So I visited my parents today....

[riff]

And with luck, my dad won't ask me, "When ya comin'?" until weekend.

Poor bastard gets bored. I wish he would find a hobby. My mom makes quilts.

He asked me today if he had anything to do with my issues in therapy.

 

[Hawthorne]

Did you say: "well there was that one time when you put me in a dress and started calling me Gloria. But apart from that... no, not really." ????

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

Parents...

......Ya gotta love 'em!


*smile*
Reina

 

[riff]

I told him it was about what I learned about relationships as a kid and that it was not a matter of blaming and pointing fingers so much as learning about what makes me who I am and trying to become what I want to be.

"It ain't easy." I said.

He feels incredibly guilty, but would never admit it. It's a pity. He is such a great guy. In spite of all his faults and all of his accomplishments, he's really card.

I am very much like my father in many ways. I just don't want to be trapped by that.

 

[Hawthorne]

My mum always says to me that you reach an age where you've got to stop blaming your parents. The person you are is only ever the person you have chosen to be.

 

[riff]

No sense in blaming anyone. I am a man. I am who I am.

I just try to find a different way.

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

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I am very much like my father in many ways. I just don't want to be trapped by that. [/B]

I go through the same emotions with my Mom. We are a lot alike, yet at the same time very different.....

Realizing the similarities and differences that you two share is a powerful tool. Might help you to avoid those characteristics you feel may "trap" you....I think?!?!


*smile*
Reina

 

[riff]

He was born the son of dirt poor Louisiana cotton people.

I was born the son of an ambitious son of dirt poor cotton people.

Nothing wrong with dirt poor cotton people? Nothing wrong with ambitious?

Yee-haa for family values.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

that it was not a matter of blaming and pointing fingers so much as learning about what makes me who I am and trying to become what I want to be.

Understanding why my father acted the way he did to his kids was what helped me.... understanding it was not "me" but the way he was treated as a kid that made him the way he was to his kids...

Some of us learn from the generation before us and kick bad habits.... some don't realise they are bad habits and pass them on.....

I'm not passing it on.....

 

[riff]

I sure as hell don't want to pass it on. Maybe I can just be an animal lover.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

I sure as hell don't want to pass it on.

Well if you have understood what should not be passed on then you have sorted it then. Now just relax about life and one day when you least expect it a love will happen that will blow you away and you will wonder what you used to worry about....

Relax about life.... if you are hurting no others then you are ok.

If others are hurting you, understand why they are doing that... then either except them for their past teachings or move out of their lives and let yourself breath....

Most of all relax.... enjoy the good things in life and don't let the other bits throw you.....

write the not so good things from a past on a piece of paper and then dispose of that paper.... we can not change the past we can only learn from it.... go forth and enjoy the future, the past has been and gone......

 

[Zamdrist]

I am very much like my father in many ways. I just don't want to be trapped by that.

Man, I hear you there riff dude. This really rang a chord with me. I too am like my dad in many ways, but fortunately I've shed or never took on his more unadmirable traits. He's extremely arrogant, something I find rather disgusting in a person.

The best things our parents give us sometimes is the foresight to see the things we don't want become.

 

[riff]

I love my dad. He knows that. But he is too fucking smart for his own good and he has trouble processing emotions.

I'm I chip off the old block.

 

[Guest]

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[Bidin~Time]

There comes a time in everyone's life when you have to realize a few things.
Making a bad choice doesn't make you a bad person.

No matter how well intentioned our actions, we may hurt someone. But if our heart was in the right place, maybe the problem is theirs and not ours.

The list could be endless. But the bottom line is be who you are.
Fix the flaws that bother you personally, but learn to love yourself. And learn to see your own postives and be proud of them.

No one is perfect. And it's not healthy to try to be. Afterall, everyone has a different definiton so it would be a neverending task.

Quit being so hard on yourself riff. You may just find out you're a pretty terrific person!

*goes back to the "newbie corner" and hushes before she gets smacked*





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