so now i have a boy

[cynter]

and yes, he is of legal age. i simply call him "boy" as he refers to me as Lady Cyn.

would really appreciate any suggestions re: dealing with an online domme/sub relationship particularly one where the domme is in one country and the sub in another, sigh.

pointers appreciated! especially any warnings/tell tale danger signals that he may not be who he represents himself to be.

this is my first serious attempt at this. i'm chronicling my adventures with boy at my diary-x journal. let me know if you have any interest in keeping up with it and i'll provide you the link.

also, be so kind to check out my latest bit of verse "pet".

thank you!

 

[wolf2002]

I think it's very kind of you to share your experiences with us... so thank you Ma'am...

 

[cynter]

I think it's very kind of you to share your experiences with us... so thank you Ma'am...

your welcome. btw..you have some truly wonderful stories!

 

[Guest]

Sorry, but with the title of the thread I had the urge to send you a cigar.

Congrats and good luck anyway.

 

[cynter]

got a light?

Sorry, but with the title of the thread I had the urge to send you a cigar.

Congrats and good luck anyway.

dear god no! too old for that now! LMFAO, but i'll take the cigar anyway, LMFAO...got a light?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Congratulations!! I am sure you will have lots of support and advice from the board. I can empathise with the oceans apart thing....we've been there and are overjoyed to finally be together in the one place. Here are some of the past threads on online relationships which may help to add to the new input you will receive. Good luck.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=187209

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=205592

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=70632

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=160250

Catalina

 

[cynter]

Congratulations!! I am sure you will have lots of support and advice from the board. I can empathise with the oceans apart thing....we've been there and are overjoyed to finally be together in the one place. Here are some of the past threads on online relationships which may help to add to the new input you will receive. Good luck.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=187209

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=205592

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=70632

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=160250

Catalina

you have been so kind! thank you. these have given me much to think about and consider. my relationship with boy is still so fresh, only time will tell if it even survives these first few weeks. i hope so. but then i am realist too. between the oceans apart and the age difference.......sigh. i remain hopeful!

 

[catalina_francisco]

you have been so kind! thank you. these have given me much to think about and consider. my relationship with boy is still so fresh, only time will tell if it even survives these first few weeks. i hope so. but then i am realist too. between the oceans apart and the age difference.......sigh. i remain hopeful!

Age needn't necessarily be a deterrent as I learned from Master. I am sure the Dommes here will tell you it need not create any negative issues if the dynamics of the relationship are right, so hope can remain!!

Catalina

 

[cynter]

thank you

Age needn't necessarily be a deterrent as I learned from Master. I am sure the Dommes here will tell you it need not create any negative issues if the dynamics of the relationship are right, so hope can remain!!

Catalina

of course you are right this thread belongs here. as for the age issue, now that i have pics of boy.....doesn't seem to matter.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I hope you will continuo to keep us informed about the progress you are making with your boy. It represents a wonderful opportunity to share your knowledge and findings with everyone and we might all learn a thing or two.

Thank you for sharing,

Francisco.

 

[shyly curious]

greetings all,

i am interested, as i am finally allowing this facet of me to surface. i am sub, and my Mistress is training me, via online and occasional visits, (300 miles apart). not sure what the future holds, but the experience has been so satisfying so far.

be well all, shy

 

[cynter]

sad but true

we ended it before it really had a chance to get started. he was concerned about the distance...an ocean apart and what impact it would have on his already fragile mental state. he had been through quite a lot recently. he is still a dear, sweet boy. and will remain a treasured friend. but no D/s relationship at all.
it did set me back a bit also. again, left questioning my real interests, my true intents in the lifestyle. so, for now...i am simply what i have always been, a voyeur. will there ever come a time or an appropriate partner to explore this lifestyle with? i do not know. not to worry, i'll still lurk forums! LOL. thank ya'll for all of your advice, hopefully it'll not go to waste for someone else who reads all this.
the not so Lady...Cyn

 

[guy_fit_gta]

The Distance is worth it

I couldnt help but want to share some hope, and is come cases, some pain, on the Long Distance Relationship. I am in Ontario and my Mistress is in Eastern Canada, a 2 hrs plane ride or a 18hr car drive away. When we go started neither of us expected anything of the other, but things have grown, and we are more then just D/s, she is my Queen, my lover, my best friend and confidant, wew have opened up to each other in a way that we never expected. And while the distance in terrible, and I dread when I have to walk onto the plane after each visit and head home, I would not trade it for anything.

We make time for each other, we don't take our relationship for granted, we never assume anything with each other, and when we are together, which is about every 8 weeks, we spend every waking moment, and every sleeping moment, together, because we know how special we are to each other, and how rare the connection is. And, i never every forget that I am her's, and I always let her know, but, I also know, that, she is mine as well.

 

[Four_Inch_Heels]

That's beautiful, guy_fit_gta! Good luck to you both!

 

[shy slave]

Cynter i was sorry to hear that this time things did not work out for you.

I am a sub in an on-line relationship which is difficult to deal with at times.

Distance is a huge factor when you long to be with the other person, I too have been questioning who I am, my real interests and my true intents.

IMHO, As a sub, it can be difficult to show commitment to Him/Her if distance is an issue. Regardless of the type of relationship D/s or vanilla most people want to please the other person and this can be hindered and heart breaking (as it seems in guy_fit_ gta's relationship) at times by being apart. Perhaps this is part of the thinking behind boys' decision.

I have read much about this lifestyle from the boards here and regardless of of who I discover I am, I know i will always feel close in mind to Him

I say this because I hope that your brief time with your boy has opened a door for you that helps you define who you are.

I hope the time with your boy has given you the strength to take the plunge at some time with a new boy and you will be Lady Cyn again.

shy slave

 

[Telafio]

Cynter,

was sad to hear that you had been hurt let down.

Perhaps it was all for the greater good of your learning experience.

Believe me when I say, that finding the right person on-line is excrutiatingly long and tedious at times.

I believe the joy at the end of the rainbow will be well worth it in the end. So brush it aside and chalk it up as another page in the annals of life's let downs.

Kindness is a fast dying commodity in todays world.

Wish I could do something to help.

 

[cynter]

thank you

i should check in more often...thank ya'll for your kind words.
Lady Cyn

 

[SweetDommes]

Re: thank you

i should check in more often...thank ya'll for your kind words.
Lady Cyn

We've been there & done that too, but it will eventually work for you - we finally found a boy that fits in with us perfectly ... we just have to keep trying to find a second that fits as well ... but at least we have one.

I'm sure that you'll find one that is perfect for you.

 

[cynter]

hope springs eternal...LOL

sigh.......

 

[guy_fit_gta]

Long Distance Working

Hi all, just to prove that long distance can work, I'm typing with glee in the face that I am flying out for the long easter weekend to spend 4 days with my gorgeous wonderful Mistress. I can't wait.

A happy boy is me.