Willing and Unsure
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is it wrong to spank a child as a form of discipline?
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Weird Harold
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Spank yes, beat no
A swat or two administered to the child's gluteous maximus at the proper moment will do more to impress them than all of the logical explantions and time spent in the corner will ever do.
On the other hand, the kind of beatings I got as a child that leave welts from paddle or belt, don't do as much to impress, as they do to generate rebellion.
A swat or two administered to the child's gluteous maximus at the proper moment will do more to impress them than all of the logical explantions and time spent in the corner will ever do.
On the other hand, the kind of beatings I got as a child that leave welts from paddle or belt, don't do as much to impress, as they do to generate rebellion.
Willing and Unsure
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i guess i should elaborate some on this question then... i know that time out doesnt always cut it, but i think there is a line between spanking for discipline and spanking to spank when it comes to a child and its hard to tell when that line has been crossed. i guess what i'm asking more so here, is if you would condone spanking on a semi-regular basis?
Willing and Unsure said:
I don't have a problem with someone giving their kid a nice swat on the ass when needed, but that should be a personal decision made by the parents. Schools in the south have been 'paddling' for years and I'd have a real problem with some stranger hitting MY child!
Mr.G
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Ya got my votae Harry. The child shrinks today can't differentiate a swat on the rump to let a kid (brat) THATS IT and whipping a child to within an inch of his/her life with a metal coat hanger or a 9 iron.
Mistress, your name would suggest you be the swatter rather than the swattee but switching is fine too.
I never knew a nice fanny that, when given a bunch of moderate spanks, didn't produce copious fluidic release
around front. I've known a few girls who said when spanked WHILE they were cuming (or about to) increased the intensity of the O by a factor of two or three. Works for me!
I said in another thread that combining spanking and G-gasms was enough to drive some girls right friggin NUTS!
(in a nice way)
Mistress, your name would suggest you be the swatter rather than the swattee but switching is fine too.
I never knew a nice fanny that, when given a bunch of moderate spanks, didn't produce copious fluidic release
around front. I've known a few girls who said when spanked WHILE they were cuming (or about to) increased the intensity of the O by a factor of two or three. Works for me!
I said in another thread that combining spanking and G-gasms was enough to drive some girls right friggin NUTS!
(in a nice way)
p_p_man
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Spanking has fallen out of use...
...in the Enlish language. It's now beating or nothing.
I've always believed in child discipline, otherwise how are they going to learn? But my method was a short sharp finger flick on the back of my daughter's calves. Moderating the force with her age.
I always gave her three warnings. I never did it it in temper and once done the discipline as far as everyone was concerned was over and finished, and we could get on with other things.
When I say I never did it in temper, there were occasions of course when she did something entirely stupid like running out into a busy highway, and it took a supreme act of will on my part not to give her a good hard smack, and I remember I had to mentally calm myself down before giving her the customaty flick on the backs of her legs.
Seems to have worked though...
...in the Enlish language. It's now beating or nothing.
I've always believed in child discipline, otherwise how are they going to learn? But my method was a short sharp finger flick on the back of my daughter's calves. Moderating the force with her age.
I always gave her three warnings. I never did it it in temper and once done the discipline as far as everyone was concerned was over and finished, and we could get on with other things.
When I say I never did it in temper, there were occasions of course when she did something entirely stupid like running out into a busy highway, and it took a supreme act of will on my part not to give her a good hard smack, and I remember I had to mentally calm myself down before giving her the customaty flick on the backs of her legs.
Seems to have worked though...
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Schools in the south have been 'paddling' for years and I'd have a real problem with some stranger hitting MY child!
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It is extremely rare for any school to still allow corporal punishment. If they do, they usually require parental permission before they will paddle the child.
Schools in the south have been 'paddling' for years and I'd have a real problem with some stranger hitting MY child!
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It is extremely rare for any school to still allow corporal punishment. If they do, they usually require parental permission before they will paddle the child.
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Awww, holy hell!
It's not a BDSM thread. Later all.
Awww, holy hell!
It's not a BDSM thread. Later all.
Weird Harold
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Willing and Unsure said:
Only if it's someone else's daughter, she's over eighteen, and spankings turn her on.
Spanking a child as a disciplinary measure doesn't need to be done on a regular basis if it's done right and done consistently when warranted.
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I think spankings are a very useful and powerful form of discipline, when used sparingly. If a parent swats their child every time they do anything wrong, it doesn't hold the power that it does if reserved for the worst situations.
My mother only spanked me three times that she or I can recall, and all three were for extreme situations where I was way out of line. All three times, I corrected my behavior immediately, because I knew the proverbial shit had hit the fan!
So yes...Spare the hand, it won't spoil the child.
My mother only spanked me three times that she or I can recall, and all three were for extreme situations where I was way out of line. All three times, I corrected my behavior immediately, because I knew the proverbial shit had hit the fan!
So yes...Spare the hand, it won't spoil the child.
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No spanking. Not ever. Period.
I've not *ever*, not once, spanked either of my children (4 year old boy, 12 year old girl). For me, for my children, for what i want to teach them about how to get along in the world and how to resolve conflicts, it's just plain wrong.
I believe, and it's only for myself that i'm saying this, but i believe with every fiber in my being that the **only** two things one teaches a child when one hits that child for *any* reason, is that (1) it's okay for big people to hit little people, and (2) it's okay to use physical violence against other people to prove a point.
Since i definitely do *not* wish to impart those lessons to my children, i do not hit them. We do a lot of talking, i use time-outs in a responsible and effective manner, appropriate consequences are commonly administered, and when i have to, when i lose it, i occasionally yell at them, too.
My children are wonderfully behaved, polite, attentive, calm, rational, all-around wonderful kids. I can't say the no-spanking policy is the reason, but it's definitely a part of my parenting style, and THAT (along with their genetic gifts [nature]) IS the reason.
I see no reason people should physically hurt a child in any way. There are better and more effective alternatives if one will only spend the time and energy it requires to master the other techniques. The result are children with a deeper appreciation for the physical dignity every one of us is due by right of being human.
Don't try to talk me out of this view because you can't do it and you'll simply be wasting your time.
(That said, i thought this thread would be about elective, adult, FUN spanking too. Dammit!)
I've not *ever*, not once, spanked either of my children (4 year old boy, 12 year old girl). For me, for my children, for what i want to teach them about how to get along in the world and how to resolve conflicts, it's just plain wrong.
I believe, and it's only for myself that i'm saying this, but i believe with every fiber in my being that the **only** two things one teaches a child when one hits that child for *any* reason, is that (1) it's okay for big people to hit little people, and (2) it's okay to use physical violence against other people to prove a point.
Since i definitely do *not* wish to impart those lessons to my children, i do not hit them. We do a lot of talking, i use time-outs in a responsible and effective manner, appropriate consequences are commonly administered, and when i have to, when i lose it, i occasionally yell at them, too.
My children are wonderfully behaved, polite, attentive, calm, rational, all-around wonderful kids. I can't say the no-spanking policy is the reason, but it's definitely a part of my parenting style, and THAT (along with their genetic gifts [nature]) IS the reason.
I see no reason people should physically hurt a child in any way. There are better and more effective alternatives if one will only spend the time and energy it requires to master the other techniques. The result are children with a deeper appreciation for the physical dignity every one of us is due by right of being human.
Don't try to talk me out of this view because you can't do it and you'll simply be wasting your time.
(That said, i thought this thread would be about elective, adult, FUN spanking too. Dammit!)
p_p_man
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Re: No spanking. Not ever. Period.
I've yet to meet a child who doesn't nod sagely in your direction when you are discussing deep philosophical subjects like the difference between right and wrong who, behind your back, doesn't go straight out to do the same thing all over again. All that talking and all you've achieved is to teach the kid not to get caught. But real physical, painful punishment, now that's a different story. Then they're left in no doubt that they've overstepped the line. The fear of pain far outweighs the fear of a strict talking to.
The other strong point that sprang from your post was the emphasis made on time. Not all parents have that commodity.
cymbidia said:
I've yet to meet a child who doesn't nod sagely in your direction when you are discussing deep philosophical subjects like the difference between right and wrong who, behind your back, doesn't go straight out to do the same thing all over again. All that talking and all you've achieved is to teach the kid not to get caught. But real physical, painful punishment, now that's a different story. Then they're left in no doubt that they've overstepped the line. The fear of pain far outweighs the fear of a strict talking to.
The other strong point that sprang from your post was the emphasis made on time. Not all parents have that commodity.
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My kids are 4 1/2 and 3 1/2. They have gotten spanked in the past, but very rarely. Most often, it's for doing things that they could have gotten seriously injured for. Both of them got spanked for running out in the street. Living in a small town, it's not as serious as it might be in other places, but I would rather have my child with a stinging bottom than in the hospital with critical injuries. It's just a reminder that it's going to hurt to some degree if they ever do it again.
I usually use time out in their rooms with no toys but their comfort objects they sleep with (stuffed kitten for my daughter and a stuffed puppy for my son). They are not allowed to be playing, but I'm not going to refuse them their own method of comfort when they know I'm not too pleased with their behavior.
Even on the occasions when I do spank, it's never more than 2 or 3 swats, and if they have a slight red mark 10 minutes later, I'd be amazed. I think it's made them be wiser and more well behaved by the spankings they have recieved, and I have no intentions of stopping when I think it's needed. I am, after all, their mother, and when they are done getting spanked, they always get hugs and kisses, no matter how upset I am over their actions.
I usually use time out in their rooms with no toys but their comfort objects they sleep with (stuffed kitten for my daughter and a stuffed puppy for my son). They are not allowed to be playing, but I'm not going to refuse them their own method of comfort when they know I'm not too pleased with their behavior.
Even on the occasions when I do spank, it's never more than 2 or 3 swats, and if they have a slight red mark 10 minutes later, I'd be amazed. I think it's made them be wiser and more well behaved by the spankings they have recieved, and I have no intentions of stopping when I think it's needed. I am, after all, their mother, and when they are done getting spanked, they always get hugs and kisses, no matter how upset I am over their actions.
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Re: No spanking. Not ever. Period.
Both of you equate "spanking" with pain, although for different reasons I suspect. That need not and should not be true. A properly administered spanking is more startlement than pain -- More sound and fury than any actual pain or damage.
The trick is to make the child think[/u] you're hurting him without actually doing so, thereby associating the "fight or flight" reaction with the offense being punished. A loud spanking is far more effective than a painful one.
cymbidia said:
Both of you equate "spanking" with pain, although for different reasons I suspect. That need not and should not be true. A properly administered spanking is more startlement than pain -- More sound and fury than any actual pain or damage.
The trick is to make the child think[/u] you're hurting him without actually doing so, thereby associating the "fight or flight" reaction with the offense being punished. A loud spanking is far more effective than a painful one.
