Stop the Pain??

[littlerat]

i am 19 ...virgin still.. .....my girlfriend loves to give me blowjobs...and handjobs...but even after i cumm she continues to stroke my pennis....its ok till i am cumming....i get a lot of pleasure....but once i stop cumming and she is continously stroking it..i get a lot of pain...it seems like a cram...but its very different than a cramp...it pains bad
i have told her soo many times,,,but she says it will be ok....and she loves doing that....
any suggestions how to stop the pain....or i am normal or not


guys ...gals....anyones help appreciated

 

[Weird Harold]

but once i stop cumming and she is continously stroking it..i get a lot of pain...it seems like a cram...but its very different than a cramp...it pains bad

This sounds like a question to ask your doctor.

Depending on where the pain is located, it could be one of several serious problems, or it could just be a cramp. It is normal for you penis to be sensitive after an orgasm, but pain is NOT a normal part of sex unless you're very kinky or are doing it wrong (and it's real hard to screw up enjoying a hand-job. )

 

[SweetErika]

i am 19 ...virgin still.. .....my girlfriend loves to give me blowjobs...and handjobs...but even after i cumm she continues to stroke my pennis....its ok till i am cumming....i get a lot of pleasure....but once i stop cumming and she is continously stroking it..i get a lot of pain...it seems like a cram...but its very different than a cramp...it pains bad
i have told her soo many times,,,but she says it will be ok....and she loves doing that....
any suggestions how to stop the pain....or i am normal or not


guys ...gals....anyones help appreciated

I asked my husband to describe the pain of stimulation after orgasm, and he couldn't, saying, "It's just too much and painful." That's the hypersensitivity Harold spoke of though, and I'll echo his question: Where is the pain? In your penis?

Listen, your gf doesn't get to determine what's okay for you and what's not. Just because she likes stimulating you after you come, doesn't mean you have to live with it. My guess is she's heard it's bad to stop too soon, has been with someone who liked it, or she enjoys continued stimulation herself. Therefore, you need to be direct (but kind) with her so you two can work this problem out.

Sit down with her at a non-sexual time, and be honest and direct about the pain. Something like, "Sweetie, I absolutely love your blowjobs and handjobs...you're amazing. But when I continue to receive stimulation after I come, it's incredibly painful. From what I've read, most men and women are overly sensitive after orgasm, but I'm planning on asking my doctor just to make sure what I'm experiencing is normal. So, next time we're intimate, could I let you know when to stop, and perhaps we could try waiting different lengths of time before starting again?" would go over really well with me. The point is to keep it about what you're feeling, and not to blame, or make her feel bad, so using "I" is likely the best way to go.

 

[Eilan]

I agree that this is a question for the doc. My husband and I don't indulge in handjobs very often (I'm not sure why), and while he tends to be really sensitive to the point of ticklishness, particularly so after a blow job, he doesn't feel any type of pain after he cums.

Listen, your gf doesn't get to determine what's okay for you and what's not. Just because she likes stimulating you after you come, doesn't mean you have to live with it.

I agree with this, and with SweetErika's advice on how to bring up the subject. As trite as it sounds, respect isn't a one-way street.

Perhaps you could masturbate for your GF and show her what you do for yourself as you're cumming. That might give her a better idea of when to stop the stimulation.

Good luck.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Is it a pain in your penis or a cramping elsewhere? If it's elsewhere I would defintiely go see a doctor.

If it's just in your penis, around the head in particular, it's nothing too serious. I for one get this all the time because I get over-stimulated. I've found this only happens after a blowjob or a handjob, but I tend to get to the point after I cum where it is painful to even be licked gently, and I need a few minutes to cool down. I have seen my doctor about this and he said it was just a matter of the nerve endings being close to the skin and becoming hypersensitive. Heck my wife gave a me a prolonged blowjob just a couple days ago that was so good that when I came I felt like my dick exploded. Even brushign against bedclothes the rest of the night was uncomfortable! Not that I'm complaining, mind you.

The reason why it happens wiht hand jobs and blowjobs I think is lack of lubrication. I would say to try using a lot fo lube with a hand job and see if you still experience the pain. It seems to lessen the sensitiveness for me.

 

[Quoll]

Not unusual at all if it is the head of the penis, mine is incredibly sensitive after I orgasm, the slightest touch has me assuming the foetal position.
It can be the same for women too on their clitoris.
As the others have said, your GF needs to know that this is painful for you and is NOT fun at all. Perhaps suggest that she confine further stimulation to just the shaft and scrotum until the sensitivity calms down.
Interestingly I dont enjoy much touching anywhere after I orgasm, particularly soft gentle caresses, firm I can cope with, but only just, my nipples are also sensitive and I can't stand them to be touched, whereas beforehand I absolutely love it.

 

[littlerat]

I asked my husband to describe the pain of stimulation after orgasm, and he couldn't, saying, "It's just too much and painful." That's the hypersensitivity Harold spoke of though, and I'll echo his question: Where is the pain? In your penis?

Listen, your gf doesn't get to determine what's okay for you and what's not. Just because she likes stimulating you after you come, doesn't mean you have to live with it. My guess is she's heard it's bad to stop too soon, has been with someone who liked it, or she enjoys continued stimulation herself. Therefore, you need to be direct (but kind) with her so you two can work this problem out.

Sit down with her at a non-sexual time, and be honest and direct about the pain. Something like, "Sweetie, I absolutely love your blowjobs and handjobs...you're amazing. But when I continue to receive stimulation after I come, it's incredibly painful. From what I've read, most men and women are overly sensitive after orgasm, but I'm planning on asking my doctor just to make sure what I'm experiencing is normal. So, next time we're intimate, could I let you know when to stop, and perhaps we could try waiting different lengths of time before starting again?" would go over really well with me. The point is to keep it about what you're feeling, and not to blame, or make her feel bad, so using "I" is likely the best way to go.

thanks a lot it really helped

 

[Daisy May]

i am 19 ...virgin still.. .....my girlfriend loves to give me blowjobs...and handjobs...but even after i cumm she continues to stroke my pennis....its ok till i am cumming....i get a lot of pleasure....but once i stop cumming and she is continously stroking it..i get a lot of pain...it seems like a cram...but its very different than a cramp...it pains bad
i have told her soo many times,,,but she says it will be ok....and she loves doing that....
any suggestions how to stop the pain....or i am normal or not


guys ...gals....anyones help appreciated

I think you're normal. It's the same for women too. Sometimes we can get over stimulated, and after we climax, it's very sensitive to touch.

 

[FurryFury]

Tell your girl what you like and what you don't in a nice way, then be firm. They like it when you are firm. Most of em anyway. A good girl would not want to hurt you unless you enjoyed being hurt.

Fury

 

[SweetErika]

thanks a lot it really helped

You're very welcome, and I'm glad you got it all worked out!

 

[leanoir]

My ex was the same way. The minute he came, he wanted my hand/mouth out of there. Said it was just too painful. I don't think anything's wrong with you, although a trip to the doctor never hurt anyone. You just have to be honest, which is the phrase you'll hear most often here on the HT Board

 

[drummer34]

I have it that way too, have had it allways. I'm uncut, perhaps cut men has a higher tolerance? I continue while the sperm shoots out but then i have to stop otherwise it starts to hurt, well hurt is perhaps not the right word but it is very oversensitive. Tell your girlfrined that she is hurting you and unless she's a sadist i'll bet she will understand

 

[TBKahuna123]

Well I am cut and it's exactly as you describe it for me as well, so I doubt that has anything to do with it. I think it's just normal that some men experience, just as some women experience clitoral sensititvty after an orgasm. I think you'll find we are in the majority on this one, rather than the minority.

 

[littlerat]

I think you're normal. It's the same for women too. Sometimes we can get over stimulated, and after we climax, it's very sensitive to touch.

i agree with u

 

[littlerat]

My ex was the same way. The minute he came, he wanted my hand/mouth out of there. Said it was just too painful. I don't think anything's wrong with you, although a trip to the doctor never hurt anyone. You just have to be honest, which is the phrase you'll hear most often here on the HT Board

i talked about it with a doc....he told me it was normal