Straight guy in women's clothes!

[tj2276]

I want to know what women think about guys who get turned on by wearing women's clothes. Please write me and give me your opinions on this.

 

[cymbidia]

It's called crossdressing and i've been intimate with three men who enjoyed it on occasion.

In every case, the man was *not* gay (else what would i have been doing there?) and only one was bisexual. In all cases, however, the men were very secure with thier sexuality and very open to trying new things.

There's something undeniably sexual about women's clothing, especially women's underthings. Men, all men, like to touch when we're soft and lacy and silky... is it such a stretch to imagine they might want to feel some of those sensual caresses more directly, on their own bodies?

Additionally, this is a sexual off-limits area for most men. For very adventuresome men, those very in tune with their bodies and thier needs, therefore, that very taboo can make it more alluring.

For my part, if he wants to wear my panties... and stockings... and garter belt... and anything else of mine... i'll help him get into the stuff. I'll teach him how to roll the stockings on slowly up his legs, the silk whispering under his fingers as it lies against his leg and he twists, trying to get the garters fastened.

Then i'll press up against him and open myself to him. Cross-dressing is sexy and fun and wild and kinky, for me, if it's so for him. But then, i'm drawn to very kinky men anyway.

 

[Silverlily]

Basically what she said.

I too have been involved with a man who likes to play in my things. Believe me, he is in no way gay nor is there any question of his masculinity. He just likes to try different things.

Personally, I think it's sexy as hell.

 

[tj2276]

This makes me feel alot better. Thank you for your replys and keep them coming.

 

[Mellon Collie]

 

[SexyChele]

Another "yeah what she said" for cymbidia. Seeing a man in my silky, lacey underthings is real turn on for me. I don't know if I could extend that to going out in public, though. Never tried that before.

 

[Creidhne]

~Alarmed!!~

Ok, cym.. just how many crossdressing, bisexual men have you been with? Oh, wait... that would be me! ~g~

Yep, I'm a big, hairy ex-jock, a Dom to boot and I love women's lingerie. Do I look good in it? Probably not. Do I love how it feels?? Oh yes, I really do. And don't forget the shoes!

Problem is, when your of the athletic body type, cool stuff is a little tougher to find, but it is out there. So, go for it. You'll be glad you did.

MS.

 

[cymbidia]

I like it when a guy wears female undergarments. Which is actually odd since I prefer very dominate men, there is just something irresistible about it. I mean I've never met a woman who didn't like it in some way.

I wasn't going to out my own Master, of course, but since he did it himself...

MS/Creidhne is a former professional hockey player and is most definitely a man's man kinda guy, despite the fact that he is, in fact, bisexual. (Almost-unrelated side note: i'm bisexual, too. Leaves everyone in the world as potentials for us to play with! Yee-ha!) However, no one would ever mistake him for a woman, no matter what he was wearing.

Yes, he crossdresses on occasion.
And i love it when he does. I find the whole experience immensely sexual and exciting. He does, too.

He feels sexual in women's things. When he feels sexual, he passes that on to me. His creativity flows more strongly. His energies are more focused. His will is stronger, sharper, clearer, more demanding of himself and me. We have *great* sex, in what ever form that "having sex" takes for us at that time.

However, he is always my Dominant, no matter what he's wearing. And my submission flows to him devoid of hinderances whether he's wearing old worn Levi's and a Harley t-shirt or stockings, a garterbelt, and silky thong panties.

All this to say, Mellon Collie, that cross-dressing and being Dom are not at all mutually exclusive. The other two men i've known who cross-dressed were Masters, too. (I don't play with nilla men and haven't for 20 years.)

I'd lend you my Master so you could see (feel, touch, taste, smell, lick, suck... err... sorry... got carried away!) what i;m talking about but (1) lending him to someone else is not a thing i have the right to do and (2) i'd probably get a teensy bit jealous unless i could play with y'all, too.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Men in women's clothes.

I have friends who dress up as women and they are simply FABULOUS !

But then again they are drag queens and I just have to say they are much fun especially when it comes to dressing up and putting on their "face". They look simply amazing.

That is my experience with men and women's clothing.

 

[Mellon Collie]

All this to say, Mellon Collie, that cross-dressing and being Dom are not at all mutually exclusive. The other two men i've known who cross-dressed were Masters, too. (I don't play with nilla men and haven't for 20 years.)

Thanks for setting me straight.

 

[cymbidia]

Got trolls?

Seen this link, oh fellow "freako's"?
http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=47627

Multiple choice:

1. Should we be
(a) gratified that our small discussion of a fairly common kink has drawn the attention of a flamer,
(b) amused that our particular troll-like entity apparently stopped going to school when s/her was about 8 years old, or
(c) huddling into a self-condemning little ball because someone out there doesn't think we should do what we find sexual.

 

[tj2276]

I would have to say B.

The other thing I would like to ask youns(sorry pittsburgh slang got the better of me) is how would I go about getting a girl to try this with me?

 

[Hecate]

I'd lend you my Master so you could see (feel, touch, taste, smell, lick, suck... err... sorry... got carried away!) what i;m talking about but (1) lending him to someone else is not a thing i have the right to do and (2) i'd probably get a teensy bit jealous unless i could play with y'all, too.

Uhhhmmm - where did you say you were at exactly ... *flipps through plane flight tables* Uhh, wait, that wasn't meant for me , huh?

(c) huddling into a self-condemning little ball because someone out there doesn't think we should do what we find sexual.

Now sure THAT is the right answer cym!!!!!! How can you even ask????

I mean .. first of all cudling up in a ball is FINE .. no worries about the self-condemnind even... I shall take care of this for all you subbies out there, crosdressing or no - male or female (*winks* good, don't I love the options my inclination gives me?) Dom/mes unfortunately are self-responsible for their condemnation.

BAAAD Perverts! Baaaaaad boys and girls! on your knees ... now you freakin sickos ... you need to get some discipline to straighten you out again, right!!!

Bend over an drop those pants or lift those little skirts, and we shall see if we can't fix you up nicely again to fit into our wonderful society!

What? you aren't willing? Need I get anal on this? And I MEAN it ! *weg*

Now what? that turns you on even more! Oh my - what am I to do with you? Tie you up? Make you suffer? Have you crawl at my feet and lick my boots so you can see for yourself what a lowly part of society you are?

Ohhh - ooops, now where did that come from *looking around all innocent and sweet and resuming my "I am just your average down the road girl" posture* that wasn't really meant to work that way, was it? *winks* and hey *lol* I even had to click the link from "here" to "there" back to "here" to understand *lol*

 

[SexyChele]

Hecate: Oh, my sides are starting to hurt from laughing so hard! And if I'm to be punished for doing so, I will gladly raise my skirt over that one! *weg*

Cymbidia: I'm hovering between "a" and "b". But then, I never did do well with multiple choice quizes.

TJ2276: Well, you can always try the direct approach, and just ask her what she might think of it. Or you can try the approach that was used on me: my man had already raided my panty drawer and found something he liked/fit, and took them home. When we got together again, things getting hot and heavy, I was shocked when I discovered MY panties on HIM as I was undressing him. At first I was shocked, then I started laughing. However when he put my hand on his swelling member, and I felt it through the silk, my laughter was quickly subdued. It's been a turn on for me ever since. Chances are, if your partner hasn't done this before, she will be shocked. So keep a playful attitude, and just go for it!

 

[Hecate]

Ohh - and I didn'T even answer the original question yet ....

I do tend to make "crossdressing "part of my little ... scenes... now and then *s* and so far never have been disappointed !

I admit I might start getting a problem if it turned out a fixation of my partner though - I like it occassionally but not all the time.

 

[cymbidia]

This is for you lurkers who really *do* want some info about cross-dressing cuz you really *do* want to try it but are suffering with all sorts of doubts and anxieties about the whole deal.

Just do it.
It's totally harmless and if it brings you some pleasure - why not?

If my giant of a Master, a former pro hockey player, a hairy guy, and very much a man, can do it, so can you.

Here are three links to good quality info on the subject:

1. Gender Mosaic Transexual & X-dressing Information
http://ncf.davin.ottawa.on.ca/freeport/sigs/life/gay/xdress/menu

2. Shirley Ann Sometimes
http://www.geocities.com/FashionAvenue/1258/nopic.html

3. Melissa and Kath's Tea Time
http://www.geocities.com/westhollywood/heights/9072/PAGETWO.html


Hecate? You're wonderful. And funny. You put just the right spin on that punishment, condemnation thing too. Ohhh.. nothing like a knowledgable Dom/me to make us all trembly and weak-kneed.

 

[Never]

Somethings I'll never understand, I mean, I don't understand why anyone woudl want to wear that stuff. Women's clothing can be so uncomfortable.. of well.

 

[cymbidia]

Somethings I'll never understand, I mean, I don't understand why anyone woudl want to wear that stuff. Women's clothing can be so uncomfortable.. of well.

It's a fetish, my darlin, and those aren't always explainable in a rational sense. Underwear, the kind that's more/different than strictly utilitarian, is something that makes some of us go "hmmmmmm" - male or female. It makes some of us want to climb into it - female or male. It makes some of feel incredibly sexy while wearing it - again, either gender.

I don't understand the allure of diapers, either, but i know that some people really get into a headspace where they're part of the play. Doesn't make it less erotic, thst i don't understand, in a absolute value sort of way, and only for me (and those like me) is it devoid of sexuality.

Same with cross-dressing.

Different strokes...

 

[Never]

It's a fetish, my darlin, and those aren't always explainable in a rational sense. Underwear, the kind that's more/different than strictly utilitarian, is something that makes some of us go "hmmmmmm" - male or female. It makes some of us want to climb into it - female or male. It makes some of feel incredibly sexy while wearing it - again, either gender.

I don't understand the allure of diapers, either, but i know that some people really get into a headspace where they're part of the play. Doesn't make it less erotic, thst i don't understand, in a absolute value sort of way, and only for me (and those like me) is it devoid of sexuality.

Same with cross-dressing.

Different strokes...

I am going to tuck my tongue under and squelch the nasty little barb that's growing there because I know you don't deserve it...
Now..
I'm going to respond politely.
Actually, I've already blown my chance for a polite response to smithereens. ~sighs~

cymbidia, you're preaching to the choir here. Do you think I don't already know what you're saying? Do you think I'm intolerant?

I'm not even talking about arousal, or fetishes. The majority of people who wear women's clothing don't wear it to get off.
I am simply offering an opinion, I understand if you have a contrary opinion, but I don't appreciate being lectured because you don't like my opinion.

 

[cymbidia]

I am going to tuck my tongue under and squelch the nasty little barb that's growing there because I know you don't deserve it...
Now..
I'm going to respond politely.
Actually, I've already blown my chance for a polite response to smithereens. ~sighs~

cymbidia, you're preaching to the choir here. Do you think I don't already know what you're saying? Do you think I'm intolerant?

I'm not even talking about arousal, or fetishes. The majority of people who wear women's clothing don't wear it to get off.
I am simply offering an opinion, I understand if you have a contrary opinion, but I don't appreciate being lectured because you don't like my opinion.

I wasn't so much lecturing to you, dear heart, because i know you're already part of this choir, as i was taking the opportunity (which i assumed you were doing as well, sort of a Devil's Advocate thing) to further enlighten some of the faceless masses to aspects of a fetish they might not understand and/or with which they might not be that comfy.

As a matter of fact, i *do* know you understand what i've been saying about this. Furthermore, i do *not* think you intolerant. Frankly, i'm amazed and confused that you would even question either of those, between you and me.



Summer's gone, leaching from the year like it was never there to begin with. Along with it seems to be fading previously comfortable friendships and words-unnecessary tolerances. Makes me sad to see that happening, and i feel completely helpless to reverse the course of such events.
b.

 

[Natalie Nessus]

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[Guest]

I myself do like to wear women's panties once in a while. I like the feel of them on my cock. There are not too many places that make men's underwear in the types of material that women's are made of.

If they made more men's underwear in nylon, satin, silk, or lycra I would be very happy. I don't like cotton too much because you get very hot down there, I live in Florida where it's hot 99% of the time so I pretty much go without any but like I said sometimes wearing women's panties feel's good because of the material.

 

[SpectreT]

cymbidia, tha answer to your multiple-guess question is "d) Punt". As in send little trollie's ego down the field about forty or so yards at the end of my shoe. Kidding! I'm usually amused when others show intolerance or ignorance, especially when they lack the courage to show their face when they do. It gives me a moment of petty, mean-spirited superiority, then it wakes my urge to educate. As you are aware, I have a couple of minor "gender issues", though I consider myself to be a heterosexual male. (The possibility of Gender Dysphoria nags me a little, though.) Would that make me a lesbian trapped in a man's body? Kidding, again. I think. I'm going to go curl up in a ball of confusion for a little while.......

 

[Creidhne]

Oh man....

Maybe I'm a bi-sexual woman trapped in a man's body?!?!?! ~s~

Gee, I wonder what that makes cym, if she's wearing a strap-on??

I think labels are for people who would rather classify than play. Me? I just wanna play. Hard, and for keeps. So lucky to have cym, aren't I? Puts up with all my kinks and fetishes she does.

But hey!!! Now that the cats out of the bag, and I'm out in the open with yet more kinks...... Anybody want to see pics? The ones we wouldn't share before perhaps?

And now, I'm off to find little foam wedges. ~g~

MS.

 

[cymbidia]

Gee, I wonder what that makes cym, if she's wearing a strap-on??

Yours, Master, no matter what either of us are wearing. ~g~

I think labels are for people who would rather classify than play. Me? I just wanna play. Hard, and for keeps. So lucky to have cym, aren't I? Puts up with all my kinks and fetishes she does.

... as i'm lucky to have you. I have a few of my own kinks and fetishes to bring to the gameroom, if you'll recall, and have found it difficult in my life to find anyone strong enough to play the way i need to play, as you know. We're *exceedingly* well-matched.

But hey!!! Now that the cats out of the bag, and I'm out in the open with yet more kinks...... Anybody want to see pics? The ones we wouldn't share before perhaps?

Do you think there are still a few pics we might want to keep in reserve? No sense in really scaring them, hmmm?

And now, I'm off to find little foam wedges. ~g~

I have some. I'll bring them with me when i come to see you in couple wekends from now.

MS

i love You.
i am Yours.
b.