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Persephone36
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Re: Re: The greatest gift a lady can give
I can see what you're saying that it's not about a Dom/sub thing for you -- but don't you still think it's about control? So, there is some power relationship in play, right? Someone is relinquishing their control to the other -- and trusting that their lover will treat them (reward) them with something they'll enjoy. Although for a lot of people, a spanking would hardly be considered enjoyment.
I'm not one of them however....
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SXCRgirl said:
For me, it isn't about submission or dominance. Just the feeling of his outstretched fingers and palm warming up my behind, making my skin tingle is what it is all about. I think that you have to want to please your lover and he you. Otherwise, why else are you going there? To waste your time and his? I think not.
But, I'm not into the dom/sub thing, so this point is mute.
I can see what you're saying that it's not about a Dom/sub thing for you -- but don't you still think it's about control? So, there is some power relationship in play, right? Someone is relinquishing their control to the other -- and trusting that their lover will treat them (reward) them with something they'll enjoy. Although for a lot of people, a spanking would hardly be considered enjoyment.
I'm not one of them however....
P.
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dreamer0919 said:
Sure, of course, but spanking in particular has the conotation in all of our minds of being punished because we've been "bad" After all -- it's the rare child that didn't get spanked at some point. It's just a part of what we know. And in that situation a child is smaller, with no control or power -- where the parent has all the control and power. Psychologically -- those factors I think are pretty much there -- and we're reliving them, or reliving a version of them, even if they're subconscious, when we asking to be spanked sexually.
Damn, how'd I get so serious all of a sudden!
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Re: Re: Re: The greatest gift a lady can give
Well okay, if you put it that way. I guess I just have a problem with that word *submissive*. It gives me the creeps.
But sex is all about that, isn't it? You relinquish your control, your inhibitions, your preconceived notions of how things should be. It's about you and your man. Period. No one else, well, at least at the moment.
Persephone36 said:
I can see what you're saying that it's not about a Dom/sub thing for you -- but don't you still think it's about control? So, there is some power relationship in play, right? Someone is relinquishing their control to the other -- and trusting that their lover will treat them (reward) them with something they'll enjoy. Although for a lot of people, a spanking would hardly be considered enjoyment.
I'm not one of them however....
P.
Well okay, if you put it that way. I guess I just have a problem with that word *submissive*. It gives me the creeps.
But sex is all about that, isn't it? You relinquish your control, your inhibitions, your preconceived notions of how things should be. It's about you and your man. Period. No one else, well, at least at the moment.
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Re: Re: Re: Re: The greatest gift a lady can give
Lol, sure -- but all relationships of *any* kind are about power exchanges. So, does it happen in sex. It just has to do with how you see it for yourself -- or define it.
And I completely understand what you mean about the word submissive causing you problems. Just the way I can see it being a turn-on for others. Whole, whole, whole societal and psychological factors play into the idea of pairing together the words -- submissive and woman.
And I actually have no problem with it myself. But if anyone outside of a sexual relationship referred to me as submissive -- I'd cut them down to size and chew them up and spit them out -- with pleasure. And they'd realize they'd made a BIG mistake. However -- put it in a sexual context for me -- completely different. But the turn-on there for me is just what you said -- relinquishing control. Particularly when being in control is so much a part of my normal neurotic everyday makeup.
SXCRgirl said:
Well okay, if you put it that way. I guess I just have a problem with that word *submissive*. It gives me the creeps.
But sex is all about that, isn't it? You relinquish your control, your inhibitions, your preconceived notions of how things should be. It's about you and your man. Period. No one else, well, at least at the moment.
Lol, sure -- but all relationships of *any* kind are about power exchanges. So, does it happen in sex. It just has to do with how you see it for yourself -- or define it.
And I completely understand what you mean about the word submissive causing you problems. Just the way I can see it being a turn-on for others. Whole, whole, whole societal and psychological factors play into the idea of pairing together the words -- submissive and woman.
And I actually have no problem with it myself. But if anyone outside of a sexual relationship referred to me as submissive -- I'd cut them down to size and chew them up and spit them out -- with pleasure. And they'd realize they'd made a BIG mistake. However -- put it in a sexual context for me -- completely different. But the turn-on there for me is just what you said -- relinquishing control. Particularly when being in control is so much a part of my normal neurotic everyday makeup.
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Okay, okay. So my wires crossed for a moment. I had a typical response to that word *submissive.* My personality is does not make room for that, so in some sense, I take offense to it. I realize that the person who used the word didn't mean *me* per se, but you get the picture.
However, in a sexual nature, it is a huge part of it. We become submissive and the pleasure of someone else becomes more important than our own. Or at least in my case, the more pleasure he has, the greater my own. If that's submissive, then I'm all for it.
I think this is why I love giving oral sex, it's the whole power of it. I love knowing that he's losing control because of me, and there's nothing he can do about it except ride the wave so to speak.
However, in a sexual nature, it is a huge part of it. We become submissive and the pleasure of someone else becomes more important than our own. Or at least in my case, the more pleasure he has, the greater my own. If that's submissive, then I'm all for it.
I think this is why I love giving oral sex, it's the whole power of it. I love knowing that he's losing control because of me, and there's nothing he can do about it except ride the wave so to speak.
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SXCRgirl said:
Yep, I agree with you -- there's the idea of submission (in a general sense not specifically a BDSM one) in being able to give pleasure to someone else and having that be more important and greater than receiving pleasure. But of course, then you're still getting pleasure -- it's just you're not dominantly receiving it.
And there's control aspect. I think both are part of it. And in a lot of sexual relationships -- there's a give and take, back and forth, in terms of who's primarily receiving and who's primarily giving (even during straight intercourse -- the position says it all!) -- during the course of the entire sexual relationship -- and even in one night.
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You have won me your short but to the point post says so much.
An earlier post said something about the lady saying stop.... HA
you need a safety word that has nothing to do with spanking for their escape as NO or STOP means nothing but a safeyt word halts the spanking real quick.
You have won me
your short but to the point post says so much.An earlier post said something about the lady saying stop.... HA
you need a safety word that has nothing to do with spanking for their escape as NO or STOP means nothing but a safeyt word halts the spanking real quick.
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Oh yesssssssss
There's nothing like a spanking.
Ohhh yeah, that beautiful tingley feeling, and the wait... wondering when the next spank will land.
Just the sound of it is a turn on.
Whether a man puts me over his knees, I kneel on all fours for him or he spanks me while fucking me doggy style.... I LOVE IT.
And forget spanking paddles too... I like the feel of flesh on flesh.. please.. use your hand on me.
There's nothing like a spanking.
Ohhh yeah, that beautiful tingley feeling, and the wait... wondering when the next spank will land.
Just the sound of it is a turn on.
Whether a man puts me over his knees, I kneel on all fours for him or he spanks me while fucking me doggy style.... I LOVE IT.
And forget spanking paddles too... I like the feel of flesh on flesh.. please.. use your hand on me.
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mmmm....
I love being spanked. Which is kind of odd, since I'm generally somewhat dominant, and a bit of a sadist. But.. there's just something about having my ass slapped that just really does it for me. Maybe something to do with having a really sensitive ass (to the point where it's ticklish ).
But.... mmmm.... such a nice, rough, tingly sensation....
I love being spanked. Which is kind of odd, since I'm generally somewhat dominant, and a bit of a sadist. But.. there's just something about having my ass slapped that just really does it for me. Maybe something to do with having a really sensitive ass (to the point where it's ticklish
).But.... mmmm.... such a nice, rough, tingly sensation....
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Spanking is very erotic and wonderful when two can share it.
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the sight of a ladies spanked butt
Is one of my biggest turn ons...I just love to enter her from behind
(doggy style) either in her pussy or butt.I just love seeing her butt glowing red as I slide in and out and tomorrow I'll be doing just that.
Is one of my biggest turn ons...I just love to enter her from behind
(doggy style) either in her pussy or butt.I just love seeing her butt glowing red as I slide in and out and tomorrow I'll be doing just that.
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Imagine:
Lying on the bed, naked, face down, ass up. Your partner is there too, maybe clothed, maybe naked; whichever they choose. They're stretched out next to you and you can feel thier body heat against your side. You're already warm, already aroused, already eager for the touching that will, even though you don't yet know its form.
You're relaxed, wiggling a little, trying to get a little closer... and then there's that first hand-to-ass slap. It's shocking. It's hard. It stings. It goes straight to your clit.
Another, other cheek. You moan and wriggle, the red heat sliding across your butt, joining between your legs. Your partner tells you to be still, and you try, you really try... until the third slap, harder, and you cry out and turn toward them a little.
They hook a leg over your body, then, pinning you down more securely, and begin spanking you in earnest. The slapping comes in an irregular pattern, one cheek then the other, high and low on each each one, the sound loud in the room, your cries of pleasure, of arousal, of reaction to the sting and fire and pain, yes pain!, increasing in volume as the slapping continues.
Finally you're writhing, a thing of reaction and fire, arousal and need, begging for it to be over, for them to stop. You're wet and your nipples are tight and hard. You're on the edge of getting mad, maybe, or of crying...and it stops.
They nudge your legs apart then, checking the heat between them, the slippery evidence of your arousal, as thier fingers continue the work of moving you further into the depths of your need via more stimulation.
Imagine:
An evening spent with your partner in non-sexual pleasures.
He cooks for you; he's a wonderful cook, and you relax with a plate of appetizers while he prepares dinner. You eat together, talking about the day. You cuddle and watch TV, some hokey movie with lots of bad sex that you laugh about, discussing their technique, getting drawn into only slightly.
You suggest that maybe it's time for you to go home, there's work tomorrow, but he draws you closer, cuddles you more firmly against him, and says not yet, i'll tell you when it's time to go, and you relax against him. You pet the dog and look at a book on medieval torture devices together.
The news comes on and you're getting sleepy but his warmth and solidity are wonderful. You don't really want to go but know you must, and he knows it, too.
Eventually he pulls you up and tells you that it's time to go. Enveloping you into a huge hug, he holds you with strength and tenderness, and you know he's coming to be very important in your life. You regret you have to go but know you must. Your arms slide up around his neck for a long, slow, lingering, heat-filled good night kiss...
... and his hands gather your skirt, lifting it, exposing your panty-clad ass. You're pressed against him, stretch out along his body, and unable to move much. With one hand, he pulls your panties down, exposing your butt. With the other hand, he begins to spank you, one cheek and then the other, his hand hard and large and impossibly agile given the position in which you're both standing. You squirm and moan with each spank. You suck in a big breath as his hand lands hard, and release it when his hand moves off your skin. Your ass is on fire when he stops, your nipples are erect, and there's a pool of slippery moisture at your core.
"No masturbation," he says, his hands on your shoulders, steering you to the door, his body close enough for you to feel it against your so-sensitive and still throbbing ass.
Originally posted here: http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=70166
Some of you might want to come say hello to us on the BDSM board (http://www.literotica.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?forumid=26). You don't have to be full-on whips and chains people to be welcome and accepted and find a place among us, you know.
Lying on the bed, naked, face down, ass up. Your partner is there too, maybe clothed, maybe naked; whichever they choose. They're stretched out next to you and you can feel thier body heat against your side. You're already warm, already aroused, already eager for the touching that will, even though you don't yet know its form.
You're relaxed, wiggling a little, trying to get a little closer... and then there's that first hand-to-ass slap. It's shocking. It's hard. It stings. It goes straight to your clit.
Another, other cheek. You moan and wriggle, the red heat sliding across your butt, joining between your legs. Your partner tells you to be still, and you try, you really try... until the third slap, harder, and you cry out and turn toward them a little.
They hook a leg over your body, then, pinning you down more securely, and begin spanking you in earnest. The slapping comes in an irregular pattern, one cheek then the other, high and low on each each one, the sound loud in the room, your cries of pleasure, of arousal, of reaction to the sting and fire and pain, yes pain!, increasing in volume as the slapping continues.
Finally you're writhing, a thing of reaction and fire, arousal and need, begging for it to be over, for them to stop. You're wet and your nipples are tight and hard. You're on the edge of getting mad, maybe, or of crying...and it stops.
They nudge your legs apart then, checking the heat between them, the slippery evidence of your arousal, as thier fingers continue the work of moving you further into the depths of your need via more stimulation.
Imagine:
An evening spent with your partner in non-sexual pleasures.
He cooks for you; he's a wonderful cook, and you relax with a plate of appetizers while he prepares dinner. You eat together, talking about the day. You cuddle and watch TV, some hokey movie with lots of bad sex that you laugh about, discussing their technique, getting drawn into only slightly.
You suggest that maybe it's time for you to go home, there's work tomorrow, but he draws you closer, cuddles you more firmly against him, and says not yet, i'll tell you when it's time to go, and you relax against him. You pet the dog and look at a book on medieval torture devices together.
The news comes on and you're getting sleepy but his warmth and solidity are wonderful. You don't really want to go but know you must, and he knows it, too.
Eventually he pulls you up and tells you that it's time to go. Enveloping you into a huge hug, he holds you with strength and tenderness, and you know he's coming to be very important in your life. You regret you have to go but know you must. Your arms slide up around his neck for a long, slow, lingering, heat-filled good night kiss...
... and his hands gather your skirt, lifting it, exposing your panty-clad ass. You're pressed against him, stretch out along his body, and unable to move much. With one hand, he pulls your panties down, exposing your butt. With the other hand, he begins to spank you, one cheek and then the other, his hand hard and large and impossibly agile given the position in which you're both standing. You squirm and moan with each spank. You suck in a big breath as his hand lands hard, and release it when his hand moves off your skin. Your ass is on fire when he stops, your nipples are erect, and there's a pool of slippery moisture at your core.
"No masturbation," he says, his hands on your shoulders, steering you to the door, his body close enough for you to feel it against your so-sensitive and still throbbing ass.
Originally posted here: http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=70166
Some of you might want to come say hello to us on the BDSM board (http://www.literotica.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?forumid=26). You don't have to be full-on whips and chains people to be welcome and accepted and find a place among us, you know.
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cymbidia
Cymbidia -- I hope you don't mind if I just launch in here and say I've been lurking a bit over there (as much as a slightly past 'nilla chick who's exploring her boundaries dares, lol) -- and I *truly* admire what you write and what you have to say.
You're just a very cool woman -- LIT's lucky to have you here.
Oh, and thanks for the contributions on this thread!
I may have to pop over there and introduce myself properly sometime soon.
Persephone
cymbidia said:Imagine...
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Cymbidia -- I hope you don't mind if I just launch in here and say I've been lurking a bit over there (as much as a slightly past 'nilla chick who's exploring her boundaries dares, lol)
-- and I *truly* admire what you write and what you have to say. You're just a very cool woman -- LIT's lucky to have you here.
Oh, and thanks for the contributions on this thread!
I may have to pop over there and introduce myself properly sometime soon.
Persephone
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I posted a couple of things in the TRY THIS AND REPORT BACK (the G - Spot Technique) thread. Like this one...
For anybody who has tried the GSpot technique and found that it works AND likes a spanking now and then - COMBINE the TWO.
A good OTK and every 10 swats or so give her two to five rapid G-Gasms and then 10 swats. Alternate that back and forth. Keep it rapid and frenzied, pull her hair, lock only one leg down so she can kick the other around, keep one arm firmly over the small of her back so she feels (and IS ) trapped and can't get away. MAKE her submit just a little longer than she wants to. She'll be screaming and begging you to stop. Don't. Part of the thrill for her is NOT knowing if you'll just keep going until she goes completely nutz or passes out from the intensity. I don't think most women can continue this for more than two or three minutes once they start having G-Gasms. It is just too intense. The spanking combines the kinkiness and submission AND the GSpot orgasms can be administered almost like spanks..."WHAT did you call me? OK - That's TEN more!!" It is awesome.
Afterwards reward her with a COLD cold cream bum rub. Aloe Vera based
body lotions are great. Put it in the fridge for a while first. When you start spreading the COLD cream over her red cheeks she'll melt. Keep her in that position and spread her thighs apart. Suck her clit (try not to drown) to a nice soft orgasm while she's still face down and your hands are still rubbing the cold cream across her steaming cheeks. She'll more than melt. She'll buy you a car. About a week after you do that for the first time take her out to dinner. Just as the main course is arriving remind her of the Spankings - G-Gasms night and tell her she's gonna get it even "worse" as soon as you get her ass home. By the time you are ready to leave she'll probably be too wet to get up. You'll have to fake a clutzy move and spill a glass of water in her lap so people won't see she was soaked BEFORE you spilled the glass of water.
Hurry home.
Enjoy.
I posted a couple of things in the TRY THIS AND REPORT BACK (the G - Spot Technique) thread. Like this one...
For anybody who has tried the GSpot technique and found that it works AND likes a spanking now and then - COMBINE the TWO.
A good OTK and every 10 swats or so give her two to five rapid G-Gasms and then 10 swats. Alternate that back and forth. Keep it rapid and frenzied, pull her hair, lock only one leg down so she can kick the other around, keep one arm firmly over the small of her back so she feels (and IS ) trapped and can't get away. MAKE her submit just a little longer than she wants to. She'll be screaming and begging you to stop. Don't. Part of the thrill for her is NOT knowing if you'll just keep going until she goes completely nutz or passes out from the intensity. I don't think most women can continue this for more than two or three minutes once they start having G-Gasms. It is just too intense. The spanking combines the kinkiness and submission AND the GSpot orgasms can be administered almost like spanks..."WHAT did you call me? OK - That's TEN more!!" It is awesome.
Afterwards reward her with a COLD cold cream bum rub. Aloe Vera based
body lotions are great. Put it in the fridge for a while first. When you start spreading the COLD cream over her red cheeks she'll melt. Keep her in that position and spread her thighs apart. Suck her clit (try not to drown) to a nice soft orgasm while she's still face down and your hands are still rubbing the cold cream across her steaming cheeks. She'll more than melt. She'll buy you a car. About a week after you do that for the first time take her out to dinner. Just as the main course is arriving remind her of the Spankings - G-Gasms night and tell her she's gonna get it even "worse" as soon as you get her ass home. By the time you are ready to leave she'll probably be too wet to get up. You'll have to fake a clutzy move and spill a glass of water in her lap so people won't see she was soaked BEFORE you spilled the glass of water.
Hurry home.
Enjoy.
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It comes like anything with familiarity. You'll learn to read when the spankee wants more or less, harder or softer.
When in doubt, just ask. You don't have to be blunt or clinical about it, just say something like "Are you comfortable?" If you get a 'yes', you're probably doing fine. If you get a 'no', ask if they'd like to slow down or try something different. If you get a 'yessssssss'...well, grab a good strong handful of hair, gently (but firmly) lift the head, put your mouth by the ear and tell her (or him) you couldn't hear her (or him)...and you'd like them to repeat themself, and this time they should use 'sir' (or ma'am).
When in doubt, just ask. You don't have to be blunt or clinical about it, just say something like "Are you comfortable?" If you get a 'yes', you're probably doing fine. If you get a 'no', ask if they'd like to slow down or try something different. If you get a 'yessssssss'...well, grab a good strong handful of hair, gently (but firmly) lift the head, put your mouth by the ear and tell her (or him) you couldn't hear her (or him)...and you'd like them to repeat themself, and this time they should use 'sir' (or ma'am).
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