Spanking

[Smoothshavendad]

I love 2 b spanked! Never been bent over a knee. Just while being taken from behind. Mmmmm, just the thought. I might never b a good girl again.

Nothing hotter than having a naked sexy ass draped over my lap as I administer a little sexy discipline, along with slipping a finger in that tight little hole...

 

[Snowbunnie12]

I got a hard spanning last night lol it was amazing

 

[Groovngirl]

Initiating

I’m having difficulty getting my partner to really SPANK me. I enjoy the hard slaps during sex-along with the hair pulling but I can’t get him to just beat my ass until it burns. I’ve asked but I don’t think he understands that I really want it THAT hard. Suggestions?

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I’m having difficulty getting my partner to really SPANK me. I enjoy the hard slaps during sex-along with the hair pulling but I can’t get him to just beat my ass until it burns. I’ve asked but I don’t think he understands that I really want it THAT hard. Suggestions?

Here is my suggestion...call me!

 

[HotXBuns]

I’m having difficulty getting my partner to really SPANK me. I enjoy the hard slaps during sex-along with the hair pulling but I can’t get him to just beat my ass until it burns. I’ve asked but I don’t think he understands that I really want it THAT hard. Suggestions?

Ok, a couple of suggestions that may work: Promise him something he really wants, but tell him that he has to earn it by being man enough spank you until you cannot take it any more. Then it's just up to you to hold off begging as long as you can.

Alternatively, seek out a spanking video or two (try spankingtube.com) that is about at the level you want to experience, show him that and then climb over his lap and tell him you're not getting up until he's met the challenge.

I'm sure I could think of more.

This is topping from the bottom, but at least he'll get the measure of what you like.

Hope that helps.

 

[ready2obey]

I was curious, so I sought out a dominatrix to spank me. I enjoyed it from the first swat.

 

[eroticspank]

I was curious, so I sought out a dominatrix to spank me. I enjoyed it from the first swat.

Did she spank you naked?

My first spanking with a lady who was an expert was that it was too hard. (At least initially...) I was surprised at how quickly it began to hurt and make me squirm. I was exhausted when it was over and very horny. She did me over her lap, pants down, not naked.


ES

 

[CuteSlaveLisa]

Its not degrading, its called foreplay, getting a girl, in my case an old girl, all warmed up and ready. Dumping endorphins, a loving God's gift to us all into our bloodstreams. Getting us girls all nice wet and lubricated. Ready for...

Sorry, what was the question?

Lisa Ann

 

[eroticspank]

Its not degrading, its called foreplay, getting a girl, in my case an old girl, all warmed up and ready. Dumping endorphins, a loving God's gift to us all into our bloodstreams. Getting us girls all nice wet and lubricated. Ready for...

Sorry, what was the question?

Lisa Ann

How did you find out that you liked it in the first place? I imagine some guy introduced it to you, maybe tell us how he did it? In general you don't just spank someone out of the blue, discussing fantasies ahead of time may be one way.

ES

 

[midlifecrisispanties]

An act of physical assault that leaves the victim's buttocks scalding with pain and usually causes feelings of humiliation in the victim as well.

And yet, as counterintuitive as it is, some of us crave it.

For those of you who enjoy having your bottom turned red and throbbing, how did you discover that you had a fondness for this sort of punishment?

I've always had a tendency toward it. I was originally trained to be a Dom in the 80s. I was given examples of what each tool felt like. In my experiences as a "switch" I discovered that I enjoyed taking spankings as much as giving them. And, in my current situation, I get them as a "treat" or a "reminder." I always look forward to being "reminded."

 

[bluekitty69]

Spanking a older gentleman

I've only developed a desire to spank someone in the last few years but always been curious about it and I finally got to experience it this last fall with a submissive man that I had developed a connection with.

It was freaking great! I used my hand and a silicone paddle, unfortunately our relationship frizzled before I could enjoy spanking his ass again.

I wasn't sure if I wanted to wait to be in another relationship before I engaged in any spanking or find a play partner just for the purpose of toping him and spanking.
But since I dont find the act of spanking to be sexual for me, just pure fun! I throught i would just find someone to play with.

I've started going to a local munch and I met someone who was interested in me as a top and after some emails and met ups we agreed to have a play session with spanking only, no touching on his part nothing sexual on my part just giving him a nice red ass.

We agreed to met at a local hotel on a Tuesday afternoon, I had a toy bag with my silicone paddle a wooden hair brush and a large wooden spoon.
He met me at the door and I told him to get a towel from the bathroom, I had him drape it over the ottoman then ordered him to unbuckle his belt and drop his pants but not to step out of them, I reached over and pulled downed his old man boxers, and told him to kneel on the ottoman leaning on his forearms.

As he was married he didn't want stripes on his ass but lite bruising was ok, so I started out lite and slow with my hand, he had a slight build and not much padding on his ass so nothing to cushion the strikes from my hand, after a few minutes his ass got pink and I switched to the hair brush. I could tell by the way he popped out his ass he liked the brush, I dont like to just whale on a ass but give slow hard strikes covering the right then the left cheek.

Did I say how much fun I have spanking someone? I giggle and try not to laugh out right at the popping sounds the brush makes, the way he jerks his ass away from my hand and then the spoon and finally the paddle, I pause and ask if he wants to continue and reminds him he can use the safe word he assures me he is good.

Findly I can tell he is done and I tell him to get up, he stands up and reaches for his pants and boxers, but I stop him and tell him to go to the long mirror on the bathroom door, he shuffles over to look at his butt all red and a small bruise forming on his right cheek.

He stood there and looking over his shoulder he said it was the best spanking he had in a long time and I knew what I was doing! I just giggled and said thank you it was my pleasure! ( sorry if this is a bit long)...kitty

 

[eroticspank]

I've only developed a desire to spank someone in the last few years but always been curious about it and I finally got to experience it this last fall with a submissive man that I had developed a connection with.

It was freaking great! I used my hand and a silicone paddle, unfortunately our relationship frizzled before I could enjoy spanking his ass again.

I wasn't sure if I wanted to wait to be in another relationship before I engaged in any spanking or find a play partner just for the purpose of topping him and spanking.

But since I dont find the act of spanking to be sexual for me, just pure fun! I thought i would just find someone to play with.

.kitty

Thanks for a great post and explanation. I read it several times. I can see how the act itself may not be sexual but that it can be a turn on or excitement mentally. You can find it enjoyable to give a guy a spanking but that does not mean you necessarily be attracted to that person and or want to have sex with him.

But I can see how that activity may lead to sex later on with someone you are in a relationship with and how the spanking could be used as foreplay for a good night of sex.

At the same time, I can see how some men may be able to go to a Dominant woman or Domme and get spanked and completely enjoy it mentally. If the Domme is just a stranger I can see how the man could take that experience home and then with his wife, together enjoy the benefit of his earlier playtime or foreplay.

ES

 

[bluekitty69]

Thanks for a great post and explanation. I read it several times. I can see how the act itself may not be sexual but that it can be a turn on or excitement mentally. You can find it enjoyable to give a guy a spanking but that does not mean you necessarily be attracted to that person and or want to have sex with him.

But I can see how that activity may lead to sex later on with someone you are in a relationship with and how the spanking could be used as foreplay for a good night of sex.

At the same time, I can see how some men may be able to go to a Dominant woman or Domme and get spanked and completely enjoy it mentally. If the Domme is just a stranger I can see how the man could take that experience home and then with his wife, together enjoy the benefit of his earlier playtime or foreplay.

ES

Hi glad you replyed sometimes I'll post something and wonder if anyone reads it!
And I should probably clarify that yes a spanking session can be foreplay and lead to sex but for me it doesn't have too! And you're right the mental part is important for both people and I do get a "high" from it, a rush of endorphins I guess, I'm not sure what he felt if when home and had a nice night with his wife! . But I just enjoyed the experience for what it was....

 

[littleguy]

is there any wonder

why i love her

 

[Tallcajun]

Many of us read it kitty.
Great thread!

 

[inside_out]

I need a good spanking regularly. We do maintenance spankings. They help me stay mentally centered. I just texted my boyfriend about doing an impact scene tonight...I'm sure he'll say yes I can't wait. Will likely include flogging, paddle, maybe dragon tail, hand, meat cleaver, and a knotted rope. Probably more.

 

[BellaAveena]

I've always had a big ass and my girlfriends would randomly smack it jokingly. I liked it a whole hell of a lot.

 

[eroticspank]

Hi glad you replyed sometimes I'll post something and wonder if anyone reads it!
And I should probably clarify that yes a spanking session can be foreplay and lead to sex but for me it doesn't have too! And you're right the mental part is important for both people and I do get a "high" from it, a rush of endorphins I guess, I'm not sure what he felt if when home and had a nice night with his wife! . But I just enjoyed the experience for what it was....

Sometimes that is it, just enjoying the experience for what is was.....

There is something about the "above the waist" turn on of spanking as well as the "below the waist" turn on for people. They can be directly linked, one causing the other or separate as discussed above.

And there are so many aspects of spanking that can be seen or taken in different ways. For me if there is body to body contact, especially if one person is naked or naked from the waist down there is a sexual element.

As a sub, when I submit to a Domme or a woman who is in complete control giving me a spanking...that fact that I agree to submit to her and be spanked can be sexual---in my mind---because I will do whatever she says. That may include taking off all of my clothes, doing something embarrassing, sexual, or none of those and all my clothes on. BUT the thought or fact that may be a possibility and I would submit to it, is sexual.

ES

 

[redrope1]

I need a good spanking regularly. We do maintenance spankings. They help me stay mentally centered. I just texted my boyfriend about doing an impact scene tonight...I'm sure he'll say yes I can't wait. Will likely include flogging, paddle, maybe dragon tail, hand, meat cleaver, and a knotted rope. Probably more.

My boyfriend likes spanking , and said the same, it helps him stay mentally centered and release stress or other stuff, even leads him to enlightment spiritually.
but he went to clubs and half naked or totally naked in front of women.
now i feel very insecure, i don't know if he still enjoys it, he sometimes still go with his friends.......
why not do it with me?
why going there to do with other women?
can i trust him?

 

[HotXBuns]

My boyfriend likes spanking , and said the same, it helps him stay mentally centered and release stress or other stuff, even leads him to enlightment spiritually.
but he went to clubs and half naked or totally naked in front of women.
now i feel very insecure, i don't know if he still enjoys it, he sometimes still go with his friends.......
why not do it with me?
why going there to do with other women?
can i trust him?

On it's own this is not necessarily a problem. It would be quite understandable if he doesn't associate this form of play with you or the relationship you have together. Spanking definitely changes the dynamic in a relationship because there is always the underlying knowledge that one of you is taking a dominant role. Even with very well set-out ground rules, this can bleed in to the every-day interaction between you both and he may be uncomfortable with that.

Best to talk it through to understand his motivation; share your feelings with him too as he may not have taken them in to consideration. If trust is an issue, he may be ok with you coming along to watch; who knows, you may find it pretty exciting.

I hope it works out ok for you both, it certainly doesn't sound like anything to be massively concerned about. It just needs communication and honesty.

Good luck.

 

[redrope1]

On it's own this is not necessarily a problem. It would be quite understandable if he doesn't associate this form of play with you or the relationship you have together. Spanking definitely changes the dynamic in a relationship because there is always the underlying knowledge that one of you is taking a dominant role. Even with very well set-out ground rules, this can bleed in to the every-day interaction between you both and he may be uncomfortable with that.

Best to talk it through to understand his motivation; share your feelings with him too as he may not have taken them in to consideration. If trust is an issue, he may be ok with you coming along to watch; who knows, you may find it pretty exciting.

I hope it works out ok for you both, it certainly doesn't sound like anything to be massively concerned about. It just needs communication and honesty.

Good luck.

Thank u....
If i will go with him, i may need to go each time , right?
if one time i m not there, i will start to doubt , feel insecure,
since my bf is a man well liked by most women, also the girls on the club r all so hot , much more sexy than myself.....

 

[eroticspank]

On it's own this is not necessarily a problem. It would be quite understandable if he doesn't associate this form of play with you or the relationship you have together. Spanking definitely changes the dynamic in a relationship because there is always the underlying knowledge that one of you is taking a dominant role. Even with very well set-out ground rules, this can bleed in to the every-day interaction between you both and he may be uncomfortable with that.

Best to talk it through to understand his motivation; share your feelings with him too as he may not have taken them in to consideration. If trust is an issue, he may be ok with you coming along to watch; who knows, you may find it pretty exciting.

I hope it works out ok for you both, it certainly doesn't sound like anything to be massively concerned about. It just needs communication and honesty.

Good luck.

I completely agree with this^ above.

The best thing you can do is to talk, really talk to your partner and find out his motivation and feelings while sharing yours. I could come up with plenty of scenarios as to why he does what he does but it would be just a guess. The only way to truly find out is to talk to him about it.

ES

 

[Helenavixen]

I got spanked by a family member when I was around 13 and...that sensation I will NEVER forget. it felt electrifying. like it woke up my body. Later on, when I became sexually active, I would ask for the person to do some light spanking with their and but I always wanted more. One of the first times I went to a sex dungeon, I came in contact with a whip AND flogger. The whip hurt like hell but I loved the bruised after but the flogger?? I fell in love with. So much that I got one myself to self spank myself when I wanna feel that pain regardless. Each smack is like a lightning jolt.

 

[LADYRose420]

An act of physical assault that leaves the victim's buttocks scalding with pain and usually causes feelings of humiliation in the victim as well.

And yet, as counterintuitive as it is, some of us crave it.

For those of you who enjoy having your bottom turned red and throbbing, how did you discover that you had a fondness for this sort of punishment?

How do you know if being spanked is a craving or a necessity?

 

[Samdaniels798]

I found out when I was 19 and I had a neighbor in their 50’s that was into spanking young men. Never had any idea I would like it, but after having a good spanking in the shower, I have always enjoyed it.