Some questions and some rant

[AwkwardlySet]

I'm going to touch on a few separate issues here, so I don't spam the board with new threads (hint hint!)

A question for all my fellow authors: Do you ever feel embarrassed by the kinks or sexual themes of your stories? Do you feel uneasy or a bit timid when someone points out the non-con/rape kink in your story, your body fluid kinks, your bondage and pain kinks, your D/S kink, your big age gap kinks, your mom-son/daughter/sister/brother kinks, and such? Some of us write some extreme stuff in one way or another, so does it ever feel embarrassing to talk about it with people with whom you have a certain degree of day-to-day interaction on AH? Some kinks are often up for debate, so I am curious how you feel when your story is mentioned in some thread, or when some AH person mentions reading your story that contains some "dirty" stuff, or something rough, or something with some really "wild" incest.

A question for those who have published erotic art: How long does it usually take for something like that to be published? It is only a map of my fantasy world, but for some reason, I feel more excited about it than about a story, even if it's somewhat crude, and took a lot less time...

Finally, some rant: I am getting pissed off with Lit's comment policy. Even anonymous comments can appear between a few to several hours after my story goes live, yet my own comments on my own story take no less than 24 hours, every fucking time. It kills the flow of communication in a spectacularly efficient way. We discussed how Lit probably has tiers when it comes to commenters, but I don't understand how can I be in a tier worse than anonymous readers??! I've never written a comment that contained ANYTHING insulting or provocative. My comments were never rejected or deleted. This feels fucking personal, tbh.

 

[onehitwanda]

Do you ever feel embarrassed by the kinks or sexual themes of your stories?

I've outgrown my earlier kinks, so my first stories in I/T make me cringe now.

 

[StillStunned]

Your first question: I've had to emphasise to my wife the difference between "fantasy" and "imagination". Just because I'm writing something (and reading it to her) doesn't mean I fantasise about it happening.

Your rant: Yes, I hate it. My comments - even on my own stories - can take the better part of a day to post.

 

[Stimtheone]

On the shame of my kinks: Depends on with WHOM. I don't just go and declare to everyone that I write porn... unless they look particularly okay with that. My family does not know I write porn and I am pretty sure they'd have some unpleasant words if they knew I write incest porn. No, I don't fucking want to do anything with them. But most of the time I have internally accepted the kinks I have and merely curate what I say to others because people can be idiots.

I have nothing on the art or the comments because I have no experience in those.

 

[AwkwardlySet]

The first question I meant in the sense of people here on AH. There is a certain degree of familiarity between many of us here, and we mostly know who writes what.

 

[SimonDoom]

Kinks and shame: Nope, none whatsoever. I would be hesitant to open up about them to many people I know in the real world, but I don't have any hesitancy about what I write here. But in part that's because I'm clear in my own mind that what I write does not necessarily--in fact, often emphatically does not--indicate what I truly fantasize about. My personal sexy kinks and fetishes are less strange than what I write about. The only thing I truly fantasize about that's illegal, for instance, is stuff like public nudity. I don't fantasize about hurting people.

The comment policy: I haven't encountered what the OP has encountered so I don't have an opinion. I was glad to see the Site respond to complaints by making comments appear faster than before. I can understand the OP's frustration at what he describes as happening, but it hasn't happened to me (that I'm aware of).

 

[NotWise]

1. Nope. Not at all.

2. Can't help.

3. Comments on Lit are not set up (yet, anyway) to work like a discussion forum. I believe that's in the works, so there isn't much sense in complaining about it.

 

[Altissimus]

No kink shame. I write what I like, and that's that, I suppose.

Last comment I made on one of my own stories posted in a matter of hours. However, I have noticed that comments come in at certain set times. For example, I often receive anon comments at a certain time of day, even though they've probably been posted hours apart. I assume, therefore, that they get aggregated and dumped at a point-in-time, and thus if you post close to that point it won't take long, and if you've just missed it you have to wait.

 

[djrip]

These comments seem relevant:

The level of detail and hotness of the sex is amazing. Some of the hottest I've ever read!

I do have one constructive comment though. There's a bit of an obsession with seminal fluid...to the point where I find it a bit awkward and weird. I may be the only one that feels that way, I dunno. YMMV.

Air-quote, pre-came, air-quote, constantly. Probably eighty or ninety gallons worth. Poor, poor desiccated young fellow. Perhaps with practice he'll learn to only air-quote, pre-cum, air-quote after several minutes of manual, oral, or penetration sex acts.

 

[BBlaketbv]

"Do you ever feel embarrassed by the kinks or sexual themes of your stories? Do you feel uneasy or a bit timid when someone points out the non-con/rape kink in your story, your body fluid kinks, your bondage and pain kinks, your D/S kink, your big age gap kinks, your mom-son/daughter/sister/brother kinks, and such? "

No, not really.
Non-con/rape is just not something I particularly want to write. I want all characters to enjoy it. It can start non-con, but will never be rape. That's just not ok for me.

Bondage is something I find incredibly interesting and fun. No need for shame or embarrassment here.

Incest stuff? Here I am much more careful. I don't feel any shame, for they are just fantasies. But I am wayyy more careful when I write a story about it.

Never had a comment that was judgemental about my choice for kinks. But then again, I always label it clearly with the tags

 

[SeraphNocturne]

No hang-ups. Honestly, I'd have to care to feel shameful. I can't force anyone to read anything I write. I so rarely even mention anything I write. It's there, tagged appropriately, and often the intended audience find it on their own... so I'm content enough with it.

As for comments? Comment more. My comments publish immediately, but I'm also an avid reader when I'm not writing and take time to leave detailed feedback on any story that's caught my interest enough for me to give it time. I'm not sure how many comments I've left, but I know it's quite a few.

 

[Stimtheone]

The first question I meant in the sense of people here on AH. There is a certain degree of familiarity between many of us here, and we mostly know who writes what.

Oh, here? Eh, other than dancing around the two kinks that are against the rules, I don't bloody care what people think and could go for hours.

 

[NoTalentHack]

I've outgrown my earlier kinks, so my first stories in I/T make me cringe now.

This isn't even your final form?

 

[AwkwardlySet]

3. Comments on Lit are not set up (yet, anyway) to work like a discussion forum. I believe that's in the works, so there isn't much sense in complaining about it.

There is always sense in complaining.
I've learned that the hard way.

 

[Kelliezgirl]

Perhaps I'm just not that kinky, but I don't write about anything I wouldn't do, and I wouldn't do anything I'd be ashamed of.
Admittedly, my stuff is pretty tame by this places standards.

 

[AG31]

I'm clear in my own mind that what I write does not necessarily--in fact, often emphatically does not--indicate what I truly fantasize about.

Thanks for the clear statement. This is something I wonder about a lot... how much what people write reflects their personal fantasies that turn them on. In my case it's a 100% correlation. I just record my fantasies. But they have 0% correlation with my real life sexuality. Go figure. There's nought so queer as folk.

 

[SimonDoom]

Thanks for the clear statement. This is something I wonder about a lot... how much what people write reflects their personal fantasies that turn them on. In my case it's a 100% correlation. I just record my fantasies. But they have 0% correlation with my real life sexuality. Go figure. There's nought so queer as folk.

There's what we actually do in real life.

There's what we fantasize about.

There's what we write about.

For some people they're all tied together. They live the Lifestyle, they fantasize about the Lifestyle, and they write about the Lifestyle.

That's not me at all. There's some overlap between all three for me, but also areas of total divergence. I enjoy writing incest stories. I've never experienced it, and I've never wanted to or fantasized about it. But for some reason I enjoy reading and writing about it, so long as everything I'm writing about is completely consensual.

 

[MediocreAuthor]

I'm going to touch on a few separate issues here, so I don't spam the board with new threads (hint hint!)

A question for all my fellow authors: Do you ever feel embarrassed by the kinks or sexual themes of your stories? Do you feel uneasy or a bit timid when someone points out the non-con/rape kink in your story, your body fluid kinks, your bondage and pain kinks, your D/S kink, your big age gap kinks, your mom-son/daughter/sister/brother kinks, and such? Some of us write some extreme stuff in one way or another, so does it ever feel embarrassing to talk about it with people with whom you have a certain degree of day-to-day interaction on AH? Some kinks are often up for debate, so I am curious how you feel when your story is mentioned in some thread, or when some AH person mentions reading your story that contains some "dirty" stuff, or something rough, or something with some really "wild" incest.

Finally, some rant: I am getting pissed off with Lit's comment policy. Even anonymous comments can appear between a few to several hours after my story goes live, yet my own comments on my own story take no less than 24 hours, every fucking time. It kills the flow of communication in a spectacularly efficient way. We discussed how Lit probably has tiers when it comes to commenters, but I don't understand how can I be in a tier worse than anonymous readers??! I've never written a comment that contained ANYTHING insulting or provocative. My comments were never rejected or deleted. This feels fucking personal, tbh.

1) Kinks
No, I'm not embarrassed about my kinks online.

Everyone on Lit knows that I write noncon in fiction, but I hate real life rape. So what is there to be ashamed of?

2) Erotic Art
No idea, sorry

3) Comments
As some others have said, just comment more. My comments post instantly as well, but I have no idea how fast anonymous comments post. (I just posted an anonymous comment [while logged in] and asked the author to let me know when it posts). I'll post the results later.

 

[KachinaDoll]

It would be nice to be able to quote a comment when posting an author comment.

 

[Winter_Fare]

I'm going to touch on a few separate issues here, so I don't spam the board with new threads (hint hint!)

A question for all my fellow authors: Do you ever feel embarrassed by the kinks or sexual themes of your stories? Do you feel uneasy or a bit timid when someone points out the non-con/rape kink in your story, your body fluid kinks, your bondage and pain kinks, your D/S kink, your big age gap kinks, your mom-son/daughter/sister/brother kinks, and such? Some of us write some extreme stuff in one way or another, so does it ever feel embarrassing to talk about it with people with whom you have a certain degree of day-to-day interaction on AH? Some kinks are often up for debate, so I am curious how you feel when your story is mentioned in some thread, or when some AH person mentions reading your story that contains some "dirty" stuff, or something rough, or something with some really "wild" incest.

100% nope. Never embarrassed. I am amused by it sometimes, saddened by it sometimes, the whole moralistic neopuritan thing is cringe in my opinion.

A question for those who have published erotic art:

I haven't. I think the art board on here is probably less frustrating than illustrated stories in that it's instant feedback with more engagement from viewers.

Finally, some rant: I am getting pissed off with Lit's comment policy. Even anonymous comments can appear between a few to several hours after my story goes live, yet my own comments on my own story take no less than 24 hours, every fucking time. It kills the flow of communication in a spectacularly efficient way. We discussed how Lit probably has tiers when it comes to commenters, but I don't understand how can I be in a tier worse than anonymous readers??! I've never written a comment that contained ANYTHING insulting or provocative. My comments were never rejected or deleted. This feels fucking personal, tbh.

Rant away. It's very random ime, sometimes fast sometimes slow, but a very poor way of engaging with readers/followers.

 

[Paul_Chance]

I'm going to touch on a few separate issues here, so I don't spam the board with new threads (hint hint!)

A question for all my fellow authors: Do you ever feel embarrassed by the kinks or sexual themes of your stories? Do you feel uneasy or a bit timid when someone points out the non-con/rape kink in your story, your body fluid kinks, your bondage and pain kinks, your D/S kink, your big age gap kinks, your mom-son/daughter/sister/brother kinks, and such? Some of us write some extreme stuff in one way or another, so does it ever feel embarrassing to talk about it with people with whom you have a certain degree of day-to-day interaction on AH? Some kinks are often up for debate, so I am curious how you feel when your story is mentioned in some thread, or when some AH person mentions reading your story that contains some "dirty" stuff, or something rough, or something with some really "wild" incest.

A question for those who have published erotic art: How long does it usually take for something like that to be published?

Finally, some rant: I am getting pissed off with Lit's comment policy. Even anonymous comments can appear between a few to several hours after my story goes live, yet my own comments on my own story take no less than 24 hours, every fucking time. It kills the flow of communication in a spectacularly efficient way. We discussed how Lit probably has tiers when it comes to commenters, but I don't understand how can I be in a tier worse than anonymous readers??! I've never written a comment that contained ANYTHING insulting or provocative. My comments were never rejected or deleted. This feels fucking personal, tbh.

I'm quite comfortable with my own kinks as a person. If I write about a kink I don't personally have, it's just fiction, so I am comfortable writing that as well.

My comments appear pretty quickly. I doubt any person at Lit is reading comments. More than likely it's dropping into a queue and then processing at whatever the queue speed is. Since I usually comment in the off hours, mine appear instantly or within a few minutes. I've seen it slow down during the normal peak of the day.

 

[AwkwardlySet]

I've just posted two instant comments, for the first time since I registered on Lit.

@NoTalentHack Told you complaining works!

 

[madelinemasoch]

No, I'm not embarrassed on here. I do find it weird when people run with the assumption that I wrote a particular action because it's my "fetish." That doesn't happen as often as they think. But no... I'm not embarrassed on here, I am embarrassed if the public in general hears me scribbling away. Not on the forums, but in general, I am a little bashful about it. Sometimes it stills the keyboard fingers for a few hours too long. Not sure how to get past that.

 

[EmilyMiller]

A question for all my fellow authors: Do you ever feel embarrassed by the kinks or sexual themes of your stories?

Your comments thing seems sorted out and the only art I publish is @djrip ’s series covers. So…

On kinks. The only time I have been embarrassed is in the first few works I penned here under a different user name. They introduced an entirely fabricated I/T dynamic into otherwise “inspired by real life” stories. I’m not going to cover my [bad] motivations here again (there is an explanation at the end of one of the stories). I was embarrassed enough to rewrite them, excising the I/T element, and published the reworked ones under this account.

Aside from that. The kinks I write about (while maybe outré to others) are either my own RL ones, or ones I’m interested to have my characters explore.

Some people don’t like the occasional water sports. Someone recently didn’t like one FMC drinking cum out of the other FMCs ass in one of my two Halloween stories (it was vampire cum as well). I get why those things are not for everyone. For the record, I’ve dabbled (paddled?) in the former, but never the latter. But I’m not ashamed of them. The latter is definitely something those two FMCs would do. If they were real and not supernatural entities that is.

Em

 

[AG31]

A question for all my fellow authors: Do you ever feel embarrassed by the kinks or sexual themes of your stories?

No. In fact I take considerable satisfaction in the fact that I feel no shame about my explicit S&M stories. I don't share this side of me with friends or family because my erotica is so discontinuous with my real life personality that it would just take to much time and energy to explain what's going on. And many of them would most certainly be embarrassed on my behalf.