Some Advice for New Lit Users

[Disturbingimage]

Congrats on finding a free site that will allow to communicate with people and posts ad. I too have recently joined and have found some really nice things I'd like to share as well as some cautionary advice for anyone new.

1st and foremost everything you post gets kept attached to your username and profile. Meaning if you feel like making a bad gay joke or insult someones thread because you don't agree with them. Also if you post to multiple catagories with different intentions( lets be friends, or looking for a hook up, or im gay now im straight) people will notice these and realize either your not serious or your just here for fun and you will not get the replies your hoping for(or none at all).

2nd This is not Craiglist! There are women on here too! I was using it as such, Badly writing basicly anything to anyone with no regard of their feelings or how disrespectful I sounded. Don't do that! This site is for people to communicate and post ads yes but that name Literotica implies its more than just fuck me ads and penthouse forums. Using proper spelling and grammar will show people your an intelligent adult with thoughts and ideas that can improve peoples experience not just a horny youngster or creey old pedo.

3rd throughly check the site for a catagory that suites you best then read some before posting. There are plenty of different topics that maybe exactly what your intetested in and you can see how people relate and welcome the communication.

4th You will be judged by people based on you posts. If you spend a week telling a girl you wanna cheat with her, roleplay something taboo, or just repling to random threads. When you try to have a conversation with someone you actually have a connection with they will have the ability to simply look at your previous post or comments and judge you on that. maybe it was a bad day for you or watched some porn you wanna talk about. Thats fine but be understanding that someone reading you previous stuff may decide your just a lil too high on the creep'o meter to reply to.

I recently had a few eye opening converstions with some of the more experienced writers on here. They informed me of these things i was unaware of so i wanted to pass it on. Being told the "rules" is one thing but understanding the effect it has is different. i encourage people to have fun and be whoever they want to be but be caution that you don't become the character your playing on here.

I am not the person i act as on here but trying to tell someone that after they read a bunch of stuff saying different is a hard task. Precieption is Reality, what you appear to be may be what people see you as.

Again Congrats on finding this site and please take my advise.

P.s bump this thread if you see it sliping too low, i wanna make sure its on the 1st page pls.

P.S.S. I apologized to anyone i have offened on any post. Ill take this more serious now and try to be a model user. Thanks, have fun ppl!

 

[Farawyn]

*reads your post history*
Yeah. Thought so.

 

[simpledude]

*reads your post history*
Yeah. Thought so.

what'd you find?

 

[Disturbingimage]

*reads your post history*
Yeah. Thought so.

Care to explain your comments? Ironicly you were one of the people i was apologizing to.

 

[Theambianceorthedecor]

Thanks for the advice

 

[OldUncleJack]

Ah the voice of experience!

Bearing in mind this is a literary site, try using spell check!

 

[Disturbingimage]

spell check.

ya my spelling is off most times. This was on my mind all night and wanted it out. At work so had to type and hide quickly. but yes use spell check as much as possible.

Oh and one more thing, some people are just gonna hate no matter what you say or how nice you try to be.
Don't let that discourage you. "some people just wanna watch the world burn".

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

I am quite sure she was referring to your thread where you claimed women do not like sex and displayed a very dismissive and condescending attitude toward women.
If you didn't mean it and were playing the part of an asshole, then say so. Otherwise, I suspect this thread will not be enough to erase the impact of you having displayed such a complete lack of understanding toward women.

If I may paraphrase her.

Care to explain your comments? Ironicly you were one of the people i was apologizing to.

 

[Disturbingimage]

I am quite sure she was referring to your thread where you claimed women do not like sex and displayed a very dismissive and condescending attitude toward women.
If you didn't mean it and were playing the part of an asshole, then say so. Otherwise, I suspect this thread will not be enough to erase the impact of you having displayed such a complete lack of understanding toward women.

If I may paraphrase her.

lol dude reread that whole thread if your gonna say that. its started out as someone(not me) saying they dont think women in general like sex as much. 1st page i was encouraging men to find out what there woman like so she will be more interested in sex. 2n page was even laughin with some of the women, 3rd page i said what i like to do but the subject started to change into men just arent as good of lovers. by the 4th page women where just bashing on men, we couldnt say one thing right without being insulted and after reading that much hate for a general statement made i replied. ya i may have said a few things slightly over the line. ok way over but still the intent was to move the subject back to positive things guys can do to improve sex with women while acknowledging the lack of respected given to the men in the room.

thats why i was apologizing. i don't enjoy insulting women.

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

lol dude reread that whole thread if your gonna say that. its started out as someone(not me) saying they dont think women in general like sex as much. 1st page i was encouraging men to find out what there woman like so she will be more interested in sex. 2n page was even laughin with some of the women, 3rd page i said what i like to do but the subject started to change into men just arent as good of lovers. by the 4th page women where just bashing on men, we couldnt say one thing right without being insulted and after reading that much hate for a general statement made i replied. ya i may have said a few things slightly over the line. ok way over but still the intent was to move the subject back to positive things guys can do to improve sex with women while acknowledging the lack of respected given to the men in the room.

thats why i was apologizing. i don't enjoy insulting women.

Never mind.
I confused you with the guy who started that thread.
You were not the asshole.

 

[Disturbingimage]

thank you.

 

[RubyJulie]

thank you.

You're just an asshole who thinks he knows everything.

 

[Disturbingimage]

Thank you... I mean bump. 400+ people looked at this and only 1 calls me an asshole. Ok ill take that. lol I'm just trying to help people not make the same mistakes I made. I don't know everything about anything.

 

[RuneBlade]

Thank you... I mean bump. 400+ people looked at this and only 1 calls me an asshole.

Well now you're just asking for it

 

[Todger65]

Thank you... I mean bump. 400+ people looked at this and only 1 calls me an asshole. Ok ill take that. lol I'm just trying to help people not make the same mistakes I made. I don't know everything about anything.

Yep 490 have read and at least 480 have ignored you.

Says a lot doesn’t it.

 

[Disturbingimage]

Yep 490 have read and at least 480 have ignored you.

Says a lot doesn’t it.

Thanks for your opinion but no not really, This wasn't suppose to be an open conversation. It was an admission of wrong doing and hopefully helpful advice for new people so they can avoid the mistakes I made. Nobody replying doesn't matter but thanks, Btw up to 670...

 

[MrMikelobe1952]

Thanks for your opinion but no not really, This wasn't suppose to be an open conversation. It was an admission of wrong doing and hopefully helpful advice for new people so they can avoid the mistakes I made. Nobody replying doesn't matter but thanks, Btw up to 670...

So, what did you say that you now regret?

 

[LostGirlTink]

Here's the thing.. and this is really pretty simple.

Just be a decent person when you post.

The nice part about a site like this is that it's anonymous, so you can and should be honest about yourself.
That let's people learn and discover who you are.
In life, I find it important to not be someone that I'd be ashamed to be... so if you are showing up as someone a little unsavory, maybe that tells that you need to work on something in your life?
If you are into x, y or z, enough to talk about them here, then maybe the person that you have the connection with should be able to understand that. Most of us are here because we're fairly open-minded.

But the biggest thing I think it's important to remember is that on the other side of that keyboard is a person.

Sounds like you kinda screwed up a little... you're new. In some respects you might be better taking the knowledge you've learned and trying to start over.
Or... moving forward and just continue posting with your new knowledge. Your old posts become harder to find after you have a history here and you have plenty of time to prove yourself as someone better than maybe you started out as.

Good luck.

 

[Disturbingimage]

Here's the thing.. and this is really pretty simple.

Just be a decent person when you post.

The nice part about a site like this is that it's anonymous, so you can and should be honest about yourself.
That let's people learn and discover who you are.
In life, I find it important to not be someone that I'd be ashamed to be... so if you are showing up as someone a little unsavory, maybe that tells that you need to work on something in your life?
If you are into x, y or z, enough to talk about them here, then maybe the person that you have the connection with should be able to understand that. Most of us are here because we're fairly open-minded.

But the biggest thing I think it's important to remember is that on the other side of that keyboard is a person.

Sounds like you kinda screwed up a little... you're new. In some respects you might be better taking the knowledge you've learned and trying to start over.
Or... moving forward and just continue posting with your new knowledge. Your old posts become harder to find after you have a history here and you have plenty of time to prove yourself as someone better than maybe you started out as.

Good luck.

Thank you for you advice, i will take that into consideration. Probably gonna start over but dont run from a mistake, ill admit it and take said criticism. I dont regret anything ive said, (maybe my spelling) I never meant to offened anyone. i was just having fun til some very nice and thoughtful people explained to me how i may be appearing. That was enough for me to see my mistakes and post some advice for newbies. Thanks again to those people for not just calling a dumbass and moving on.