so....

[Willing and Unsure]

how do you get past the feeling of loneliness when going out with other people doesnt help?

 

[Angel]

Beer.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

thanx for the suggestion... but i dont drink

 

[Xander]

Beer.

And lots of it.

 

[Angel]

Mary Jane.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

gave up that stuff too.....

 

[Angel]

Good gawd woman! HBO? Showtime? PAY PER VIEW? It's friday, you can get some softcore porn or something.

 

[beckbabe]

Try to get into a project maybe.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

well Angel... cant get into cable... cuz i dont have it....



and beckbabe.. i have tried projects.. everything has just caught up with me now... and i dont know how much longer i can take it

 

[Guest]

I cry...

then I cry some more



then I get over crying.....
and I talk to whoever will listen....




then I think about good things....

 

[Angel]

I don't know what advice to give. I'm a loner who tends to stick with a couple of people and that is it. I like being by myself and doing things alone alot of the time.

So any advice I could give would probably be unfit for your situation.

But I will anyway - maybe part of the reason I enjoy my alone time is because I always have stuff to do. Sometimes too much.

I build webpages and make graphics. I make soap and candles, I cook and I paint. I write and read and take pictures. I'm active in several groups and a charity.

Find something time consuming that you enjoy.

 

[Juspar Emvan]

Hug a teddy bear. Apart from that, wait it out. Go smell the flowers while you're waiting. Visit the Museum, the cemetry, stroll on the beach, watch the kids playing in the park, play solitare (with real cards), read a book, phone your mum, masturbate, go to a dance class, take some flowers to the old folks home. Just waste some time.

 

[Weird Harold]

how do you get past the feeling of loneliness when going out with other people doesnt help?

Like Angel, I'm a loner. More precisely, I'm a recluse.

Loneliness is inside you. It doesn't really have anything to do with other people. Loneliness is your subconcious telling you that there is something missing from your life. Once you figure out what is missing, you can take steps to correct the problem.

If going out with other people didn't help, try visiting a home for the elderly, or volunteering at the children's ward of a hospital for a while.

The elderly and children in a hospital will make you feel welcome and return every bit of attention that you share with them. It's very hard to be lonely when someone is paying attention to you.

 

[Willing and Unsure]

see... that's the thing WeirdHarold... i know what i'm missing.. and i also know that no matter what i do, i cant have it for another 26 days... and i dont know anyone around here that can give me what i'm missing but this one special person.

 

[*Lazer*]

Babysit for some friends or go for a run. I paint or dance to music and if all else fails write. Start a journel and write down what you're feeling. Clean out your closets just get up and move. You could always have a big pity party for an hour or two. Plan it get your favorite foods, put on your sadest song or videos then indulge BUT put a time limit on it. Repeat your pity party prn (whenever necessary) until you get bored with feeling bad. Oh and do not forget to invite others to your party. Sometimes the best thing of all is knowing you are not alone.

 

[Never]

Willing and Unsure:
".. and i dont know anyone around here that can give me what i'm missing but this one special person."

You.

 

[april-wine]

come on over, we can play cards or something.......hmmmmmmmm strip poker

 

[Willing and Unsure]

Willing and Unsure:
".. and i dont know anyone around here that can give me what i'm missing but this one special person."

You.

sorry never... but i've tried my best to give myself what i need... and it doesnt work too well to give myself a hug... and i know that is one thing that will help me more than anything... cuz i'll feel it, more than just know it.. that i'm not really alone

 

[Never]

You don't need a hug, you just want a hug, and you want a hug because you think you need a hug.

BUT you don't really need anything.
I'm serious. You don't need anything.

 

[White_Tigress_]

Whats the loneliness from? You say for another 26 days...does this mean you DO have someone but waiting for a return? Sorry, I'm just not sure what you meant. Seems people are not saying what you want to hear...thats why I am questioning this.

If you do have someone but you can only see him once in a while....well that I can relate too 100%. I won't go into detail with it because I'm not sure if this is your case.

If you don't have someone but lonely and wanting someone, then you need to get out there, very rarely will they come knocking on your door (unless its the milkman or mailman..whoohooo...)

If you just want to be alone and need to pass the time because your bored or ran out of things to do at home...those suggestions here are great ones.

 

[DriveSouth]

W&U

I suggest logging on to Literotica and staying up all night playin' with us here.

 

[PacificBlue]

I am the queen of pity party's as of late...BUT I also realize that this too shall pass. Although it is perfectly normal to miss someone and wish them home soon...I don't think it's ok to expect one person to fill a void that deep within you. So deep that you say "I don't know anyone around here that can give me what I'm missing but this one special person." That is incredible pressure, what happens when they disappoint you or hurt you without meaning to? Does your world fall apart?

Friends and lovers encourage us to be better people, they listen to our joys and sorrows. They laugh with us and they cry with us and sometimes they just sit in silence with us. However, I don't think they complete us. That would mean that all the single people of the world are walking around with a piece missing and I just don't think that's true. I think we can be complete on our own and happy. True some are more comfy with their aloneness. If your one that's not, there were some great suggestions in this thread on how to solve that. If you need a hug...hug a family member, hug a friend...there are plenty of people in need of hugs. If your bored with your current hobbies, find new ones. If you need people to talk to on MSN or AOL...I'd be more than happy to chat with you and from the number of people who responded to you on this thread, I'm sure there are a few more who would be happy to chat for awhile.

I am not trying to sound cold or callous as I know where you are at, I honestly do. The best thing you can do is to get up and do something about it. I'm speaking to myself as much as I am to you.

Take care...you'll make it. {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}

PacificBlue

 

[PacificBlue]

Re: W&U

I suggest logging on to Literotica and staying up all night playin' with us here.

OR do what DriveSouth suggested and stay here and play with us

Your wanted, liked, and cared about Willing and Unsure...believe it, embrace it, run with it!!!

 

[Mr. Bootie]

Whatever PacificBlue's taliking about?

I agree!!!!

kgboot

 

[Problem Child]

Do you really want to spend the rest of your life depending on someone else for your happiness?

Sounds like the worst form of slavery to me.

My advice would be to take the energy you are wasting on being depressed about being alone and put it towards some kind of plan designed to find out what it will take to make you happy with yourself.