Strictly Anal

[southernsky]

After being terrified of anal for years, I finally had an amazing anal experience the other night! The minute he entered me, I started cumming and did not stop for five minutes or so, then I got too sore to continue. I'm still sore from it, but I'm sure it will go away and I'll try again Question though- will I be able to go for longer with practice? It seemed like an awfully short time before I got too sore to continue. I did NOT know that it was supposed to feel that good though! What exactly did he hit that made me cum? Can he reach my g-spot somehow through my ass? Was it just the novelty of the whole thing?

 

[EJFan]

congratulations on having such a great experience! i hope future ones get even better.

he can't stimulate the g-spot from anal sex though. the g-spot is on the anterior wall (top when you're on your back) of the vagina... so it wasn't that.

i've never been on the receiving end of anal but i'd suspect that some practice and maybe some more lube should delay the onset of your soreness.

 

[Guest]

After being terrified of anal for years, I finally had an amazing anal experience the other night! The minute he entered me, I started cumming and did not stop for five minutes or so, then I got too sore to continue. I'm still sore from it, but I'm sure it will go away and I'll try again Question though- will I be able to go for longer with practice? It seemed like an awfully short time before I got too sore to continue. I did NOT know that it was supposed to feel that good though! What exactly did he hit that made me cum? Can he reach my g-spot somehow through my ass? Was it just the novelty of the whole thing?

Yea!!! Congratulations!

And yes, with practice you'll be able to go longer. Lots of lube - don't be afraid to stop and re-lube during the process.

The anus is a terrific erogenous zone with many pleasurable nerve endings. That, with the novelty and naughtiness aspect cause incredible orgasms.

Well done, both of you!

 

[naughtygirl69s]

he can't stimulate the g-spot from anal sex though. the g-spot is on the anterior wall (top when you're on your back) of the vagina... so it wasn't that.

actually, the G-Spot CAN be stimulated that way. The wall of tissue between the anus and vagina isn't that thick and at the right angle the penis could stimulate the g-spot through the anus

 

[mirrors2]

Dunno if i should be asking this here, or creating a new thread..

Do any of you find that anal is significantly better after a round of 'regular' sex? I'm trying to build up a handbook for the girl, y'see...

 

[EJFan]

actually, the G-Spot CAN be stimulated that way. The wall of tissue between the anus and vagina isn't that thick and at the right angle the penis could stimulate the g-spot through the anus

i'll trust you on this but the geography isn't clicking for me. the g-spot is more or less behind the clitoris but i guess you're saying the upper wall of the rectum is close enough that it can be pushed that far forward?

 

[Exciteher]

After being terrified of anal for years, I finally had an amazing anal experience the other night!

After transending a fear like that, isn't it great to discover a surprising, reward like that?? Whoohoo! Go girl!

The minute he entered me, I started cumming and did not stop for five minutes or so, then I got too sore to continue. I'm still sore from it, but I'm sure it will go away and I'll try again Question though- will I be able to go for longer with practice? It seemed like an awfully short time before I got too sore to continue.

Yeah, it will probably get easier, but you probably got sore due to lack of lubrication. Just using proper lubrication will let you go longer. The anal canal has no mucous membranes, unlike your vagina. So use LOTS of lube, thicker lubes work better for anal, silicone gel lubes work great and last and last...get a sampler pack from Toys in Babeland and see which works for you. Lube, Lube, Lube! Be careful though, those tissues are fragile, way more fragile than your vagina.

I did NOT know that it was supposed to feel that good though! What exactly did he hit that made me cum? Can he reach my g-spot somehow through my ass? Was it just the novelty of the whole thing?

For some people it does not feel quite that good, its an individual thing. But when its good, it can be very good! lol! Ya know, there has not been much research about this, even now it is a bit taboo. At the end of your spine there is a huge node of nerve bundles so some critical nerves could be stimulated. I have had women tell me that their "g-spot" was stimulated. There are theorys that the pelvic nerve bundles that are associated with sensing pressure are stimulated... so it also could be that the nerve bundle associated with the "g-spot" could be involved indirectly... did it feel like a "g-spot" orgasm? Also, I have seen two women have a "Petite Morte"... so, it can be powerful.

No doubt the thrill and dirty fun of breaking a "taboo" could have been involved... but time will tell as this becomes less novel. Some people respond like this.. some do not, some respond somewhere inbetween. In anycase, you are definately not alone... Enjoy!

 

[naughtygirl69s]

i'll trust you on this but the geography isn't clicking for me. the g-spot is more or less behind the clitoris but i guess you're saying the upper wall of the rectum is close enough that it can be pushed that far forward?

not exactly

it's that the wall of the rectum is thin, therefore the spot can be stimulated THROUGH the thin wall

it's not exactly "behind" the clitoris"

the vagina is basically tube, and the gspot is along the upper wall of that tube, the rectum is also tube, so therefore but pushing on the wall of the rectal "tube" you get to the front of the vaginal "tube"

clear as mud?

 

[LadyJeanne]

I'm as confused as EJ, and I'm not sure this diagram clears it up for me.

http://a-s.clayton.edu/hampikian/1901G/objectives/Figs/gspot.jpg

 

[naughtygirl69s]

I'm as confused as EJ, and I'm not sure this diagram clears it up for me.

http://a-s.clayton.edu/hampikian/1901G/objectives/Figs/gspot.jpg

this diagragm explains it perfectly

if you were to put your finger in the anus and press "up" in the same "come hither" motion your finger would be pressing through the wall of the rectum and through the wall of the vagina against the gspot

granted the prssure isn't as direct, but for some that can be all the stimulatin they need especially if they are really turned on, and the spot is swelled up

 

[kiwichyck]

After being terrified of anal for years, I finally had an amazing anal experience the other night! The minute he entered me, I started cumming and did not stop for five minutes or so, then I got too sore to continue. I'm still sore from it, but I'm sure it will go away and I'll try again Question though- will I be able to go for longer with practice? It seemed like an awfully short time before I got too sore to continue. I did NOT know that it was supposed to feel that good though! What exactly did he hit that made me cum? Can he reach my g-spot somehow through my ass? Was it just the novelty of the whole thing?

Well, I'm a relatively new convert to the pleasures of anal myself. Now that I've got over the 'newness' factor, I find it a bit harder to get into it lately.
However I do have to say, when it's good, it's f'ing unbelieveably good.
For me, there is a spot somewhere quite deep inside that is really good but I don't think its the g spot, perhaps one of the other so-called alphabetical spots . On a good day the sensation around my asshole alone will get me off big time. I once told my SO that it felt a lot like another clit.
Most of the time I find it gets uncomfortable once I orgasm, so I try to hold off. Lotsa lube does help, but it isn't a cure all. I find that going s-l-o-w is the much better option. I gotta be pretty close to orgasm to enjoy a good ass pounding.

As for your other question. Yes. With practise it does get easier. But then I've also found that the novelty wears off. Somehow it's not as much fun when it's not naughty anymore. *sigh*

Sorry if I'm rambling or not making sense. I'm pretty drunken. And I'm not getting any tonight. It's days like this that I wish I was a man. (nah not really).

 

[EJFan]

this diagragm explains it perfectly

if you were to put your finger in the anus and press "up" in the same "come hither" motion your finger would be pressing through the wall of the rectum and through the wall of the vagina against the gspot

granted the prssure isn't as direct, but for some that can be all the stimulatin they need especially if they are really turned on, and the spot is swelled up

ok. thanks. i would have never suspected this to be so possible because of the logistics... like i said though, i trusted you to be correct.

appreciate it.

 

[danmone]

Wasn't the "plot" of the movie Deep Throat that Linda Lovelace had a clit in her throat?

Maybe you're on to something!!!

 

[southernsky]

well, so much for that short-lived thrill. Turns out that it freaked him out for some reason, and he's not that into the whole concept. I've been walking around feeling like a liberated woman, and having a great time, so I'm not so sure what his problem might be. It just feels really good to break down some irrational taboo like thoughts on my part. Like, why on earth shouldn't I get immense pleasure from my ass too? I'm really damn happy about this! Why shouldn't sex in three holes be better than in two? That's my logic anyways... I'm thinking maybe our relationship has a few more holes in it than I thought, but who knows. I felt really vulnerable afterwards, and his reaction really hurt my feelings, and I still don't know exactly why, but it's my body dammit and he can't stop me from being happy about the experience if he tries!!! And I'm happy! I've wanted to enjoy anal for years, and it finally happened! I just wish he liked it too.

 

[Guest]

well, so much for that short-lived thrill. Turns out that it freaked him out for some reason, and he's not that into the whole concept. I've been walking around feeling like a liberated woman, and having a great time, so I'm not so sure what his problem might be. It just feels really good to break down some irrational taboo like thoughts on my part. Like, why on earth shouldn't I get immense pleasure from my ass too? I'm really damn happy about this! Why shouldn't sex in three holes be better than in two? That's my logic anyways... I'm thinking maybe our relationship has a few more holes in it than I thought, but who knows. I felt really vulnerable afterwards, and his reaction really hurt my feelings, and I still don't know exactly why, but it's my body dammit and he can't stop me from being happy about the experience if he tries!!! And I'm happy! I've wanted to enjoy anal for years, and it finally happened! I just wish he liked it too.

I'm sorry to hear that.

The problem is his, not yours, of course.

Perhaps you need a stronger partner, one who is more concerned about your experiences?

At any rate, congratulations on discovering new sexual delights.

 

[naughtygirl69s]

well, so much for that short-lived thrill. Turns out that it freaked him out for some reason, and he's not that into the whole concept. I've been walking around feeling like a liberated woman, and having a great time, so I'm not so sure what his problem might be. It just feels really good to break down some irrational taboo like thoughts on my part. Like, why on earth shouldn't I get immense pleasure from my ass too? I'm really damn happy about this! Why shouldn't sex in three holes be better than in two? That's my logic anyways... I'm thinking maybe our relationship has a few more holes in it than I thought, but who knows. I felt really vulnerable afterwards, and his reaction really hurt my feelings, and I still don't know exactly why, but it's my body dammit and he can't stop me from being happy about the experience if he tries!!! And I'm happy! I've wanted to enjoy anal for years, and it finally happened! I just wish he liked it too.

he's just not THAT into you?

 

[Mr.Meaty]

Congrats on a wonderful experience. Im sorry there seems to be some issue for your partner but you should still be excited as some people never get to enjoy the experience at all.

 

[Exciteher]

well, so much for that short-lived thrill. Turns out that it freaked him out for some reason, and he's not that into the whole concept. I've been walking around feeling like a liberated woman, and having a great time, so I'm not so sure what his problem might be.

The intensity of your experience may have frightened him. Just the power of your pleasure could do it. This can be a very intimate thing... he may not be able to handle that yet. It also may have brought out some internal conflicts in him, especially if he has any unconcious, deep seated negative judgements about what you two did. Fear is one reaction to the unexpected, sounds like this whole experience was surprising to both of you. You sound empowered, that may also produce anxiety in him if he has control issues. So many things he may be reacting to, as I said, it can be a powerful experience...

.....I'm really damn happy about this!

You have every right to be!

Why shouldn't sex in three holes be better than in two? That's my logic anyways... I'm thinking maybe our relationship has a few more holes in it than I thought, but who knows.

Umm... are you makeing a pun? loll! The irony in this passage notwithstanding, only you two know about your relationship. This situation really underscores the importance of communications and being "on the same page" and present with your partner. The better that is, the harder you work at those things, the easier it is to discover and enjoy deeper pleasures together, but I get the impression he is not very expressive?

I felt really vulnerable afterwards, and his reaction really hurt my feelings, and I still don't know exactly why.... I just wish he liked it too.

Feeling vulnerable afterwards is understandable, but remember it is so powerful of you to be able to go there...it is all so intimate.. did he emotionally withdraw?? Was he judgemental? Give him a bit of time to process things, then talk about it with him. Maybe let him read this thread. How did he feel?... all you can do is start from where he emotionally is.. and see if you can lead him to you somehow, if that is what you want. If he cannot, or will not, and this is that important to you, then you may have some decisions to make. At least you have discovered something wonderful about yourself! Hope you can work it all out, good luck!

 

[Not Normal]

Maybe he's scared he'll never bring you to that height again?

 

[phoenix1224]

well, so much for that short-lived thrill. Turns out that it freaked him out for some reason, and he's not that into the whole concept. I've been walking around feeling like a liberated woman, and having a great time, so I'm not so sure what his problem might be. It just feels really good to break down some irrational taboo like thoughts on my part. Like, why on earth shouldn't I get immense pleasure from my ass too? I'm really damn happy about this! Why shouldn't sex in three holes be better than in two? That's my logic anyways... I'm thinking maybe our relationship has a few more holes in it than I thought, but who knows. I felt really vulnerable afterwards, and his reaction really hurt my feelings, and I still don't know exactly why, but it's my body dammit and he can't stop me from being happy about the experience if he tries!!! And I'm happy! I've wanted to enjoy anal for years, and it finally happened! I just wish he liked it too.

I'm thinking that his reaction could stem from one of two things...

1) The fact that you enjoyed it has him thinking that, perhaps, you lied to him about your experience with anal... Which has him thinking about what ELSE you may have lied to him about.

or

2) Perhaps the thrill of anal for him has to do with him palying the role of the dom and you playing the role of the sub... In other words, he got off on the idea that the experience would be painful/humiliating to you... So, when you enjoyed it, his fantasy was shattered.

*shrug*

Just a thought.

 

[DeeplyHisForever]

My Fiance and I have tried to do anal but it feels really uncomfortable to me when he just has his fingers in. I guess im to self conscious about it and it ruins the whole experience. Does anyone have any tips that might help us because we both would really love to go through with it. Im also afraid because he is so large, he cant even put it in all the way during vaginal intercourse without causing me extreame pain and we have be active for a while.

 

[SubNebGuy]

Dunno if i should be asking this here, or creating a new thread..

Do any of you find that anal is significantly better after a round of 'regular' sex? I'm trying to build up a handbook for the girl, y'see...

my wife likes to cum once from vaginal before we move to the backdoor.

lots of lube...we start with the thick KY jelly, then add KY liquid to keep it slick.
start with a finger or a small butt plug, during vaginal, then have him enter with his dick. the anus needs to be stretched a little first.

 

[southernsky]

thank you guys for the helpful replies. Some of that is stuff that I hadn't thought of, but makes sense. I told him that I was upset about it and why, and he doesn't seem to care. So, now I'm more upset, and kind of sad seeing as how as more days pass, he becomes more and more adamant that he never wants to do that again. This has apparently just really freaked him out, and I'll probably never know why. I'm not sure I care anymore, really. I want a relationship in which partners take each other seriously about serious things, and not act all flippant about activities that are this emotionally charged. Makes me wonder what we'll do when something more serious comes up. Anyways, I know I can't figure this out online because him and I are the only two who really know what's going on, and in reality, neither of us probably know what the hell's going on.

Any other reasons why this might have him so freaked out? He was really excited about it before we did it...

This just has me fucking bummed out! (LOL I seem to be good with the puns on this thread. Didn't mean to...) I'm confused as to why he's confused. I am having MUCH fewer difficulties with this than I thought I'd have. I was ready for myself to feel ashamed and dirty, but I'm still really psyched about it. It was good, not dirty, and felt really really good. ARGH!!!!! So why does it have to be a big fucking deal to him?

 

[rcuhljr]

That sucks, sorry I don't have any good ideas

 

[Exciteher]

...I want a relationship in which partners take each other seriously about serious things, and not act all flippant about activities that are this emotionally charged. Makes me wonder what we'll do when something more serious comes up..........

.....Any other reasons why this might have him so freaked out? He was really excited about it before we did it...

Sorry to hear how its going, considering you just sort of found the top of the world, jeez, its sad. I am thinking you may have progressed too far for him to follow.

OK.. that he "was really excited about it" before you did it tends to make me think there are judgement and control/power issues here, and I am thinking what phoenix1224 said is as close an approximation to the truth as can be had with existing information. Your partner's fantasy ( porn inspired?) did not match the reality. Perhaps if you could describe what "freaked out" means...how does your partner do "freaked out"? Specifically what does he say, how does he act? You mention he is being "flippant" with you about this ... not good. Sounds like now he is being a pain in the ass (sorry..could not resist) I am wondering if you look at other contexts in your life when you have "grown" if he acted flippant, uninvolved, peeved and/or threatened etc. Is there a pattern here?

The good news is that you have a clear idea of what you want, that is why I quoted what said you want above.

Given that , this is really not about anal sex. It is about if your partner cares and respects your needs, and if he cares enough about you and your relationship, whatever that may be, to talk to you about it. That is what will sort the men from the boys. If he cannot or will not communicate with you about what is important to you, does it even matter why he is freaked out? If he shuts you out now, won't let you into his world, why should you give him even a seconds worth of time in yours?

Just keep what you want in mind, be true to that, and the world will be yours.