Stuck. Frustrated. Argh.

bashfullyshameless

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I want to write, but I don't. And I can, but I can't.

I'm home from work for the next few weeks on what you'd call a seasonal break thingie. This should be awesome.

My girlfriend just got home from two years in Boston at a school for book binding & restoration (last formal program for such in the country, from what I can tell). We're moving into a new home in just a couple weeks. This is awesome.

Except for now we're sharing my one-bedroom apartment. We're both constantly hanging out in the living room. I'm at my desk behind my computer screen and she's on the couch playing the hell out of Skyrim on the PlayStation.

And so I cannot write. I can't start stories. I can't pick up with stories I've started. I could do it for about a week, given that I have earplug headphones and the computer monitor *mostly* blocks my view of her and the television, but... ARGH.

I love her dearly. I'm so glad she's home. But this disruption of my writing productivity when I've finally got all this time on my hands is really frustrating. :p

Thanks for reading about my pain, Literoticans. I knew you cared. I knew you really, really cared.
 
When I have a killer story in my noodle I find that I can write it in the midst of a prison riot, if its THAT good. Its kinda how I know when the story is worth writing. So if your honey is more distracting than your story, put the story aside till a great one grabs you.
 
I don't think JBJ went far enough. Put what you're doing aside and play with your honey. :D
 
Hokay, if the noises from the vid game are distracting you wear ear buds and listen to your favorite tunes.

If your lady's hotness is distracting, take plt's advice.;)

If your muse refuses to be courted, you're pretty much dead in the water. You can force some paras out, but odds are you'll look at them later and wonder 'How could I have written this crap?' :D
 
I don't think JBJ went far enough. Put what you're doing aside and play with your honey. :D

I have him on ignore, but I'll happily respond to this: she's been home a couple weeks now. We play just fine. Sadly, neither of us have the superhuman stamina of the characters here on Lit. :)
 
I want to be clear that these are all first world problems (and then some). I just felt like grumbling.

Try shifting gears and forget old stories, think about requited love, simmering into mutual giving. A maturing of the relationship, appreciating the way her neck moves as she kills cyber villains, how her hands manipulate the buttons, "Quick thumbs has my Lady,"

Your brain is in a different realm since she returned, capture the what you feel now, not what you fantasized about while she was gone. Life moved on, catch up! :D
 
You have my sympathies. We were in a similar situation for two months before our wedding, in between leases and a big move down south, with boxes piled halfway to the ceiling, and both of us there close to 24/7.

Either figure out a way to work on the couch with her (I admit that I now do a lot of work with my feet tucked under Mr. Tat's legs while he plays xbox), or schedule some out-of-apartment writing time at a coffee shop or library or something. There's nothing wrong with needing alone time.
 
Your enthusiasm just dropped and its natural. BJ something was right about telling you that killer stories have the power to grab you. So, don't worry because if inspiration comes, you will get there.
 
Hokay, if the noises from the vid game are distracting you wear ear buds and listen to your favorite tunes.

If your lady's hotness is distracting, take plt's advice.;)

If your muse refuses to be courted, you're pretty much dead in the water. You can force some paras out, but odds are you'll look at them later and wonder 'How could I have written this crap?' :D

He's a namby-pamby crybaby with nuthin much to write.
 
Have you ever thought about going elsewhere to write? If you own a laptop, ipad, whatever, go somewhere that brings you mental peace of mind (e.g. a nice quiet park, a quaint little coffee shop, etc). Hopefully your girlfriend will understand you need peace and quiet to write, or that you just need a little "me time" during the day to regain your sanity!

P.S. Bring back an uncensored version of Angels, Demons, and Alex! Most amazing story ever!
 
Have you ever thought about going elsewhere to write? If you own a laptop, ipad, whatever, go somewhere that brings you mental peace of mind (e.g. a nice quiet park, a quaint little coffee shop, etc). Hopefully your girlfriend will understand you need peace and quiet to write, or that you just need a little "me time" during the day to regain your sanity!

P.S. Bring back an uncensored version of Angels, Demons, and Alex! Most amazing story ever!

The girlfriend totally understands. She went to dinner with her dad tonight and not a word of objection was raised over my not going along. Honestly, she's even buggier about needing her alone time than I am.

I long for a cheap laptop or something else I can have in my lap so I can write on the couch. My writing space has this weird dichotomy now; I sit on the couch and think of things to write, and I'm all comfortable and creative there... but then I have to get to my desk to write, and something happens with the change of physical space that makes it feel like more of a chore than it really is (I do this for fun, after all).

As for censorship -- listen, I'm really sorry if anyone's disappointed by some of the changes, but it's not "censored" so much as edited. It's STILL steamy and explicit, even if I've been more elegant with a few of the word choices. I don't actually read much erotica outside of this website--and not much urban fantasy, either. I had little sense of how much smut was enough when I first wrote the story. There were smut angles that just cluttered up the place and either didn't really go anywhere or distracted from the main drive of the story. I wanted the sex scenes to serve the story, and not the other way around.

Nobody asked me to clean it up. I made that choice myself, because I felt it was the write thing to do to create a polished, finished product.

I am extremely grateful that people still enjoy the story. I wish the internet allowed me to express how sincere I am about that. I'm glad it still sells, and I'm glad that its time here on Literotica is remembered. That story made a huge difference in my life. So thank you for the compliment (I mean that), and again, I'm sincerely sorry if the changes weren't to your liking, but I felt they were necessary.
 
Well if she's receptive to your need to have time to work it shouldn't be hard to ask for it (although I can see how it might be despite the fact that it shouldn't be). Not just as an occasional thing, but an everyday thing, because of course, you need to write every day.
 
The thing I love about Skyrim is that you can go explore freely, and while you're walking along the road anything can happen, from an assassin popping out to just regular people that are completely lost.

So write something that lets you take advantage of this readily available visual scenery. That's not to say you just let her go and do her own thing, you can nudge her to say, take on a bounty and write about how that plays out.

Also, Skyrim is fertile territory for your imagination because even when you get married to another character, all that really changes is that they come live in your house and run a store and start calling you 'love' and 'dear.' To me that is screaming out for a scene where the marriage is consummated.

In a nutshell, turn the distraction into a source of material. It may not be the story you wanted to write, but it's better than trying to walk uphill through snow against the wind, eh?
 
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Have you ever thought about going elsewhere to write? If you own a laptop, ipad, whatever, go somewhere that brings you mental peace of mind (e.g. a nice quiet park, a quaint little coffee shop, etc). Hopefully your girlfriend will understand you need peace and quiet to write, or that you just need a little "me time" during the day to regain your sanity!

P.S. Bring back an uncensored version of Angels, Demons, and Alex! Most amazing story ever!

Only the government censors.
 
JB, in your case the people around here make an exception to that rule. It's called the ignore function.

(Not quoted to save the people who have him on ignore the displeasure of reading him)
 
JB, in your case the people around here make an exception to that rule. It's called the ignore function.

(Not quoted to save the people who have him on ignore the displeasure of reading him)

All but you and STELLA.
 
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