Someone tell me I'm right!

[Wicked-N-Erotic]

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[perks]

depends if she gets them gifts or not. Right now it's an oversight, now that she knows, if she doesn't rectify the situation, it's a slight and you have every right to be bent.

 

[Gord]

depends if she gets them gifts or not. Right now it's an oversight, now that she knows, if she doesn't rectify the situation, it's a slight and you have every right to be bent.

Grandmothers dont usually forget their Grandkids at Xmas

Is your present hubby the father ?

 

[Sad Man]

No doubt you kids felt upset when they realised that they were the only ones without a present, and this gives you a right to be upset. Kids don't understand and tend to be very sensitive about being the odd one out when it comes to presents.

 

[perks]

Grandmothers dont usually forget their Grandkids at Xmas

Is your present hubby the father ?

I agree, but I'm trying to give her the benefit of the doubt for a minute.

 

[candlelight]

I would've been upset too. Just because of how it would make the kids feel. They need to know they are special to Grandma too. I hope she tries to make it up to them. Is she normally a loving grandma?

 

[Wicked-N-Erotic]

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[perks]

He's not the father but we've been married 7 years and she has always gotten them something in the past. And as far as I'm aware from what she told me she has no intention of rectifing it.

then she's a cunt and I'd cut her off.


Start mailing her nursing home brochures.

 

[Wicked-N-Erotic]

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[candlelight]

Blended family means "family" to me. When you marry, you bring two families together and you and your children are a package that your husband chose to make his family. If this is your present husband's mom ,would it be out of the question for him to talk to her about it? Or would that start a war?

 

[DarkAngel]

You not right!

 

[candlelight]

Is she normally a loving grandma? Humm, well she "forgot" my oldest's birthday this year too, so that adds to me being upset, but if loving means does she kiss and hug them, yes hwen she sees them, but she makes no effort to come see them like she does her other grandchildren. I know she's only a step grandma but she had always treated them good in past years. And I should mention that she said she was sorry to me not to them.

Well she's been grandma since they were really little then. I feel for you, for the kids.

 

[Wicked-N-Erotic]

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[CoolidgEffect]

It sounds to me like you are right to be upset. Even if she bought presents now, damage would be done. It sounds like the family sat around the Christmas tree and opened presesnts and your kids got to watch and were made to feel like outsiders.

 

[Wicked-N-Erotic]

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[TheDR4KE]

I agree also with the opinions voiced so far. You and your children are a family, and your family and your husband's family are part of a greater family.

Or your family is not, and that is a bigger issue.


Personally I would get something for your children and tell them it was from grandma. Their feelings come first right now, well beyond any of these deeper issues.

Then I would seriously look at everyone's expectations from others, i.e. list what you expect from your husband, your family and his family, and ask him to list what he expects from you, your family and his family. Confrontation with his mother comes after you have sorted things out with him.

All the very best to you with this situation.

To put things into perspective, a couple of days ago a workman fell to his death in an accident here at our building. Life is fragile. Only death can not be overcome.

Quack

the D

 

[Star of Penumbra]

You want I should come over and kick her bony old ass up around her ears?

 

[LukkyKnight]

He's not the father but we've been married 7 years and she has always gotten them something in the past. And as far as I'm aware from what she told me she has no intention of rectifing it.

Don't borrow trouble. Yeah, it's shitty. If she's a habit of including them she probably will, and you can help them understand what happened. If she doesn't make it up to them it's her loss, and your husband will have to agree, frankly.

 

[Rubyfruit]

What?

Christmas is for the kids, period.

She sounds toxic, Wicked. I'm sorry.

If it were me, I wouldn't subject my kids to another situation like that.