str8 guys into butt play?

[rae121452]

i have some questions and since i have a captive audience of straight guys, here goes:

i keep seeing personals for guys wanting to be pegged, have a woman use a strap-on on them, prostate massages, etc.

okay, i realize that the male anatomy can make it pleasurable to have something stuck up your butt. but what's the psychology of an otherwise straight guy getting reamed?

i'm as queer as they come but i'm not into being fucked. when i was young and dumb, i usually put up with it but never really enjoyed it unless i jerked off and came during it. even then, i couldn't wait for it to get over. after about a year of thought i realized that what i really hated was feeling submissive to another guy....and i didn't realize that until i realized that it made me feel really dominant over another guy if i fucked his ass.

so, is that part of the attraction when a women does your ass, that it makes you feel submissive? is it more of a power thing than a sex thing?

i have a friend who says that no straight guy wakes up at four AM with the thought "I think i'll try sticking a cucumber up my ass today." i'm not so sure about that, especially if he's had his fingers up there. it IS where the prostate is.

also, what prevents you from going whole hog and taking another guy's dick. i mean, what could be more convenient? is it the whole stigma of gay? is it not wanting to be submissive to another guy? it seems like a no brainer but i've also met guys who were real into having toys used on them but would never dream of taking a real dick.

thoughts on any of this?

 

[ilCacciatore]

I don’t know, everybody’s just different. I toy or finger myself in the ass occasionally but Ive never had any interest in letting anybody else do anything in the same region except rim. Maybe it’s the submissive factor, because like you I don’t enjoy being submissive at all, but I don’t think so. I think it’s just as simple as it’s not anything I have any interest in.

 

[twister947]

I'm just the opposite. Pegging holds no appeal for me, but I fantasize about being fucked by the real thing. I'm straight, at least in the sense that being in a relationship with another man isn't on my radar. MFm is what works for me.

 

[rae121452]

I'm just the opposite. Pegging holds no appeal for me, but I fantasize about being fucked by the real thing. I'm straight, at least in the sense that being in a relationship with another man isn't on my radar. MFm is what works for me.

is there a submission element at play, twister? whether with a guy or a girl? is that part of the attraction or is it just physical?

 

[twister947]

is there a submission element at play, twister? whether with a guy or a girl? is that part of the attraction or is it just physical?

Yes, and yes. I'm definitely submissive with women, but not men. I need for the woman to require my submission.

 

[Easyvirtue]

Yes, and yes. I'm definitely submissive with women, but not men. I need for the woman to require my submission.

My fantasy is being dominated. I use toys now and my wife has no interest in strapping one on, but it is the joy of something taboo, and I guess I got a little bi inside.

 

[dannyboy1958]

My fantasy is being dominated. I use toys now and my wife has no interest in strapping one on, but it is the joy of something taboo, and I guess I got a little bi inside.

Im with you, it is a domination thing but not in a tied up with barbed wire and chains fashion, just the thought of the women ive fucked for years, fucking me, shes on the other end, literally!
But - i think a little bi is present to and if it were a MMF situation id without a doubt want to explore and be explored - but were all different eh?

 

[naughtymind]

It is a lot of things, and not necessarily worth overthinking. If you are curious about something try it, if you like it try it a lot more! My own interests are both physically and psychological, and somewhat complex to try and explain. I just don’t know that my own interests would really mean anything to anyone other than my wife, since she’s the only one I have an intimate connection with.

You mention “the gay thing”... Frankly this gets a bit tiresome, as it seems so obvious that being attracted to a woman and enjoying anal play isnt even similar to being attracted to men and enjoying anal play. I think the question itself is one born of stigma and prejudice. I know you meant no disrespect, and I take no offense, but really think about where the question comes from and it seems kind of silly. To me at least.

There are plenty who might enjoy both men and women, or might be indulging in homosexual fantasy while being pegged, but the two are in no way intrinsically tied together somehow. Some may have curiosities or fantasies, but would not enjoy actually acting on them, etc, etc, etc. I would never claim to speak for others sexuality, but I can say that for myself interest in ass play has nothing to do with interest in men at all. For those that do, pegging might be an avenue to role play some of those interests, or it might not. Whatever floats your boat, but I think it’s always a bad idea to lean on stereotypes, or to reinforce them.

 

[rae121452]

It is a lot of things, and not necessarily worth overthinking. If you are curious about something try it, if you like it try it a lot more! My own interests are both physically and psychological, and somewhat complex to try and explain. I just don’t know that my own interests would really mean anything to anyone other than my wife, since she’s the only one I have an intimate connection with.

You mention “the gay thing”... Frankly this gets a bit tiresome, as it seems so obvious that being attracted to a woman and enjoying anal play isnt even similar to being attracted to men and enjoying anal play. I think the question itself is one born of stigma and prejudice. I know you meant no disrespect, and I take no offense, but really think about where the question comes from and it seems kind of silly. To me at least.

There are plenty who might enjoy both men and women, or might be indulging in homosexual fantasy while being pegged, but the two are in no way intrinsically tied together somehow. Some may have curiosities or fantasies, but would not enjoy actually acting on them, etc, etc, etc. I would never claim to speak for others sexuality, but I can say that for myself interest in ass play has nothing to do with interest in men at all. For those that do, pegging might be an avenue to role play some of those interests, or it might not. Whatever floats your boat, but I think it’s always a bad idea to lean on stereotypes, or to reinforce them.

the context of my "gay thing" question is whether that is the reason someone doesn't go whole hog and let another guy fuck him. apparently you didn't read the post and are jumping to conclusions.

 

[naughtymind]

the context of my "gay thing" question is whether that is the reason someone doesn't go whole hog and let another guy fuck him. apparently you didn't read the post and are jumping to conclusions.

I did read it, and gave my honest thoughts on you question. I don’t think you fully understood my response, perhaps mull it over a bit more? Or not, again it’s just my opinion

 

[bigatx7]

My Perspective

I'm fairly new to ass play but have used my fingers to stimulate myself twice now and I enjoy the feeling and even would like to be pegged by a woman.

I wouldn't want a male doing it because I am just not physically attracted to men.

 

[JackOffer]

i have some questions and since i have a captive audience of straight guys, here goes:

i keep seeing personals for guys wanting to be pegged, have a woman use a strap-on on them, prostate massages, etc.

okay, i realize that the male anatomy can make it pleasurable to have something stuck up your butt. but what's the psychology of an otherwise straight guy getting reamed?

i'm as queer as they come but i'm not into being fucked. when i was young and dumb, i usually put up with it but never really enjoyed it unless i jerked off and came during it. even then, i couldn't wait for it to get over. after about a year of thought i realized that what i really hated was feeling submissive to another guy....and i didn't realize that until i realized that it made me feel really dominant over another guy if i fucked his ass.

so, is that part of the attraction when a women does your ass, that it makes you feel submissive? is it more of a power thing than a sex thing?

i have a friend who says that no straight guy wakes up at four AM with the thought "I think i'll try sticking a cucumber up my ass today." i'm not so sure about that, especially if he's had his fingers up there. it IS where the prostate is.

also, what prevents you from going whole hog and taking another guy's dick. i mean, what could be more convenient? is it the whole stigma of gay? is it not wanting to be submissive to another guy? it seems like a no brainer but i've also met guys who were real into having toys used on them but would never dream of taking a real dick.

thoughts on any of this?

I can't believe you are gay and don't like anal. I guess everyone has their own likes and dislikes. I'm bi and love it up my ass, the bigger the cock the better I like it.

 

[ilCacciatore]

I did read it, and gave my honest thoughts on you question. I don’t think you fully understood my response, perhaps mull it over a bit more? Or not, again it’s just my opinion

He was asking in good faith why some straight men are into anal play but aren't gay. Perfectly in line with your statement.

 

[msub50some]

For me it goes along with my submissive nature. I often fantasize about being tied up and having ass taken by a female dominant with a strap-on. I had something almost as good done to me years ago, and if I had the chance now, I'd take it. On the other hand, I have zero desire or fantasy of taking a real cock.

 

[PenLightStories]

When you're not attracted to someone because of their gender, it can be difficult to get any arousal when they are involved with sexual acts. I'm not sure why.

I think women who like to watch men play and mmf situations are hot but I'm not turned on by the idea of a penis in my butt or a real life sexual encounter with only a man involved. Idk...

For stereotypical straight men, for some reason, there needs to be a female presence involved. Hence pegging or even sex with a very feminine trans woman.

 

[rae121452]

When you're not attracted to someone because of their gender, it can be difficult to get any arousal when they are involved with sexual acts. I'm not sure why.

I think women who like to watch men play and mmf situations are hot but I'm not turned on by the idea of a penis in my butt or a real life sexual encounter with only a man involved. Idk...

For stereotypical straight men, for some reason, there needs to be a female presence involved. Hence pegging or even sex with a very feminine trans woman.

ah-hah! i can totally buy that, it seems obvious after you stated it.

 

[ATLfoto]

I'm straight buy I really enjoy butt play. I have prostate massager and it really enhances orgasms for me. I have had ladies give me prostate massages and I love it and sort of recently actually submitted to a good fucking with s trap on. Again, I loved it and came so hard I can't tell you.

I haven't given it much thought other than I am on the adventurous side and that it feels good, but in thinking about it, I think you are on to something about it making you feel submissive. I know I do have that side to me where I get off being submissive to a woman, just being used as a toy. But as to just going ahead and taking a dick, well, I guess that's the difference that makes us gay or straight because I have no desire to be that intimate with a guy. To each his own, but that's not for me. I used to think I was bi-curious because I do enjoy cumshot videos, but a recent experience convinced me I am totally straight.

 

[little cletus]

Been pegged. Loved it. Loved the domination and loved the feeling of being filled. Marriage is probably the obstacle between getting the real thing. But I’d also like to go down on a well hung guy, so maybe bi-curiosity? I’ve seen man on man porn. They look like they’re having a lot of fun. But, I have zero desire to be in a relationship with a man. No interest in kissing or being romantic. Just interested in sex. That probably applies to everyone other than my wife, man or woman.

 

[JackOffer]

Been pegged. Loved it. Loved the domination and loved the feeling of being filled. Marriage is probably the obstacle between getting the real thing. But I’d also like to go down on a well hung guy, so maybe bi-curiosity? I’ve seen man on man porn. They look like they’re having a lot of fun. But, I have zero desire to be in a relationship with a man. No interest in kissing or being romantic. Just interested in sex. That probably applies to everyone other than my wife, man or woman.

You don't have to be in a relationship with the guy, just fuck and get fucked. It's far better than getting fucked with a piece of plastic or rubber.

 

[cartepostale]

I consider myself straight and enjoy a finger in my arse. I have been know to enjoy a small butt plug and have been pegged. I've also wrapped the harness around chair legs and backed myself onto the dildo to fuck myself while watching porn.

Being pegged is not the most exciting thing for me, but that's partly my own fault for being too eager and not preparing, so ending up feeling bruised. It was certainly a turn on wanking while my ex was fucking me.

To me, I think the whole gender thing probably is only a generalisation. For instance, many men shout loudly that they're the straightest alpha man out there, but I'd bet money they watch porn scenes where men fuck women and there's plenty of cock and cum and part of the turn on is seeing a cock fucking or cumming. I've watched gay porn maybe a couple of times out of curiosity and I have to say I didn't find it particularly arousing (though if I was, say, in a threesome, I might be tempted to sample cock in some way), BUT I'll happily watch men fuck women in a movie. And probably find close-up where you can see a cock in a pussy or cumming on a woman the part that turns me on most.

 

[Mqoi]

I'm bi and to me, ass fucking is a domination thing. I love to suck cock and be sucked, but if you start acting dominate because I'm sucking your cock, it's over. If you want me to fuck you, I'll oblige. But when it comes to my being ass fucked, there's only been a few guys in my life that I'd willingly have let fuck me. And they could have had me anyway they wanted any time.

 

[Funnbrandy]

Wish people would remember that having sex with men makes you gay, not letting a woman play with your butt.....Yes there's some social stigma around it but if you can live with yourself after doing it then who cares about stigma.....My opinion

 

[dannyboy1958]

Been pegged. Loved it. Loved the domination and loved the feeling of being filled. Marriage is probably the obstacle between getting the real thing. But I’d also like to go down on a well hung guy, so maybe bi-curiosity? I’ve seen man on man porn. They look like they’re having a lot of fun. But, I have zero desire to be in a relationship with a man. No interest in kissing or being romantic. Just interested in sex. That probably applies to everyone other than my wife, man or woman.

luck you - i agree with your comments 100% curious about what i might do with a guy and he to me, but not kissing or any relationship - just sex - ideally with the wife involved too!

 

[dannyboy1958]

Wish people would remember that having sex with men makes you gay, not letting a woman play with your butt.....Yes there's some social stigma around it but if you can live with yourself after doing it then who cares about stigma.....My opinion

I disagree it make you bi if you still enjoy women - yes?

 

[Funnbrandy]

I disagree it make you bi if you still enjoy women - yes?

Doesn't make you bi either, anal play is not exclusive to gay men in my opinion