Spontaneity

[BiBunny]

So let's talk about being spontaneous. Are you? Aren't you? How has it affected your life?

I am. I often wish I weren't. Nobody else in my life is especially spontaneous, and I spend a lot of time essentially feeling trapped. Not to mention the fact that people often make me feel like there's something wrong with me because I'm not interested in boring things like sitting around and watching TV all day or whatever. I get the feeling that most of these people wish I'd just "grow up."

On the other hand, it's nice knowing I get to experience things that many people don't, simply because I'm not averse to trying those things. I love the feeling of being free, too.

 

[MisterSir]

I'm not, but I'm alright with that. I worry too much about the things that could go wrong to just wing anything, I like to be prepared.

 

[Seurat]

When I am on I rise, I love to be spontaneous (get in the car!).

When I am on the way down, or at the bottom, I gots no initiative for nothing.

 

[satindesire]

I'm not a spontaneous person, but I am perfectly happy doing spontaneous things. Meaning, I am usually sticking to a schedule all the time, but I'm totally willing to haul off and take a picnic to the park out of the blue.

In the end, I keep a schedule for myself because I have so much to take care of these days I -have- to stay organized.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

I'm generally not, but I'm easily influenced by others.

I've been dragged into a few random adventures in my day, and they've been fun!

 

[ultramarineblue]

I go through phases of being spontaneous. Most of the time I stick somewhat to a schedule. I'm kinda itching to go off and do something though.

 

[intothewoods]

So let's talk about being spontaneous. Are you? Aren't you? How has it affected your life?

I am. I often wish I weren't. Nobody else in my life is especially spontaneous, and I spend a lot of time essentially feeling trapped. Not to mention the fact that people often make me feel like there's something wrong with me because I'm not interested in boring things like sitting around and watching TV all day or whatever. I get the feeling that most of these people wish I'd just "grow up."

On the other hand, it's nice knowing I get to experience things that many people don't, simply because I'm not averse to trying those things. I love the feeling of being free, too.

Sometimes. If the opposite of spontaneity is watching TV all day though, I vote for spontaneity.

 

[Bi_Kitty]

I have my moments. But over all, I like to take in all of the possibilities of the outcome.

Yes, I wish I could leave tomorrow and travel around Europe. And if I had the means. If for some reasons the means were to suddenly come available tomorrow, I would leave like a bolt of lighting not thinking twice about anything, even though I just started this job on Monday. So what.

 

[BiBunny]

Sometimes. If the opposite of spontaneity is watching TV all day though, I vote for spontaneity.

Meh. It was just the first thing that popped in my head, honestly.

I don't like routine. I don't like being tied down to any one thing. The whole American Dream schtick makes me feel ill. Really? That's what you want? A house in the suburbs that looks like everyone else's and your dog and your 2.5 kids?

No thanks. I'd rather sacrifice a little security to keep from dying of boredom, LOL. Even if it does get me in trouble a lot.

 

[Keroin]

Super spontaneous.

L and me both. One day we had to drive down to Seatac airport to pick up a cheque from a friend and as I stepped out of the shower L said, "Want to go to Vegas today?"

I said, "Hell yes!"

We stuffed some clothes in a bag, bought a ticket at the airport and booked our hotel using the airport internet. What a hoot.

We do that kind of stuff all the time. Wouldn't have my life any other way.

 

[CutieMouse]

I'm the sort of woman who always makes a shopping list, organized by section (produce, canned goods, deli, etc) and layout of the store in question...

The few times in life I've done things uncharacteristically spontaneous, it hasn't usually ended so well. LOL

 

[ImOnIt]

If I feel like something, I'll do it. Drive to another town for the day. Many of my favourite times have been unplanned.

Currently, I'm working nights because I said yes. It's an experience, and I'm learning new things.

 

[BiBunny]

Super spontaneous.

L and me both. One day we had to drive down to Seatac airport to pick up a cheque from a friend and as I stepped out of the shower L said, "Want to go to Vegas today?"

I said, "Hell yes!"

We stuffed some clothes in a bag, bought a ticket at the airport and booked our hotel using the airport internet. What a hoot.

We do that kind of stuff all the time. Wouldn't have my life any other way.

Why can't I find a man like that? LOL.

 

[Kojote]

Meh. It was just the first thing that popped in my head, honestly.

I don't like routine. I don't like being tied down to any one thing. The whole American Dream schtick makes me feel ill. Really? That's what you want? A house in the suburbs that looks like everyone else's and your dog and your 2.5 kids?

No thanks. I'd rather sacrifice a little security to keep from dying of boredom, LOL. Even if it does get me in trouble a lot.

I got the picture and I am totally with you.
I am spontaneous whenever I can be. Being selfemployed there are all those things to attend to, but in between I pick up just anything from the huge schedule of things to get done till next year and do it. Or I come up with a totally new (and of course brilliant) idea which extends the mentioned list at best...
Unfortunately I am trapped and cannot easily take some time off to follow impulses not related to work (or things which are short enough to be done in between).
But I think I understand you perfectly anyway...

In some way you are awake in a bunch of sleepers. Don't let them lull you!

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Spontaneity?

I have none. I keep a schedule and I follow it. Everything has a time, a place and I very rarely allow myself to diverge from what my daily schedule says needs to be done (or paid or tended to). In some respects, it is almost OCD in it's intensity. If I know I have something to do and I don't do it...well...let's just say it ends up getting done because I can't take it.

What does this mean on the spontaneous level? Basically, I don't have time for it. Two jobs, three kids and bills to pay. Way back when I was much, much younger I used to have mini episodes where I just ran off and did whatever but I felt lost...like I had no control, so I stopped doing that.

So, no grand adventures for me. I need a plan, I need to research, I need to KNOW before I do...and then it gets added to the list as something I can do (or would do if only I could find the time).

And this covers every aspect of my life...from the daily grind to vacation time. I need a plan or I feel overwhelmed.

 

[Kikori]

It's a unique subject for me. I can't make a trip unless I know the times for it are planned out. But I can't plan for shit what actually happens once the trip is made and I'm at my destination. I also tend to be indecisive enough that choosing what to do is a process of elimination rather than a choice from a list of options, or following a want.

 

[Sugar_Spice]

I got the picture and I am totally with you.
I am spontaneous whenever I can be. Being selfemployed there are all those things to attend to, but in between I pick up just anything from the huge schedule of things to get done till next year and do it. Or I come up with a totally new (and of course brilliant) idea which extends the mentioned list at best...
Unfortunately I am trapped and cannot easily take some time off to follow impulses not related to work (or things which are short enough to be done in between).
But I think I understand you perfectly anyway...

In some way you are awake in a bunch of sleepers. Don't let them lull you!

Your last line;
'In some way you are awake in a bunch of sleepers. Don't let them lull you!'

Painted an evocative picture to me.

...And then I read your personal sub-text below it and it suggested that you don't speak English well and to give you any tips??

-Am I also allowed to give you tips as to when you're doing very well??

 

[Sugar_Spice]

I have a great deal of respect for spontaneity. And when I do break to ropes to do something out of the ordinary/ exciting, it not only makes me feel a lot more free and a lot happier, it also gives me enough food for thought to chew over and keep me entertained once I get back to the same old routine.

Unless the means to travel freely without constraints ever falls in my lap, I've a nasty suspicion that I will only ever be 'spontaneous' during the free time lazily ironed into my schedule... which isn't truly spontaneous at all, right??

All I do know for sure however, is that- if the means ever did become available, I would delight in never relying on a clock again- and simply living to whatever each moment brings- without forever having one eye on the clock and when I should be doing the next thing, or chastising myself for having not yet gone to bed!

 

[Keroin]

Why can't I find a man like that? LOL.

I kissed a lot of frogs before finding the proverbial prince

Actually, before L, I lived with a very nice guy who I ended up breaking up with because he just wasn't spontaneous enough. (See: at all). I hated doing it, because he really was a great guy but I need a "by-the seat-of-my-pants" kind of life and he was very much the opposite. If I had stayed, sooner or later I would have cheated on him or resented him - both bad options.

 

[CurlyKat]

I like planned spontaneity. I definitely have that can't sit too still, have to get out and explore thing going, but I need to know something about what I'm going and doing first. That's why I like to research tons of options as far as trips go, the area I'm in, random things I'm interested in, things like that. That way, if the opportunity comes up, then I'm there.

 

[sb2009]

I like spontaneaity (sp? wine?) if someone else does it, so I don't feel bad when it goes wrong. But what is "wrong" anyway? LOL

 

[rida]

I'm a "like to be prepared" type of person.
I need to know that practical matters are taken care of or can be easily taken care of. After that, I don't care much for detailing things out.

When it comes to daily life, there is the schedule that has to be followed and the practical things that needs to be done, but details are always a bit fuzzy.

With vacation, I need to have the tickets and the hotels before hands but all the rest, I don't care. Keroin's last minute trip to Vegas would fit the profile. When I was younger and without a family, I did not care about the hotels either, and if traveling by car, I did not care about the destination either. I just needed to know from when to when.

So I'm a planned spontaneous person

ETA: shopping is totally spontaneous, LOL. It drives Hubby crazy and as such never comes with me
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[Kojote]

Your last line;
'In some way you are awake in a bunch of sleepers. Don't let them lull you!'

Painted an evocative picture to me.

...And then I read your personal sub-text below it and it suggested that you don't speak English well and to give you any tips??

-Am I also allowed to give you tips as to when you're doing very well??

Uhm...
Thank you...! *blushes*
I seem to have some enlightened moments...

All I do know for sure however, is that- if the means ever did become available, I would delight in never relying on a clock again- and simply living to whatever each moment brings- without forever having one eye on the clock and when I should be doing the next thing, or chastising myself for having not yet gone to bed!

That may not look like spontaneity, but I find this 'clock looking' thing important, too.
Being impulsive and basically spontaneous I often ignore the clock (and pay the bill with weariness). All my life I have been too late. And nobody seems to like that. Except some very close friends who understand, that I don't do this out of disrespectfulness. It just happens...

May there be any relationship between spontaneity and the affinity to get lost in a moment or task?

 

[Sugar_Spice]

Uhm...
Thank you...! *blushes*
I seem to have some enlightened moments...




That may not look like spontaneity, but I find this 'clock looking' thing important, too.
Being impulsive and basically spontaneous I often ignore the clock (and pay the bill with weariness). All my life I have been too late. And nobody seems to like that. Except some very close friends who understand, that I don't do this out of disrespectfulness. It just happens...

May there be any relationship between spontaneity and the affinity to get lost in a moment or task?

Ooo, yes- interesting! spontaneity is true freedom from the clock!

Once you have no idea where the clock hands are, you've got no ties back to the routine you 'should'' be keeping by them!

I know exactly what you mean about always being a little late. When I was younger a friend of mine used to often tell me to meet 15 mins before eveyone else- partly cos it was nice to catch up before, but largely cos she knew I'd usually be running late!

Three cheers for escaping the clock!

 

[Netzach]

Yes, to the point where I don't like it all that well.

I need Luna to spank me into some semblence of routine.