Spousal support.

[LukasGrey]

I think all the above points about erotica/romance/porn are really interesting. To me, I find romance to be the feelings devoid of sex. Porn to be the sex devoid of feeling and erotica to be the mixture of the two. All three are interesting sides of the human condition and I think a story can be told that is interesting on all fronts.

As a man with a classical education, I was brought up with a lot of the 'classical' romances, i.e. Pride and Prejudice, and as a younger man found them to be terrible. As an older man, I find that I enjoy the interconnection of the characters, even if it's not 'manly' to do so.

Also, as a man, I don't think I need to go into detail about the porn side of things... =)

Nice to see I'm not the only one neurotic enough to give thought to the details of these types of things!

 

[Bramblethorn]

"Porn" is what you like. "Erotica" is what I like.

 

[StrangeTamer]

I think "erotica" is an umbrella term for anything that is sexually arousing--to anyone.

Porn is part of erotica.
Romance is part of erotica.

And so on.

I like this way of thinking of it. So romance would be like PG erotica and a down and dirty fuck story would be R erotica. I've never really thought about this until I started writing. A friend knew I was writing and wanted to know what it was about, I tolled her it was erotica and what it was about. She wanted to read it when I was done so I printed it out and gave it to her, a few days later she told me that she really liked it but wasn't expecting it to be so graphic. She was ok with it but she was expecting romance.

 

[Jimmythecoyote]

My wife knows I write erotica, she doesn't know the balls-out smut I write though, and she'd prefer it if I was writing non-erotic.

I've always been incredibly careful to keep my writing from the rest of my family because I have no desire to have to explain myself to them, but it turns out that even if I tell my mother I'm getting published she doesn't care enough to ask to read what I wrote.