Sometimes things are better left unsaid

[PacificBlue]

One day I may learn that...

 

[perks]

I learned that, I just ignore it when I'm not medicated.

 

[alexandraaah]

I don't get it.

 

[Mr. Bootie]

Huh???

kgboot
aka "Mr. Bootie"

 

[Cara_f_32]

I dont' know what you guys are talking about.........but

I'd sure like to say the things that are better off left unsaid....and i find i draw a crowd when i do say them.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

I'm one of the suckers the 9 times out of 10 opens her mouth and spills the thoughts out... but I'm getting better at how I do it these days. After all, there is nothing like telling someone to go to hell in such a way they enjoy the ride......

 

[sch00lteacher]

When you figure out how to keep your mouth shut, let me know your secret okay? Please!?


http://www.berkshiresearch.com/images/footinmouth.gif

 

[Ice Cold]

I just wiegh the pros and cons of saying it and seeing how much shit I will get into once I inevitably open my big mouth anyways.

 

[BarberBabe]

I do the same thing ...don't think about before I say it ..then it's out there , I cant take it back & well ...the rest is history .

 

[Spinaroonie]

Rectal bleeding is one of those things.

 

[Ishmael]

Ahhhhhhh Yes

I'm one of the suckers the 9 times out of 10 opens her mouth and spills the thoughts out... but I'm getting better at how I do it these days. After all, there is nothing like telling someone to go to hell in such a way they enjoy the ride......

The old tact vs diplomacy definitions.

TACT; The art of telling someone to go to hell and having them not understand what you said.

DIPLOMACY; The are of telling someone to go to hell, and having them look forward to the trip.

Ishmael

 

[freescorfr]

The not said is, in my experience, much more powerfully destructive than what is said. And the destruction is to me.

I have learned that keeping a feeling locked inside encourages it to gestate.


If you have something pretty horrible to say and you express it as your own feeling - something produced in you - and you take responsibility for it - then it cannot hurt anyone else. You are simply telling them how you feel.

If they, in turn, feel hurt - that is not because of your feeling. How can it be? It is because what you have said triggers something which is already in them, a memory, a former hurt, insecurity, injury.

Where you are best keeping quiet is when you want to send out messages of blame, power, put-downs, demands and discouragement. I find it's always best to translate these into the feelings I have behind the desire to send out such messages.

So say it, but say it as, "What I am feeling is......."

Not "You are.......or You always.......You never.......You must......."

 

[MissTaken]

Guilty as Charged

I am more likely to fall into the category of people who internalize their thoughts and feelings until it becomes a much more destructive issue than it originally started as.

I am learning,
Will continue to learn,
And will eventually get it!

 

[Jimi]

What's that you DIDN'T say, Jimi!

I'm with T.H. and 'Teach - It may not surprise anyone here that I often open gob to exchange toenails...

'Course, I was a token Anglo in a very Italian/Slavic neighbourhood, so I learned to "vent" early!!!

Red wine and not bottling things up prevents heart attacks!

 

[riff]

say it.

But I know what you mean.

 

[LukkyKnight]

red red win

I am more likely to fall into the category of people who internalize their thoughts and feelings until it becomes a much more destructive issue than it originally started as.

From your friendly neighborhood token Irishman,
an old proverb in support of communication:

Even the tiniest of thorns festers if not removed.

 

[JennyOmanHill]

I used to be able to do this!

http://www.public.asu.edu/~atjlb/FOOT%20IN%20MOUTH.JPG

Still tend to say things I feel without thinking first, and my timing's been WAY off lately.

 

[SINthysist]

Are you guys trying to tell me to shut up again?

 

[Ebonyfire]

I wish I could, but I can't

I have tried to leave things left unsaid, but I find that it makes no difference in the long run. I would rather be an ulcer giver than be an ulcer getter.

Ebony