Strap-on experiences

[daisey69]

Emma Ray.................

You are my fucking HERO!!!!!!


DO you give lessons.....or pass along the men you violate? I would love to get ahold of some partners that would appreciate that kind of pleasure.

 

[Emma_Ray_Garrett]

LOL, Daisy! Well some of my boys are in the OH, MI, WV, PA, IN area, ROFLMAO!

You might run into one, out there in a club. He'd be the one who looks like a Master, until you approach him. That's when you'll notice the need to be taken burning in his eyes.

All of my boys are very polite, too!

 

[daisey69]

Excellent. I am in PA. So let the hunting begin.

You and I sound like kindred spirits.

Cool. My man thinks I am a freak. So I am grateful for you sharing your thoughts.because it lets me know I am normal. he is the prudish freak.


You made my week!

 

[Emma_Ray_Garrett]

Daisy, that's very kind! I'm glad I could make you feel better. Trust me, I very much know what its like to wonder if what you like makes you weird. ROFL, thank god I got over that at like age eight. But seriously, I know what you mean.

As far as the prude goes, I say tie him the fuck up. Then again, ROFL, he might not like that much so best to make sure you bind him securely. The key to prostate stimulation is to treat it delicately at first, LOL. Ramming your finger in his ass will make you feel good, but it might not make him feel good... right then, LOL. If that matters to you, his pleasure, then you have to ease it in.

And I highly recommend using fingers and hands first so that you can really get to know that part of his body by touch. It will help when you bring out the props and toys, giving you excellent insight into what things will bring him to the point, but not take him over. Know what I mean?

 

[daisey69]

Yes, I think I understand. Hubby freaks out when I stick a finger in there. However, he sure does moan and buck and eventually let loose a large amount of cum from it. But as soon as it is 'over' he clamps down and gets all freaky about it. All this from one little finger.

I would love to tie his ass up and force him to my will. I have done plenty in my time that I wasn't 'ready' for. Why is it always SO FUNNY when they are choking you with thier cum while you are giving a blow job and you can't breathe??? Yet to penetrate his ass is practically a ' divorce cause'

I get pissed when I think about all I am not getting. While I just keep giving.


He has no problem lifting his ass up in the air for my tounge to fuck him...............But then claims he only does it for me. that he gets nothing out of it and he thinks it is a turn off. His cock tells me otherwise. Why would he say that???

I am sorry. I didn't mean to get all pissed off here. I am glad I can talk to you about it. Thankyou so much.

 

[JeanMarc31M]

Yes, I think I understand. H freakes out when i stick a finger in there. However he sure does moan and buck and eventually let loose a large amount of cum from it. But as soon as it is 'over' he clamps down and gets all freaky about it. All this from one little finger.

I would love to tie his ass up and force him to my will. I have done plenty in my time that I wasn't 'ready' for. Why is it always SO FUNNY when they are choking you with tehir cum while you are giving a blow job and you can't breathe??? Yet to penetrate his ass is practically a ' divorce cause'

I get pissed when I think about all I am not getting.While I just keep giving.


He has no problem lifting his ass up in the air for my tounge to fuck him...............But then claims he only does it for me. that he gets nothingut of it andhe thinks it is a turn off. His cock tells me otherwise.

I am sorry. I didn't mean to get all pissed off here. I am glad I can talk to you about it. Thankyou so much.

I wish I knew a lady like yourself.

You have a very lucky male friend.

 

[Emma_Ray_Garrett]

NP, Daisey! And I can empathize with your 'won't admit it in the light of day' SO. Although, I can honestly say other than by purest of accident, LOL, I have never choked on come. I've had a few men try to top me, but its never happened, ROFL.

And I completely understand the anger. It's frustrating as hell to give and give and not get back. Even a Mistress like me knows about that, though it applies to outside the bedroom

 

[27malefurladies]

Question for Emma and anyone else that would like to help

Have been cruising around the boards lately and have seen alot on strap ons and to tell you the truth although I am as het as a guy can come it turns me on to think of this happening to me with a lovely lady. Am looking for advice though what should we use for mutual pleasure? Any other things we should know? Thanks

 

[Emma_Ray_Garrett]

I follow two strict rules for ass play:

1. Unless otherwise agreed upon, NEVER start play without warm up.

2. ALWAYS, always use gloves/rubbers to cover the hand/finger/dildo/vibe being used in the rectum and ALWAYS be generous with lube.

These are crucial, IMO, to safe and pleasurable ass play. Though most of us aren't thinking about it, this is the poop shoot, ROFL as my little ones say. Tearing the rectum with a fingernail or sharp object of any kind can and does lead to SERIOUS medical complications. And the sphincter is a muscle, if you aren't careful to get it relaxed before penetration you can not only tear it, but you can and will cause excruciating pain. If that's not what you're going for, best to make sure everyone is ready, lubed, and open to advances.

And like I said, I highly recommend starting out with fingers and hands. Even your own. Learn what feels good and what doesn't, so you can give good advice to the person you want to take your ass. It's the same advice I give to women on the topic of buying dildos. Masturbate first, find out what you like, then you'll know just what kind of toy to buy.

I hope that helps.

 

[27malefurladies]

Thanks for the advice darlin' guess I might want to start working on things myself back there before we play huh? She is about 600 miles away from me now and we won't be doing anything till July. How about toys not alot of extra dough for either of us so something that is not to much but pleasurable for both is key. thanks

 

[Emma_Ray_Garrett]

27 do not call me darlin'. You may call me Emma, Emma Ray, Mistress, or any variation of those three. No babes, darlins, cuties, sweeties, hons, honeys, etc.

ROFL, sorry major pet peeve.

Now, about the toys. You know, you can find lots of viable 'replacement' toys at the local supermarket. I DO NOT recommend using them over and over and you MUST wash them thoroughly and cover them with a condom, but they work very well. Look at things that offer a secure place to grip at the base, like cucumber and some small varieties of squash. They are cheap, easy to acquire, and generally don't require a picture ID to purchase, LOL.

 

[27malefurladies]

My deepest apologies Emma. Forgive me

As for the toys thanks for the advice we are planning on having lots of fun so will using all the information I have gotten on here. How about a Strap on though seeing her with a cock well I am sure you get the pic

 

[27malefurladies]

hey that was my 69th post don't I get a blow job or fucking?

 

[au_man]

27 do not call me darlin'. You may call me Emma, Emma Ray, Mistress, or any variation of those three. No babes, darlins, cuties, sweeties, hons, honeys, etc.

ROFL, sorry major pet peeve.

Now, about the toys. You know, you can find lots of viable 'replacement' toys at the local supermarket. I DO NOT recommend using them over and over and you MUST wash them thoroughly and cover them with a condom, but they work very well. Look at things that offer a secure place to grip at the base, like cucumber and some small varieties of squash. They are cheap, easy to acquire, and generally don't require a picture ID to purchase, LOL.

Great stuff Mistress Emma.

My wife likes taking charge once in a while, but I guess she is mostly submissive.

She is getting better but doesn't play like you do...

I'll send her a link to your first post and she does post on Lit when time allows.

Thanks for sharing...

 

[Emma_Ray_Garrett]

You're forgiven, 27. Oh, if you mean an actual strap on for her to wear/use that's something you two should purchase together. Or, if you have any gay friends you could ask them to go with you to look for one.

I've never found one particular brand of dildo to be better, per se, than another. Each manufacturer usually has one or two I enjoy and a few I don't like. For ass play I wouldn't suggest one made of hard plastic, at least not to start with. When your ass is ready to take a cock, you need a dildo/vibe thats firm (for strap on purposes) without being like stone. In fact, butt plugs work wonderfully as long as the flange at the base is large enough to cover the opening in the harness for a strap on. And you can get these anywhere, from online stores like Adam and Eve to your local adult bookstore. The price range varies greatly from 10-15 bucks to upwards of 60-70 bucks. And no, IME, a more expensive dildo is not necessarily a better one.

 

[Emma_Ray_Garrett]

Great stuff Mistress Emma.

My wife likes taking charge once in a while, but I guess she is mostly submissive.

She is getting better but doesn't play like you do...

I'll send her a link to your first post and she does post on Lit when time allows.

Thanks for sharing...

My pleasure, au_man. I'll bet your wife enjoys the intense sensation she gets when she 'tops' you! I'll admit, I've been tempted to try and switch from time to time, but the Master never lives up to my expectations. My fantasies are dark, though not uncommon, but they are the kind that I can't fulfill without the right type of partner. ROFL, I'd never willingly submit which just makes it more difficult. I see a lot of men who claim to be Masters, but they aren't. They simply enjoy subjugating and abusing women, which of course I'd never allow, ROFLMAO!

LOL, so I've always been the top, the one in control and directing the action. It works, but I still enjoy the thought of being taken, which shows a lot in my erotic fiction, LOL!

Let me know if my suggestions are helpful!

 

[crzydesert]

Emma, you sure know what you are doing!

I wish you could come down here and teach my wife how to dominate me.

I once mentioned to my wife that I fantasize about another woman being in the room with us and the other woman telling my wife what to do to me. She seemed to like the thought but thats about it.

 

[au_man]

My pleasure, au_man. I'll bet your wife enjoys the intense sensation she gets when she 'tops' you! I'll admit, I've been tempted to try and switch from time to time, but the Master never lives up to my expectations. My fantasies are dark, though not uncommon, but they are the kind that I can't fulfill without the right type of partner. ROFL, I'd never willingly submit which just makes it more difficult. I see a lot of men who claim to be Masters, but they aren't. They simply enjoy subjugating and abusing women, which of course I'd never allow, ROFLMAO!

LOL, so I've always been the top, the one in control and directing the action. It works, but I still enjoy the thought of being taken, which shows a lot in my erotic fiction, LOL!

Let me know if my suggestions are helpful!

LOL... Emma, we seem to have much in common.

My wife prefers to submit and we don't do strap on as often as I would enjoy, but I'm still happy getting sex too. She does really enjoy strap on and the idea of having her own dick makes her come too fast and too often.

She did read your posts and found them very interesting, so we shall see what the future holds on that end.

I have a cyber friend that is pushing my Dom side... She loves being VERY submissive and seems to want me to be her cyber Master...

I have really enjoyed learning about the lifestyle and giving instructions to my friend and hope to use them at home although some are too extreme for my wife at this point.

The wife is clastraphobic...

Thanks again...

 

[eroticspank]

I have to say there is nothing in the world half as good as the look on a man's face the first time you take his ass. A het man that is, ROFL!

I've ass fucked almost every male lover I've had, and I STILL get a fucking kick out of that "OMG, what are you doing? OMG, that feels so fucking good" mixed look they have the first time.

By the time I work up to the strap on, they are begging for it. And the more confessed het they are, in my experience, the louder they scream for it and the harder they come.

LOL, I just had to share. I tell you, sometimes I feel like I'm the only one like me, ROFL, then I come here and get my reality checked. Thanks all.

Hey Wonderful Post!!

I would love to see a video with those looks you mention and the OMG that feels so good comments from a first timer!! VERY HOT!!

I do have a question though, have you ever introduced the fun of strapon sex (F to M) to other women friends? I would also like to see the OMG look on their faces and hear the "Wow!! this is so hot fucking a man!!" comments too!!

ES

 

[Emma_Ray_Garrett]

To answer your question, ES, yes I have. I've also been physically involved in several first time F-M anal sex experiences. And I assure you, much to my delight, every man has cried out with agonized ecstasy when their orgasm hit them.

I'd like to see that in a video myself, LOL. The problem is, IMO, too often those videos are so much 'fantasy' and very little reality. I enjoy pornography, don't get me wrong, but I truly exhalt in the actual scene/experience more. Though I suppose most do, !

Au_man, clostrophobia is one of those most difficult to overcome. IMlimitedE with it, since I don't suffer it, I've found that even the best Master or Mistress is hard pressed to move a submissive past it. Good quality therapy does work, sometimes. And I emphasize both good and quality. There are a lot of therapists out there who are good people, but not quality professionals, and vice versa.

As far as the cyber Master goes, while I have no problem providing that for someone else, I can't get into it personally. By that I mean, I would never 'buy' a cyber Master because I can't touch them, feel them, ache for them like I can a physical presence. I DO NOT, however, begrudge, judge or in any way disdain those who CAN submit to someone without being in the same room with them. In fact, I admire it a bit, LOL!

 

[Emma_Ray_Garrett]

Emma, you sure know what you are doing!

I wish you could come down here and teach my wife how to dominate me.

I once mentioned to my wife that I fantasize about another woman being in the room with us and the other woman telling my wife what to do to me. She seemed to like the thought but thats about it.

I've enjoyed my fair share, or more, LOL, of menage experiences. Telling another woman what to do to her husband is very arousing for me. Telling the husband what to do to his wife is equally stimulating. I'm a control freak, and directing the action is extremely fulfilling, LOL. Especially when I demand they turn that attention on me, ROFL!

 

[padiman]

Mistress Emma - you are right on some many points. My SO has been doing me a number of years and definately agrees with the pleasure she gets when she makes me moan and beg for more when she enters me with her strapon. She hasn't tied me down yet, prefers to make me sit on her toy until she lets me cum on her boobs.

Love your posts

 

[27malefurladies]

Mistress Emma - you are right on some many points. My SO has been doing me a number of years and definately agrees with the pleasure she gets when she makes me moan and beg for more when she enters me with her strapon. She hasn't tied me down yet, prefers to make me sit on her toy until she lets me cum on her boobs.

Love your posts

What do you use? Thanks

 

[AAkasha]

Mistress Emma - you are right on some many points. My SO has been doing me a number of years and definately agrees with the pleasure she gets when she makes me moan and beg for more when she enters me with her strapon. She hasn't tied me down yet, prefers to make me sit on her toy until she lets me cum on her boobs.

Love your posts

Male subs who wish and pray for their "vanilla" wives to get kinky need to realize that there is hope....lots of women start to enjoy things like fucking their man up the ass -- it just does not happen over night!!

The best thing a man can do is give lots of gentle encouragement when his wife/gf playfully takes control. Tell her you love it.

And I always say that having a woman roleplaying fucking a man in the ass -- pumping her crotch into his asscheeks (clothed or not) is a great way to get her into the mindset. Make it playful and fun. I was roleplaying fucking a guy in the ass as soon as I was old enough to date -- I thought it was a hilarious joke but it always made me wet and really turned on. I had no idea years later I would be strapping on a latex cock and enjoying it for real.

There's nothing else like it.

Akasha

 

[au_man]

Au_man, clostrophobia is one of those most difficult to overcome. IMlimitedE with it, since I don't suffer it, I've found that even the best Master or Mistress is hard pressed to move a submissive past it. Good quality therapy does work, sometimes. And I emphasize both good and quality. There are a lot of therapists out there who are good people, but not quality professionals, and vice versa.

As far as the cyber Master goes, while I have no problem providing that for someone else, I can't get into it personally. By that I mean, I would never 'buy' a cyber Master because I can't touch them, feel them, ache for them like I can a physical presence. I DO NOT, however, begrudge, judge or in any way disdain those who CAN submit to someone without being in the same room with them. In fact, I admire it a bit, LOL!

lol...

I sure understand Mistress Emma... She is rather experienced, while I, except for what I have learned through her I am a complete beginner and she is without a Master.

It has been about tease and denial, then permission only if she has been good.

I find that rather stimulating, having the control... Mmmmmm