Spanked

[CarolineOh]

I received the worst, or depending on your point of view best, spanking of my life last night. I am still squirming in my seat this morning as I type this.
I have been very out of sorts of late. I am thrilled to be marrying my darling Sam in just three weeks time, but the impending wedding has brought back many bad memories of my first wedding, and the miserable failure that followed it, and that has made me feel depressed and irritable.
I had no work for most of the week, so I decided to take a little time off, to relax and reflect. So I drove north, rented a little cabin on Lake Huron , and spent a few quiet days by myself, just resting , relaxing, and taking wonderful long walks along the beach.
I came home feeling much better, but still with a nagging feeling of stress around the edge of my consciousness.
Last night I talked to Sam about how I felt, that I was glad I had my alone time, but that I felt guilty that I had ben neglectful towards him, and in other relationships and concerns.
He agreed. He asked me what would make me feel better and I told him that I thought I deserved a spanking. Not a sensuously playful spanking, but a real one, one that would make me feel the air had been cleared between us.
He sat and considered it for a few minutes and then he stood, took hold of my arm and marched me into my bedroom. Without cermony he sat on the end of the bed, pulled me across his lap, yanked my panties down to my knees and began.
He gave me no warm up, no tender pats or caresses. His big hard hand came down across my bottom , fast and furious. Within a few seconds I was kicking and crying.
I'm sure he only spanked me for a few minutes, but it felt like hours while I was across his knees. When he finally lifted me up again my entire butt felt like it was aflame, and I was sniffling and blubbering like a little girl. But as he laid me down on the bed and wrapped his arms around me, I felt so much relief, like the slate had been wiped clean, and any unpleasant feeling between us had been washed away.
I don't think of this as punishment, but as a cathartic expiation. A mutually needed mood adjustment.
I feel wonderful this morning. I feel loved and cared for. But it is still damn uncomfortable to sit down!

 

[the_ass_tronaut]

First of all thank you for sharing that very personal experience. To get a look into the 'inner world' of other 'real' individuals can show us a lot about ourselves.

I think I know what you mean by 'cathartic expiation', or a carthatic experiance in general. An elaborated session with rituals, warming up etc. is a very good thing -but sometimes these 'no words needed' moments, releasing tension like a thunderstorm are a amongst the most intense that can be in a relationship. Of course total trust is essential.

All the best for your upcoming marriage. and for your burning butt..

T. (Bellerophon)

 

[SpectreT]

I suspect it all goes....

back to rituals and penance.

We're all physical, intellectual, spritual, and emotional beings. It never ceases to amaze me how having any one of those out of whack (jeeze. Pun NOT intended) can cascade into the others.

Good to read that you feel better, and that it's behind you. (And I do mean behind! ) I understand it wasn't a playful or fun spanking, but it sounds like just what you needed. Sam just went up another ten points in my esteem for the way he handled it; didn't think it was possible, but you two keep raising the bar.

 

[cellis]

Oh Caroline! I think there must be some secret psychic Dom connection!

Himself did the same thing to me this week... just out of the blue!

Never has he done that before... and he surprised me, I must say!

NOT that I am complaining because I am not... it was just a surprise I am still trying to digest.

 

[Guest]

Best Wishes for your Wedding!!

Spanking is a wonderful release for me. I always feel loved, safe, comforted, protected - you name it - after a serious session.

But the next day - ouch! Especially if I'm at work - and every time I sit I am reminded about the previous evening.

A long bath, a bit cooler temperature than normal works wonders for me, with some lovely water softening bath stuff - Epsom salts - something to soothe.

We have gotten to the point in our relationship (we've been married awhile) where he knows when and what I need, sometimes taking me past where I think I can go. It works perfectly for us.

Congratulations to you both! Weddings can be so stressful, but it certainly sounds as if you two are handling things beautifully! You're going to have a wonderful married life together!

 

[WillowPuss]

errrrmmmm

Wow!

*passes Caroline a soft cushion*

*adding MotorCitySam on my list of 'Those not to make angry/upset'*


I can still remember the last couple of weeks before my wedding ... keep taking deep breathes and reminding yourself of the reason you are getting married!
(((hugs)))

 

[Shadowsdream]

Caroline

your Sam certainly earns My respect day after day as He takes you where you need to go through his loving Domination.

I anticipate a wonderful wedding and a marriage full of strength and passion for you both.

Thank you for painting such a vivid picture of need and control.

 

[Cirrus]

I know what you mean. My Dom has a close female friend that he knew before we met. They still spend a lot of time together. One day, that was already crap for me anyway, I WAY over reacted and implied that he was maybe spending too much time with her...and maybe a few other things. We didn't really fight, but we didn't really not fight either.

There was tension about it for a few days, and what finally cleared the air was something similar to what you describe.

I think it's in a man's innate nature to want to handle conflict physically, but OTOH any man worth his salt would never lay and hand on a woman in anger. I know mine never would...once during an argument he grabbed my arm roughly (didn't even leave a mark) as I was about to walk out and felt horrible about it for days. Still, I think giving him permission to "take his anger out on me" in a reasonable and safe setting made us even again.

 

[cymbidia]

In any relationship, darlin’ Oh, those most intimately involved must be able to articulate their wants and needs to have a prayer of having them answered. In our relationships, dealing with the power issues we deal with on a daily basis, we are even more bound to such honesty.

On another level, we as submissives, have it as our highest most seriously important obligation to be open and honest with our dominant at all times regarding our emotional concerns. They cannot do their job to us, to the relationship growing/evolving/changing between us, without our honesty.

Sometimes we don't know what's wrong.
Sometimes we're just cranky or scared or we don't know what hell is wrong.

Then it's theirs to deal with us, to soothe the tides of upset and unrest that are making us both nuts. Sometimes we appreciate their ways of dealing with it, sometimes we don't - until later.

C Oh? You and Sam are the epitome of everything good and admirable and wonderful about our kind of love, our kind of relationships. You're both strong, smart, caring, loving, creative, committed, and incredibly focused people. All will be well for you, now and into the future.

Thank you for allowing us ongoing glimpses into the wonder that envelops your love for each other and your mutual investigation, hand in hand, of our shared lifestyle.

b.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Transfering data into information - D/s style

Caroline, that is the best example of transfering data into information (in a D/s context) I have ever read.

Your recognizing the need to be alone to reflect on your thoughts and behaviour. I am sure that Sam had processed that you were not yourself (data) but did not have the information (stuff he could use) to help you through it (perhaps).

You come back and communicate the information he needs to assess the situation (a Dom/me's job). He asks for additional information based on what you have communicated to him.

You answer him (the need to be spanked), he processes that and then determines what you have asked for is exactly what is needed (a spanking).

Where else is communication is used to the mutual advantage of all other than in a D/s relationship?

I am sure the future hold much happiness for you both.

Eb

 

[petrel]

my darlin, it sounds wonderful - both on a purely physical level (I squirmed as I read it) and on the much deeper emotional and relationship building level.
Congratulations for being so brave (although I always knew you were courageous) to speak up and ask for what you wanted and needed - I find that difficult sometimes but I am learning and your example of how right it feels when you do get what you need is encouraging.

here's to many more sore bottoms and happy mornings!

just a quick question - do you ever get morning after emotional letdown? I nearly always end up in tears afterwards; not because of any physical pain but it seems to be a part of the release. After flying high I come down with a bit of a bump and I need to release the rest of that tension - come back to normality. In part I think it's also a subconscious act to get a 'loving' response from R - in contrast to the stern/punishing person eh was whilst spanking/whipping me.


and good luck with the wedding - I'd love to hear your plans - pm me if you like

 

[Daddyslilpet]

Caroline, I very glad to hear that you got what you needed from Sam. I just think its wonderful that you can communicate so well with each other that way.


dixi

 

[~Dream~]

RE:Spanking

to me,the first time MASTER spanked me it was quite a rush for me as I had craved it for so very long..I crave the sensation as I crave His Control
His control of the whole 'incident ' if you will,was so awesome!!
if His strikes to my ass were not delivered 'accurately" then the whole experience would not has been so pleasurable as it was for me...I love how He exposed me to Him bound naked face down on the spreader bars...my ass up in the air.. the 1sy resounding "Whack! was quite a surprise but I was even More surprised by the fact that it "barely hurt...well then Master upped the ante',he switched from hand,to belt to a very 'stinging belt!!
Imagine my poor lil butt's surprise at this!! We discovered that I have a high pain tolerance when it comes to spanking,at least
My ass refused to redden!!...Iwas gettin a lil frustrated too.. but not to worry cause Master had everything 'under control" as always..He increased the pain so I could experience the Pleasure..
little did I know then "what was in store for me at the SPRINGDALE bus station on the day I was to head back home to Michigan...
Master had already "hatched a plan in HIS MIND..
I went indoors to grab a coke and a tag to put on my luggage,
came back outside to give Him a hug and a long ,kiss goodbye..but little did I know that as I bent over the driver's side seat to "innocently 'reach for something on the other side of the front passenger seat,Master's eyes were fixated on MY Ass....
I started to stand back up but MASTER CAUGHT ME BY SURPRISE BY ORDERING me to bend over the seat!He started to pull out His belt and my face was of total shock and surprise when He said" 'Bend over Dream' ..I was thinking 'oh my God ! this is a public parking lot and EVERYONE COULD SEE US BUT Master did not seem to mind THAT at all..I considered this a "true test' of my submissiveness ,now that I look back upon it ...for I did what i was told to do damn the torpedoes "whack that ass!!
it WAS embarrrassing for I saw some people WERE indeed watching but i didnt care, for I was His and seeked to please and get the pleasure that only He could give to me and it made me soo dam wet i could not stand it..THAT'S the TRUTH !!

 

[MzChrista]

C Oh I think you still kind of grumpy maybe I ought to bring MC Sam some canes over.

Nah, Im just fuckin with ya baby girl, your post was the bomb.

 

[CarolineOh]

Thank you all for your wonderful responses. Sharing here, and processing your feedback, has been an enormous help to us as our relationship has deepened.

Interestingly, while the spanking itself was definitely not an erotic experience to me at the time, the memory of it is an enormous turn on. I take this as proof that to me, it is the nature of the relationship, more than the physical activity, that is the important thing.

Our wedding plans are modest. We will have a simple ceremony and a small dinner party with family and a few close friends. My first wedding was absurdly elaborate and expensive, and was a disaster both in and of itself, and as a precursor to the boondoggle of a marriage that followed it. It left me determined to keep this one as simple and foolproof as possible. And bless Sam's heart, he has been understanding about it. And if there is a problem , he has shown he knows what to do about it.

 

[CarolineOh]

C Oh I think you still kind of grumpy maybe I ought to bring MC Sam some canes over.

Nah, Im just fuckin with ya baby girl, your post was the bomb.

I am happy, happy, happy, darling.

Bring them over anyway.

 

[WillowPuss]

Thank you all for your wonderful responses. Sharing here, and processing your feedback, has been an enormous help to us as our relationship has deepened.

Interestingly, while the spanking itself was definitely not an erotic experience to me at the time, the memory of it is an enormous turn on. I take this as proof that to me, it is the nature of the relationship, more than the physical activity, that is the important thing.

Our wedding plans are modest. We will have a simple ceremony and a small dinner party with family and a few close friends. My first wedding was absurdly elaborate and expensive, and was a disaster both in and of itself, and as a precursor to the boondoggle of a marriage that followed it. It left me determined to keep this one as simple and foolproof as possible. And bless Sam's heart, he has been understanding about it. And if there is a problem , he has shown he knows what to do about it.

Simple is good ... but - I do hope there will be a photographer?

 

[~Dream~]

re:Willow

Simple is good ... but - I do hope there will be a photographer?

YEAH..And we wanna see some good "ass" shots too!! just kiddin!! hope ya have a beautiful wedding Caroline..wishing you and Sam all the love and happiness in the world from both Master and myself

 

[CarolineOh]

Simple is good ... but - I do hope there will be a photographer?

Rather than pay a photographer, we thought it would be fun to give each guest one of those disposable cameras and let them all snap away.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Rather than pay a photographer, we thought it would be fun to give each guest one of those disposable cameras and let them all snap away.

Oh I went to a couple of weddings with that. The pics came out wonderful too! I sure saves the bucks.

At my daughter's wedding, one of the groomsmen was a amatuer photographer, and he used his digital camera for all the "official" photos. It was his wedding gift to them, and saved me a ton of cash!

I hope we will get to see at least one pic!

Eb

 

[cymbidia]

That disposable cameras idea is a good one.

I think you still kind of grumpy maybe I ought to bring MC Sam some canes over.

Nah, Im just fuckin with ya baby girl, your post was the bomb.

I am happy, happy, happy, darling.

Bring them over anyway.

Ahem. I’ve got a new cane. Got it at FA. It’s called a "needle cane", a name that drew my attention immediately, as you might guess. I’d be willing to let y’all take it for a test drive if you like, Oh.

Here’s the info on it: Rattan Needle Canes
A beautiful & unique rattan cane...made by a very talented close friend who at present is no longer producing them. These canes were a sellout at the Boston Flea 2000! All finished in a high gloss acrylic finish with serpentine handles. There is a touch of shimmering glitter accented under the clear coat. There’s no way I could capture the beauty and detail on these. They measure 24" / 26" and sport 4 rows of 21 tingling needles set into the body 12 inches up from the cane bottom. MMMMMMMMM thats 84 needle tips that can be rotated or gently tapped on your favorite target. A true sensation item. You cane with the bottom and roll the mid section There is only 1 left in a glitter green. Everything I had sold in 72 hours, the bottom cane is it. No longer in production. A One Shot NickeeSirDesign Exclusive.

 

[WillowPuss]

Oh my cym, that looks a bit ... err, fierce.

The Dom would really have to make sure he aimed it right. ouchie

 

[MotorCitySam]

C Oh I think you still kind of grumpy maybe I ought to bring MC Sam some canes over.

Nah, Im just fuckin with ya baby girl, your post was the bomb.

MzChrista, you know I am a good student and an eager learner. I would be happy to get a lesson from you in using the cane.

 

[MotorCitySam]

What a great honor it is to be praised by such people as have posted to this thread. I have learned so much from you all, from cym, from Ebony, from Shadowsdream and so many others.
I have set one rule for myself as a Dominant: Follow my heart. I will do what I feel is right for us both, and I will consider what that may be with careful deliberation before I act. This rule has served me well so far, and I am sure it will continue to do so.
And it is the support that I recieve here that has allowed me to trust my heart in these matters.
I thank you all for your compliments and I truly appreciate the many kind wishes for our wedding.

 

[MotorCitySam]

errrrmmmm

Wow!

*passes Caroline a soft cushion*

*adding MotorCitySam on my list of 'Those not to make angry/upset'*


I can still remember the last couple of weeks before my wedding ... keep taking deep breathes and reminding yourself of the reason you are getting married!
(((hugs)))

WillowPuss, it is hard to imagine you provoking anger. But if you, like Caroline, were to confess your need for my attention, I would certainly do the best I can to oblige!