And so does he.My advice may go against the norm, but I would suggest you approach him sexually from the top without talking about it beforehand.
I have a dominant husband, and in our early marriage we switched roles quite a bit without really talking about it beforehand. I'd just show up with a strap-on - or take initiative that put me in positions of control - or roleplay authoritative character/positions. He almost invariably went along with me because it surprised, entertained, excited him, etc.
In time, we have settled into a relationship that reflects our more comfortable roles. But we would never have done all that experimenting if we had talked it out beforehand, and planned it consciously - we were both too shy and/or too fixed in what we thought we were supposed to be.
It's true that if you don't talk ahead of time, your advances may be rejected. But don't take it personally. I can tell you from experience that rejection at first suggestion doesn't necessarily mean rejection over time.
I know that verbal communication is important . . . I'm just suggesting that we can include this kind of spontaneous play as an element of communication. It is one way of bypassing the knee-jerk "I don't do that" reaction, because sometimes I do the things I don't think I'll do.
) I told her it really turned me on and I asked if she enjoyed it. After a few seconds of acting embarrassed, and feeling safe that what she had done I had truly loved, we talked about the idea of her being more in charge. It was a slow process, but our sexual life is much better because of that initial conversation.
Try telling him you want to try topping him in bed. And you might need to be more specific about what you want to do, for instance; Tell him to lay back and let you edge him for twenty minutes. No cumming until the clock rings. It doesn't seem like a long time, not too scary-- and he can hang on to the headboard if he doesn't trust you with the rope.
