Special *spots* on guys?

[Taliz]

I've been a lurker for a few days and finally decided to post.. and with my first post, I have a question for yas.

What are some sensitive spots and turn-on zones on guys?
My guy knows all of mine (sucking the ear lobes, rubbing on the nipples, and oh so many others that just drives a girl WILD!) and he's just an excellent lover, but I often feel bad because I don't know how to please him as well as he does me. I hear a lot about special attention to a guy's balls or nipples, but he's extremely ticklish in those spots, so I need to know what else I could try. Thanks in advance for any advice

 

[Different Guy]

Nipples do it for me other than my penis

 

[BlueElf]

Oh wow

Right underneath my cockhead....my earlobes....and my perineum - that area between balls and anus (and the balls too - shivers)

BlueElf

 

[SkyyAngel]

I've found light stroking on the inner thigh from about 3 inches up past the knee all the way to the top is a real turn.

Also some guys just love like rubbing and massage. Pretty much anywhere. My babe loves hand massages....drives him nuts.

It's different for all men just like women so why don't you ask him? That's always the quickest way to find out. And if he doesn't know (or who knows...doesn't feel like sharing) then set up a full body massage complete with lotion and baby powder....hint: Take Notes!!!

Hope it all works out for ya.

 

[Taliz]

Hehe I kind of forgot to mention ^^ I do know the penis loves attention, especially that little spot right under the head. But other than that I'm kind of mostly clueless lol
I'll try whats been suggested tho and open for more ideas

 

[Taliz]

It's different for all men just like women so why don't you ask him?

I've asked him, but either he doesnt want to tell me or we just haven't found the spots yet. I'm definitely gonna do a little exploring next time I have the opportunity ;D

 

[SkyyAngel]

Then I HIGHLY suggest the massage thing. Take your time....at least an hour if not more. This is a learning experience for the both of you. Not to mention it will probably make you both hornier than hell. When I did it, he wasn't allowed to touch me and I stayed away from his cock the whole time.

Then....he gets to "do" you. I was so turned on through his massage and then mine I was practically begging to be fucked.

Every couple should take the time to do this sort of attention thing to each other at least once. It's so great and really intimate. I had done this before with my ex- (cough...bastard) bf...and it was still good....can't wait to do it with my love now. I'm really looking forward to what gets him hot and for him finding out what gets me that way too. Who knows...he might find spots I'd forgotten about or didn't know already existed. That's always a fun thing.

 

[MrBates]

I'd Be Happy....

To volunteer.

Either to let Taliz explore me, and I must mention, that I'm not shy when being asked questions;

Or if SkyyAngel needs more practice at that massage routine, I'd DEFINITELY be game for that as well.

And DITTOS to what she says about staying away from the penis.
I'll guarantee if you do that, he'll be BEGGING for you when you're done.

 

[rumandcoke]

im exceptionally sensitive all over .. but my neck gets me the most .. its gets to the point where you can bearly touch me there without me going nuts

 

[SkyyAngel]

Awww...why thank you Mr. Bates. Do you think I might have you begging for me?

 

[MrBates]

I'd Say...

That's probably a *distinct* possibility!


Hmmm.
So, you like it when guys beg?

 

[SkyyAngel]

Oh of course...nothing makes me hornier....or course unless it's me doing the begging.

 

[MrBates]

And That....

Oh of course...nothing makes me hornier....or course unless it's me doing the begging.

is exactly what I would expect to happen after I had my turn massaging you!

Pretty please?

 

[Taliz]

you dirty hijackers ;p
lol
and MrBates, the offer was nice and all, but I prefer to be exclusive in my relationships. I'll keep to exploring my own guy you and Skyy can go have fun tho lol
Thanks for the input so far, I appreciate it so much!

As for anything else, all you guys out there and girls who may know as well from their own guys, what really gets you going? tools, techniques, whatever there may be.
Also I want to ask, what are huge turn-offs as well? Things to be avoided

 

[splifman_x]

You can't look for turn ons with out risking finding turn offs.
It's a double edged sword.

 

[MrBates]

Ms. Taliz

I would NEVER want to interfere with your relationship. I was only volunteering my body if you needed practice.

The back of my neck is good; the small of my back. The insides of my biceps, too.

Turn offs? Don't 'tickle' me....deliberately.
And no squeezing my balls too hard. They're pretty sensitive.

Good luck with your guy.
I still advocate getting him to tell you; or maybe show you.
Encourage him...stress that he shouldn't have to be shy around you.

 

[DuckLover]

There was a thread a couple weeks ago to the effect of "Guys-- what totally turns you on?" (There was also an equivalent for women.) Lots of responses and ideas. I recommend you run a search and check it out.

The idea of massage and exploration together is a great one!! Do it! It's wonderfully intimate (and fun!) in and of itself. And the education you'll receive will be invaluable for creating insanely ecstatic nights of passion in the future!

(Don't forget-- people change over time, so you may be FORCED to explore each other repeatedly...)

 

[SkyyAngel]

Hmmmm...my turn-offs would most definately be something like sticking a finger in my ass unexpectedly and unlubed. Duh.

Also my nipples are really sensitive when I first start out so you have to be nice but the more turned on I get the rougher you can be with them..pinching and pulling, perhaps taking a small nip. Go too fast and it hurts.

Tickling is okay so long as it's one of those days. Heh heh you know that goofy fun sex you've had at least once in your life. Where one of you farts or some other embarassing moment and you both just laugh and keep going.

Hmmm...I don't have that many turn-offs. If you get me in bed you've already "passed" most of my checklist there.

 

[weathered2]

Stroking very softly with the fingertips, or with a tissue or feather, the upper inner thighs, scrotum and up to the aforementioned underside of the head of the penis. Not too much to ask for, right?

 

[jeremy54b]

I have to second the hand massage thing. I LOVE having my hands, arms, shoulders and head/neck rubbed. That is the quickest way to either get me to relax to have me at your mercy Nipples, ears, neck, scrotum, perineum, ass, all those work too

 

[emer]

I'm trying to find out what makes my new guy sing too.

One experience I had long ago with a great friend. I was actually paying attention to what HE was doing to ME ... had a random pre-orgasmic thought that maybe he'd like me to do the same. We were in the 69 position and his tongue flicked around my ass. I almost lost it ... warring thoughts of "yuck, gross" to "lord have mercy, don't stop!"

Eventually we changed positions, he was on his back, and I did the same move on him. My hand was on his cock and I actually felt him tingle and swell. He tried to pull away, but moans and groans gave me the courage to continue.

Luckily (no tube lube in site) between my "excessive wetness" and the saliva I made we both ended up pleasing each other orally while putting just one little knuckle's worth in each others ass. A first for both of us!

So ... I try to notice what he is doing to me ... nipples, thighs, hair, hands ... wherever he is paying attention to me. Then I copy!

Goes both ways ... if the guy has a clue, he'll pay as much attention to my nipples as I have to his.

emer

 

[deyv]

Turn-ons / Turn-offs

Turn-ons:

Sucking and playing with the Nipples is good - I'm also extremely ticklish (so much so that a girlfriend once thought I was laughing at her technique and started to get mad about it) but after a few minutes the tickling feelng gives way to sensual delight.

Massaging the hand and sucking fingers...

Obviously the ear / lobe / neck is great.

Lightly scraping of the fingernails in the bend of the elbow... along the small of the back.

The best part of being in a good relationship (which it sounds like you're in) is that you have plenty of time to explore each others body and to discuss afterwords what you both liked and what you both really liked. (personally I prefer these discussions to be done during the "afterglow" period.

If the mood is right - then really Hot explicit talk can be an amazing part of foreplay-

Also verbal feedback during sex is great too.


Turn-offs:

- other than the unexpected anal probe - once we're having sex pretty much anything goes.



Hope it helps,

Happy Sexing

 

[Blastasbird]

MY bloke is extremley sensitive but I have just found a spot that he likes. He likes to have my fingers up his arse and press on his glands. That way it made his orgasm more intense he has asked for that for a while now and really enjoys it.

He also likes his perenium to be stroked and just under the head of his cock.

I was unsure of the finger up arse at first but now its not a problem.

 

[Mstrskey]

turn-ons and offs

well virtually every guy I have ever known has had a sensetivity to having his ear lobes kissed, licked, or sucked softly. My husband gets nuts if I slowly slide the tip of my tongue in and out of his ear as well and then suck gently on the lobe, or if I run my tongue around the outside of his ear and then blow gently across it before repeating.

The back of the neck is an oft neglected spot on virtually everyone. Try casually reaching around his shoulders while sitting together on a couch and then very softly stroke just your fingertips across his neck. He should shiver slightly after a few passes, once he does stop for just a bit and then as soon as the goosepimples subside begin again but this time use the tips of your nails as well. Don't really scratch, just scrape the skin until the shiver comes again. When you repeat the next time snake your fingers into the hair at the nape of his neck, scratching at his scalp a little and giving a slight tug to his hairline at the nape of his neck. You should have his full attention by now and if he turns to face you simply keep a firm hold on the back of his neck and draw him into you for a deep wet kiss.

Sucking softly on his lower lip during an open mouthed kiss.

Fondling, scraping nails along the inner thighs before going down on him.

Scalp massage, very soothing but also stimulating!

be noisy during sex! Let him know how good he's making you feel. This is a huge turn-on for men and the chief complaint many of them have about their partners. If you're not into talking dirty then be vocal in your moans and sighs. Grab his ass and drive him in deeper, moan lustily with every thrust, look him in the eyes as he drives you over the edge and let him see the orgasm.

other then this....explore and discover! It's the most fun way to find out things about your lover.

Turn offs: most men are terribly ticklish when aroused. Save the the feather touches for arousal stage only. At least this has been my experience.

baby talk during sex. Not many guys like to be referred to as " snookie bear" while they're trying their best to make you scream in pleasure.

 

[crazybbwgirl]

My lover does not like having his nipples played with - and has very little sensitivity in his balls! Doesn't leave much else to fondle - so I started playing with his ass! lol Everything from rimming to a small vibe to the prostate massage. hahaha He's totally at my mercy now! And I'm never without something FUN to do to him.......