Struggleing with some sex scenes

[TarnishedPenny]

When I am not in the mood, I'll just put a "sticky note" one or two liner and come back to it. But then I tend to be a stream of consciousness type of writer. I have to get the flow down and then I go back in rewrite and fill in the details or elaborate if it feels like it needs more.

One of the stories for the 750 word contest I glossed over the whole sex thing and when I went back and read it, it was better without.

One of the things that will make me stop reading a story faster than anything is the whole, "OMG, I have gone 5 paragraphs without a sex scene, let me slam something in here."

Sex in your stories should be as natural as having lunch. If it moves the story forward or foreshadows something later, then by all means go into graphic details about the table cloth and the perfume the waiter is wearing.

Oh, I like that! Sometimes you hit it just right.

 

[ElectricBlue]

Oh, I like that! Sometimes you hit it just right.

In my stories, often following coffee in a café. Contentment follows .

 

[TarnishedPenny]

In my stories, often following coffee in a café. Contentment follows .

What’s not to like? (Asides from having to put your clothes back on, of course.)

 

[davion2308]

There's a balance

I always deal with finding the balance of writing hot, action-packed sex and bringing the characters into the story.

I have much higher scores when there are people in the tales, not just fucking. It's tough to create the picture and then get into the physical aspect of things without feeling like I'm dragging the story down. I'll have characters that are friendly, polite, nice, and then to start "fucking her pussy with his huge cock" just takes away from the story.

It's all in the vocabulary. I find I'm very careful with which words I use for what, specifically with the anatomy. Boobs, tits, breasts, chest ... I can never decide which works best for breasts for certain stories. But if I can get the story close enough and have people buying into the characters, they're forgive an imperfect sex scene.

 

[tomlitilia]

You write "scenes" in plural, so I assume there are several scenes rather than a final bang. That makes it more challenging to avoid being repetative. Two things that might help:
1. Think about what's unique about each scene and focus on that. What are the implications of the sex? How does it move narrative? If it doesn't, maybe the scene isn't needed.

2. Hold back in the earlier scenes so there is another level to ramp up to in the later; don't lead with tripple anal.

 

[KeithD]

What moves into the sex act and where it goes afterward are the easiest places to give fresh images and action.

 

[lovecraft68]

You write "scenes" in plural, so I assume there are several scenes rather than a final bang. That makes it more challenging to avoid being repetative. Two things that might help:
1. Think about what's unique about each scene and focus on that. What are the implications of the sex? How does it move narrative? If it doesn't, maybe the scene isn't needed.

2. Hold back in the earlier scenes so there is another level to ramp up to in the later; don't lead with tripple anal.

There's times I write a scene knowing there will be another later on and one that needs to be more climactic. When that happens if I catch myself really going all in on the first with what I consider some great lines and action, I'll copy paste part and drop it into another doc to save it, then ease up on the rest of the scene

Meaning what you can do is write it hot, get it all out there, then look back and maybe pick a few things out of that one to bank for later and add a little to what remains.

In cruder terms don't shoot your wad when you character first shoots theirs

 

[WoodmanStark]

I'll second what karaline says with respect to writing for Lit audiences and I fell into that trap to begin with: like oops, 500 words and no sex?! As I gained confidence ( and supportive feedback helped ) I realised I was writing for my own pleasure and the whole process became more rewarding.

I'm writing ONLY for myself and consider it a nice bonus if someone else enjoys it too.
I realize that as I add more chapters to "A Visit From the Sex Goddess" the sex scenes may get a bit repetitive in the descriptions, but since I'm writing for myself I refuse to worry about it.

 

[Maloufokker]

I'm not an expert here.

What I find refreshing is to take simple graphically descriptive text and turn it into dialogue between the characters.
This leaves more to the mind of the reader to fill in the pictures - rather like radio versus television.

Dialogue can also make an immense difference in the nuances of the scene.
Are they making love or are they having hot passionate monkey-sex?
The graphics will be very similar, but the understanding of the emotions and the passions involved will be totally different.

Can the action go from one to the other and back again?
Imagine a group sex scene and ponder...

Enjoy writing.

 

[Salacious_Scribe]

You may be getting burned out on that story. Try writing something else for a time. I sometimes have to stop writing something and work on a different story. This is why I have over 100 stories in various stages of completion. Some are just a few sentences some need one last editing pass.

 

[dontcallme82]

A lot of really good posts in here.

I am currently writing my first story and I was concerned that I wouldn't put enough sex scenes into the story. But I just thought if I don't enjoy reading excessively long sex scenes going into huge detail then I don't need to write to write scenes like this.

The only time I am writing sex scenes in any detail is when I see a real need for it, such as story development or a new act to bring the story forward.

 

[8letters]

I have really struggled with writing the sex scenes in the current project I am working on.

I really like the story and where it is going, but writing the actual mechanics of the sexual acts is getting tedious. Seems like I repeat adjectives and descriptive phrases constantly, and Im afraid it will get boring for the reader. It sure is arduous for me.

I have found myself in front of the keyboard several times and thought "I don't want to write this" I want to finish the story, but I feel stuck.

Anyone have this same issue? Advice or want to write them for me? (I kid, I kid)

I have the same issue all the time. I'll frequently write "THEY HAVE SEX" as a place holder and move on to writing the next scene, and then write all the sex scenes last.

Some suggestions:
* Go read a story with a sex scene you liked and see what you can adapt from that. Hopefully that will also help you with using the same adjectives and descriptive phrases
* As others have said, each sex scene except the last should advance the story. Work dialogue into the sex scene that moves the story forward
* Try to think of something novel about the sex scene. A different location like the kitchen, they use a different position, they use a sex toy or something ordinary sexually, the couple has to be quiet for some reason, one or both remain partially dressed, etc
* Scan porn videos for a set up that you like, and then transcribe that scene

 

[stickygirl]

ooops - wrong thread

talk amongst yourselves - blond moment

 

[Athalia]

Many of the sex scenes in my stories have the characters experience moments of doubt ... are they doing it right? Am I attractive enough for my lover? Am I going to ruin this somehow?

I include these doubts because they've been a part of my thinking with every new lover I've been with. I think it makes the scene more realistic.

Some of my characters find themselves working through problems that had bedeviled their sex lives before, like early bad experiences. As they fuck, they're working through the emotions that crop up, and find a way to conquer them.

It seems to work. At least for me.

 

[jehoram]

Some of my characters find themselves working through problems that had bedeviled their sex lives before, like early bad experiences. As they fuck, they're working through the emotions that crop up, and find a way to conquer them.

That's actually the key element of her story "The Pond"

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-pond-7

It takes it to lengths beyond any other story I've read. And it seems to be rated pretty high, so it must strike some nerves out there. (At least, I thought it might when I edited the story.)