out for the bottom which is, frankly...well feels like there's stigma on that. We're supposed to be completely autonomous powerhouses and all that. My desire for hugging and petting has to be secondary to the bottom's requirement for same, in order to be that elusive "Good Domme" I guess, but...it's just kind of complex. I'm not sure I'm making sense.

After a scene it is iomportant for Me to hold My lil one. Both for her and for Me.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

bumping one more from the past

 

[chy_girl]

Not long after I started with the Dom who's training, I asked him about sub drop. It had been an especially intense session and I knew what was going to come after I got home.

He said (and please excuse my mangling of the explanation) that the drop after a scene is the same as the drop that marathon runners get... it's like hitting the wall, so to speak, and that's it's very physiological in nature which lends to the psychological.

His suggestion: Start with caffeine. Since it's a stimulant it will help ease the immediate drop. Then move on lots of other fluids, especially sports drinks and water to help re-balance electrolytes. Chocolate is another good idea, followed by something high in protein and/or carbs.

Honestly, I though he'd lost it when he gave me an after care prescription for soda, a candy bar, and jerky... I'll be damned if it didn't work though.

Even after the very intense first flogging the other night there was no sub drop. A bit of an emotional release/let down, yes, but nothing that would be considered out of the ordinary after doing some kind of really fun vanilla activity and then going home.

Of course it doesn't help the chomping at the bit feeling that comes up between session, but we can't win them all.

Anyways, there's a suggestion for the trying if anyone is so inclined. And there isn't any reason why it wouldn't work on top drop either.

 

[Imahavah]

I have never heard of Top Drop before! Very interesting topic. VERY.