Stiffed: Sexual equality in America: yeah, right!

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Stiffed by Katha Pollitt

The Nation

Penises were all over the news as I sat down to write this column. On May 22 faces blushed scarlet in New York State when it came to light that over the past five years Medicaid has handed out free Viagra to 198 sex criminals. Apparently the state thought federal rules required no less. The next day, researchers released a study showing excellent results for Johnson & Johnson's dapoxetine, a drug that prevents premature ejaculation and intensifies the male orgasm. True, rapists' access to taxpayer-funded stiffies vanished within hours, and they willprobably have to buy their own dapoxetine too. But you have to admit, men are moving right along, sexually. They have drugs to help them get up and stay in and get out in a shower of sparks, and an array of private and public health plans to pay for thesefleshly maneuvers: Last year Medicaid laid out approximately $38 million for impotence drugs; Medicare will start providing them for seniors next year at an estimated cost of nearly $2 billion over the following decade. Even the Defense Department covers them. Need I add that men don't have to worry that their pharmacist will ask to see a marriage license or plug their
name into the sex offender registry before handing over those little blue pills?

No, the double standard still waves over the nation's bedrooms. The only new birth control method coming up soon is actually a nostalgia item, the Today sponge, beloved by Seinfeld's Elaine, which will be returning to drugstores later this year. Two decades into the AIDS epidemic, the only woman-controlled means of protection against HIV--now the leading cause of death among black women age 25-34--is the aesthetically repulsive, cumbersome and hard-to-find female condom. Hormone replacement therapy, promoted since the 1950s as the fountain of feminine youth and sexual vitality, looks to be mostly hype, with the possibility of heart attack, stroke and breast or ovarian cancer.

And what about sex aids for women? Where's that female Viagra they're always promising us? Most newspapers didn't even report that in December an FDA panel turned down Procter & Gamble's application for Intrinsa, a testosterone patch intended to raise libido in women whose ovaries have been removed. The problem wasn't that Intrinsa didn't work (the panel voted 14 to 3 that the manufacturers' trials showed a meaningful improvement in desire and pleasure); the issue was health risks as well as the potential for "off-label use" by women who had simply lost their mojo. A "lifestyle drug" for women! Can't have that.
Men, of course, have been known to use Viagra recreationally, and Viagra, moreover, is not without risk: It has been associated with fatal heart attacks and eye damage. Here's what gets me, though: FDA panelist Dr. David Hager voted against Intrinsa. Yes, that David Hager--the right-wing Christian Ob-Gyn accused of persistent marital rape by his former wife and now under scrutiny for his secret
role, first revealed in The Nation, in killing over-the-counter status for emergency
contraception. Maybe there are enough questions about Intrinsa's safety to justify the turn-down--but letting Hager vote on female sex drugs is like letting the Taliban vote on women's hemlines.

It didn't have to be this way. When it first came out, it looked like Viagra was going to be women's best friend. So precipitately did private insurers and government programs rush to cover the magical impotence remedy, the longstanding refusal by many insurers to cover contraception stood out, finally, as indefensibly sexist. (Viagra coverage was justified because impotence makes men depressed--poor Bob Dole! As weall know, fear of pregnancy has no such effect on
women.) Pushed by feminist activists, twenty-one state legislatures since 1998 have mandated that private insurers cover birth control the same as other drugs. Even in those states, however, coverage remains spotty, thanks to business-friendly loopholes. And federal coverage is far fromperfect: Medicare, which insures not just the elderly but also many young disabled people, does not cover contraception.

The biggest threat to contraception, though, is the right-wing Christians who have put themselves in charge of the nation's wombs. (Viagra is pro-life, the Pill is pro-death--sperm rules!) It's not enough that they call emergency contraception--high doses of certain birth control pills, taken within seventy-two hours of intercourse--a "mini-abortion" (in fact, as I wrote last time, studies by the Population Council show that EC does not work by blocking implantation of a fertilized egg; it prevents ovulation). Now they've persuaded states to shift funds from family planning to "abortion alternatives." For the past two fiscal years and the upcoming one, Missouri has abolished state funding for family planning and boosted programs intended to encourage childbirth. More than 30,000 women who relied on state-funded birth control are now on their own--though if they get pregnant, the state will be happy to kick in some baby clothes or arrange an adoption. Likewise, the Texas legislature has just voted to divert funds from family planning to antichoice "crisis pregnancy" centers, and Minnesota is considering a similar move.

It's all enough to make a girl go on sex strike--at least until Intrinsa gets the OK. After all, as President Bush seemed to be suggesting in a photo-op with babies who had been "adopted" as abandoned embryos, why get hot and bothered when you can be implanted with one of the thousands of leftover embryos languishing in fertility-clinic freezers, and save that clump of cells from certain death in the lab? Yes, thanks to the wonders of reproductive science, if you pay attention in abstinence-only sex ed you too can have a virgin birth.
 
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I'm not surprised in the least. Disgusted, yes. Surprised, no.

This has always been one of my pet peeves, starting right after college when I discovered my shiny new job didn't offer health insurance that paid for bc pills. I insisted my boyfriend pay his share or we wouldn't be having any sex at all.
 
Lady Jeanne said:
This has always been one of my pet peeves, starting right after college when I discovered my shiny new job didn't offer health insurance that paid for bc pills. I insisted my boyfriend pay his share or we wouldn't be having any sex at all.

Geez, you must have been a bitch to live with. You sound just like my wife!

The double standard perpetrated on women in this country should be considered shameful - except when you compare it to the double standard imposed on women in some other (read Islamic) countries.
 
Now why in the world does this surprise you? I'm sure if you looked a little harder you would find more than a few double standards in the United States laws.

Cat
 
thebullet said:
Geez, you must have been a bitch to live with.

No, actually, I wasn't a bitch in the least. I was in love and wanted nothing more than to have sex with him constantly. However, my shiny new job paid $21k a year, then subtract taxes and insurance, college loans, rent (plus security deposit), utilities, new clothes for work, public transportation to work, groceries, etc., etc., AND I was not about to get accidentally pregnant on top of it. I didn't see why I should have to foot the whole bc bill when he was having sex too.

When he said he couldn't contribute, I gave up the doctor I'd had for years and started seeing a nurse-practioner at Planned Parenthood - they gave them to me at a huge discount.
 
Lady Jeanne said:
No, actually, I wasn't a bitch in the least.
Sorry if you were offended. I was just kidding. My wife takes these things very seriously as well. I was merely stating that it was the kind of thing my wife would have done. And she really isn't a bitch either. She just demands and gets her rights. Or else.
 
thebullet said:
Sorry if you were offended. I was just kidding. My wife takes these things very seriously as well. I was merely stating that it was the kind of thing my wife would have done. And she really isn't a bitch either. She just demands and gets her rights. Or else.

May I introduce you to the ;) smilie? He's on the right, below the frog.

;)
 
I'm so surprised. A sexual double-standard. As if most men view women as external masturbation devices that obey all of their sexual desires and don't complain and don't raise a fuss when they spread their god-given love around. As if men would rather their woman jump through a thousand expensive hoops, but won't wear a fucking condom because that interferes with their orgasm. So shocking. Utterly unbelievable. As if men don't dump their women when they do get pregnant and then do everything in their power to ensure they can't get rid of their unwanted child. As if nearly all rapists are men. As if nearly all child molestors are men. As if most men were pigs.

Again, so shocking. I was so surprised.

How was that? Did I keep a straight face through all of it? What, I'm still on. Fuck, turn me off quick. I-
 
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