Stupefying collarme sub profile

[DVS]

Hmm, well seeing as collarme.com seems to often be the topic of choice these days, F decided to do a profile and give it a go. LOL, for a pic he submitted one of me in bondage, just a section of my back, no butt, no boobs, just midback and shoulders in black rope.....they rejected it on the grounds it was inappropriate, go figure .....has reinforced my first impression of the site several months ago which was not good or a place to be taken seriously.

Catalina

I've never seen anywhere on that site where they mention what is appropriate and what isn't. But, maybe they mention that, if you post a picture in your profile. I haven't done that. Really, it's their libility that they are worried about. I guess they don't want overly sexual pictures to be plastered all over. And, I bet you'd be able to post that pic, if the ropes weren't there. That is probably just too suggestive for their "appropriateness".

Bondage pics are probably taboo, just like blatant pussy shots probably are. But, obviously, tits and ass are OK. Now, why don't you get him to post your freshly punished ass on there. But then, you'd have to either give us a link or post it here, so we could all check you out.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Now, why don't you get him to post your freshly punished ass on there. But then, you'd have to either give us a link or post it here, so we could all check you out.

LOL, what, you ain't seen enough pics of my bare. blushing (and sometimes bleeding) arse on Lit?!!

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

Collarme used to allow bondage pictures, I think they don't anymore for legal reasons.

How boring!!

Catalina

 

[Marquis]

How boring!!

Catalina

Yeah, I had a few pictures taken down for the same reason. It is kind of silly that we can't have bondage pictures on a BDSM personals site!

 

[catalina_francisco]

Yeah, I had a few pictures taken down for the same reason. It is kind of silly that we can't have bondage pictures on a BDSM personals site!

LOL, F is in shock!! Of course, if it was a cult marrying off 14 yo girls to much older men who already have several wives and then expecting them to breed, the US government would be able to turn a blind eye and make a lot of empty excuses why it continues to happen on their soil. How dare we consent to being tied up and used sexually.

Catalina

 

[sincerely_helene]

Yeah, I had a few pictures taken down for the same reason.

Don't they know who you are???

 

[DVS]

LOL, what, you ain't seen enough pics of my bare. blushing (and sometimes bleeding) arse on Lit?!!

Catalina

Don't you know me by now? I love seeing a good punished behind. Just can't get enough of that. In my mind, the next step is taking her ass.

 

[shy slave]

When I read the above, I first thought: He's wrong, there are already three stooges here, no need of any replacements. Next thought was, that's not necessarily true for him, as my stooges are not his stooges. Next in the logic chain is this, and I am not entirely sure about it, but will put it out for general comment: I think everybody on this board, on all message boards, is as assuming and judgemental as the most outwardly intolerant poster we know of. Everybody reads certain messages and decides to despise so-and-so for posting them. Everyone's group of so-and-so's is different than everyone else's although there are probably certain obvious targets that a lot of us hold in common. We are all extremely assuming and judgemental but not always about the same things, given our unique experiences, backgrounds, and the differing ideas we have been propogandized or brainwashed with. And there are hundreds of ways of expressing (or not expressing--some people are brilliant at this) such feelings. But inside one's own head or maybe in private to close friends, we all judge, we all assume things, we all are extremely intolerant. I think it's useful to point such things out when you see them, Marquis, because it gives the rest of us an opportunity to examine ourselves and see how we do it too.

What I wonder about is what makes one person more intolerant, assuming, or judgemental than another? The fact that they display it openly (or even surreptitiously, but in a stuipid or obvious way)? If you posit, as I do, that everybody feels these things and feels them strongly, then at very least, those individuals who display these feelings openly, in addition to displaying these negative traits, are also exhibiting courage and honesty--at least moreso than those of us who keep most or all of our attitudes toward others inside.

I love the thought that we all have different stooges, it made me smile as I imagined who would be on whose list.

The rest of the post makes some good points.
It may make an interesting thread ~ what causes anyone to find another poster annoying/irrating or simply a pain in the ass?

Are they being courageous for speaking out, and are they viewed as a troll if they are a newer person speaking out. I have been here less than two years, and consider myself new compared to others.
I have alot of respect for some posters who rarely drop in but when they do their posts are always worth reading, yet I am aware they annoy others here. Is it becuase their viewpoint or lifestyle is so different from what we ensivage BDSM or D/s to be or is it the tone we read into those posts.

Lets face it, we all read posts differently, depending on our mood and frame of mind. No-one wants to think they are intolerant but everyone has a button that can be pushed by the wrong person.

Lots to ponder on, Thanks Slutacus

 

[alice_underneath]

If you posit, as I do, that everybody feels these things and feels them strongly, then at very least, those individuals who display these feelings openly, in addition to displaying these negative traits, are also exhibiting courage and honesty--at least moreso than those of us who keep most or all of our attitudes toward others inside.

Actually, there are many people (including myself) who do not waste a lot of mental energy on those whom we do not respect.

Further, in my opinion, there is a profound difference between "courage and honesty" and the absence of common courtesy.

Strong opinions expressed on a topic in general reflect a fervent interest in the subject at hand.

Personal insults directed at an individual simply reflect a nasty or spiteful rudeness.

Just my opinion.

Alice

 

[graceanne]

Hmm, well seeing as collarme.com seems to often be the topic of choice these days, F decided to do a profile and give it a go. LOL, for a pic he submitted one of me in bondage, just a section of my back, no butt, no boobs, just midback and shoulders in black rope.....they rejected it on the grounds it was inappropriate, go figure .....has reinforced my first impression of the site several months ago which was not good or a place to be taken seriously.

Catalina

On my profile I tried to put a picture of a woman wearing a perfectly decent shirt that said 'G_ F_CK Y_ _RS_LF Care to buy a vowel?', and they wouldn't let me put it up either.

 

[jadefirefly]

[hijack] Marquis, I like the new av. Okay, all done thread-jacking now. [/hijack]

 

[Blushing Bottom]

I've never seen anywhere on that site where they mention what is appropriate and what isn't. But, maybe they mention that, if you post a picture in your profile.

That is exactly where the notification is. No pics of bondage are allowed on the site. Go figure.

 

[Blushing Bottom]

He is I and I am him.

Almost prefect Tantric philosophy. All that's missing is the ...we are all together.

 

[Marquis]

Don't they know who you are???

Obviously not!

[hijack] Marquis, I like the new av. Okay, all done thread-jacking now. [/hijack]

Thank you sweetie.

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

Actually, there are many people (including myself) who do not waste a lot of mental energy on those whom we do not respect.

Further, in my opinion, there is a profound difference between "courage and honesty" and the absence of common courtesy.

Strong opinions expressed on a topic in general reflect a fervent interest in the subject at hand.

Personal insults directed at an individual simply reflect a nasty or spiteful rudeness.

Just my opinion.

Alice

After years of viewing anti social and negative behaviour from school playgrounds to Corporate Boardrooms I have come to one conclusion. Its always founded on ignorance , though as the people involved usually project classic narcissism occasionally still leaves me astounded . The Forum being a Community has no more immunity to this than any other part of society. Somewhat contradictory however that the BDSM Community generally professes to be more open minded than other micro community's . It would be funny if the constant nuances didn't distract from the exchange of ideas which is what I initially believed the premise of a Forum to be about.

My most significant character flaw is assuming that other people are well intentioned or at least reasonable. Wearing my 'rose colored glasses' as friends often remind me . When I have the energy I try to view people with seemingly malevolent intent with a degree of empathy . The classic conducts of snide comments under the guise of humor, mob mentality where people you cannot imagine even relating socially to each other cluster for the common cause of negativity , seemingly inability to make real positive contribution to the general Community unless its completely self serving, distorted view of social protocols and common courtesy. All of which compliment their inherent narcissistic nature. To me it comes back down to intent again not content. I have no issue with people having differing opinions to myself, that's a gift that affords me the opportunity to learn. I am grateful for the exchange of ideas . Its after observing repetitive negativity , sarcasm and cynicism that I start to become jaded.

My saving grace is my strong belief in karma...........smiles. Thank God , Vishnu and Buddha for my rose colored glasses and for karma when they fail me.


"Somewhat contradictory however that the BDSM Community generally professes to be more open minded than other micro community's" . Just to be clear so that I am not challenged as being contradictory, I personally do not ascribe to that particular credo in totality ,after reasonable exploration and my own personal ethics I am able to discriminate in a positive manner to the ideas/values I am able to personally embrace

 

[Slutacus]

I don't.

You'll learn.

 

[jadefirefly]

Thank you sweetie.

Oooh! He called me sweetie!
/fan_self




*giggles* Sorry, I'm feeling kind of wierd tonight.