Someone Help Me Understand Something Please.

[IhateClowns]

I asked a question on another thread about other litsters on here and 2 of the answers were about people's fantasies about raping them. This isn't the first time I have heard people complain about receiving PM's from someone about that person wanting to rape them. Does this happen frequently?

I get that everyone has their kinks. I personally don't get most kinks. I have no desire to worship someone's big toe. I have no desire to fuck my Mom, sister, aunt, or even my handsome dad. I don't need you to squat over my chest and take a shit to get off. I don't crave eating a pussy like it is ice cream.

I just am dumbfounded that people will PM someone saying they want to rape them. Is this a first PM or after you get to know them? I get that you want to be in control or that you are a sub, but how does that even come about? Hi I am IHC, I just wanted to say hi. Oh and by the way I want to rape you till your ass bleeds. Here a cock pic.

If that is how it works around these parts I am doing something way wrong. Like sending cock pics before I tell you I want to rape you. Apparently I am a dyslexic raper.

If anyone can fill me in that would be great.

Thanks

 

[LusterMunky]

Equally dumbfounded.

But I do have a bit of a thing for your big toe.

 

[makinmepurr]

I thought you loved my big toe, Munky....it was so good....

 

[IhateClowns]

Equally dumbfounded.

But I do have a bit of a thing for your big toe.

My big toe has a rape whistle.

 

[ViciousTease]

The pinky toe is my favorite, as far as toes go.

 

[elli1]

jesus! I've received some weird PMs, but no rape 'requests' or cock pix
those freak PMs I get are usually from guys who've been on lit for years and have posted a total of 4 times... and many of those messages are obviously their 'standard' introductory PMs they send to all the girls online in a desperate attempt to get some attention

 

[IhateClowns]

Hmmmm people are focusing on the wrong kink.

 

[IhateClowns]

jesus! I've received some weird PMs, but no rape 'requests' or cock pix
those freak PMs I get are usually from guys who've been on lit for years and have posted a total of 4 times... and many of those messages are obviously their 'standard' introductory PMs they send to all the girls online in a desperate attempt to get some attention

I notice that people with hardly any posts and no profile info love to boast about meeting and talking to people on lit. Maybe their blanket PM's work.

 

[makinmepurr]

Well I' ve never gotten a rape pm. This is the first I' ve heard about this.
I don't have kinks either. Sounds to me like anyone sending those has serious issues. Obviously.

 

[elli1]

Well I' ve never gotten a rape pm. This is the first I' ve heard about this.
I don't have kinks either. Sounds to me like anyone sending those has serious issues. Obviously.

no kinks? right....

 

[xxxLunaxxx]

I received a very lengthy pm once from a stranger. It was a detailed story about breaking into my house and raping me. I've never posted an interest in being raped anywhere and was pretty pissed someone would write that to me. I just chalked it up to some asshole seeing how many women he could disturb in a day. I wrote him back and chewed him a new asshole. He apologized, but I have my doubts he changed his behavior.

 

[Greeneyedcanadian]

I get lots of the "form letter" pm addressed to all the other ladies no doubt but thankfully have dodged the rape pm.

 

[IhateClowns]

I received a very lengthy pm once from a stranger. It was a detailed story about breaking into my house and raping me. I've never posted an interest in being raped anywhere and was pretty pissed someone would write that to me. I just chalked it up to some asshole seeing how many women he could disturb in a day. I wrote him back and chewed him a new asshole. He apologized, but I have my doubts he changed his behavior.

That is crazy to me. That someone thinks that would be hot as an initial PM. It had to have worked once on someone else, hence the continued attempts.

 

[elli1]

That is crazy to me. That someone thinks that would be hot as an initial PM. It had to have worked once on someone else, hence the continued attempts.

or they're just not very smart?
I've gotten the odd 'are you really fucking your father' PM...

 

[makinmepurr]

no kinks? right....

Well, not for big toes or any of the other examples IHC gave, miss smartypants

 

[dutchrain]

That is crazy to me. That someone thinks that would be hot as an initial PM. It had to have worked once on someone else, hence the continued attempts.

I suppose so. Or that person just has a lot of fun imagining the (would happen quite often I think) disgusted faces of the persons who start to read the PM ...

 

[ViciousTease]

I've gotten random PMs about being controlled, but never anything as severe as rape. That really is disturbing.

 

[LiFeNdEaTh]

Equally dumbfounded.

But I do have a bit of a thing for your big toe.

lol..

 

[Aquagal]

I've received two of them from two different people, both were sent a very long time ago. No one would be surprised who one was from, the other, the more disturbing of the two PM's, is only around occasionally. They were not initial PM's, nor were they building or leading in that direction either. I chewed them both out for thinking this was an acceptable PM for anyone.

As far as iggy working, not so much. One would post stalk me when I'd play word threads leaving words such as blood, knife, rape...I preferred knowing when he was on or not so I wouldn't post.

 

[Ellafun]

I've not received that particular suggestion in a PM, but I have received from pretty off-the-wall invitations from people to whom I've never spoken. That message would be quickly deleted and the person would be put on ignore. There are still rules of engagement that need to be observed when contacting someone, even on Lit.

 

[lexieredefined]

I personally do not understand it either. I get people are into things like consensual non-consent. Whatever floats your boat, I suppose. I don't get the rape fantasies/culture. I honestly don't think I could be with someone who had rape fantasies or wanted to act them out with me. I can deal with a lot of kinks, but that one disturbs me and makes my stomach turn.

 

[Thandi]

I've received two of them from two different people, both were sent a very long time ago. No one would be surprised who one was from, the other, the more disturbing of the two PM's, is only around occasionally. They were not initial PM's, nor were they building or leading in that direction either. I chewed them both out for thinking this was an acceptable PM for anyone.

As far as iggy working, not so much. One would post stalk me when I'd play word threads leaving words such as blood, knife, rape...I preferred knowing when he was on or not so I wouldn't post.

Fuck that's disturbing!

 

[Little_Sister]

I have gotten 'taken'(still non-consent I guess) PMs, but nothing about detailed rape. I just figured I got it because of the SRP I have up and I delete it. No big deal. I delete a lot of PMs without ever responding. It may be your AV that turns me off, it may be that it is obviously C&Ped, or it may be because you are the 800th person to say... "So, you like reading dirty stories huh?" *shrugs*

 

[lovetopleasewomen]

damn! how come I don't get any of those kind of pm's? some folks have all the fun.

 

[Aphro]

Nope. No rape PM's. I had one once...a very long and detailed story, where he did a global search and replace, and everywhere the protagonists name was, he replaced it with my username.

It was a non-consent gangbang story...with some gratuitous lesbian sex at the end. He tried to make it seem like he wrote it "for" me. I was unsure what it was about my posts or profile that would make it seem I would enjoy a little forced gangbang sex.

Honestly, I feel like 75% of the guys on Lit think they are Doms...or are wannabe Doms. Now, I've never really spent any time talking to someone that I would truly say is Dom, because most of the messages I've received are more the latter variety. Guys who looked at a few BDSM pics and now they are all badass and going to tie you up and fuck you into next week with a riding crop in one hand and a ball gag in the other...because 50 Shades of Grey says that's what women want. And yeah, some women want that. Some don't.

Always best to get to know someone a bit before springing the whole I'm ready to rip your clothing off and provide you with some hot, non-consensual sex.