Spoiled For Every Man But Master--Is This Even Possible?

[BiBunny]

This is going to sound so ludicrous that I hesitate to even type it out. B. often jokes with me that he's spoiled me for every other man I might sleep with because he's such a Sex God. I always tease him right back and tell him that even when I can't stand the sight of him, I'm still going to have to keep him around so I can get off. While it's a running joke between the two of us, I'm starting to wonder if there's not some merit in it.

Since we met a year and a half ago, I've had several play partners besides him. A couple have been Tops; most have been bottoms. Anyway, I love Topping--absolutely love it--but I've found that if I allow my play partners to try to pleasure me sexually, they fall flat on their faces, every time. What they do feels nice, and they follow my "how to pleasure me" instructions, but I just can't be satisfied. It happened earlier with a sub boy. It felt nice, but nice just doesn't get it for me anymore.

I don't think it's a secret hang-up with Topping. When I Top B., I don't have this problem. Is it possible that he really has spoiled me, that he knows my body so well, and our sexualities mesh so well together that nobody else will ever make me feel the way he does? Or am I just coincidentally picking a whole string of men who really aren't that adept at inducing orgasms?

Anybody have any experience with this? I can't be the only one. It's starting to freak me out, though. He can't really have cast a spell over me, can he?

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Ah yes perhaps he can dear one. I am currently in the same shoes. Well almost the same. We ended our erotic interactions 6 months ago after 9 months of pure bliss and now...well now I don't even have the will to meet anyone new never mind submit to him. I feel lost and rather empty.

I realize that this is a temporary state and I will be able to move on I just stuck in limbo right now.

This is going to sound so ludicrous that I hesitate to even type it out. B. often jokes with me that he's spoiled me for every other man I might sleep with because he's such a Sex God. I always tease him right back and tell him that even when I can't stand the sight of him, I'm still going to have to keep him around so I can get off. While it's a running joke between the two of us, I'm starting to wonder if there's not some merit in it.

Since we met a year and a half ago, I've had several play partners besides him. A couple have been Tops; most have been bottoms. Anyway, I love Topping--absolutely love it--but I've found that if I allow my play partners to try to pleasure me sexually, they fall flat on their faces, every time. What they do feels nice, and they follow my "how to pleasure me" instructions, but I just can't be satisfied. It happened earlier with a sub boy. It felt nice, but nice just doesn't get it for me anymore.

I don't think it's a secret hang-up with Topping. When I Top B., I don't have this problem. Is it possible that he really has spoiled me, that he knows my body so well, and our sexualities mesh so well together that nobody else will ever make me feel the way he does? Or am I just coincidentally picking a whole string of men who really aren't that adept at inducing orgasms?

Anybody have any experience with this? I can't be the only one. It's starting to freak me out, though. He can't really have cast a spell over me, can he?

 

[pellso27]

sounds like a simple mind

 

[BiBunny]

Ok, now that we have the obligatory drive-by-dumbass posting out of the way early, would anybody else like to contribute something?

 

[pellso27]

nope....like well we all need a stiff upper lip sometimes

now get on your knees.......honey

 

[jadefirefly]

Ok, now that we have the obligatory drive-by-dumbass posting out of the way early, would anybody else like to contribute something?

Contribution number one: Ignore the dumbasses.

Contribution number two: Actually, I think it's very possible. Although "spoiled" isn't the word I would use.

If what you want is for another man to do to you *exactly* what the current one does, then you'll never be happy. Every man is different, just as every woman is different. They'll take different approaches, spend more time in different places, and feel different in every single aspect of the word.

I was 25 or 26 before I had my first experience with someone who felt as if our bodies were actually designed to fit together. Even simple touches seemed sensual. I'd no idea such a thing was possible. When we separated, it took quite a while to get over the idea that nobody else would be able to make me feel like he did.

Eventually I realized, though, that I should quit worrying about it, because in truth, I was right. Nobody ever WOULD make me feel the same way. But just because that wasn't possible didn't mean that it wasn't possible for other things to feel just as good -- but in a different way.

Put more simply -- chocolate ice cream and chocolate cake are both chocolate in the end, but you don't expect them to taste exactly the same, do you?

 

[Evil_Geoff]

This is going to sound so ludicrous that I hesitate to even type it out. B. often jokes with me that he's spoiled me for every other man I might sleep with because he's such a Sex God. I always tease him right back and tell him that even when I can't stand the sight of him, I'm still going to have to keep him around so I can get off. While it's a running joke between the two of us, I'm starting to wonder if there's not some merit in it.
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Anybody have any experience with this? I can't be the only one. It's starting to freak me out, though. He can't really have cast a spell over me, can he?

It's called "The Magic Penis". Some men have them, and if the last couple janey had is any example, they can be poisonous personalities.

You find someone who really does it for you, I mean REALLY does it for you. And nothing else seems to matter. The dick is that good. Unless the owner/operator is of the so-finest-kind though, it's a bumpy ride at best. The one she found before that, she said he was like crack. It didn't matter what he did to her, what he said, how he treated her, as long as she got that dick it was worth it. For a while.

If you have a Magic Penis, good luck.

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, I was told by a couple of guys I dated that I had spoiled them for all women and I laughed...but then it became something I heard from a couple more and they all kept coming back against their will until I just said, 'enough'. I'm not sure what is supposed to be so good about what I do except I am open to trying just about anything, but even F now says he has never had someone remotely like me and he says it isn't the adventurous thing but more the way I feel etc.

My theory is if I can do this, so can other women, they just have to find the right one....so don't worry BB, I'm sure somewhere you will find someone else, and even one who might far outshine him. You are only young, there are a lot of men out there to work your way through before deciding you have already found the ultimate one. LOL, took me over 40 years to find the one I consider the ultimate, and believe me, you don't even want a guess at the magical figure of men I tried while getting there...let's just say it was more than a few.

Catalina

 

[SubKekiLee]

This is going to sound so ludicrous that I hesitate to even type it out. B. often jokes with me that he's spoiled me for every other man I might sleep with because he's such a Sex God. I always tease him right back and tell him that even when I can't stand the sight of him, I'm still going to have to keep him around so I can get off. While it's a running joke between the two of us, I'm starting to wonder if there's not some merit in it.

Since we met a year and a half ago, I've had several play partners besides him. A couple have been Tops; most have been bottoms. Anyway, I love Topping--absolutely love it--but I've found that if I allow my play partners to try to pleasure me sexually, they fall flat on their faces, every time. What they do feels nice, and they follow my "how to pleasure me" instructions, but I just can't be satisfied. It happened earlier with a sub boy. It felt nice, but nice just doesn't get it for me anymore.

I don't think it's a secret hang-up with Topping. When I Top B., I don't have this problem. Is it possible that he really has spoiled me, that he knows my body so well, and our sexualities mesh so well together that nobody else will ever make me feel the way he does? Or am I just coincidentally picking a whole string of men who really aren't that adept at inducing orgasms?

Anybody have any experience with this? I can't be the only one. It's starting to freak me out, though. He can't really have cast a spell over me, can he?

BB- You know I might be with you in the same boat.. since meeting my J he has cast a spell over me that so far I havent been able to kick ( not that I want to) I spoke to an old Dom who several years ago wanted me to submit to him I played with him 3 times in about 45 days but didnt feel a connection with him not like I do with J.. So I agree with you maybe B did cast a sexual spell over you that youll never get over.. J told me yesterday that I am such a good slut is why he fell for me and that the reason I fell for him is cause he controls me like no other.. Oh my.. Maybe this will be the one for life..

 

[Netzach]

I get different mindblowing good lovin' from different people. It's like asking which is better, foie gras or chocolate ice cream. Don't make me pick, and comparing the two is kind of just as nauseating as putting foie gras and chocolate next to one another on a plate.

I've also had three or four different soulmates, though. I'm sure some people have only one, but I guess my lot in life is to be a millionaire in love if not in money.

 

[CutieMouse]

As long as you're comparing people to B, you'll find they fall short of your expectations.

 

[Netzach]

It's called "The Magic Penis". Some men have them, and if the last couple janey had is any example, they can be poisonous personalities.

You find someone who really does it for you, I mean REALLY does it for you. And nothing else seems to matter. The dick is that good. Unless the owner/operator is of the so-finest-kind though, it's a bumpy ride at best. The one she found before that, she said he was like crack. It didn't matter what he did to her, what he said, how he treated her, as long as she got that dick it was worth it. For a while.

If you have a Magic Penis, good luck.

And that's OK too. Eventually you may decide that the crazy train is not worth the dicking, and sometimes you want to ride it till it throws you off and that's a valid adult decision.

 

[BiBunny]

I realized that I may have given the wrong impression with my initial post. While he's damn good in bed, I don't stay with B. because of the sex. He's one of my best friends (and definitely not crazy), and I love him deeply. That's why I stay with him.

I also don't think I'm really comparing him to anyone, at least not consciously. I don't lie and think, "Well, B. doesn't do it that way." I do my best to enjoy what's going on, but I always feel unsatisfied when it's over. Only upon reflection do I think, "B. wouldn't have left me feeling empty and unfulfilled like this."

I don't know what I'm saying. Last night was a bad night, and today's not much better.

 

[FurryFury]

Bi Bunny,

I think because you are so into him, love him and so on, that yes, no one can match that right now. I don't think you should worry about it though.

If you two ever really call it quits, (and I know you don't intend to or want to) I believe you may, like me, start to see things in a very different and more negative light.

I seem to do that. What should have been so clear to me, what I should have known right off, and not put up with ever, was not something I could see until I was out of it.

That being said, it has taken me a very long time to work through sexually what my ex did to me and with me.

I never stopped valuing and enjoying sex but some activities were off limits to me for a while because of association with him. I've been able to overcome most of them.

*HUG*

I hope your day gets better.

For now just enjoy and value what you have as much as you can. That would be my best advice.

 

[neonflux]

I realized that I may have given the wrong impression with my initial post. While he's damn good in bed, I don't stay with B. because of the sex. He's one of my best friends (and definitely not crazy), and I love him deeply. That's why I stay with him.

I also don't think I'm really comparing him to anyone, at least not consciously. I don't lie and think, "Well, B. doesn't do it that way." I do my best to enjoy what's going on, but I always feel unsatisfied when it's over. Only upon reflection do I think, "B. wouldn't have left me feeling empty and unfulfilled like this."

I don't know what I'm saying. Last night was a bad night, and today's not much better.

Ah Bunny! I feel very similarly about D, something we were actually talking about this morning. Very early on upon becoming "serious" we agreed on an open relationship. My sado-masochistic kink and his lack thereof in some ways makes it a necessity and I do have play partners - sensual, but my current play relationships do not involve "genital sexual exchange."

Right now, I am so full of ~D and so filled by him that there is just no room for anyone else. I know that were I to have sex with someone else right now, and were it to happen without ~D being there to share in it, it wouldn't be fulfilling. At this point in our relationship, we both want to focus our most intimate erotic energy on each other exclusively. We also expect that this will change - for one thing, I will eventually desire a serious relationship with a woman.

So, long and short of it, I don't think you are odd for having these feelings. But I do have a question and hope I'm not being presumptuous. Are you wondering about the exclusivity of your feelings when it comes to men in part because your relationship with B, as much as you get from him, is so rocky at times?

Neon

 

[Chicklet]

Honestly, my last real boyfriend more or less spoiled me. I have had enjoyable sex since him, but not consistent and in all the different ways sex was enjoyable with him.

urgh.

 

[SouthernDom]

This is going to sound so ludicrous that I hesitate to even type it out. B. often jokes with me that he's spoiled me for every other man I might sleep with because he's such a Sex God. I always tease him right back and tell him that even when I can't stand the sight of him, I'm still going to have to keep him around so I can get off. While it's a running joke between the two of us, I'm starting to wonder if there's not some merit in it.

Since we met a year and a half ago, I've had several play partners besides him. A couple have been Tops; most have been bottoms. Anyway, I love Topping--absolutely love it--but I've found that if I allow my play partners to try to pleasure me sexually, they fall flat on their faces, every time. What they do feels nice, and they follow my "how to pleasure me" instructions, but I just can't be satisfied. It happened earlier with a sub boy. It felt nice, but nice just doesn't get it for me anymore.

I don't think it's a secret hang-up with Topping. When I Top B., I don't have this problem. Is it possible that he really has spoiled me, that he knows my body so well, and our sexualities mesh so well together that nobody else will ever make me feel the way he does? Or am I just coincidentally picking a whole string of men who really aren't that adept at inducing orgasms?

Anybody have any experience with this? I can't be the only one. It's starting to freak me out, though. He can't really have cast a spell over me, can he?

A touch or activity from one of your play partners can never be as intense or pleasurable as what you feel with B. I suspect the deep emotional bond that comes with being loved and accepted by B is where the big difference lies............

For some it's not WHAT someone is doing to you that makes the difference.................it's WHOM.

I feel your pain...........random sex with those that I don't have feelings for is not much more than a glorified form of masturbation for me and can never compare what I feel with someone that I truly care for as a person and sexual being.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

This is going to sound so ludicrous that I hesitate to even type it out. B. often jokes with me that he's spoiled me for every other man I might sleep with because he's such a Sex God. I always tease him right back and tell him that even when I can't stand the sight of him, I'm still going to have to keep him around so I can get off. While it's a running joke between the two of us, I'm starting to wonder if there's not some merit in it.

Since we met a year and a half ago, I've had several play partners besides him. A couple have been Tops; most have been bottoms. Anyway, I love Topping--absolutely love it--but I've found that if I allow my play partners to try to pleasure me sexually, they fall flat on their faces, every time. What they do feels nice, and they follow my "how to pleasure me" instructions, but I just can't be satisfied. It happened earlier with a sub boy. It felt nice, but nice just doesn't get it for me anymore.

I don't think it's a secret hang-up with Topping. When I Top B., I don't have this problem. Is it possible that he really has spoiled me, that he knows my body so well, and our sexualities mesh so well together that nobody else will ever make me feel the way he does? Or am I just coincidentally picking a whole string of men who really aren't that adept at inducing orgasms?

Anybody have any experience with this? I can't be the only one. It's starting to freak me out, though. He can't really have cast a spell over me, can he?

Without having read any of the posts on this thread other than the OP, you're whipped and you know it. You and I have gotten to know each other pretty well in the last couple of months, so I can say this with some authority.

It may not be that B is a "sex god" so much as thereis a component of (dare I say it?) love that you and B share that you now need it to be a part of your play.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

i hear ya!!

I understand you so well BB....

 

[Etoile]

I wonder if I am the only one who thought of Kamala when reading this thread...

 

[neonflux]

I wonder if I am the only one who thought of Kamala when reading this thread...

Actually, I thought of the Dohlman of Elas. Showing my age, I guess. Neon

!----- little hijack -----> did you hear? leonard nemoy has agreed to play spock again for an upcoming movie? <! ---- end hijack

 

[Etoile]

Actually, I thought of the Dohlman of Elas. Showing my age, I guess. Neon

!----- little hijack -----> did you hear? leonard nemoy has agreed to play spock again for an upcoming movie? <! ---- end hijack

Hmm, really? I don't think of our BB as anything like Elaan! Maybe she is when she's topping? *grin*

What?!?!?! *checks news* Oh my god, they got him on board for the latest Trek movie!! I heard it is being released on 12/25/08...TOO LONG TO WAIT!!

 

[WriterDom]

I don't have a magic penis but I think I'm pretty good at what I do. Never really had any concerns about comparisons to an ex.

You aren't that far away. Get your ass up here if you want to spend some time on the bottom.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I'm not much of a trekkie but I read the links and have to agree with Etoile on this one. They are both very interesting ideas though.

Although BB has been with her man for 18 months she still seems infatuated with him, which is great but makes other encounters less fulfilling as a result. The fact she's drawn to and completed by his friendship as much as by the sex they have is very telling on this point. Like others have said, nobody is going to do exactly what her bf does for her.

My Master and I have been together for a few months now and the depth of our love has been forged by the fact that after the initial courtship has given way to an LTR we have been delighted to discover that our instincts were right and that we do still connect in a deep and satisfying way on every level (sickening huh?).

Our relationship is monogomous but if I did meet and was attracted to another man I know the sex would be less fulfilling because I'm so into my Master. With him I can completely dissemble and become no more or less than whatever he requires of me at the time. That takes a bond of trust that I just don't have with anyone else. Perhaps this has a little to do with why BB's more casual partners aren't giving her the same kick right now?

 

[neonflux]

Hmm, really? I don't think of our BB as anything like Elaan! Maybe she is when she's topping? *grin*

What?!?!?! *checks news* Oh my god, they got him on board for the latest Trek movie!! I heard it is being released on 12/25/08...TOO LONG TO WAIT!!

I know! I know!

However, I am still